Selfie first?

Selfie damage

Selfie 2

Selfie- A photograph that one has taken of oneself, typically one taken with a smartphone, or webcam and shared via social media.

 

The selfie; duck lips, body pics, friend pics, smile pics.  It is notorious for having the same person in all the pictures; ourselves.  It has taken over social media, was made into a song, created to be a tool,  now its the way we see ourselves in the mirror. Who needs a mirror when you have phone & an audience ready to give you the “okay” on how you look.  Does anyone not know how to take a selfie and share it with all their peers, or is that an automatic thought.  Between the selfie stick and our music this generation may be doomed.  

 

I have taken selfies, as a matter of fact, I can almost guarantee all my pictures in my phone are based around selfies & the minority are the ones I have taken without me in it.  I am not against picture taking, of course not; I love art & everything that comes with it, but the minute we decided to use duck lips was when I realized this was going to be another fad we follow that dies.  I had someone share something with me that I decided to look into more & inquire about because it went along with my “body shaming” topic and also made sense as to how the mind works. 

 

This particular person threw a curve ball at me saying “taking selfies causes more problems then it does curing them”. I had to ponder on this for a bit to give myself understanding about what this person was telling me.  Finally after a while, I decided I would talk about this with all of you and share my personal opinion & maybe share some interest and facts about this Selfie lifestyle. People take selfies for many reasons:

 
 
  • For self gratification
  • show off new clothes,
  • body image
  • celebrations with peers
  • advice
  • social media
  • self hate
  • funny faces
  • snapchat

Some reasons are better than others and have more meaning. Taking a closer look into things, I have researched information that follows: most people take these pictures to be accepted.  Take this how you want to, and believe what you want to believe but do think about this for a second because it kinda makes sense in this day and time.  For young people, nothing is better than having someone compliment you and prove their like for you than to like something you posted about yourself.  Outer appearance makes the world go round and is the difference between being “beautiful” and ” “ugly” (which sucks) unfortunately this also means in order to take these pictures and have a decent amount of fans, sometimes you have to explore all your options and risk more. I have noticed on my facebook, if you don’t have filters more than likely your natural look gets less likes & less likes= less people who think you are pretty/attractive and when people don’t think you are attractive that means=you feel ugly. 

 

This is the perfect equation for selfies. More likes= more attractive, more attractive=more attention, more attention=more fans, more fans= possible friends, more friends= popularity, popularity=self gratification, more self gratification=narcissism & at some point someone will disagree and say self gratification= more confidence, more confidence= more self esteem, more self esteem= happier, more happy= the higher chance of a better life? Either way, the end result only benefits yourself; which in the end means self absorbed because you’re thinking only about you. This is supposedly the good about selfies. 

 

Lets talk about the bad. Less likes/no likes= less attractive or not attractive, not attractive/less attractive= less fans, less fans/no fans= less possibility of making friends, less/no friends= loser/not popular, not popular/loser=no gratification, no gratification=no self confidence, no self confidence=low self esteem, low self esteem= negative thoughts, negative thoughts=self harm, self harm= possibility of death and/or hospitalization. 

 

So now you are sitting here thinking, what are the chances of someone caring enough of what others think? why would someone post pictures to for “likes”?  The ” I don’t care what others think” attitude starts to come through to hopefully make you feel better about yourself. WHICH FAILS, because in the end you can’t let go of the fact you only received 10 likes versus the next girl/guy who always manages to get 100+ likes/followers. I just want to know what part of this people don’t understand. Selfies aren’t a bad thing.. sure.. until something bad happens and makes you rethink your pictures and how you respond to comments. 

 

So when we breakdown all the uses for selfies, we come up with no matter what it is for self & the problem with self, is we don’t have anyone who is willing to think about someone else if it means they have to win this competition of most followers, most likes, prettiest pictures, most filters used.,ect. This game of who can take the best selfies is just a game that should be kept as fun instead of making it into a gigantic ball of favoritism. Who cares if you have 200 friends on facebook versus the 5,000 of someone else who knows only 200 of them. Let the truth be told, your picture is no less beautiful because you didn’t get all the “barbie and ken” dolls on board. I have to admit this, I have NEVER had more than 30 likes on a picture.. & more than 100 followers on instagram and my twitter account just proves my relevance in this community; haha ( I don’t take any of these sites damn serious) because when I take pictures they are in my phone and I don’t feel the need to post them for extra exposure all the damn time. Sometimes I like being able to laugh at the chick who has 100+ likes because she had to show her cleavage to do so.. & her pretend “I just left the gym picture” that proves her vain mindset knowing damn well she never touched the gym in her life just wants a reason to show off her body in her leggings..

