How do you agree to disagree with another Fitness professional/fitness instructor, fitness blogger

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So, this is something some of you have been waiting for (another post exposing my personal thoughts). I recently came by someone who asked me what I write about after I mentioned I was a blogger ( I told them I am fitness/health blogger) and that my topics range from exercises, mental health, nutrition, etc. Well they proceeded with “what are your credentials and how do you go about teaching people about fitness/health – when there are other people in your field who may or may not agree with anything or everything you are saying.. how do you compete against them for followers and what are people supposed to believe if you have differing opinions than someone else in your field?” . At first I was thinking, ” wow… seriously”, but then I said “.. it goes a little like this, I have my degree in exercise science, I interned for many different places within this field, I have worked with many professionals in the field, and I also keep all my college materials (books) and I research and read magazines, in the process of being certified in personal training and don’t come off like an arrogant piece of shit when I write” – this is how I manage to keep readers and followers and gain respect within my field (among many other things that go unnoticed). 

Lets just say, he was delighted by my answer and didn’t further question me but instead gave me a high five and told me “works for me”.

I decided after having to answer his question, I would write about this particular topic because honestly, it is true – I am “competing against other fitness/health bloggers who have differing opinions than mine and may not always agree with my tactics, information, and have more expertise than myself”.  I am not so stubborn to realize this, I am not so arrogant to ignore it, and I don’t think I know everything, which is why I spend hours on my laptop and hours teaching myself and studying. Sure, I may never know everything and there are fitness professionals without their degrees who are more knowledgeable than some of us with one – surprising huh?! But honestly, I never write to compete against others in my field, I don’t write to prove I know it all, I don’t write to make myself seem better. I write about fitness/health because this is my life, my everyday life and whether I agree with other professionals or athletes is not important because everyone has their own way of doing things. Now does this mean, when someone is using poor form/technique when squatting; I promote it? NO! what this means is, if that person is not able to demonstrate the exercise properly, either I make it known or I don’t. I don’t feel compelled to analyze everyone’s blogs and check to see how right they are or wrong they are. If I am following another fitness/health blog, best believe I read their content, and if I don’t agree with something, I normally comment with my take on things./sometimes I research it, and if I feel like the blogger is writing about something totally in left field that I know is NOT right or encouraging something that I know is unsafe, etc then I don’t follow them because I don’t have time for shenangins. It is the same with YouTube fitness videos, I swear these are sometimes the worse because they will do some circus trick to encourage others to do it too but have no real purpose and can’t identify how the movement is even constructive to a persons well-being. 

Personally I have had people disagree with topics  I have written about, such as: “Child obesity” was one of them because so many people have different thoughts, experiences; Did I go off on people who didn’t like what I had to say about it? – no. Why would I? I don’t care if you disagree with me, because hey, we all have a right to an opinion and all my readers are allowed to be honest and forthright as long as it is tasteful in nature and not something to arouse people’s anger. I feel like this, if you don’t like what I write about, then come forth and let me know,  you don’t have to agree with everything I say; that is the truth. If something I write about offends you (hopefully not) then say something but don’t expect me to back down & kiss ass either, because I won’t. For the most part, I think my topics have proven to be well written and I have yet come by a fitness professional who talked negatively about anything I have written thus far (thankfully) and I hope it stays this way because I live to learn, teach and grow. Hell, I have had many fitness professionals who have been in my field for 10+ years and have given me advice on workouts, shared their insight and added their own recommendations and I LOVED IT! because they didn’t belittle me, they actually only complimented my writing and confirmed the information; letting me know my topic wasn’t  full of bullshit and lies because trust me if they ever were: I would expect those same people to let me know. 

So how does one like myself handle agreeing-disagreeing with other fitness people? We talk like adults, exchange thoughts, I learn from them, I ask them questions, I gain insight and I respect their knowledge, because more than likely they have been in the game WAYY longer than myself and I only want to be as successful as they are now in their careers. My motto is “who cares whether the lunge or back squat is a better exercise – the more important thing is we both know they are functional exercises” LOL. 

