BeGreatGuys Post #4 — Being Average is Okay

Nowadays, people are striving to be the “best”, the best at sports, work, parenting, school, etc. It seems people steer themselves in the direction of competition in order to come out first, to be granted a reward, to be applauded, and to be remembered as someone with importance. In my opinion, the best thing to do is “be your best self” and that doesn’t mean winning at every sport or getting straight A’s in school; it means living life trying to have a good character, to stand up for what’s right when necessary, following your values/morals that correlate with who you are & choosing to surround yourself with like-minded individuals who don’t want to see you mentally exhausting yourself to be first place ALL THE TIME , but will also be there when you lose. 

 

Being average, doesn’t have to mean being complacent, or going through life with no aspirations — all that average means, is being okay with not being perfect in every aspect of your life and being okay with making mistakes, with losing a game, with getting a C on a test and studying hard next time to strive for that B+ & not weighing yourself down with comparisons to others, and obsessions of winning or being known by many. If all that attended your funeral were your family members and 3 close friends, would you be okay with that? or would you be the one to say, “nobody cares about me, only this many people attended” .. does the number that attends your funeral make a difference in how you feel about yourself? because if you think that having 100 people at your funeral is any better, try having 100 people at your funeral but only 5 of them actually care and have something they can share; memories, pictures, stories, and friendships — all the while the other 95 people attended just because they felt bad and didn’t want to be mean by not attending and didn’t even know who you really were (they liked you because you always won first place) but the second you lose first place, you lose those 95 people who you thought cared. 

 

Yes, strive for success and be great at things, excel in school and work. Compete in sports, be nominated for a prize for your efforts and continue to dream big — but don’t forget that being average doesn’t mean you suck, or that you can’t win, or that you are 2nd place loser. Being average is okay, because being average awards you the same gratification; you made progress, you did better and you might not have won every race or scored more points than your opponent but you tried and trying is way better than wishing you had. Being average doesn’t make you weak, fat or ugly, it means you are perfectly okay with being who you are because you love yourself and don’t need the audience to validate your worth; you don’t need a trophy, a fan club, a billboard in order to know you have a good character, you have flaws but don’t use them to weigh you down and that you put your effort into something you love- win or lose. You don’t need to know you are the best, to feel your best. 

 

I would know what being average is, because I am average and I love it all the same. 

 

“The best part about not winning all the time, is being able to lose and still walk away with a win; you kept the same attitude as you would have winning” -Shay-lon 

 
 
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Versatile Blogger Award – Thank you :)

I was nominated for the versatile blogger award a week or so ago from https://withcoloursandcanitointhekitchen.blog/ & want to say thank you for the nomination, if you haven’t yet followed or taken a look at their blog, feel free! 

 

According to the Versatile Blogger Award Rules, I need to do five things to preserve the spirit of this award:

Nominees should know that if you are nominated for the Versatile Blogger Award, you have already won 

Write and publish a blog post thanking and linking back to the person who nominated me

List seven random facts about myself

Nominate up to 15 other blogs that you follow and believe deserve recognition for their hard work

7 Facts about me:

  1. I have never done drugs of any sorts
  2. I was the tallest kid in class in elementary school
  3. I played basketball, softball and ran track the majority of my life
  4. I root for the Patriots 🙂 (but I am not from NE)
  5. I am a sponsored athlete
  6. I work at a gym 
  7. I am horrible at tennis! lol

15 blogs I nominate:

PoojaG

Ultimatetravel

elizabethfredrickson

thefitfrequentflyer

niccimshane

braddahr

livyourlifeeveryday

elainesadventureinbodybuilding

bodybyemilyrose

lacey

doctorinspe

halfarsed-runner

tyronepierre

heystephheyyy

kphoenix1

Now the majority of these blogs are new blogs I have chosen to follow and others I have followed for awhile, so take a look and show support 🙂 thanks! 

The Unique Blogger Award

Thank you dear friend PoojaG for nominating me for this particular blogger award. I apologize ahead of time for being late in posting this – but I have been MIA and didn’t know when I would be returning until I had things figured out. I appreciate your patience and friendship during all of this. I enjoyed your post and congrats on being nominated as well for this award! I am so happy for you and all that you have written since following your blog and hope it continues to flourish! 😀 please feel free to check out her blog page, it is full of inspiration! 

The rules:
  • Share the link to the blogger who has shown love to you by nominating you.
  • Answer the questions.
  • In the spirit of sharing love and solidarity with our blogging family, nominate 15 people and notify them.
  • Ask them three questions.

1.What (or who) inspired you to get into blogging? Well for starters it was my college professor at the time who mentioned blogging to me. 

2. Describe your ideal three-course meal? Honestly this can shift depending on my mood and what sounds good at the time. For now, I would say four tacos, some mexican rice, and refried beans 🙂 Yum!

3. Would you consider naming any future children after fictional characters, if so which characters? Well considering I don’t plan on having children anytime soon .. I don’t know but if it should happen, it wouldn’t be a horrible idea. 