 

Now don’t get wrong, I am a pretty girl. I have no issue showing off my body either.. trust me. I could work extra hard and take selfies of every aspect of my life and routine to gain exposure and be accepted, but I choose not to because I don’t have the time on my hands to do so and I prefer the “every once in a great” while take a picture of me with my friends. I use snapchat but I don’t care how I look when I’m sending my friends a snap; they have seen me enough times during the good and bad to know I am not perfect. I don’t need someone to give me the “thumbs up” on how I look, I decide that for myself; I don’t need my “head blown” up or a confidence boost. If I want someone’s opinion, I’ll ask for it. Now for those of you who have high expectations of yourself and your photos, kudos for you. Drive yourself mad, and question your beauty, not my problem.  Just make sure to keep your self righteous opinions of others to yourself. I would highly appreciate it.  

 

A selfie doesn’t make you any prettier on the inside”  -Shay-lon Moss

 

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Sincerely,

Your Blogger Shay-lon

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Star Wars Actress Attacked- Carrie Fisher

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Star Wars Attack

Star Wars Actress asked to lose 35 pounds

So as we are all aware, the actress who has played “Princess Leia” for the past decade & just recently was also in the newest Star Wars movie has been attacked about her weight; not to mention her age. For those of you who may not know whom this icon is, she is Carrie Fisher. Carrie Fisher has been a legend since the very first Star Wars movie appeared in 1977; she played Princess leia and is known for her beauty and well spoken words on camera.
 
For many, this movie meant so much and stood for so much & brought out the inner kid.  Unfortunately it seems as though some people didn’t like the idea of “Princess Leia” being older, and not so “thin” in their opinion.  People forgot she is not the same person she was YEARS ago, when she was just starting out and young. Some of you, don’t understand how rare it is for such an icon to still be able to do well on screen & manage to hold their character over so many years.  This is a good example of why body shaming is a problem.
 
It seems no one can watch a movie without passing judgement on someone’s body, and or age.  It becomes problematic for those who have grown up watching Star Wars and want to “relive” their childhood dreams.  Why do people have the right to judge someone because of how they look? Who gives us the right to decide how “fat” or “skinny” someone is? Every since when do we have a right to decide what she does with her body & how she carries herself? Freedom of speech gives us a right to an opinion but our opinion shouldn’t be used to bash someone else if they are doing their job by being the best they can be.  This no doubt has played a huge part in the media the past couple of days & the actress seems to be handling the critics well; holding her dignity high, saying what is on her mind and not succumbing to her fans over analyzation of her.  The expectations that we hold on others is quite disturbing to say the least when no one takes time to look at themselves in the mirror and fix that.
 
If anything this shows the lack of happiness in those people’s lives & maybe some of them are insecure with themselves and aim to target others for self gratification. If I am wrong, it could also be the fact we have no filter and choose to express our opinions loudly in hopes it causes some kind of uproar. I would like to think this issue wouldn’t have made a difference in the movie, but it seems like it has for fans and media alike. I wish we wouldn’t be so vain, and aim to criticize petty things that have no effect on our own lives. For the sake of this country, if an actor being “overweight” is going to keep you from enjoying a movie, please feel free to not watch (although in my opinion she looked just fine, and did well throughout the movie) me not being a Star Wars fan.  All-in-all make it a point to keep your negativity to yourself or low key because you may never know when a day comes and someone is not satisfied with the way you look & will pass judgement on you.
 
P.S I have one more topic to talk about below about this same thing.
 
She was asked to lose weight for the sake of the movie, and I call it bullshit. She is forced to lose weight because no one wants to give up their thoughts of the young Carrie Fisher, media is sitting on their high horse once again to appease people that are vain, incompetent and very superficial. We the people who enjoy movies for the movie and good acting could careless about how she looks as long as she remembers her script.  Yes, its true, its an actors job to look the part; but keep in mind she is older than most actors today & this makes a difference in her muscle mass, weight, changes in facial, and hundreds of other things that could forbid her to look like the “young Princess Leia” , take in consideration the fact she is still able to do her part well & entertain the new generation the way she could years back. She did her job, leave her be.
 