I make mistakes, I may be biased sometimes & I am young.- but I won’t lead you over a cliff;  Thank you everyone for reading and I appreciate everyone’s support on my blog. 

Your Fitness Blogger,

Shay-lon xxx

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Hello! College graduate in exercise science and ACSM Certified Personal Trainer. My blog has all kinds of fun topics, something for everyone who is anyone that involves themselves with fitness. I like to think of fitness as a confidence booster, something to make us feel good and look good & pushes us to do things that make us feel more productive, unstoppable and stronger mentally and physically. My blog focuses on building people, and helping people see their true potential, while also sharing my journey with workouts, competing with powerlifting, and sharing how to's on workouts, so you step inside the gym with more knowledge. I don't know everything but I am on a voyage to build my character, my strength and work on my weaknesses --- with awesome people in my corner who support me and my goals. I plan on being your cheerleader, friend, coach and trainer all-in-one and most of all, I want to be your listener, the person who can listen and gain more knowledge about you and learn what makes fitness important to you; what's your why! (Your why will carry you to the finish line). It's important to have purpose for something, because you will need that purpose when you start to give up on yourself or want to quit. "Don't let the fire that guides you, dim" - Shay-lon Besides the fitness stuff, I reside in Ohio, love dogs and love pizza. Typical 26 year old trying to build an empire that brings out the best in others and makes me the best person I can be in all aspects in my life. Before I die, I want a reason to live, and I was given that reason each day I am able to wake up --- I have learned to not take life for granted and to explore as much as possible because to live with zero regrets would be fantastic! "I've conquered many things, but I still have much to learn about life, because nobody can know everything. & every battle is different" - Shay-lon

65 thoughts on “How do you agree to disagree with another Fitness professional/fitness instructor, fitness blogger

  1. I don’t know much about health and fitness blogs in particular but I feel like this is an issue in most areas. I’m not sure if you know this but I started out writing about psychology and I thought that since I was so young and didn’t have a degree in psychology how would I be able to talk about it but in the end I kind of realised that I did actually know quite a bit about the topics I wrote on and of course not everyone is going to agree with everything I write. But I think when you blog you mainly do it for yourself. It’s a way of expressing your thoughts and broadcasting them and at some point you just have to stop caring about what others will think and whether or not they’ll agree and just keep on writing! 🙂

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    1. Well, you know what; that is a terrific example. That is another topic that could cause for different opinions on a blog. psychology is a good topic but everyone has their own thoughts and theories and then you have people who don’t like it.. ect. so yes, good point. I do believe blogging is about expressing and broadcasting thoughts out loud for the world to read..but sometimes depending on the topic you don’t want the world to pin nails at you for broadcasting false information – because you could lose people’s trust. This is why I try to state when I am sharing fact and opinion so that people don’t get confused an blame for me things.

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      1. Yeah absolutely. There are so many schools of thought for psychology and most of them don’t seem to agree on much. Yes it’s always good to point out that you are sharing your own thoughts and opinions and not facts because people can be kind of mean and blame others for things. And of course not everyone is going to agree with what you’re writing about but in my opinion I just ignore people who don’t agree with my writing because they don’t necessarily have to read it if they don’t like it and I would prefer they find other blogs to read that they actually like. When I first started blogging I was a little sensitive and scared about writing about certain topics but now I don’t bother as much. I mean I still try not to be offensive but sometimes you can’t help offending certain people even if you don’t mean to. Like someone commented on one of my posts that it was “a stupid waste of time” and I just let it slide cos you can’t please everyone

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      2. What?!! someone seriously commented on your post saying that?!! NO WAY!!! someone seriously did that?! people actually do that?! lol. Wow. pathetic. ugh. this is true, we can’t make everyone happy and I agree, if you don’t like what I write or find it offensive.. then either move along and find something you do like or continue to follow me and lose sleep at night being angry about it, makes me no difference.

