When all else fails, Use these

Simple Creates less problems

When I think about how we spoke about “body shaming” and why it wasn’t a good thing, I had to stop and also think about what words can be used to describe a person’s body without intentionally being negative. It’s really hard to think of many words to talk about the body without being honest & so that is why I came up with just a few simple words that can be used but have a HUGE meaning behind them. Underweight, overweight, normal weight, obese, these are all the words I came up with to use when describing someone’s shape.  The reason I have chosen these words are because they are simple & get straight to the point. 

The problem with using these words are because only one of them is “good” & the rest are somewhat not so good but that is why I think this is a good start:

  • No one can tell you what “normal” should look like because normal is different for everyone. Ha!
  • If you are underweight, you most likely should gain some weight and if it is an illness then this needs to be addressed with a Doctor & someone close to you that you can trust
  • Overweight will mean you should lose weight
  • Obese means you need to lose weight, talk to a doctor about any ailments or conditions you might be facing or have because of your weight and decide how you want to lose this weight

Easy enough? I find that no matter how we say it, being overweight or obese is never going to be a “good” thing and so there is no real technical way of making someone happy by using these words but at least these words confront the problem instead of disguising it & that goes for underweight as well.  Sometimes “beating behind the bush” makes the circumstances worse than what they should be. If I was to be really honest with you, I would tell you to stay away from describing a person’s body but since that is not going to happen, how about we stay away from degrading people’s body.  Professionals use these words & I don’t see why we shouldn’t because they are FACTS, they aren’t meant to put people down, or make one body more superior than the other; these words are meant to guide you in the right direction and bring things to light.  

If society continues to use body shaming words, this field is doomed & people are going to start to not care about their health and wellness at all, which is what I don’t want to happen.  I want everyone to care about what goes into their bodies, their fitness level, being able to keep up with their everyday routines, mental health & how healthy they really are.  What you should do is reevaluate your bodies using these words I mentioned up top & decide if that is what you want for yourself; either “yes” or “no”.  Change what you don’t like but do it knowing that you want to be healthy and within normal range of weight. This is a baby step & as soon as we dig in deeper than we can jump into specifics. 

Are you healthy?

Overweight, underweight, obese, normal weight?

Are you okay with this?

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Christmas Fitness

Fitness Tips For XmasStaying fit during the Holidays is hard, but you can do it.

Tips & Motivation

Holiday Tips

If Christmas and the following holidays have you worrying about how to stay on track to a healthier new you, then worry no more because I have some great ideas I would like to share & a couple of links at the top that will get you started!

  • Stay active & stay moving if possible.
  • proportion your plate, make sure you have a mix of everything
  • eat dessert; just keep in mind how much of it
  • gain some support and share your stories of your fitness goals and achievements
  • meet some likeminded people who also enjoy fitness
  • lessen the stress & smile; mental health is just as important

Share these ideas with your peers & make it something you do each holiday after the next! 

I will not be posting tomorrow because of it being Christmas, look forward to hearing from me again sometime after Christmas.  Enjoy this holiday with family, friends, and laughter.

If you are spending this Christmas/holiday alone, keep your head up and stay positive! Dedicate your time helping other families and volunteering at local churches, soup kitchens, or local places. It’s never easy to go through a holiday alone, but it can be done and sometimes it has to be done for whatever reason it may be.  I believe the beauty of a holiday comes from the person’s heart.  Presents, food, peers those are all something that goes into a holiday but it is the person’s heart that makes a holiday worthwhile.  Merry Christmas, Happy Holiday &Happy New Year! Please comment, share & continue to follow me.


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“Body Shaming” what is it?

body shaming 2body shaming 1  Fat, skinny, thick, twig, heavy set, bigger, huge, fat ass, bulimic, anorexic, tiny, slim, toothpick, plus-size, meat head, and ect.  All of these words have one thing in common.. describing the way someone looks. It has occurred to me recently that people are pushing to fight against using these words, & I agree! Especially since more so than none, they are used to talk “negatively” about someone. The use of these words are making people more self conscious, low self esteem, creating mental health issues along with body issues & bullying is at an all time high right now. For many adults some of these words mean “nothing” until they take a look in the mirror and decide they don’t like what they see. Guess what? This isn’t the way to handle health & wellness and this will only keep driving people to be negative.  I apologize beforehand if someone takes offense to some of the things I may add in this blog; but I want to be open and honest with everyone who reads this because I feel as though it is important to consider all sides of things.  In my opinion, this is why we use these words:

First of all, the reason society uses these words are because they start chaos & we love chaos. We love debatable topics, we love anything that can start an uproar. It’s sad.

Secondly, we have yet to expand our vocab- we have been programmed to use these body shaming words as the only means of describing a certain body type; some of you use them thinking they are positive forms of compliments- they are not.

