365 Days of self discovery: Day 72

11.13.18

What makes you uncomfortable?

  • I will list a few things that come to mind:
  1. Confrontation
  2. Listening to people/ having people talk to me about their sexual experiences in detail 
  3. When men flirt with me, expecting something in return (especially if I don’t know them)
  4. Being stared at
  5. shopping during busy store hours
  6. using public restrooms when other patrons are in the bathroom with me
  7. having heard/listen to people slander me or talk badly about me indirectly, talking to someone else or under their breath
  8. Getting undressed and dressed in locker rooms among other people or women
  9. period cramps
  10. Having to walk in not well lit parking lots
  11. being in a financial hardship
  12. going to parties where I don’t know the area or guest
  13. driving long distances in the dark
  14. feeling bloated
  15. having to hold my bladder due to being in conversation and afraid to excuse myself
  16. some form of compliments depending on the person giving it
I am sure many of you may be able to relate to some of the things I listed, but what about things I haven’t, what makes you uncomfortable? 
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365 Days of Self Discovery: Day 69

11.10.18

Are you a confident person or do you find yourself doubting your abilities?

  •  I am a little bit of both. I am confident but at the same time I find myself doubting myself and what I am capable of due to fear; fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of the unknown. Many times I start off confident but then my mind/thoughts get the best of me and I start second guessing myself. 

World Mental Health Awareness Day

Mental health awareness day

Today is Mental Health Awareness Day.

Coming from someone who suffers from a form of anxiety (social anxiety), a form of depression, BDD (body dysmorphic disorder), and OCD. I know first hand what it’s like to be in a dark place that is hard to get out of, or to not have the willpower to want to continue living because you feel worthless, useless, not fitting, and lost & it seems easier to give up and throw in the towel than to fight with your thoughts. Mental health is a REAL thing. It’s not fun to be the person that people think is weird because they don’t understand you or what you are going through. It’s a stigma that needs to be broken, it doesn’t matter your childhood, how in shape you are, your ethnicity or status quo among your peers, IT DOESN’T DISCRIMINATE. 

Mental health needs attention, it needs our help with breaking the cycle of judging a person based on their diagnosis. If you suffer from Mental Health, I want you to know: YOU ARE LOVED, WE DO CARE, and people are willing to help if you let them.  It’s not easy but don’t give up on yourself, because there are people like myself who won’t give up on you.

#BreakTheStigma 

365 Days of Self Discovery: Day 9

9.11.18

Do you worry too much? How can you deal with this?

In the previous post I mentioned how I worry quite a bit about different things and it stems from anxiety & brings about anxiety or a sense of feeling overwhelmed. I do believe I worry too much, and I don’t particular enjoy it. As of now, I have been taking part in meditation, but also, reading a good books has helped & music helps to get my thoughts out/ at the same time doesn’t quiet my brain when I am worried (so its a positive and negative) but for sure meditation & reading a book has been helpful, allows me to escape for a while and focus on being more at peace and calmness. I also believe my fear of losing routine or not finishing everything I planned for the day causes to me worry because then I have to think about when I can play catch up, so I don’t get too far behind. It’s a cycle, I am trying to teach myself that it is okay to go off the beaten path sometimes, and that we can only do what we can do, and not worry about what doesn’t get finished, because it will at some point. 

What helps you deal with being worried too much? or is this not an issue for you. Feel free to share in the comments, & make sure to follow, share and like!

Shay-lon

365 Days of Self Discovery: Day 8

9.10.18

What do you worry about?

What a question for the kind of day I’ve had — having my IG hacked, for one that is a starter to my worries, but if we were to put that aside, my worry is for my future — my business/career, not knowing how my life will pan out, not knowing if I will be in a “happy place”, not knowing if I will be prosperous in all aspects of my life or will I be in the same situation I am now; feeling complacent. I like planning for my future (creating long term goals) but sometimes I feel like they take so much time to conquer and I second guess if I will ever make it out of this mundane lifestyle and into what I yearn for / what my heart desires. I am 26 right now and that means I am closer to 30, I’d like to be so much further in my life by the time I hit 30, I don’t want to live with this thought of not making it further in life than where I am currently. I get comfortable and then it gets hard to change, but I need change because if I don’t change, then I will be stuck being mentally drained from feeling worthless. I have smaller day to day worries as well; paying bills, working two jobs, is my mental state okay, will I be able to blog on this and that day, my body image being “good enough” , possible car problems arising, how to spread my time so I am able to spend more time with loved ones when possible, making sure I focus on my well-being and trying to keep my head above water when I feel anxiety or overwhelmed. These worries continue because of my anxiety and feeling as though I can’t sometimes take hold of my life the way I want to, it’s like I do well and then at some point I hit a brick wall & it stops me in my tracks. Its tough because many times I wish I didn’t care about so much, then I wouldn’t have to worry so much. 