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      3. Lol yeah and the weirdest part was that it was actually the Strike Out Challenge post which was just me answering questions another blogger had asked. It wasn’t even like a personal post or anything. I don’t mind positive criticism because there’s always something you can do better but I feel like if your going to comment something negative like that you may as well just not comment and go to another blog. I approved the comment because I mean freedom of speech and I even replied to it saying ‘sorry to have wasted your time’ and he was just like ‘it’s ok’ and I was just like wow.

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      4. I am laughing so hard! I literally feel off my computer chair laughing! he said “it’s ok” HAHAAHAHAHAHHA! omg! I can’t stop laughing! wow.. people amuse me. I just can’t stop laughing, out of all the things to comment his negativity, he chose the strike out challenge. i am speechless, people never let me down these days- someone always has to be the debbie downer. Lmfao! I think it is funny you apologized and all he said was “it’s ok”.. like really..

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      5. I know I was laughing so hard when I read that too because he was like having a normal conversation with me after being so mean and instead of reading my sarcasm he was just like ‘it’s okay’. That was my first like really mean comment that I’ve ever gotten on my blog and I was really surprised I guess cos it was so harsh. Lol there’s always that one guy who has a problem with everything and ruins everyone’s fun and I guess I had the experience of meeting one of those on my blog

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      6. Lol that would make sense… come to think of it he did have freakishly small hands! Jk.
        Yeah he has commented (nice things) on some of my poems. He writes poetry on his blog and he actually came over to mine the first time because I had liked one of his posts but I guess he was disappointed that the particular post I posted that day wasn’t poetry.
        Has the lady who commented on our blog ever come back??

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      7. Oh wow! he writes poetry? that is awesome! yall both have something in common. Does he write the same kind of poems as you, style wise? I am glad he decided to behave himself since..

        No my lady has not returned, she didn’t even rely back to my last comment about it, so I assumed she unfollowed me and wanted nothing more to do with my page.

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      8. Yeah we actually do have some stuff in common! He’s Indian too so there’s that as well but he’s from India and my family is from Kenya. Yeah he writes free verse poetry too but if I’m being completely honest I find his poems slightly offensive and so I don’t really visit his blog.
        Yeah I guess you really pissed her off for some reason. She was probably one of those insanely sensitive people who just need to blow off some steam.

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      9. Hey, someone who follows me, loved reading our conversation and will be following you – PTcontender aka Jess, very cool blogger, has good stuff and good conversation 🙂 not to mention really down to earth.

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      10. Jerk! haha. It is only because of this conversation, you got so lucky! LOL. I am going to start posting comments about staying away from PoojaG page or else you will catch a virus! LOL that will do it! haha

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      11. Also, I had someone get mad about child obesity by stating I offended her because she was obese and her child was not, and while I felt for her, I felt like.. seriously.. I am not here to take away from other people’s lives.. I was speaking my mind on the matter.

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      12. Yeah exactly you weren’t hating on obese people you were just giving your opinion and stating your thoughts. Some people just get offended really easily or are looking for a way to accuse others which is unfair because they weren’t purposely being targeted

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      13. Yes. and like you , I approved her comment and replied back to make sure she made sense of everything I said, but then .. I just told myself.. if she doesn’t like my thoughts, then .. I am not going to spend all day explaining because honestly.. obesity is serious and it is sad how many people could have avoided this path but were set in it from many different reasons. Kids get bullied that was my other thought. I am all for other people telling their stories but when their stories make my post look like I am being an ass, I just sometimes give up explaining- sometimes I don’t feel like writing a novel in the comment section..

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      14. Yeah I mean I totally get it. She obviously took it in a way you didn’t intend and even though you can explain the situation it is highly unlikely that she would be understanding of it. And your right obesity is a big problem even here in Africa (though the media makes it seem like we’re all starving) and all over the world. Kids who are obese go through a lot of problems like getting bullied and of course physical problems too. She just spun your words around which is kind of unfair and I think when it comes to people like that you just have to let it go and move on instead of arguing over it in the comments section.