My Nominees Are:

https://onebigstressball.wordpress.com/

natalie

https://sharonmadonna.wordpress.com/

betchadidntknowthis

https://lifeofamedschoolwife.com/

https://niccimcshane.com/

https://hisperfecttiming.blog/

https://www.jessekerema.com/

https://lexieanimetravel.wordpress.com/

https://nadiahsrodanandfields.com/

https://athomaspointofview.com/

https://gypsybus28.com/

https://ochonia.wordpress.com/

https://for-fitness-sake.com/

https://secretartexpedition.wordpress.com/

Answer the same three questions! Thank you!

Fitness WonderWoman,

Shay-lon

The Cramm Award.

Thank you PoojaG for nominating me for this award and giving me more work to do on a Monday, love it 😀 but seriously, so happy, it will be my first time doing this one and her first time as well, so go check her page out and find out what she had written down! 😀 

The Cramm Award was created by Liv, the owner of theCramm, an awesome blog, visit it here to see the rest for yourself, you’ll not regret it.

Rules

  1. Include a little bit about who created this award (with a link) and mention the person the who nominated you.
  2. Share 3 things that motivate you to blog and share 3 people that motivate you to blog as well
  3. Share one thing you hope to do that will improve the world.
  4. Answer your challenge question
  5. Nominate your choice of bloggers and give them a challenge question.

My Blogging Motivators

  • Things:

Other people’s blogs, how far they have come and how it paid off.

When people tell me that my writing/videos have inspired them in some way

Knowing that I have been blogging for almost 2 years and how much my own work has paid off, and the opportunities I was given. 

  • People:

The ones who have started from the bottom to make a name for themselves – gained success and have created a slight possibility of change in the world.

Me. I have to have my own source of motivation for my writing because I have learned when relying on others to keep me motivated – when they give up, I want to give up to.. and so I decided I have to do this for me.

Blog Followers/Social media Followers/YouTube subscribers – all of you give me something to work towards. 

 

My World Improving Action:

I am not sure what the big scheme of things I want to do for the world, I just have dreams that create small ideas that will hopefully become my reality.  People always say they want to change the world for the better and being something positive for others to look up to BUT I don’t want people to look up to me, because I don’t want to be anyone’s role model, I just want to be a reason behind someone’s good day, someone’s extra boost of confidence, someone’s friend when they are friendless, someones’ help when they need it, someone’s reason to keep going when shit gets tough, because with the world the way it is sometimes.. I have to believe everyone at some point in their life needs a someone who can be one of those things. 

Challenging Question

I received none and I don’t really want to ask my nominees one as the rules of the award (2 and 3) already pose very interesting and reflectional requirements.

My Nominees Are:

https://karinapinella.com/

https://naturalbodybuilder.com/

https://ashleygulley.com/

https://thisismytruthnow.com/

Thanks for reading! check out more awards here

 

The Versatile BLOGGER award.

This is my first time receiving this award from anyone and I feel very good about it. I think it means many things, and it means I pretty much can do whatever .. I don’t just stick with whatever, but I adapt to change – this is something I had to learn to do over the years. I appreciate the fact that one of my favorite bloggers (I have others, don’t get jealous) Thehangryrunner nominated me. She has been wonderful to speak with and since giving her topic ideas, I have been keeping her hands busy with creating more post! Doing a great job, keep at it 🙂

The rules state:

  • Thank the person that nominated you and include a link to their blog.
  • Nominate at least 15 blogs of your choice.
  • Link your nominees and let them know of your nomination.  (OK this is what I’m bad at so I hope I got everyone)
  • Share 7 facts about yourself!

but I do thinks my way usually. lol

7 Fact About Me:

  1. My social life is very small, I used to have a huge circle of friends and what not, but since being very busy, kicking people out of my life and focusing on things that I didn’t have time to do because I was partying really hard and forgetting about priorities, I have since decided that I like it small and if it grows it grows because I allow people to come in that are worth my emotions, time and patience who support me and not hinder me. 
  2. I don’t naturally like speaking with people over the phone, but  when I do, it has to be not weird, otherwise I tend to shrink up in a ball and mumble. Although I am getting better at handling this! lol – I don’t really shrink up, but I hate the awkward silences >.< talk people, talk! 
  3. I just recently started doing meditation, it came to me when someone threw me the idea and I have been wanting to try it for a while. So far, so good. 
  4. My friends and family think I am a HORRIBLE driver, but I disagree. One of my friends sent me a text saying “why do you drive like you are transporting high grade explosives” lol.
  5. I dance in my car. I typically will do it all the time, everyday and I don’t care who sees me doing it. – I am also known for singing in my car too! 
  6. I very competitive, I have been an athlete all my life, so when it comes to board games, video games, sports, etc.. I always aim to win and I am a horrible loser.. If I lose, chances are you should leave the room. just a rule of thumb. 
  7. I am not a true buckeye fan, but I pretend to be.. 🙂 – I always choose MI because I like their colors more! hahaha .. yes I am THAT person. sorry, not sorry. 