Sincerely,
Your Blogger Shay-lon

Alcoholic Holiday

“Precautions first”

alcohol fitness

Livestrong-Alcohol & Fitness

Personal trainer speaks – Alcohol and fitness

Don’t run from this post, I know most of you are already dreading having to read this because you believe I will give a lesson on drinking alcohol and tell you how bad it is for your body because you probably believe I don’t drink alcoholic beverages.   Well guess what!? You are right! Just kidding. I drink alcohol on New Year’s Eve just like the next person & drink it on rare occasions.  I don’t believe in telling people “quit” because I don’t believe in making your choices for you. I just believe in teaching everyone things they might not know. and reminding people of what to keep in mind before getting “drunk”.  

While we all celebrate for a new year, lets all take time to think about how health and alcohol work hand in hand but not so much in a good way.  Here are some quick things you may or may not know and hopefully if anything you will enjoy your alcoholic beverages with all of this in mind.

  • You don’t have to quit drinking alcohol to stay fit, just drink it in moderations and limit yourself
  • Read the links above & do some friendly research on your own 
  • Alcohol hinders cognitive thinking and coordination
  • Decreases muscle growth
  • Weight gain
  • Heart health

Plus many more things to keep in mind (negative).  I am a firm believer that if you want to stay healthy & fit, sometimes you have to make certain sacrifices for the better.  I think limiting one’s alcohol consumption is one of those sacrifices, mainly due to the fact that more then often people don’t put a limit on their intake.  If you choose to drink on rare occasions or what have , just do some research and find alcoholic beverages that are “better” for you and less calories perhaps . Red wine is supposed to be good for you to a certain degree so, try different things and figure out what works. Just always consider the impact it can make.  With all this being said, enjoy your holiday! Feel free to comment, like, follow and share. Thank you for reading.

Sincerely, 

Your Blogger Shay-lon

 

Behind the scenes

Transparency 

” Sometimes being invisible feels like the only cure” -Shay-lon Moss

   

 

   Today someone told me to write about “how I felt being transparent”.  I had to think about this quite a bit, because yesterday was hard for me to write about my personal battle with weight/body shaming & I wasn’t sure how well it would go over.  I found out, it has really touched many people’s hearts and I am so honored to have done this.  You will have to excuse me, if my mind slips into sadness while I type because this isn’t easy opening up to people who only know me by my words.  

 

For a moment in my life, being transparent was an “American Dream”, to know everyone knows you, sees you, deems you somewhat important & perceives you as model citizen.  It was a small town so being transparent was important if you wanted to be liked.  For most people, this is what we live for: being loved, liked, watched, applauded, idoled, and glorified in front of many.  It almost seems unreal how I went from being the only black girl in my class/sport to the girl who was skinny, athletic, well liked, deemed smart and very good friends with some of the towns more elite class. Now race doesn’t seem necessary to mention but in my case I want to make sure everyone understands my background. I didn’t hide behind walls when people praised me, I didn’t run from demons when people laughed, I didn’t cry when people judged. I didn’t do this in front of people, I did this when I was alone. Sometimes my appearance slipped and people noticed & people made comments.  I had no idea how much I hated being transparent until I realized how much I hated myself. 

 

I perceived all this attention as a good thing, as a way to keep my popularity and make people like me, I assumed it worked; only because I seen how other people handled this same pressure and they smiled everyday the same smile.  My arrogance got the best of me some days..when I felt on the up and up.. I made sure I looked down on others, when I felt closed off & beaten down.. I made sure to ignore anyone and everyone. I was a kid, I was lost and all I wanted was to be just like them, them meaning the pretty, the perfect body, the frilly hair, the devious smile, the talk of the school, and the meaningless relationships just so I could be accepted amongst my peers.  What did it feel like being transparent? Hell. For every time I messed up, someone was there to remind me. I was a mistake in the making; my body kept me safe because it was the only thing “I thought was perfect” but then, then someone had to take away my safe place & I was left with nothing but tears. Being skinny was supposed to be everyone’s goal, everyone was supposed to envy me because I made sure I looked like all the others but instead everyone found a flaw, a reason to take away my smile, a reason to walk all over me, and way to make me feel less beautiful.   