What kind of things do you worry about? EVERYONE worries about something at some point in their lives; so what is something that has been on your worry list. Feel free to share in the comment section, and don’t forget to follow, share and like the page! 

Shay-lon

BEGREATGUYS #5 — My exam story (Try Again)

I have learned many things, some of which made a difference in my life. One of which, is learning to “try again”, which for some is easy enough but for others like myself, “trying again” is scary and makes us overwhelmed, makes us anxious and gives us stress. Stress we don’t need nor want. I can tell you of many incidences where I wanted to try again but didn’t due to fear and not knowing, due to low self esteem and negative thinking and due to lack of courage. I grew up on “trying” and giving it my best; my mom always told me and my siblings this growing up — and even then it was easier said than done. Almost like now. Where trying something for a second or third time seems like a waste of time, especially when you don’t know how it will end. 

I learned REAL soon, that trying again can be the door that opens opportunity — All it takes is a positive mindset, belief in yourself and capabilities & your “why”  (in other words the reason that you NEED to try again, why is this important to you) because without a why, you lose focus and give up. This almost happened to me within this year. 

Just recently I got certified in Personal Training by ACSM (one of the hardest personal training exams right next to CSCS) and holds the “Gold standard” for the fitness industry because it was the FIRST certification and very few people pass this exam the first time let alone the second time. I graduated college May 2016 and took the exam for the first time December of 2016 and FAILED. Mind you it cost me 300 dollars to take it, and I didn’t have whole lot of financial stability at the time, so I knew it would take some saving up before I could afford it while also having to afford bills. I was very discouraged this first time (you can take it after 15 days with a discounted price) but at the time I could not afford to retake it, so I went a whole other year before re-taking it again. The first time I cried and got very upset. The second time, I had something new weighing on me, they were changing the cirriculum for this exam after this test date, so if I failed it this time, it meant having to buy new books & taking time to study the new material (expenses and time) so I retook the test Dec. 2017 and FAILED, again. Now I was very pissed off, I had cried at the gym when telling my boss/owner and sharing the news with a couple of gym members, it was like the world was falling on top of me and I couldn’t breath and didn’t know what to do, I started to think that maybe I was too dumb for this test — people gave me other names of personal training certs I could do: ACE, NASM, ISSA, etc but I didn’t want to do those, I wanted ACSM, it appealed to me because of the recognition it receives and how few people have passed. I wanted to pass it. 

In the meantime while my self esteem was low, I started looking into other cert options in case I wanted to give up on ACSM (and do know I did want to give up) because I even got ahold of NASM and talked with a rep about being interested in taking their exam and pricing and same with ACE. I even researched ISSA to see what it was about. When it was all said and done, I decided I would give ACSM a try ONCE more, because the material was new, I figured I’d rather study this new stuff then to spend more money with a whole other company/cert. Once again I was praying I could afford the new books/study aids — thankfully Amazon had it for decent price and because of using the trial period of Prime, I was able to have them shipped quickly to my house. I got my books and dug in, I decided to once again make note cards, but beforehand, read both textbooks while taking notes in a notebook then used the notes on the notecards and made over 100+ note cards to study from and used the ACSM pocket prep app. I was focused, UNTIL I wasn’t, I had set the date to February to retake the test but realized I wasn’t ready yet, so changed it to March but because I was too busy having fun on my birthday — I changed the date to April to give me more time to study (which I didn’t use my time to study very well) I got distracted by friends and wanting to hang out that I put my studies in second place & the times I could study I would have rather been able to go to bed early. I work two jobs so sleep is important to me. It wasn’t until a week before that I really dug into my notes and focused. I was overwhelmed but made it a priority to study because I didn’t want to keep rescheduling my exam. Long story short, I studies until midnight the night before and woke up bright and very, very early to eat breakfast, study and calm my nerves so I could come prepared with clarity. 

