365 Days of Self Discovery: Dreams/Wishes/Hopes/Future

4.30.19

Day 20

What one thing could you do today to help you achieve your goals?

  • Write down a plan of action road map.
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RIP To All Those Who lost their lives

I just want to take the time to say how sorry I am for all those currently struggling with the loss of their loved ones during the last night’s shooting in California at Borderline Bar and Grill. This world is chaos, and it has become a “normal” thing for these mass shootings, soft shooting to take place anywhere and everywhere. That’s sad, pathetic and scary. I was on twitter today and reading the masses of tweets and one in particular stood out to me (I dont have cable any longer, so I feel am always last to know things unless posted on FB or instagram or a friend should tell me) and did you guys know that this shooting marked 304th mass shooting of 2018 thus far. It blows my mind more and more when I think about it because we used to grow up in this mentality that “my neighborhood is safe, this town has hardly any crime, this could never happen here to me, what are the chances of it happening here, and the most crimes we have are small.. ” well guess what America? NEWS FLASH! but safe is relative & there is no safe zone, nobody is safe from destruction besides the dead. Hell, growing up, I always thought this town was safe from all harm due to it being a pretty well established area with very little crime but now, we have drug overdoses every week, we have had people killed from gunshots and stabbings and we have car break ins, etc.. and guess what? that’s not nearly half of what goes on here that the crooked system tries to hide, regardless, crime can happen everywhere and no state, city, county is safe from a mass shooting erupting — people don’t give a fuck! I hate to say it, but people who want to harm others; on a mission to make hell for someone else isn’t going to discriminate where it takes place, if they have the tools and the way in, they will take it & we need not forget that aspect. 

Our country has been talking about “gun control” since the Pulse shooting and yet there has not been a solution in place, not enough action being taken and too much conversation that prolongs the process before another shooting happens. We say gun control, we say we need to not continue to make mass shootings a normal happening, we say we need to band together and come up with a solution, we say we need to change the laws, we say we need to ban certain people from obtaining weapons, etc, but what haven’t we done? we haven’t done enough.. we are discussing the same policies, the same written documents, the same agendas we were discussing back when things started and now we are doing the same thing , and this is giving perps more time to plan the next chaotic attack because we aren’t taking enough action. I am scared for our country and the future, scared for my family and friends, scared for myself and people who I don’t even know — innocent people’s lives.. I am scared because no matter what we decide, people aren’t going to wait for us to take action, they will continue to do these shootings because they can and will. When we finally take some sort of action, it probably still won’t be enough because the internet makes things easily accessible & we live in sick, cruel world where all it takes is a click of a button, power and or money and BOOM!

I was reading a post on twitter on how we are blaming these shootings on mental health problems/disorders and conditions but how dare we use this as a scapegoat each time someone decides to become radical and do a mass shooting. I couldn’t agree more with the person who stated it, because hell, I suffer from mental health disorders but I am not out here shooting up buildings, blowing up people and taking innocent lives — and while I know mental health is running rapid & many times people can’t afford medication, don’t know they suffer from something or can’t afford to get help they need, it doesn’t mean all of us with mental health disorders are taking it upon ourselves to kill people. I am more than aware that some have severe cases of mental health issues and can cause harm to themselves and others but I don’t believe we should continue using mental health as a scapegoat because I believe it fuels the stigma already placed on people who suffer from mental health disorders/conditions. If mental health is an issue (which it is when people can’t afford or have the help they seek or need) then lets come up with something to help those in need — but if every time we assumed someone who killed someone has a mental health disorder, it would be bullshit because there are so many people in their right mind who just are evil people doing these things, it doesn’t always come down to them having a mental health disorder, sometimes they are just malicious people with bad intents. Two things:

  1. We need to focus on the fact that NOT every person who goes out and does a senseless act has a mental health disorder, fact is, people can be evil and do crimes like this, it doesn’t mean they have PTSD or anxiety or anything else, it could just mean, they are evil and have bad intentions. 
  2.  If we want to keep blaming mental health for reasons why people go out and kill people and commit mass shootings, then find a way to help people or make it possible for people to afford health care, prescriptions, therapy sessions, etc and create a better reform so people understand the different types of mental health disorders & instead of justifying the shootings with this person suffered with a mental health disorder .. how about we take action on gun control & have a better judicial system that hands out consequences instead of slapping people on the wrist to stay moral. 

I agree with this person who quoted:Mental illnesses didn’t shoot & kill 12 people in last night. A man with a gun did. Im sick of people using mental illness as a scapegoat, which further stigmatizes those of us that struggle with it. It’s lazy & dishonest” -Khary Penebaker, Fx .

Again, I am sorry for all those that lost someone due to the shooting, I pray in time you heal and find it in your heart to continue living your best life. ❤ 

P.S I am all for conceal to carry, I believe protecting ourselves is the best method these days; especially in having to defend yourself and family/friends. Take away people’s right to protect themselves, we are left defenseless and people who can’t fend for themselves are usually left to die without being able to put up a fight. However,  I do believe we can come up with a solid solution that doesn’t take away people’s rights to defend themselves but makes it harder for those who shouldn’t have gun to obtain one, but even so, the internet is easy and accessible and people will always find a way. Sadly.

