Busier and Busier ..

Summer Busyyyynesssss!

Hello readers and bloggers, many of you might have noticed my lack of communication, consistency, normality, time management, etc and whatever else that might show through my writings — I apologize because many of you have continued to support my blog(s) and website and are waiting for me to do the same >.< which is to expected and should be the way it is. I could make ALL the excuses in the world for the lack of attention I have given my followers for the past 6 months or so, but the truth remains that I have been hectic and this is good news because as a personal trainer, I have so many more clients/fitness consultations I am doing each week & I have had time to meet and make new friendships in the real world, spend time with my loved ones and use my time to catch up on much needed sleep (due to working two jobs — one being third shift). I make just enough time to blog and then I immediately log off without showing much support to any of you and that’s not right nor intentional but it seems to happen often enough where finally I feel the need to apologize and find a solution to such an issue. Today I will use some of this day to catch up on cleaning, researching time management options that will benefit me, catching up on blogging and ordering items for my powerlifting meet, and shopping for an event I will be going to June 14th — June 16th (out of town) and whatever else I can think of that seems to be put on the backburner every week (including all of you) but that will have to wait for a little while longer as I need to do things by priority so that I stay in order and keep things flowing or else, I might lose my mind! 😦 

In the coming weeks, I will have a much better plan when it comes to blogging and showing my support to all of those who do the same for me daily & to all the new bloggers as well. I just need to go over the plan on paper and make some adjustments (as needed) because things won’t always go as planned — that’s life. When I do come up with this plan today, it will begin to show gradually & hopefully it will be long term. I wanted to make blogging/writing full time & I still in fact have that goal, but it will take me working harder as a personal trainer so that I don’t need a second job & don’t need to consume so much of time sleeping to make up for the lack of sleep I don’t get during the week sometimes. Everything that is meant to happen, will happen in due time. If any of this fails to show my gratitude, forgive me, I know everyone has a busy schedule and this might not be a great excuse but it is my reasoning and the truth. Trust me, when I tell you, I plan on making up for this & giving more time to blogging, and writing and showing my support as well — it won’t happen overnight , but it will come slowly. There used to be a time I could blog 2-3 times a day and still manage to support all the writers (take me back to that time) but now I get lucky if I find the energy to blog once a day without falling asleep on the computer or being distracted by outside noises. 

I hope we talk soon, and thank for you all the continued support once more. If any of you follow me on social media — I have been slow on the trigger in posting regularly but I do still post on IG, FB and Twitter & check my emails regularly as well. Blogging is my life, really it brings me peace and gives me inspiration through writing and reading other people’s creations, I yearn for it when I haven’t been consistent, I just need to plan my days out more accordingly and keep myself in order and make sure to spend my time wisely so that I don’t overwhelm myself too quickly and give up my passions. What’s good for the soul should never die. 

Shay-lon 

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365 Days of Self Discovery: Feelings & Emotions

1.10.2019

Day 11

Do you do well with change?

  • In the past, growing up, I hated change. Now, change doesn’t bother me as much, if at all. At first I am always skeptical when change happens, but then I learn to adapt to the new changes (assuming it is a good change). I prefer being on a routine, because it helps but change is learning to go outside your comfort zone at times and I’ve had to do that. 
Are any of you against change, does it scare you? Share your answers in the comment section. 

Why I didn’t make New Years Resolution

I make short term and long term changes

I did’t make a list of goals for 2019 that would end up being a “New Year, New Me” philosophy & haven’t done it for the last couple of years now because well, no point. After many years of making New Year resolutions, I have realized they are only exciting for the first month & then after that, I no longer care enough to carry them out or keep myself accountable. I decided instead I would make a list of short term and long term goals for my 2019 & goals that are both realistic and something that I am either very passionate about, already working towards, affordable, something that won’t effect me if it doesn’t happen — meaning if I don’t buy a new pair of tennis shoes within the next couple of weeks, it won’t make me feel as though I lost because I will just set aside a different date to buy them until I can either afford to buy them or need to buy them. 

I am not down talking anyone who believes in New Year resolutions because maybe a new year gets you excited enough to stick with your plans — if so, by all means make those resolutions happen! but if not, don’t waste your time following the majority of Americans, instead create goals that are both long and short & don’t make the list too long that it becomes too overwhelming to complete. I personally try to make 5-6 goals each for the short and long term goals . Somewhere in my room, I have a HUGE list of goals but that’s just overall what I want to happen in my life as far as growth and success; something to keep me focused and inspired & it changes always because “life happens”, we don’t always have control over things that happen to us.  I think New Year resolutions get people pumped to start on a goal but having a list of short term and long term goals make it easier to stick with a goal (especially if you have it posted someplace where you check on your goals often) and goals can be changed as many times as you would like but New Year Resolutions don’t normally change — they just die off when people don’t like them or don’t want to do them anymore. 