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      15. What is with you making me laugh tonight, like wow! lol. “Though the media makes it seem like we’re all starving” – this is very true (and made me laugh) so it isn’t true that all of you are starving and need 50 cents each month to go towards your food for that one day. – this is the kind of commercials that we see.. and sometimes I am just like.. wow.. do these kids really eat or are we doing this advertisement for ourselves and not feeding anyone.

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      16. Well there is a lot f poverty here and there are people who genuinely are starving but I think the media really exaggerates it and makes it seem like most people here are illiterate and starving and sometimes it just gets on my nerves because they never show you about all the amazing things Africans have achieved. 50 cents can actually buy someone a meal here cos it’s 50 shillings and that’s like how much snacks in high school used to cost me. I guess some of those adverts are fake and they probably don’t give the money to people who need it but some of them are likely to be real. Kenya is doing okay but some African countries are doing really badly which is sad

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      17. You should make a blog post talking about living in Africa, because honestly, I think some people are like me and just assume africa is poor, and constantly in war, and hungry people – when it fact there is still good and not everyone there is poor and hungry and living out of shacks. I remember when Africa had diamonds but they were stolen from your country by Americans.. and other countries. It used to be rich in diamonds…

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      18. Yeah that’s a great idea. I think most foreigners assume we are all poor and live in forests which is obviously not true and it would be nice to debunk all those myths. Some of my friends from school who moved here from the UK thought that Kenya was like that too until they arrived and were really surprised. I mean yes we’re not doing as well as the first world countries but we are not doing as badly as we’re portrayed either. Africa was very rich in diamonds and gold and it’s culture was very interesting too. In fact, everyone seemed to be coexisting pretty peacefully until the white people came. It is still rich in the sense that our soil is so fertile you can basically grow anything most of the year around and the weather is a huge advantage too. A lot of people are very well educated now as well and are really bringing Africa forward. Also people assume that only Africans live in Africa but there are so many other races here too. Especially Indians because we were brought here as slaves to work on the railway quite a few decades ago.

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      19. Holy crap PoojaG, you know so much about your country and your culture. Most of us Americans couldn’t even begin to tell you about ours. Yes, you should make a most with myths and debunk them! you wouldn’t even need to research because you live thee, and you know 🙂 it would be awesome! give people countries like my own a lesson on what is true and isn’t, knowledge is power and I would rather know than to assume and be ignorant.
        I didn’t even know about your soil being fertile, that is interesting because it isn’t like that in states – not all states anyways.
        I didn’t even realize Indians resided in Africa, I will be the first to admit I thought it was all Africans & your education system as risen? that is awesome news.

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      20. Yeah we actually learn about a lot of these things in school and my parents really love history too and they thought it’s important for me to know the history of our country. That’s true a lot of Americans don’t know much about their culture and roots which is kinda sad but understandable. Kenya is just a more close-knit country and we like to celebrate our culture but I guess America has been an independent state for so long it’s probably hard to keep the culture alive. I am definitely going to work on this post actually! Thanks for the idea!
        Yeah there is so much potential with agriculture here and we have a lot of land. The only problem is the corruption.
        Yup there are lots of Indians in Africa! We were even part of the struggle for independence. You should watch this movie called Ghost when you get some time, it’s about the building of the railway and stuff. It’s really interesting. Yeah a lot of people are now highly educated here now and even though the public schools aren’t all that great they’re still a way of education for the poor. And more people are trying their best to get their kids educated and stuff so that’s really amazing too.
        African history is probably one of the most interesting things I’ve learnt.

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      21. The movie “Ghost”, is it anything like the movie “Ghost busters?” lmfao jk 🙂
        Ya, I will be first to say, I know some things about my country but other things they don’t stay with me and the schools when I was growing up didn’t really embark on our history except for slavery and certain wars, maybe things have changed since then *shrugs*, don’t know.

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      22. Hahaha lol be ready for nightmares if you watch Ghost though!
        Yeah maybe kids these days are taught more history now. Although you guys do have like the whole Thanksgiving thing which is interesting.

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      23. Yeah that sounds really nice! No we don’t eat Turkey. Actually I’m not even sure there are Turkeys in Kenya because I have never seen it in stores on restaurant menus.

