Fat, skinny, thick, twig, heavy set, bigger, huge, fat ass, bulimic, anorexic, tiny, slim, toothpick, plus-size, meat head, and ect. All of these words have one thing in common.. describing the way someone looks. It has occurred to me recently that people are pushing to fight against using these words, & I agree! Especially since more so than none, they are used to talk “negatively” about someone. The use of these words are making people more self conscious, low self esteem, creating mental health issues along with body issues & bullying is at an all time high right now. For many adults some of these words mean “nothing” until they take a look in the mirror and decide they don’t like what they see. Guess what? This isn’t the way to handle health & wellness and this will only keep driving people to be negative. I apologize beforehand if someone takes offense to some of the things I may add in this blog; but I want to be open and honest with everyone who reads this because I feel as though it is important to consider all sides of things. In my opinion, this is why we use these words:
First of all, the reason society uses these words are because they start chaos & we love chaos. We love debatable topics, we love anything that can start an uproar. It’s sad.
Secondly, we have yet to expand our vocab- we have been programmed to use these body shaming words as the only means of describing a certain body type; some of you use them thinking they are positive forms of compliments- they are not.
We are judgemental beings, that is the main reason.. because everyone judges everyone & if we see something we don’t like we make a name for it & vice versa.
Lastly, we are really good at “following the leader”, if we hear someone on the T.V, radio, a friend/peer say something and we like it, we use it without thinking about the meaning.
The problem with body shaming is not only is it hurtful, it’s not the proper way of analyzing somebody’s health. Quite honestly there is no “good” way to describe someone who is “overweight” but to say he/she is overweight/obese because that is the truth. Instead of making excuses for your health, acknowledge it. The fact we use “curvy” & “thick” to describe ourselves when we don’t want to acknowledge the truth.. is a problem. If you call someone “skinny” what you are saying is “she looks like she needs to eat a burger” when in reality she may or may not be healthy. We don’t know. The word skinny, is a huge issue in itself because people don’t know the difference between healthy & skinny/unhealthy & skinny; there is a huge difference in context.
We aim for body perfection to be accepted in society. What society wants is for us to all look like the female/male model in the magazine. What society forgot is we all have different body types; and no body type is better than the other. Being overweight is not healthy, and being anorexic/bulimic is not healthy either. So we ask ourselves what does the perfect body look like?
- It looks like someone who is healthy.
How do you know if you are healthy?
- you eat right
- stay active
- you’re confident
- ailments don’t keep you from being healthy; if you don’t let them.
- You have a good heart (take this how you wish)
This list is a cure to body shaming because if we took this list into consideration, I can imagine we could weed out who is unhealthy and who is healthy & then the ones who are unhealthy could seek the help needed and the ones who are healthy could stay on this right path. I have told all of you, I plan on being a certified personal trainer soon & once we dig deeper into fitness (which we will) I will talk more on exercise & big muscles & abs.. and all the stuff everyone wants to hear about “perfect body” types. But first I want to make sure people know what all goes into being “healthy” (the ingredients). It is very important you can answer the question, “are you healthy” before you begin to change what you look like. Thanks for reading!
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