Self Confidence

What does it mean to be confident, to love one self? What does it mean to put yourself first and allow others to give you the respect that you demand because you have earned it? have you been waiting for someone to tell you ” you are good enough” or are you still searching for that perfect little world where no problems will ever arise. Have you forgotten where to start and where to go, because you have been more focused on starting and going to someone else’s beat.  Do you even know yourself, do you truly love yourself even when you see the flaws? 

I am not sure how everyone feels about who they are and I am not able to make one love his or herself because it takes that ONE person to do that for themselves. People always nail people to a wall who have low self esteem or no confidence, we expect everyone to walk with confidence, self dignity and live in no fear but honestly, how can we put such high expectations on people when we are the same people judging others for their walk of life.  I cannot explain this, because this is what makes us human, our instincts are to judge when we don’t know or understand.  We tend to lack compassion these days because we have too many people running around taking advantage of the “good” we do and not enough people paying it forward. Confidence is said to be “sexy” and necessary in order to have a healthy relationship (in which I may agree) , but what happens when you are expected to do the same (be confident) and you are put in a situation where you feel uncomfortable? no longer can you walk with your head held high, no longer can you talk without stuttering, no longer are you able to judge someone else’s same predicament and no longer can you be the one to set these expectations on others when now you know what it is like to not have that oz of confidence in you. Where am I going with this?

“Self Confidence is built on loving yourself not on making yourself feel more superior to others” – Shay-lon Moss

If we truly learn to love ourselves overtime and choose to accept our flaws and change the ones that need to be changed in order to better ourselves, it won’t matter what environment we are in, what we are wearing, how much money we have and who we are friends with, it won’t matter how good of an athlete we are, what trophies we have won, and what kind of occupation we have, because when you learn to truly love who you are – nothing about those things matter to you as much as being yourself. 

How do we love ourselves, that is something we all need to figure out, we just hope that what we have, never gets in the way of who we are. 

“Sometimes loving yourself can change how you look at others” -Shay-lon Moss. 

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5 thoughts on “Self Confidence

  1. Great topic. With the proliferation of anonymous everything shaming on line, I think it’s way too easy to destroy a person’s confidence. I also think that over-protection of people, especially children, is making it harder for others to cope with it and therefore prevents any form of confidence to form.

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    1. Hmm, that is an interesting outlook, over-protection of children makes it harder to cope. I failed to mention the part where I believe over-protection can makes those who are already mentally weak, more vulnerable and weak, because when the protection is no longer around, they like you said find it difficult to cope without it. Thank you for mentioning 🙂

      Shay-lon

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