Depending on the type of person you are, you may or may not prefer my method & that’s okay but at least I am able to share my own opinion and perhaps it might trigger many of you to give it some thought as well 😀

Happy Sunday!

 

6,000 WordPress Subscribers and close to 4,000 on the second blog

Something about success smells sweat — Shay-lon Moss

 

Most people could probably start this sentence out by saying they have worked really hard to get to this point BUT, I used to say this when I was writing more & talking to my following more, but now I hardly can say it because I have skipped days writing, and haven’t been consistent and my topics haven’t been the most interesting (besides my self discovery challenge) which I am enjoying might I add, and while I want to make the topics interesting & I will soon, I need to consider the fact I am creating a website for my business and it will have a blog & I want some of the topics to be for that website (but I will share the site and links to the blog post on this blog as well) so that everyone can read them — but this is why my topics on exercise have diminished a tad bit.. UGH! but on the bright side, today I plan on writing down topics I want to share on this blog & topics for the website so that it isn’t repetitive on both sites (even though some will be the same as past post with maybe more or new opinions, facts, etc) but it has been something I need to sit down and go over before writing. Thank you for baring with me and for being patient throughout my writing career, I appreciate all of you! I do, truly.

Having reached my milestone of 6,000 subscribers and over 2,000 followers on this blog has made me realize that I have come a long way — even with the baby steps and small increments of change and lack of interesting post, people still seem to enjoy something about my blog & I want to say it has a lot to do with my voice in my writing — because I don’t think my topics are all that amazing as of now (I will change this soon) because I have big plans for this blog site, I do. It will be tons of work, but I love writing and I am going to work my ass off to make it better and bigger and more responsive to my followers and readers alike. My second blog has been doing well & surprising the topics have been of great interest to many people and I enjoy that as well, and I plan on continuing down the path I am on with it as of now, and when it grows, it will have more changes as well. 

My plans for 2019 for this blog: 

  1. more post engagement
  2. topics
  3. removing or adding categories
  4. engaging more with new and old followers as much as I can
  5. sharing of guest post
  6. more engaging images/videos
  7. affiliates/monetizing 
  8. possible theme change
  9. Meditation post — possibility for those who are interested 😀

small steps, so not to overwhelm myself.  My plans for the new website (that I will also share on this blog through links)

  1. my podcast
  2. videos
  3. new topics
  4. informational post
  5. interviews
  6. selling of my product line
  7. affiliates/monetizing 
  8. writing for editors/other sites & sharing my work
  9. personal training packages & nutritional plans 
  10. Q&A

Much much more 😀 which will be noted in the first blog page of the new website. 

I am hoping in 2019, I can also work on writing my first book if my schedule allows time for it and after doing research, etc. I have big things I would like to see happen with my business, my career, my writing profession & life in general. It might not all happen at once and it might be slow to happen, but I am going to try nonetheless because I have a passion for success and wanting to thrive in this world. My hope is all of you will be around in 2019 to see these wonderful things unfold and that I shall see your blog develop as well —because your growth is just as important to me as mine is to me. Again, I appreciate all of you and those who have been a follower and reader of mine for long and short period of time, & I raise a glass to all those who continue to write going forward in 2019 😀 Many blessings and more success to you my friends. ❤

Shay-lon

Yesterday, I made changes to my bench

I decided that this week, I would change up my bench routine. For awhile I have been doing Monday speed training with bench & Wednesday were for heavy lifting with bench but this week  & the weeks going forward (assuming it brings results) I am going to do speed and heavy on the same days Monday & Wednesday. I did this change because in the past I was missing out on a Monday or Wednesday bench & it was hard making up for it due to obligations and travel so now if I miss either day, I can do the workout the next bench day & I think this will provide more results as well in the long run. 

Warm Up:

  • Reverse Triceps cable pushdown: 4 x 25, 40 lbs
  • Biceps machine (isolated) 4 x 25, 30 lbs
  • One arm DB bentover row: 4 x 25, 15 lbs

Workout:

  • Barbell bench press: 8 x 6-8 4 x 80 lbs (65%) & 4 x 90 lbs (70%)
  • Barbell bench press: 6 x 2-3, 2 x 100 lbs (80%), 2 x 105 lbs (85%) & 2 x 110 lbs (90%)
  • Barbell bench press (wide grip): 6 x 8-10, 70 lbs

Tri-sets

  • DB floor press: 6 x 8-10, 60 lbs
  • DB incline press: 6 x 8-10, 50 lbs
  • DB front raises: 6 x 8-10, 20 lbs

Tri-sets:

