365 Days of Self Discovery: Your Relationships

6.30.19

Day 41

Do you feel accepted?

  • No. 
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365 Days of Self Discovery: Your Relationships

6.29.19

Day 40

Can you accept people for who they are?

  • Yes, as long as they are honest about who they are. 

365 days of self discovery: day 12

9.14.18

What are you most thankful for?

To say the least, I am thankful for many things in my life that sometimes I take for granted. I am learning to focus on what I do have and not so much of what I am missing or don’t have, because in the scheme of things, I have more than what others may say for themselves. For me being thankful and listing all the good things I have going for me isn’t enough for this post because I am willing to bet, we can all be thankful for the shelter we have, food we eat, water we drink, and perhaps the luxuries our income enabled us to buy and live as such. Those are all things most people should be thankful for, but in my world I have something more special to be thankful due to my lifestyle. 

I am most thankful for having a mom and brothers who accept me no matter my sexuality & whom I have chosen to love me and not turn me away or shun me or make me feel inferior to them due to my sexuality. I am blessed with this support because I have heard and have known many cases where families have disowned their children because of it or sent them away to ‘change them’, they have ridiculed them or judged them, and have chosen to turn the cheek when their child only needed and wanted love and support. I have to admit, it hasn’t always been easy to be open with my family but I think their love outweighs their beliefs and my mom never allowed her belief in God or the bible to outweigh her love for me and support of me. I love her for that, always will because this is something that truly makes me happiest when I think of things I am thankful for. 

What is something that you are thankful for, something with a deep meaning or significant part of your life that others might not be able to say for themselves? We should all be thankful for something, because it can always be taken away from us as fast as we got it. Nothing is guaranteed forever.

Shay-lon 

BEGREATGUYS Tip #9 Acceptance but not complacent

We have come quite a long ways; to a point where most people on social media seem to be more positive towards others bodies and choices of sport, and their lifestyle choices. Even more beautiful is the self love I see on social media from men and women alike, who have stood up to the bullies and have chosen to speak on how they don’t feel any less self confident with themselves anymore because they have chosen to love who they are — I know body shaming still exist on and off social media; and it probably won’t cease anytime soon, but when I see how people choose to handle it, it makes me smile because everyone’s body and genetic make up is different & we never really know another person’s journey. Saying this, I have decided that there are two things that I believe are important when it comes to the body & how one should treat it. 

  1. Acceptance – In other words accepting your body for all the flaws it may have, being able to accept the fact that we are all different & unique; that we can’t compare ourselves to others because each journey is different & each person has their obstacles. Our genetic make up can be a curse or it can be a blessing/ or perhaps a mix of both but it is who we are before we work towards changing it. Accepting your body today, tomorrow and in the future will bring a more positive perspective & learning to accept someone else’s body is showing that you respect their choice even if you don’t agree with it. 
  2. NOT staying complacent – This is where you change what you want to make better & learn from trial/error what works best for your body. While you have accepted its flaws, does not mean you cannot work towards progress and make new results that will make you feel much more confident inside & out. Choosing to not be complacent means you want growth & growth means you constantly want to be the best person you can be. Success is golden if you aim for better but not perfect & sometimes even if results don’t come when you plan on it, they come when you least expect it and challenge you to keep pushing even when the odds are stacked against you. While accepting another person’s body flaws and lifestyle choices is respectful, it doesn’t mean you can’t motivate them to want to better themselves — maybe a simple understanding of where they started and where they are now & where they see themselves will be enough to encourage them to keep going. 

As a personal trainer & athlete, I have taught myself to love my body even on bad days but to always seek for improvement — because improvement is possible. If I want something bad enough, I work towards it at a reasonable pace that works best for me. I have taught my clients to say positive things about their bodies but to demand the change they want to see by working towards their goals with my help. The more we teach ourselves to accept the flaws but go after changes that allow us to grow; I believe it will create a body positive experience. 

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Shay-lon 

Monday Motivation! Dec. 18th

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Happy National Coming Out Day!

I love you no matter who you are or who you love! #gaypride 

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Today is National Coming Out Day! 🙂 I want everyone who follows me that is part of the LGBT & LGBTQ community to know I always welcome you to my blogs and that I fully support it! I appreciate all of you for supporting me as well, considering I came out in 2010 🙂 I love you guys! HAVE A WONDERFUL WEDNESDAY! xo