365 Days of Self Discovery: Your Relationships

6.09.19

Day 20

What is the best advice you have ever been given?

  • I have received so much advice/wisdom from people over the years, I don’t believe has stood out more important than the other — they all played some part in my life at some point and have managed to be something I either chosen to listen to you or use when the time comes. 
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365 Days of Self Discovery: Your Relationships

6.01.19

Day 12

What’s the best advice you could give to others?

  • Be yourself & love yourself 

Tuesday Tips– Determination.

Inspiration 1

Determination.

It’s what fuels your drive, pushes you to keep going. Lack of determination leads to lack of willpower and no willpower will hinder your “trying” process. There are many things people have done/are doing, that many times we ask ourselves, “how”? how did this person do it, how did they keep going after failing many times, how did they meet success? The answer is they were determined. At some point in the journey, they had the determination that another man did not, and succeeded. It didn’t come any easier, but the determination they had kept them fueled, gave them courage, allowed them to undertake much hard paths and sometimes even granted them better and bigger opportunities. As an athlete, the will to win helps to fuel our willpower — but winning alone can’t do it. Besides the will to win, we have to have the will to want to be better, not perfect, but better. 

Lack of determination.. will slow you down in the long run. A person’s determination.. plays a role in how far they are willing to go. 

Fit Tip ‘9.18’

Find an exercise for you

Remember that exercise is different for everyone, some people may prefer to do cardio and light weights and some may prefer to play a sport to stay active, while others may find lifting heavy and little cardio works best. Find what works for your goals and whatever keeps you motivated to stay active. 

365 days of self discovery: day 15

How would you describe yourself to a stranger?

  • Easy going, socially awkward until I have gotten to know you. Fairly private person but if you stay in my life long enough & end up being someone I trust, I share many aspects of my life.
  • I am a great listener, love giving people advice/encouragement to make their day. I am athletic in stature & personality wise, goofy. I can come off intimidating when I’m not smiling, but if you are friendly towards me, I will be the same way towards you unless I am having a bad day, then I will be standoffish. I have a big heart, and a good soul, and I take pride in wanting to be the best person I can be. 

Describing yourself to someone new can be hard, because so few words but many aspects that I am sure you would want to mention –I feel as though many people don’t enjoy talking about themselves, so it is harder for them to do so, but I think it is important that we know ourselves or at least have a grasp on who we are and what we would want someone to say about us. I know this question won’t be difficult for all of you, but for the ones that it will hold a challenge to, please do your best in answering & be honest. Don’t be ashamed if it isn’t long or detailed, this is what self discovery is about. 

Shay-lon

What makes for a good gym partner?

Some people are ‘lone wolves’ such as myself, but every now and then we want the encouragement of someone else to keep us pumped, grow a bond & be the ‘bro’ we need in order to hit that next PR (yelling in our ear and rooting for our success)! 

 

But.. 

 

We should be picking about who we choose to be that “bro” and that friend we call on because it does make all the difference. Down below I highlight some tips to look for when searching for a gym partner who benefits you & vice versa. 

 
 
  1. You need to choose someone who has a personality that meshes well with yours
  2. Choose someone who is close to your fitness level — unless you don’t mind playing teacher/coach (some people find that annoying)
  3. Find someone who commits to the gym as much as yourself or more so that you can count of them for the long term. 
  4. If they don’t push you to do better, don’t challenge you to excel then they aren’t a person who will benefit you. 
  5. Find a person whose schedule can work along with yours — or find a compromise you are both willing to do
  6. Choose someone who doesn’t ‘yap’ all day, but knows when to focus on the grind while at the gym — you are there for results not for a social party
  7. Choose a gym partner that keeps you accountable
  8. Choose someone that doesn’t have a huge ego, you don’t want someone that’s there to show off their gains, you want someone who compliments your gains but also confident with themselves without having to be flashing
  9. Choose someone who is open minded- because when choosing a program for yourself or the both of you, you need someone who is willing to give something a go, unless they seek different results, but not someone who talks down about your decisions *but offering advice is fine*
  10. A know it all, doesn’t always know it ALL. Choose someone who doesn’t treat you like a test subject, they might know their bodies but it doesn’t mean they know yours and unless you hire them for training you, don’t allow someone to make you feel stupid or incompetent. There are coaches with experience and degrees that can offer that type of support. If your gym partner is coming off like a ‘know it ALL’ then they are too involved with being right than being a friend & that will get old real fast. 

Thanks for reading, I hope these tips are helpful for when you are in search of a gym partner! please feel free to follow, share, comment and like 😀

 

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Shay-lon 

BeGreatGuys Monday Motivation #6

“Do what you said you were going to do”

In other words, whatever it is you said you would do, that you have to do, that you want to do – DO IT!  

 

The problem is we get caught up on words, we say things but have a difficult time putting forth the action – for example: “I want to open my own gym”, that’s something someone wants to do, but the problem is, they aren’t doing anything about it and if they are doing something — they are running out of patience and not seeking the help they need to make that into an action; in turn, giving up or complaining. I realize owning a gym would be difficult for most people (expenses, responsibility, learning the business side of things, taking a risk, seeking employees, etc. BUT it is POSSIBLE. Maybe in the moment it seems like a fantasy that has a low percentage of happening but in the scheme of things, what is it that keeps you from trying anyways. If it is money, what can do you to raise enough money, hell better yet, what is a more affordable way to own a business until you are able to afford a big enough building or lot? I have known many companies to start small — and as soon as they start earning customers and revenue, they grow, they prosper. You go from selling products and training from your garage to now owning a huge gym that sits in a nice lot that serves thousands of people. It is POSSIBLE. 

 

The reason I made this post was not only to give you some motivation, but to give me some motivation, some insight on what I already know and to give me the boost of confidence to think outside of the box and not give up because something isn’t coming “easy” for me. I started a business recently, my OWN business, hell, it is very new and a huge risk for me, because I have very little information on how to go about it and to be honest, I haven’t put the amount of effort into it, that is necessary and that’s strike one against me. I want to put the effort into it and make it grand & here I am saying this but not providing any action — so all the while I am telling you to put forth action towards your goals; I need to do the same for myself, and not wait another day to do so, but do it NOW because it is POSSIBLE. 

 

Your goal can be as small as: “I need to visit my grandmother this week”, well if that is important to you, why haven’t you done it? why is work, school, relationships and traveling your excuse? when something is important to YOU, you will know how important it is, because you make time for it, you make an effort no matter the circumstances. If work and traveling is keeping you from visiting grandmother, than why not make that effort to call or message her? if  not having transportation is the issue, then why not use your resources? It’s not to make you feel guilty but to make you realize that the things we say we should do and need to do, can be done if we look at the time we have and spend it wisely and make time for things that we put off; make time for people that we put on hold, and make time for goals that we are passionate about. In a nutshell, I am the last person to tell you how to have ‘better time management’ because I feel as though I fail in that area in the recent years, however, I do know I don’t always spend my time wisely and I don’t always utilize my resources and sometimes I make excuses and put things off for “tomorrow” but while working out today at the gym, I came to think that I need to put myself on a schedule/routine when it comes to my life outside of the gym because otherwise I fail to do what is important & I make more excuses. Is this you?

 

We won’t be perfect. It will be challenging sometimes & we will get frustrated, possibly even overwhelmed with anxiety. That’s to be expected when you have goals and aspirations and passions in life — but the end result will be: a sense of accomplishment, a sense of progress, a sense of productivity and growth. All of those things will come if we DO WHAT WE SAID WE WERE GOING TO DO. 

 

Hope you have enjoyed this read, if so, please feel free to follow, share and leave comments 😀

 

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