We are judgemental beings, that is the main reason.. because everyone judges everyone & if we see something we don’t like we make a name for it & vice versa.

Lastly, we are really good at “following the leader”, if we hear someone on the T.V, radio, a friend/peer say something and we like it, we use it without thinking about the meaning.

The problem with body shaming is not only is it hurtful, it’s not the proper way of analyzing somebody’s health. Quite honestly there is no “good” way to describe someone who is “overweight” but to say he/she is overweight/obese because that is the truth. Instead of making excuses for your health, acknowledge it.  The fact we use “curvy” & “thick” to describe ourselves when we don’t want to acknowledge the truth.. is a problem. If you call someone “skinny” what you are saying is “she looks like she needs to eat a burger” when in reality she may or may not be healthy. We don’t know. The word skinny, is a huge issue in itself because people don’t know the difference between healthy & skinny/unhealthy & skinny; there is a huge difference in context.

We aim for body perfection to be accepted in society. What society wants is for us to all look like the female/male model in the magazine.  What society forgot is we all have different body types; and no body type is better than the other.  Being overweight is not healthy, and being anorexic/bulimic is not healthy either. So we ask ourselves what does the perfect body look like?

  1. It looks like someone who is healthy.

How do you know if you are healthy?

  1. you eat right
  2. stay active
  3. you’re confident
  4. ailments don’t keep you from being healthy; if you don’t let them.
  5. You have a good heart (take this how you wish)

This list is a cure to body shaming because if we took this list into consideration, I can imagine we could weed out who is unhealthy and who is healthy & then the ones who are unhealthy could seek the help needed and the ones who are healthy could stay on this right path.  I have told all of you, I plan on being a certified personal trainer soon & once we dig deeper into fitness (which we will) I will talk more on exercise & big muscles & abs.. and all the stuff everyone wants to hear about “perfect body” types.  But first I want to make sure people know what all goes into being “healthy” (the ingredients).  It is very important you can answer the question, “are you healthy” before you begin to change what you look like.  Thanks for reading!

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A number is a Number

ScaleIf you have a problem with a scale its because you have allowed the numbers to determine who you are.  Solutions to the problem: 

  1. weigh yourself with an open mind
  2. ask yourself when you get off the scale is this healthy
  3. don’t look for results, look for a number then find results by using a solution
  4. have a goal weight & a plan (for after you are off the scale; NOT BEFORE)
  5. stop weighing yourself for self gratification & belittlement
  6. Don’t pay attention to the media (YOU DETERMINE WHAT’S HEALTHY FOR YOU)
  7. keep positive & stop comparing yourself to others
  8. weigh yourself same day and time, once a week. no more (so you can keep tabs on your journey)
  9. stop punishing yourself
  10. stop talking about your weight; no one cares as much as you do and you are the only one who holds the key to where you want to be

The scale..

Scale knowledge & scale obsessions

It seems to me people use the scale for self gratification & less for health.  When you look on the scale and see that you lost weight, what comes to mind? What comes to mind when you see you have gained weight? The scale has managed to scrutinize people’s perspective on fitness and health.   It’s being used to give superficial achievement and recognition, chews at a person’s self esteem and causes one to obsess over their weight.  We need a to use a scale. I agree.  I just want to know what will it take for people to see past a number and look at the whole picture.

the whole picture is: the number is the answer, but the solution is what you do with that answer. I feel like your using the number as the solution and trying to skip over the answer. STOP! Stop cheating yourself. You can’t cheat and make it in fitness, because it always comes back to bite you in the rear.. & the sad part is.. it comes back double fold.  So here is the problem.. The Scale. what is a solution: how we look at it, what it means, when to use it & the purpose of it.  I can tell you right now, the purpose is to : to weigh. So you figure out the rest and share it with me or with someone, or write it down.  Tomorrow, I will have a post about the solutions for our problem; more so suggestions. Lets get to know the scale & lets figure out how to make it a positive instead of a negative! Thank you for reading, Feel free to leave comments, and or follow me!