 

Do you suppose it was because they were insecure? I don’t know. I can’t answer that, because I never got the chance to ask.  Middle school bullying at its making, I tell ya.  People are assholes for no reason sometimes.. we may never know why for sure.  High school was just a way for girls to put other girls on a pedestal and break the hearts of the ones who only had a small bit of self esteem left. Technically, high school was just a remake of middle school for me but older.  I could tell you all my horror stories but it won’t help you, strengthen you, empower you or make you feel better about yourself.  I still battle with my inner demons sometimes.  

 

It’s okay to feel ugly, to feel alone, to feel not wanted; because in the end you are challenging yourself to find out what makes you feel beautiful, loved, needed. I found out, my beauty stemmed from making others feel good about themselves; I was able to be happy with my body & never made anyone feel like theirs wasn’t “perfect” because in the end I knew there is no such thing.  I felt loved when I surrounded myself with those who encouraged me, motivated me, and supported me. I felt the most needed when someone needed a smile, a compliment, a good day… I felt needed when I started this major because I felt that there was not enough people who appreciated themselves. The skeletons in our closets that hold the remains of our past sometimes make our future more bright.  I didn’t know back then I would have such a love for fitness and health because of how people body shamed me, I never thought I would be so inclined to help mankind change their views on “fat” & “skinny”, who knew something so small could make people look differently in the mirror. It’s okay to have flaws, to be transparent means to shine, to stand out & to be who you are in front of everyone.  No more hiding, closing off, ignoring, pushing away; it’s time that you be transparent in your life.

 

If this post does nothing else but make you think for a couple of seconds of how you view yourself and others, I have done my duty for today.  “Only those who seek to be seen will shine” -Shay-lon Moss

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It’s Us

“Blame yourself for why people don’t like fitness, because we made it hard for them to like when we set the standards for another person’s body”

It never had to be this hard to stay healthy until one day someone decided healthy is determined by weight and someone else said skinny is the only way to be and someone else said well if I am not skinny then I am not pretty and someone else said If I am not skinny and I am not pretty then why should I even try. I quit.

We blame the media, we blame our neighbors, our upbringing, our environment and sometimes we even blame “God” but I have yet to hear anyone blame themselves for why fitness has gone this route. Why did we decide that fat means ugly and skinny means pretty, why did we decide that exercise and healthy eating is the only way to be healthy, why did we decide that healthy means looking the part and unhealthy is sloppy. Why did we set such high standards for everyone to reach when everyone is different. Why cause people to go into eating disorders to feel perfect, why did we use a model on a magazine to identify with.  Using “Plus size” models is our way of apologizing to everyone for how vain we are, unfortunately its a bit too late to apologize for the problems we have caused.  

Here we are, the problem & we use very small solutions to temporarily “fix” things. Here is how we managed to temporarily fix things in my opinion:

  • “plus size” models, while I believe we should have women of all sizes modeling, and have them be proud of who they are. I do not agree with the fact we make it so obvious that it’s still “2nd place loser” to be “fat”.
  • stores have a “plus size” section but only offered online. this makes me grumpy and I will discuss my feelings on this in another post. Why should someone have to go online to find their size.. because your store chooses to cater to the “petite”
  • organic foods/veggies/fruits, we push for people to eat healthier, but keep the prices on healthier foods higher

These are just a few things I have issues with, there are plenty more which I will make mention in future post. I find it disgusting how people walk around so vain because of how they look and shun anything that doesn’t fit the “bill”. Open your minds folks, everyone is going to look different from you and you can choose to be the reason we come together or you can be the reason why we fall further apart.  When we preach about fitness as personal trainers, we forget we come off intimidating and hard on people, we don’t take time to consider the actual person and their needs. People are why people aren’t comfortable with who they are.  Yes, I have mentioned the scale, the words, the media, but its US that create all of those things and use them to put down others. We are the problem & the solution is to work on US and work on SELF and create a positive foundation that will lead others on the right path to true health & happiness. Thank you for reading, comment, share, like, follow. 

Sincerely,

Your blogger Shay-lon

My Personal Battle

Sometimes you have to stop & think does it really matter what others think of you if you are okay with how you look…

Weight issues 1Weight issues 2Weight issues 3Women body image

Kids body image

“it is solely my responsibility to look as perfect as her, to be as good looking as her, to be just like her.. because being myself sucks”. I was young I didn’t know anything about health & fitness to the same extent as I do now.  I was active as a child, outside was my playground & my friends all looked like me; free, smiling and weird.  I never stopped to ask myself If I was happy being who I am because they were happy for me.  Middle school was innocent til 7th grade came around & everyone paid more attention to their outer appearance, but I was stuck with who I was. Girls were getting ready to wear make up by 8th grade & I had no clue what it was.  I knew it made them beautiful, made them popular, made them happier; my mom always told me “you don’t need to wear make-up you are pretty the way you are”.  No one seemed to notice I didn’t wear make up because no one made a big deal of it toward me.  I was an athlete, that is why I was liked by a lot of people; because I played sports well & people love people who play sports well. 