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  2. I agree w/your stuff so far! lol honestly have not read everything you’ve written (YET) but I love what I’ve seen so far, and you’re so good at conveying your passion for health&wellness. What you said about not following someone whose writing you don’t agree with made sense to me, and made me think because I have been thinking of not being so scattered in who I follow…mostly bc sometimes I am easily influenced so I have to watch myself :)) Awesome post! Curious: do you ask fitness/health pros who you know to read your stuff and get their opinion? I was thinking of doing it for PT. Whatcha think?! –Jess

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    1. Jess,
      Haha I don’t expect you to read all my post! don’t drown yourself in my boring topics! pick up a magazine and check out the latest bods! – I was told it is much more entertaining. LOL. jk.

      I do ask, actually one of my former professors (who gave me the idea to start blogging) n her is athletic trainer, personal trainer, MA in biomechanics – among other things, sometimes reads my blogs and he has commented before.

      He has always been honest with whether he agreed or disagreed and it has helped me write better and do better research. I have had the former editor of “muscle and fitness” magazine read all my blogs to make sure they made sense enough to where he trusted me to write for his website.. so yes.. I have asked people, not everyone and all people, but some people 🙂

      I think it will help you develop as PT professional in your field by having them read it. Also, you never mentioned why you changed your major from exercise science to PT.

      Shay-lon

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      1. LOL I am laughing from your conversation w/PoojaG. That guy is SO rude! lol it made me laugh though. Going to go follow PoojaG now just bc that happened & I got a good laugh out of it.
        And that’s awesome about your professor! I think I will do the same w/people & therapists I look up to and can trust :)) Thx for the advice.
        I got my degree in exercise science, and kinda took the first job I could get after graduation (hospitality job) but it was solely to pay the bills and I couldn’t see myself being successful with it bc I didn’t love it.. I was good at it, but I was so bored. I guess I just learned about myself that I need to be creative & be challenged, so I started looking for something else. Shadowed a PT, and loved it from the first patient I observed! lol so I actually love exercise science & PT is my new love!
        P.S. I will have to pick up one of those magazines, crazy lol :))

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      2. Yes, PoojaG is amazing, she is really like my blogger buddy on here., besides Chape 😉 they both are so supportive and very down to earth. Her and I make jokes, share stories, she guest blogged on my page and she follows all my social media and supports my writing. We started around the same time. I think you will enjoy some of her post. I am happy our conversation could serve as entertainment! lmao! – we should be charging you, since we made you laugh.. I think one laugh will cost you about 50 dollars! haha. jk

        What was the hospitality job? did you consider being a personal trainer, strength coach? ect .. or did you just realize exercise science was something you just didn’t find to be enough for you as a whole? when did you realize you wanted something else?

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      3. loll but I love to laugh I would be broke :(( so you have to volunteer for now :)) and that is one big thing I’m loving about blogging so far is connecting with so many people!
        The job title was recreation supervisor and it was at a resort. I learned a lot about leadership & communication. And yes, I have been ‘considering’ being a group fitness instructor for a long time – just like I was thinking of blogging for so long & then finally did it even though I felt like I wasn’t ready. I literally learn something new about blogging/social media every day. I think that will be my next big step and I’m still figuring it out. I guess I just didn’t know what I could possibly do with my exercise science degree, and I didn’t have a plan for after graduation so I took the first leadership role I could so I could start making money and adding to my resume. I realized it early on, and the only reason I shadowed a PT in the first place was bc most exercise sci grads to PT – it just turned out to be exactly what I needed 🙂

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      4. Hmm, I don’t know about volunteer work, I mean.. it is a testy business! lol. But since it is Thursday, I will waive the 50 dollars.
        Woah, you worked at a resort!? that is amazing! I love that! I didn’t know resorts hired us. To be honest, I didn’t have much of a plan either and didn’t know what to do with my degree because it seemed like a dead end..it took some time talking with a professor to decide that I want to be a personal trainer and then move on to something else as I prosper in that. I want something more but not entirely sure of how to go about it! haha. Although being a PT is a good idea, lol . How long do you need to be in school for before getting your degree in PT?