  • DB bench press: 6 x 8-10, 60 lbs
  • DB lateral raises: 6 x 8-10, 20 lbs
  • DB triceps overhead extension: 6 x 8-10, 25 lbs

Supersets:

  • DB farmer carries/walks (first time) – 2 x 180 lbs (2 90 lb DBs)
  • DB shrugs: 2 x 8-10, 90 lbs (2 45 lb DBs)

The farmer carries were lethal, extremely challenging and brand new to me, I took a picture of my injury from yesterday — here

26 compared to 25. (Motivation Monday)

It’s probably fair to assume that since turning 26 on Thursday March 22nd, I have looked back on my life & everything that has changed (my goals, my maturity level, my growth, my career goals, my morals, my circle of friends, etc) some of the changes haven’t been big, but gradual over the course of the years and other changes, I made right away because it was “time”; time to develop myself and strive for new goals for myself. Goals that would challenge me and that could be accomplished by the time I reach 27 of next year. 

To begin with, I believe the big change in my life since turning 26 is my maturity level and level of understanding myself, this doesn’t mean that I won’t have fun at 26 or will live life “seriously” every given day; it means I have new priorities and obligations that mean more to me this year to have accomplished than it did the previous years. It means when I tell myself I want to do something — I will do it, because I am getting older and time is of the essence; and it means I am going to focus on my prospering my life a whole lot more. The fun will be there; the living life to the fullest won’t disappear, but the journey will be more focused and more dedicated than before. The “understanding myself” part is the time I have taken to clear my mind of the past mistakes and opening my mind to what it means to be happy within myself, finding ways to conquer my bad days, humbling myself in order to create a better circle of people who surround me, taking time to “treat” myself, putting myself first, getting to know my flaws & learning to better myself in all areas of my life one step at a time. All of these things about understanding who I am, is going to take time & won’t come fast but it shows I have progressed when I can see changes in myself that make me happy. 

 

My career goals, have pretty much stayed the same but with a addition of things that will help fulfill my life & add more fun to my goals — keep me on my feet but not overwhelm me with stress. Of course these goals will also take some learning on my part and some networking and possibly even more sacrifices — in the beginning, I wasn’t prepared for this, but now I feel I am more prepared because I see what I do on a daily basis and realize I have to have balance in my life to achieve my success — I have to work harder with more effort but not work harder and stressed. That’s a huge change I am making for myself, learning to find ways to cope with overwhelming amounts of stress (stress won’t disappear, because I know it happens) but instead of shutting down; I want to work through it and find my “coping ways” so that I can live a more positive lifestyle. My career choices will be stressful in the beginning because it will be a whirlwind of emotions and dedication — but in the end, I want it to be fun and take my breathe away every time.

 

Friendships & family members. I have decided that I won’t chase after people in order to keep them close. I will make better efforts to keep in contact with close friends and mend relationships that might need mending and I will eliminate any negativity that keeps me from thriving. I will be happy for those who succeed in life and hope that when I progress, they will be happy for me. I will stay humbled, no matter how far I come, because I won’t forget where I started and who helped me to get there when I needed the boost of motivation — that’s really important, staying humble. I am going to make new friendships but be picky in choosing my friends, I will not allow family to keep me from being who I want to be in this world because it might not fit their dream. I have decided that if you want to be in my life for the long haul, then I won’t have to ask, because I will know 🙂 My friends and family I love dearly and always will, but with love doesn’t mean I have to stop going for what I want for myself, it means they should be my biggest fans and always support me through and through and if I should fall, they will be the people who I can cry on & the same people who tell me to get back up and keep going. 

 

My physical well-being. I am transforming my body to new heights, I am becoming stronger and more willing to push myself past limits that before I was too scared to try. My physique is showing changes — some I enjoy and some I do not, but with my continued fight to accept myself, I will keep training and continue to make this a trial and error situation until I find the right balance with my body and diet. I will also take more care of my skin, my hair, my outer appearance because I want to feel good and look good. 

 

Mentality — My mental state will need work, because I have anxiety and mild forms of depression at times, but I have come a long way in handling these two things and also, have found new forms of better managing them without having to take medication (I refuse to take medication, never have) so I want to keep my mental state in check and make sure that on my off days, I really take the proper “me” time. I have also decided after talking to a friend to start up writing in a journal (keeping a diary of everything each day); I used to do this but stopped last year during my break up with an ex, but I enjoyed doing it, so want to give it a go again. My body dysphoria (lack of seeing myself the way others view my body) is ongoing battle as well but I am learning to look at myself and not nit pick everything. It won’t go away, but it does have it moments where it isn’t as bad. Thankfully having an encouraging circle helps soften my blows to myself. 