Athletes were the school’s role models, I was proud to be an athlete.  It wasn’t until I realized what came with being an athlete at this age & after that made me decide what it meant to be “perfect” & “pretty”. The locker room was my least favorite place because that was place I felt the most vulnerable, the most hidden, the outsider looking in.  I hated getting undressed in front of others; I was what people called “skinny” but somehow I still felt fat, ugly, dissatisfied compared to my teammates.  They tried to not pay much attention to me, and I was sure to make sure I didn’t pay much attention to them either (If I had, they would make me out to be this weirdo).  There was this moment in time where we were all stretching on the floor in the gym, and everyone was in a big circle just talking; one of my fellow teammates made a comment to another fellow teammate “shay has stretch marks on her thighs, (with laughter)” It must have been quite funny because after that they would just smile at me and laugh between each other. I, however did not find it funny because I didn’t know what those meant.. but I wanted to find out.

I took a look at my thighs and seen some marks, but they weren’t all that scary, just some random marks that were hidden if I was standing.  I couldn’t understand why it was such a big deal to my teammates; after taking time to figure out what “stretch marks” meant, I realized they weren’t necessarily a good thing. Days after that, I always made sure my shorts were about knee length because I didn’t want others to see them and make fun of me.  Once high school started, 9th grade I was more confident so I thought; until once again I was in the locker room and all the anger from how I deceived my body came rushing back, reminding me of my past.  The girls in the locker room who were so called “bigger than me” never had anyone point out their flaws, but somehow everyone found a reason to pick on me & yet, everyday I was reminded how “skinny” I was.  Skinny was supposed to be a good thing and everyone wanted to be skinny, but everyone who was skinny had a problem with me being skinny. Sucks. Being that student/athlete who constantly has to look at themselves in the mirror to make sure her stomach is flat, her thighs are small, her boobs aren’t oversized, her hair was perfect, her acne was gone.  It was exhausting being that person.  

No one knew the battle I was fighting, because I kept my issues to myself.  10th grade-11th (Texas), I was “skinny with no ass, skinny with no body, skinny with so swag, skinny with small breast, and toothpick”.  Skinny was bad, skinny was funny, skinny was the new fat joke.  Being around women who had “ass” and “nice sized breasts” was hell, because they thought they were so much more superior than me.  Don’t let me forget to mention how the boys at the time didn’t make shit any easier.  Most of them made ignorant comments about what a girl had to have to meet his requirements.. and trust me.. I was far from those requirements.  Sure I made friends and had people hit on me, but it was aggravating because I was confused about what the perfect body should be.  I liked being skinny because I could fit my clothes, and I enjoyed being skinny because my family is skinny .. but no one knew this.. no one cared. I hated being skinny and having people make jokes about it, it wasn’t funny..because I felt ugly some days in my clothes.  

Weight wasn’t my only issue, during basketball season.. I got made fun of because of my limbs.  I have long arms, and long legs & in my opinion at the time it helped me to steal the ball during games but others found it funny because they said my arms weren’t proportionate with my body, & it didn’t stop there.. now my neck was “too thick” & that just made everyone’s day when I would be called “thick neck” every game or practice for their entertainment.  Life was turning upside down & my mom was still telling me “Shay you are pretty the way you are”, but I never felt pretty, I never was good enough for anyone at this point because my body was a problem to everybody else but my family. 12th grade (colorado), I was given a break, no harassment, no jokes, no laughter.  It was just me dealing with me without someone else directing me.  I was happy with my body finally, because being skinny was a good thing again and I felt so happy to fit in & be liked for me and not what I looked like.  