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      5. Put that waiver on montly auto pay plzzz :)) I have Spring semester left of prereq’s and when I get accepted to PT school that will be 3 years. lol. getting accepted could take a year or two to strengthen my application if I don’t get in the first time though. When will you take the personal trainer cert exam? And do you know which organization you will get it from?

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      6. Oh wow. Do you know what PT schools you want to attend, or are you not picking? lol. What will you do in the meantime while waiting (if you have to wait). I want to take my exam in December and I am going through ACSM for it.

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      7. I have a few schools so far that I know I want for sure partly bc location (for ex I want North dakota schools bc my bf is stationed there for the next few years) but other than that im not too picky lol. I have heard good things about ACSM. A lot of my curriculum in school was ACSM based too — it’s so detailed, so you will really know you’re stuff (more than you already do ;))

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      8. Oh okay! that is awesome! I have never been to North Dakota. I had someone I know apply for PT school and chose like 10 different places to apply.. I was like wow! that is a lot of choices. lol.
        It is like choosing a college all over again.
        My curriculum in school was ACSM based too, that is why I chose it! lol. You think it is detailed? I found the outline that I am studying to be ridiculous.. ugh. 16 pages long.

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      9. I know! I just learned that is like a normal amount of schools to apply to! Lol & it’s bc it’s very competitive. I just remember Exercise Testing & Prescription being pretty detailed – going into depth on cholesterol levels and bp and all the special population considerations. Lol 16 pages is a preeeeettty long outline…but you got this!

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      10. Oh goodness! you do remember it! hey did you get certified through ACSM, and I will be sure to focus on that tid bit especially, thank you for the heads up! I need to make sure to restudy everything as much as possible.

        10 is a normal amount, oh sheesh. it is very competitive. I was competing during my time as a PT major.

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  3. Your friend has surprised me with his strange question. If you´re a doctor, how do you disagree with other doctors? if you´re a lawyer, an engineer, etc.
    Aside, if you think about it, Steve Kerr won the NBA his first year as head coach, playing a new basketball for small players, based on 3 pointers. How do you innovate if you always follow the beaten track?
    In the other hand, and strictly my opinion, there is no big disagreement related to fitness. There are different approaches, tendencies, fashions, and waves. We have our opinions about the order and quantity, but at the end of the day, we all recommend exercise and fresh food 🙂

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    1. Damn Chape,
      You really brought out the seriousness in your comment, and I am happy you finally read this & shared what you shared. Honestly, i couldn’t agree more with you. This is the problem with our field, some people want to prove other people wrong but fail to realize at the end of the day we are promoting the same thing (exercise and nutrition) – at least I hope so. If this means I believe that the leg press is beneficial and someone else says “leg press is not beneficial” it doesn’t mean I am wrong or they are wrong, it means we have difference of opinions and have different stances. I think this whole “one way” track mind is what causes people to get arrogant.. like seriously.. I have seen some arrogant trainers..
      granted we know that form/technique is one thing we don’t shift or waver on , but to take credit away from another professional because you don’t agree with their exercise choice – is nonsense.. unless you know it is unsafe.. etc

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      1. Sorry for this late response! I had my breakfast and I´m ready to argue you lol!
        I have seen some arrogant trainers too, but I´ve also seen arrogant people in many other fields. I guess it´s in the character 🙂 In our field there is always a competition going on, and some people take it to a whole new level, like “me against the world”. It must be so tired doing so.

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      2. What was for breakfast Chape? This is very true, it is no different in other occupations. I would think it gets tiring as well Chape, lol. I wouldn’t know, because I don’t have time for it! haha

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  4. To the owner of this blog,

    I want to thank you for following me. As of recently however I have not been using my WordPress and have decided to shut it down. Just thought I’d ought to let you know before you tried to see my blog only to find out it no longer existed.

    Thanks and take care!

    The Ranter

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