“I don’t want to go to the gym alone”


Working out at the gym alone, or in general sometimes sucks. I know the feeling because I have been to the gym plenty of times where I am working out alone and I look around and almost everybody else seems to have a partner with them.  Having support is important and many times is our motivation to do something for ourselves but it always sucks when you have to go alone and let me tell you going alone can be the biggest life lesson. I am not fan of being around tons of people because I have anxiety and it spikes when I am around a crowd of people and don’t know them, it spikes when I feel self conscious about what I am wearing or how I look, it spikes when I am lifting weights and have people watch me, it spikes when I am watching myself in the mirror and paying attention to all my flaws. BUT, it doesn’t and hasn’t stopped me from going to the gym by myself (yet) and hopefully it never will because in this fitness industry that I am going to school for, I can’t allow it to. I know having support has it perks and trust me it can be fun being able to workout with someone who is there for the same reasons you are; luckily these days I have gotten my mom to tag along with me and she enjoys it, my aunt comes sometimes too and it’s good because we can all workout but do our separate things as well. Down below I will have a list of ideas for you if you are someone who doesn’t like to workout alone. 

  • Ask family, friends, coworkers, church members, classmates
  • bring music with you, listening to music always helps me forget that I am alone at the gym, it’s my way of getting away from people and just relaxing 
  • talk to people at the gym about classes, meet people in those classes and make them your new gym buddies
  • advertise on your social media to see if anyone else attends the same gym and wants to go workout with you
  • work on self confidence
  • work with a personal trainer
  • run with your dogs outside
  • everyone is at the gym for the same reasons (fitness and happiness) keep this in mind when you feel intimidated
  • bring a tablet and read while you are on treadmill

Being at the gym alone isn’t bad and if anything it has helped me conquer so many things and work on myself in new ways. I have felt more confident walking inside the gym without thinking about how others see me, I listen to my music all the time, I make small talk with people if they smile at me or say something to me, I have ventured off on my own to try new exercises.  I think going to the gym alone has its perks honestly; sometimes I go to the gym to get something off my chest, to take out anger, to escape and having someone with me can sometimes be annoying when I want to be left alone. Overall, I think this excuse is more or less a way to say ” I am scared” and you shouldn’t be scared to be by yourself when you are doing something for yourself. You don’t have to have a buddy to make changes, you don’t need a buddy to feel good about yourself. Having someone there is fun but sometimes we have to learn to conquer things on our own. 

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Hello! College graduate in exercise science and ACSM Certified Personal Trainer. My blog has all kinds of fun topics, something for everyone who is anyone that involves themselves with fitness. I like to think of fitness as a confidence booster, something to make us feel good and look good & pushes us to do things that make us feel more productive, unstoppable and stronger mentally and physically. My blog focuses on building people, and helping people see their true potential, while also sharing my journey with workouts, competing with powerlifting, and sharing how to's on workouts, so you step inside the gym with more knowledge. I don't know everything but I am on a voyage to build my character, my strength and work on my weaknesses --- with awesome people in my corner who support me and my goals. I plan on being your cheerleader, friend, coach and trainer all-in-one and most of all, I want to be your listener, the person who can listen and gain more knowledge about you and learn what makes fitness important to you; what's your why! (Your why will carry you to the finish line). It's important to have purpose for something, because you will need that purpose when you start to give up on yourself or want to quit. "Don't let the fire that guides you, dim" - Shay-lon Besides the fitness stuff, I reside in Ohio, love dogs and love pizza. Typical 26 year old trying to build an empire that brings out the best in others and makes me the best person I can be in all aspects in my life. Before I die, I want a reason to live, and I was given that reason each day I am able to wake up --- I have learned to not take life for granted and to explore as much as possible because to live with zero regrets would be fantastic! "I've conquered many things, but I still have much to learn about life, because nobody can know everything. & every battle is different" - Shay-lon

7 thoughts on ““I don’t want to go to the gym alone””

    1. actually me too! sometimes with females they love to talk more than workout so.. going alone allows me to actually do what I came to do. When I bring my mom we do our own thing. I have realized people love partners at the gym and I think it’s for comfort.


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