Do you ever feel numb? What causes this?
- Only when I have reached a limit in my anger where I don’t care anymore or when I am hitting a very lowly place in my life but normally this isn’t so.
Do you have moments where you feel numb, or have you felt this way in the past?
Do you find it difficult to control your temper?
- Yes. Many time I have struggled with this, with me getting older, I feel as though I have gotten better with controlling my temper but not always 100 percent of the time. Probably not a good trait to have, but I haven’t chosen to seek help with this aspect of my life because I don’t feel I need professional help with it. I believe it will come down to finding an alternative way of handling my anger that will keep me calm and less overwhelmed & stay in control of my emotions naturally vs having to take medication because I don’t want to be on medicines.
Do you struggle with keeping your temper under control? how do you handle your anger when it arises?
Do you believe crying is a healthy outlet for negative emotions? What makes you cry?
- When I was younger, crying was a reaction I had to many things that were negative, mostly when I was trouble, I did it a lot. My mom disliked when I cried, she would always tell me to quit my crying and that crying wouldn’t get me anywhere in life. She used to say how quick I was to drop a tear. I learned crying was not an accepted reaction in my household growing up & when I got older (high school and beyond) I started reacting with anger — lashing out with words and physically want to fight the person who was causing me to feel that way. I would cry while being angered or after being so angered because normally I was sad, or feeling misunderstood or feeling hopeless, I didn’t like talking about my emotions with anyone, so my emotions and feelings I held inside and sometimes it would cause me to erupt after a while. Now, I will cry when I feel some form of depression or sadness coming on, or on my period and hormones are going crazy, but it usually take a lot for me to cry — now I am more apt to respond with anger or I will ignore the person/situation all together to avoid getting myself too worked up. If I do cry, I prefer crying alone vs crying in front of others; especially in front of my mom. I don’t like having people witness me cry.
Personally, I think crying can be used as a healthy outlet for those of us who have a hard time talking about our emotions/feelings with others, sometimes crying is what keeps someone from viciously attacking themselves or other people, it is their way of letting you know they have reached their limits. However, I do believe that crying doesn’t help solve problems, doesn’t make the pain go away — it might numb it for a small amount of time, but once you have stopped the crying it comes back, so, eventually we all have to learn to face the situation head on & find coping methods that are better suited. I cry when I am sad: death, fear sometimes, depressive episodes, certain songs that trigger flashbacks or bring back memories that are sad, pain (physical and mental pain), and sometimes guilt.
What are your opinions on using crying as a healthy outlet for negative emotions, good or bad idea? why do you feel this way? what makes you cry? or are you the kind of person who doesn’t cry?
What makes you angry? How do you deal with the anger?
- I would be ranting if I had a list of everything that made me angry, as a matter of fact, I don’t think I could list everything because sometimes I find something new grinds my gears that I haven’t experienced before — and other times, it isn’t that I am angry, it might be just that I am frustrated and coming off angry about a situation. Either way, you got lucky because I was able to come up with a ranting list of things that anger me:
- Losing — I hate losing because I am competitive by nature. I never have fun losing, but I have learned to play sports, games, activities for fun because people don’t enjoy being around “sore losers”
- Failing – Failing at something or not being good at something; especially when I see someone else is good at it because it makes me feel “lame” not living up to those same standards & brings out my competitive nature. I tend to look at failing with perspective, and I either practice & try again or I admit to myself that I am not good at whatever it may be and move on or play for fun.
- people whom seem to complain when they have it easier in life compared to others around them
- When people talk to me condescendingly
- Shopping at Walmart
- Person taking advantage of someone because of their vulnerabilities
- 2 face individuals
- Our governments choices sometimes
- Hate crimes
- bad drivers who do not care about the lives they are endangering
- Lack of justice for victims of any type of abuse or having to deal with unsolved homicides
What is it that makes you angry?