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Mentality First

Lets hit on the questions I asked you from yesterday: here is my opinion & my thoughts & answers

  1. How can you change the way you think about health? You make it personal, you stop listening to your friends and listen to yourself.  Your friends might know you are overweight but ONLY you know whether or not if it’s important to you.  So for me, I had family telling me at one point how I was gaining weight & how I didn’t look good in what I was wearing.  At first, I was like some people, just ignoring it and feeling sorry for myself when I got home.  It wasn’t easy for me to look in the mirror and know they were correct and only trying to help but I felt confident enough to the point where I could pretend I was in shape & fit. It only finally hit me this isn’t what I want for myself when I changed my college major to Exercise Science.  I did research and I found out, if this is what I want to do & help people, I need to make fitness important to me.  Now keep in mind, I was an athlete and built all my life, I have never been obese but I know what it feels like to have been 15-20 lbs overweight and it was not a good feeling… & when I decided fitness is IMPORTANT TO ME, I also decided my health was important, my wellness is important and my inner happiness is important. I reflect on that often whenever I feel like “giving up” or “taking a break” .. because it reminds me of how I got to the point of overweight and helps me stay on the right path mentally.
  2. I am for health, I always have been but not to the same extent I am now.
  3. I have taken my health seriously for about the past 5 months I would say, because that is when I chose to make a mentality change.
  4. I support the people in my life battling with weight issues, but not as much as I possibly could, mostly because I am still in the learning process of things and want to make sure I support my peers in the right manner.  Supporting them does not mean allowing them to stay overweight or obese it means making sure they know you stand behind them and want them to take their own health as serious as you do. We shall talk about this more .. in further post.
  5. I am confident with myself sometimes.. this is something I work on .. and you should too if you have the same issue.
  6. I describe my body as 5’8, 150 pounds, smaller arm muscles, broad shoulders, strong calf muscles, flat stomach with small love handles, thighs aren’t huge but aren’t smaller, not much a JLo butt, lol but then again it’s not exactly my goal but I like it for the most part.
  7. The perfect body I wish I had, well I just want to rid of my love handles then .. Ill have the body I like after building muscle mass.  Emily schromm is a good example of someone who I aim to look like when it comes to my body.
  8. Do I look at a scale & hate myself? No.
  9. I have a positive mentality about health and wellness

This ends the questions from yesterday, so feel free to ask me any, or to share your answers with me as well! always up for comments! 



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Change your way of thinking

Open mind=allowing change to happen

What does fitness mean to you & why?

The answer determines your mindset & determines your definition of fitness and health.. so think about it.

My answer: health & wellness because if you’re not healthy, there is a problem & with a problem needs a solution.

Nowadays fitness comes with negativity & the only people whom seem to care are the ones doing it for the wrong reasons & the ones who are doing it for the right reasons.  If for some reason you have these thoughts: time consuming, expensive, fad, overrated, society just wants me to be skinny, I have priorities, I was born this way, no one cares, my doctor told me, I have already tried, I don’t want to look like everybody else, I am too old, I can’t, ect. Then you already figured out “YOUR” problem. Now figure out a solution & don’t be so modest about it.

Life happens, I get it & guess what I not blind to what society is allowing people to believe either.  “skinny is hot and fat is not”; says who? the man in the media who had to starve himself to get where he is, says the model who can’t stand herself but insist being this small is the only way to live.  OH! YES YES! don’t let me start on the issue of “bigger is better”, now this has me laughing too.. because guess what.. instead of society helping these young ladies be proud of who they are without keeping them complacent; society says “to hell with their weight let us make this okay and alright..even if it means she is not healthy” allowing her to make other overweight people feel like being overweight & staying overweight is “okay” is a no, no people. These are my suggestions of action for these type of issues that people have with fitness:

  1. stop using a scale to determine somebody’s well-being (fine, yes use it for health purposes to suggest the amount of weight someone needs to gain or lose if it means it will HELP, but stop using it as a “cure” .  ( I will explain this more in another post)
  2. We shouldn’t use the words “thick, thin, skinny, fat, curvy, BBW, ect” instead lets keep it short and sweet : “obese, underweight, normal range, overweight, morbidly obese” ( I will explain this in another post) what one may consider skinny and fat may not be in another person’s eyes.
  3. Fix the problem: __________________________ & stop using excuses
  4. Fix your mentality before fixing your body (I will talk about this more in other post & this post also explains it)

These are my main four suggestions but as I post more and more I will add more to the list and I will always dedicate a post explaining these things more in depth. If you disagree, that is okay because that means you have better ideas or you have a solution and I want to hear it.  For now let us focus in on the main problem- mentality! Where is your mind at with all of this & why, how can you change the way you think about your health? are you for or against fitness? have you taken your health seriously? Do you support others in your life battling with weight issues? Are you confident with yourself? How would you describe your body? What is the perfect body that you wish you had?  Do you look at a scale and hate yourself? Do you have a positive mentality or negative?.. I have tons of questions will shall hit on .. & trust me we will! Help me help all of you.

Today’s lesson ONE: think about this post & answer the first question at the top. Comment or share answers with me if you wish because I want to hear them all!  I will share all of these questions in the paragraph about myself in other post and I will answer all of them and I will have more and more questions and suggestions as we venture into fitness. Thank you for reading, feel free to leave comments and share any of my post; I welcome it!

Tomorrow I will make another post!


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