I didn’t start becoming paranoid again until graduation,( I lived in CO for 4 years)  a couple of months before moving back to Ohio; a friend of the family decided to tell me I was a toothpick and needed more meat on my bones. She would ask my mom “Do your kids eat? What do you feed your feeds? Shay needs more meat on her bones” & of course I ate, I ate tons of food; semi healthy.  When I moved back, I said “Fuck it” I am done with being skinny and having people make snide comments and ask me if I eat, and give me shit because I don’t have an ass.. ect. I was finished with being me. Not intentionally, but my careless attitude brought on weight, I was eating & exercising none, eating unhealthy foods, eating out instead of cooking, eating when I was bored, eating beyond full sometimes just to finish my meal.  It was fun while it lasted, until my mom & other relatives took notice of my weight gain and started making comments on it.  I didn’t take them serious because I could careless what anyone thought anymore of me.. of how I looked because no matter  what.. I was never good enough to be me.  May 2015 (The path changed):

Ugh, I have gained so much weight from where I used to be (I went from 135 pounds to 176 pounds), what am I going to do”? 

  • I switched my major to exercise science
  • I got a gym membership
  • I looked at myself in the mirror and decided I WAS NOT HAPPY WITH MY BODY & I wouldn’t settle. 
  • I found people who enjoy working out & also got my mom into the gym to workout with me
  • I cooked 
  • I started a 21 day challenge to help get me started on this journey (after the 21 days, I took matters into my own hands)
  • I downloaded an app to help me count my calories & keep track of my exercise
  • I ran about 3-4 days a week. & hit the gym the opposite days or same day depending on my schedule.
  • I stayed positive & shared my goals/achievements with peers
  • I gained my confidence back & little by little worked on my self esteem

More or less I started doing things for myself, being strong for myself, thinking about my happiness & where I want to be.  I took my life seriously because I didn’t want to end up like some people; alone & angry. It was time for me to feel beautiful.   All-in-all I am doing great, I love my body & I enjoy exercising and healthy eating.  I want to keep others happy with how they look & feel.  I wrote this blog, in hopes it would give you an idea of how serious body shaming can be, how serious we should take our words.  If anyone has their own journey they would like to share, feel free to leave it in the comments or email me personally.  I am always open to hear all your stories as well. This journey I am on, has been the best life lesson. “Beauty isn’t how you look, it is how you feel” -Shay-lon

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Sincerely,

Your Blogger Shay-lon

 

When all else fails, Use these

Simple Creates less problems

When I think about how we spoke about “body shaming” and why it wasn’t a good thing, I had to stop and also think about what words can be used to describe a person’s body without intentionally being negative. It’s really hard to think of many words to talk about the body without being honest & so that is why I came up with just a few simple words that can be used but have a HUGE meaning behind them. Underweight, overweight, normal weight, obese, these are all the words I came up with to use when describing someone’s shape.  The reason I have chosen these words are because they are simple & get straight to the point. 

The problem with using these words are because only one of them is “good” & the rest are somewhat not so good but that is why I think this is a good start:

  • No one can tell you what “normal” should look like because normal is different for everyone. Ha!
  • If you are underweight, you most likely should gain some weight and if it is an illness then this needs to be addressed with a Doctor & someone close to you that you can trust
  • Overweight will mean you should lose weight
  • Obese means you need to lose weight, talk to a doctor about any ailments or conditions you might be facing or have because of your weight and decide how you want to lose this weight

Easy enough? I find that no matter how we say it, being overweight or obese is never going to be a “good” thing and so there is no real technical way of making someone happy by using these words but at least these words confront the problem instead of disguising it & that goes for underweight as well.  Sometimes “beating behind the bush” makes the circumstances worse than what they should be. If I was to be really honest with you, I would tell you to stay away from describing a person’s body but since that is not going to happen, how about we stay away from degrading people’s body.  Professionals use these words & I don’t see why we shouldn’t because they are FACTS, they aren’t meant to put people down, or make one body more superior than the other; these words are meant to guide you in the right direction and bring things to light.  

If society continues to use body shaming words, this field is doomed & people are going to start to not care about their health and wellness at all, which is what I don’t want to happen.  I want everyone to care about what goes into their bodies, their fitness level, being able to keep up with their everyday routines, mental health & how healthy they really are.  What you should do is reevaluate your bodies using these words I mentioned up top & decide if that is what you want for yourself; either “yes” or “no”.  Change what you don’t like but do it knowing that you want to be healthy and within normal range of weight. This is a baby step & as soon as we dig in deeper than we can jump into specifics. 

Are you healthy?

Overweight, underweight, obese, normal weight?

Are you okay with this?

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Sincerely,

Your Blogger Shay-lon