My nominations:

Tikeetha T

thinkfitnessjg

purplebutterfly964

yournoviceappreviewer

Christianweightsuccess

appsreviewed

Shattered in Him

Rachaelsramblings

murgori

PoojaG

thoughtsnlifeblog

Kphoenix1

littlebitofmaine

joetayla

kenlitepen

For more blog awards, click here

P.S this award needs to be done within 24hours in 30 seconds or the blog award will explode. LOL —kidding?:)

 

 

The Entertainer Blogger Award

entertainer-blogger-award

I was nominated this award by PoojaG, she has an awesome blog, always sweet and nice. Please do take sometime to check out her blog!!!

The rules of the award are :

  1. Write a post  including the award picture
  2. Nominate twelve other bloggers
  3. Nominees should answer the same questions as the ones below
  4. Thank the blogger that nominated you and link their blog

So, here are the questions:-

Question 1:  What do you hope to gain from blogging? I want the opportunity to connect with others in order to motivate, inspire and train them (if needed) in being fit &healthy, I want the opportunity to write for “big wig” magazines – hoping that my blog will catch their attention. I want the opportunity to gain financial stability where I get paid to write and help people on and off screen. I want the exposure, the fame and the fun that comes with it, I want it to help me grow my personal training business when it gets started. All in all, I hope to gain some wonderful friends & warm people’s hearts with my positive vibes and passion to help others feel good about who they are. 

Question 2: What genre of film entertains you the most? Horror, and films with depth to them (that tell somewhat a story) .. those are fun. 

Question 3: Do you consider yourself a writer, and what inspires you? No, I do not consider myself a writer. I am far from a writer, I am nothing more than a human with hands typing on a keyword, projecting words at a screen in order to communicate – of course, I do write and I have an editor I write for, but to have the title as “writer” is heavy.. some big shoes to fill.. I am still new and learning, when I become a writer, everyone will have read my story. I get inspired by learning something new, or gaining knowledge about something that intrigues me enough to write about it or research it. 

Question 4: Why did you choose your particular WordPress username? WordPress chose my destiny, I left it in their hands. 

Question 5: What is your favourite book, and why does it speak to you? Reading is for the cool kids, and well.. I used to be one.

Question 6: What is your favourite song, and why does it speak to you? Ooo don’t make me answer this question, this could haunt me.. lol. I would say either “Born to die” – Lana Del Rey, “Young and beautiful” – Lana Del Rey or “Gods and Monsters” – Lana Del Rey , ooo and maybe “Hello” – Adele. I love Lana Del Rey, and her music, her music speaks to me because it puts me in this trance where everything just comes to life, I usually cry or have flashbacks or makes me feel sexy singing it. Adele’s song “Hello”.. obviously with my breakup – it deemed necessary to love this song, plus she is awesome.

Question 7: What is your favourite photograph and why does it speak to you? The one’s I am not part of. LOL

My nominees are:

Betcha didn’t know

S.C. Happily

Lacey

gojenbefit

@fitone

girlsmeetsrunning

kristinagallo

simpledimplesite

Nadine

Tosha Michelle

1ellen23

newhealthieryoublog

For more awards, click here

If you have enjoyed this post, feel free to leave a comment, like, follow, share or reblog 🙂

 

The Mystery Blogger Award

Thank you Purplebutterfly964 for nominating me for this award, it is my first time being nominated for this award, so I am excited to get started, and got on my blog this weekend just to do it! 

Rules:

1. Put the award logo/image on your blog

2. List the rules 

3. Thank whoever nominated you and provide a link to their blog 

4. Mention the creator of the award and provide their link as well 

5. Tell your readers 3 things about yourself 

6. You have to nominate 10-20 people 

7. Notify your nominees by commenting on their blog 

8. Ask your nominees any 5 questions of your choice, with one weird or funny question (specify)

9. Share a link to your best post(s)

Okoto Enigma from https://okotoenigma.wordpress.com is the creator of The Mystery Blogger Award. Please go follow her blog.

3 Things About Me:

  1. I have two younger brothers
  2. I am neat freak! & LOVE organization. 
  3. I like to wear button up shirts – I think they look cute on me. 

I would like to nominate the following bloggers: 

Anne

Braddahr

thehangryrunner

Christian

PoojaG

Jim

queenbfitnesscorner

myfitnessjourney

masalavegan

theutopiauniverse

Questions that purplebutterfly964 asked me:

  1. What are your goals for this month? My goals for this month is to lose 10-15 lb. 
  2. What is one of your hidden talents? I don’t think I have one, I am a good dancer though. 
  3. Do you daydream often? Hm, not really. 
  4. Have you ever been to the beach? Yes.
  5. Can you wiggle your ears right now, do it (funny)? I think I had one wiggling 🙂

My questions for the nominees:

  1. Do you enjoy the winter months?
  2. Favorite dish at Thanksgiving?
  3. Do you play any winter sports?
  4. Do you prefer to cook or bake?
  5. How long does it take for someone to get to the middle of a tootsie roll pop? LOL (it is off a commercial with Mr. Owl)

I hope everyone has enjoyed my answers and questions!