Deadpool 2 movie tomorrow

Comedy relief 

 

This is off topic.. BUT…

 

Who plans on going to see DEADPOOL 2 MOVIE TOMORROW? I am going tomorrow on opening day 🙂

 

I figured I would ask in case I have any superhero fans out there and we wanted to nerd out about the upcoming movie 🙂 I love superhero movies (new fact about me) My favorite being DC characters; more specifically – BATMAN & WONDERWOMAN:) 

 

No, I have not yet to see the new Avengers movie, but my youngest brother (he is 9) spoiled the ending for me today when he was telling me about a classmate who shared with him on what to expect with the new movie.. :/ but hopefully I do get the chance to see it.

 

I don’t get to the movie theater often enough to keep up with all the superhero movies in order, but I do my best to watch them at some point. In the meantime, I just try to stay away from spoilers — EXCEPT FOR TODAY! lol 🙂

 

So with that being said, hopefully someone else geeks out on superheros and can leave comments. 

 

Shay-lon

Tip #6

Come to the Gym with a Plan in Hand

I am a huge advocate with coming to the gym with a “plan in hand”. Now for some of you, you already do this and for others of you, you don’t like having all the extra papers lying around or don’t like bringing your electronics to the gym with you BUT I am telling you, as tedious as it might seem, it is always better to come to the gym with exercises you already have planned out vs coming to the gym and having to pace around or stay on the treadmill until you decide what to do next. 

My course of action is written the night before or the morning of the workout as soon as I wake up, because typically I already have an idea of what muscle groups needs to be worked on or have a program I am following and so having it written down will allow me to stay accountable and also allow me to keep track of everything. I have two whole notebooks full of workouts and tons of random sheets of papers with all my workouts since day one of keeping track of my workouts – I am able to look back on everything I have done (but I also have another purpose intended for why I do this).

 

Sometimes in order to get results you have to do trial and error and keeping up with your workouts will be helpful to you in doing so. I even have to track my eating habits come Monday, so I have an app for that and I am debating on having a notebook for it but that might be a little redundant (but helpful if I lose my phone, etc) anyways, the point is, when you come to the gym prepared it lessens the time having to think about what to do and puts more emphasis on the actual workout time, it might help take away some anxiety, it allows you to remain accountable, it will increase your likelihood of sticking with a program, tracks your plateaus, allows you to make new goals for yourself, and in the long run might serve as an reward for all the hard work you put in! 

 

Do you track your workouts? how do you track them – paper or electronically?

 

Fitness WonderWoman

Shay-lon

Talk Less, Do More. Actions Speak for themselves.

How can I say this politely without offending anyone, hmm? Talk less and do more. Sounds easy enough, but guess how many people say they will do something and talk a big game, but when the time comes, hey.. they are still talking about it and yet haven’t taken any action. 

We all like to talk about goals, talk about doing vacations and talk about losing weight, eating healthier, driving the speed limit, and what not, but as soon as the time comes where we need to take action, we don’t. We end up regretting it 30 days later and then end up starting where we were: talking a good game but still haven’t done shit about it. The majority of people who “talk” more are talking because they are hoping that someone will enable them to do it, give them a reason to do whatever it is they want to do.. so when someone says “wow, that is cool, you should do it” , it doesn’t mean back out and and turn around and count all the excuses, it means do it, like actually do it. 

 

This whole thing works for multiple things, but as a fitness/health blogger, I figured I better talk about this subject to narrow things down. So many people want to start something: CrossFit, obstacle courses, weight loss, weight gain, fitness apps, fitness blogs, group fitness, etc and yet so many of those people end up not going through with it for different reasons. I hear it all the time, “I want to start losing weight, but.. it is hard and I have tried it before and didn’t work”, why didn’t it work? because you didn’t start realistically, you started with too high of expectations, you didn’t have the support necessary and your motivational level was running dry, not to mention you put other things first and it didn’t help with making your health a priority.  Am I mad at you? no, not at all. It isn’t easy to do what we say sometimes, sometimes we run into issues that life throws at us and we have to reorganize our priorities and it becomes frustrating. Trust me, I know this for fact happens, it has happened to me so many different times; continues to happen to me. I didn’t make this post to criticize you, I made this post to help myself do what needs to be done in order to do what I want to do. 

 

I came up with a plan on how I can talk less and do more and it starts with:

 
  • Taking control of needs and wants
  • making people apart of my plans, either they support my goals, journeys, choices or they don’t, but if they don’t, get out of the way. 
  • know my purpose for wanting to do something or needing to do something; purpose helps
  • Don’t do something based on the fact others do it, do it because you want to do it
  • Either I start today or I don’t start at all (metaphorically speaking) don’t have a deadline, just start when you are ready and come prepared. 
  • don’t give up and don’t give in to negativity

Short list but helpful list. Sometimes we struggle taking action and when we do, we look for a purpose and reason and well, this list is my way of helping you and helping myself with whatever it is you need help getting started in. If we talk about wanting to do something, then let’s be the proof we did it! 

 

Your Fitness Blogger,

Shay-lon xxx