Walking into the testing center made me anxious but I was confident in myself and didn’t allow the nerves to take over my mind or fill me with negative thoughts. The test was 150 questions and I had to score 550 in order to pass. The test was HARD, very difficult but I could confidently say that I knew about 20 of the questions without pondering but the rest depended on memory, being able to answer practical questions and hoping that I can do a good job of guessing if I didn’t know the answer. Unlike the previous test, I went through all the flagged questions I had issues with and made sure I answered them to the best of my ability and even left 20 minutes on the clock before finishing the test because I took my time with this test, I wanted to do my best and give my best answers. 

I PASSED. I passed the test with a 557 score. I cried with a smile on my face and walked out that testing center not believing what just happened. I texted the first 5 people I wanted to share the news with and posted on Facebook the news. Everything was starting to make sense to me after this day, I didn’t give up. I could have very well not tried again but because I took the dive and TRIED AGAIN, I found out I could do it. I passed the exam and I am ever so blessed and happy with the results. Moral of the story, TRY AGAIN. 

“When you try something for the first time, you might find you aren’t the best at it, but doesn’t mean you can’t get better” – Shay-lon Moss

Shay-lon 

Check out my Instagram with the posted good news: ACSM cert

Seasonal Affective Disorder

It is getting to be that time of year where people typically get more gloomy because of the weather, and the seasons changing. Not only do people tend to get allergies or aches/pains, their personalities or moods can change. I have to thank a friend of mine for bringing this disorder to my attention because we were talking about how the weather makes us both kind of “blah” because of the lack of sunshine and it becoming more and more cold outside. Neither one of us has been diagnosed with “Seasonal Affective Disorder” and I don’t believe I have it and neither does she, but it brought up a good point because this isn’t a disorder that I hear much about until it gets to be about this time of year – even then, I don’t think a whole lot of people think twice about it. I decided to do some research and learn something new about a disorder and hopefully share what I have learned with all of you, BUT I always appreciate it more when it comes from someone who has the experience because it is more realistic and more personal – so if you have something to add to this, please do in the comment section 🙂

 

First things first, what is seasonal affective disorder? In simple terms, it is a type of depression that comes and goes with the seasons. Most often occurs in the early fall/winter and usually ends sometime around spring/summer. Clearly not everyone loves the cold weather but it doesn’t mean you have seasonal affective disorder. With this being said, I have some fun information below:

 

Word of caution: This disorder is not considered as a separate disorder. In order for someone to be diagnosed with SAD, they have to meet the full criteria or major depression coinciding with specific seasons for ATLEAST 2 years. This means it needs to be more frequent compared to other depressions. So having said this, there are reasons for why someone would be diagnosed with this, this isn’t just somebody who doesn’t like winter or cold weather – more goes into a diagnosis. 

 

Signs/symptoms:

Winter Pattern:

 
  • Low energy 
  • hypersomnia
  • overeating
  • weight gain
  • craving for carbohydrates
  • social withdrawal 

Summer SAD:

  • poor appetite /weight loss
  • insomnia 
  • agitation
  • restlessness
  • anxiety
  • episodes of violent behavior

Then also consider some of the major depression signs/symptoms along with these. 

 

Risk Factors Associated with SAD

  • Females are diagnosed more often than men with this disorder (lucky us ladies!, lol)
  • Living further from the equator
  • Family history of depression
  • Younger age

Treatment options:

  • Medication
  • light therapy
  • psychotherapy 
  • Vitamin D

With this being said, Vitamin D supplements haven’t been 100 percent proven to treat seasonal affective disorder, but having more time in the sunlight seems to help and taking the supplements is neither here or there in research.. depending on the individual. Now there may be new treatments available or perhaps more treatments I have not listed, and so share them if you will. If you have your own way of dealing with SAD, please share it for my readers and so I can also learn something as well. Thank you for reading, please feel free to share, like, reblog, and follow!

 

Fitness WonderWoman,

Shay-lon