 

Goals — life goals will be ever changing because I have many of them and some that I want to do before 27 and others I want to do before dying. I plan on writing them all down and checking them off. Some of the goals will be with friends and others will be done on my own but either way, I want to stay motivated and having goals will help with that, but I won’t allow myself to become upset if I shouldn’t make them in a deadline because shit happens. 

 

Financially stable. I have reached a point in my life where finances are becoming more and more important; I can’t rely on money falling from the sky, so I have to work to keep myself responsible for my lifestyle choices. While being rich would be nice, I aim to be more comfortable and to live a less lavish lifestyle and more minimal way of spending money. I will spend money on travels, food, shelter and for memories that I can keep, I will buy clothes when necessary and new shoes when needed, and will continue to spend money on loved ones on special occasions.  I won’t allow myself to go broke in order to keep up with the “Jones”, and I won’t allow myself to feel obligated to buy things for a few compliments. Taking care of myself, that will be important, making sure I can pay on credit cards, being sure I can afford groceries and living circumstances, being sure that I can afford having a social life with friends, being sure I can afford my needs — that is important to me. There was a time when affording materialistic things in order to “fit in” mattered to me, but after growing up and realizing most people don’t give a shit and realizing that I have no business trying to impress someone who is superficial in the first place — I am going to spend my money more responsibly so that in the end, I have savings, I have emergency funds and have a better grip on my finances. I began this process by cutting up all my credit cards. 

 

Dating — If I am being honest, I am single and currently not in any rush to jump into a new relationship. I am  over my ex, but not yet ready to share my life with someone because I have things I want to do on my own for the time being BUT I am open to dating and meeting people. I even started talking to someone but was upfront on my intentions. We both agreed if we end up together — awesome but if not, then we are totally okay with having a fantastic friendship — right now I enjoy their company and they enjoy mine, we have some great conversations and share many personal things with one another. I find that this time around, I know what I look for in a potential partner and have also opened my mind to other things about people that I was blinded to in the beginning because of my superficial thoughts. Wherever this road takes me, I don’t know, but for now I am enjoying myself and this is important because I want to be happy alone before adding someone to my life. 


Athlete — being an athlete is my job and hobby, it’s my thrill and stress, my fun and competition. I love it, and my continued goals of competing and influencing others to be their best self in whatever they do is ongoing. I have been sponsored by companies, have been lifting since may 2016 and will be competing in powerlifting and will then broaden my horizon in other fitness industry sports so that I am well rounded and can offer more help when training my clients and growing my business. 

In becoming an athlete and growing my social media platforms, I have found where I need work when it comes to my own lifts and where I want to grow mentally and physically. This is part of who I am and who I choose to be, I don’t need fame to make me relevant within the industry, having made my own path and working towards growing my brand — I hope my athletic ability will motivate others to be reckless, kick ass and smile every chance they get when they want to better themselves in their sports. I want my brand to be about confidence, humbled experiences and thriving from positive people. xo 



Of course there are many other aspects to my life that I feel are important == but to keep this post short and sweet, those aspects I won’t mention at this time. I believe where my life is now, is not where I want it to be next year, I want it to be bigger, better and have more achievements. I know today is Monday, and what better way to spend it than to start this new journey at 26 now. I have a book I want to write, actually two books I want to write, so that will be a whole other addition to my goals that I want to accomplish. 26 never felt so inspiring, but I am thrilled to get this path started! 

 

Thanks for reading, hopefully all of you enjoyed this read. Feel free to leave comments, share and follow my blog. 

 

Shay-lon 

 
 

Good news with a cherry on top

If you are on my Facebook, you probably already know the good news… 

 

But many of you are not, so I have some positive news to share with my fellow readers .. 

 

Today was an overall good day, after my workout this morning, I had to train a client and then I had to work the front counter til 8pm at the gym but many things happened today that made me smile and many things have happened since today, that have enlightened my life since working at the gym and also since meeting new people and making new friendships, so I will share what I shared on FB with all of you. 

 
 
  1. Trained my client this afternoon and just love her as a person, she just has a wonderful heart and does so well 😀
  2. I had someone from the gym tonight bring me tamales, the sweetest and both of her sons are just so awesome.. the one hugged me and I always feel like family to them. I so appreciate it ❤
  3. I might have some new clients to train, possibly a couple… and that’s exciting because they seem eager and I hope if anything, I hope can raise their self esteem and give them something to look forward to when they arrive in the gym regardless if I’m their trainer or not… I always aim to build people up.. because I want people to feel like they belong and feel good about themselves because I know the feeling of low self esteem and wanting to give up and I hope everyone I train and help I make them feel empowered and cared about. I always tell people I believe in them, because if nobody else does, I want them to know I do! 
  4. I’ve made some great friendships and people who have been amazing toward me in and out of the gym, just your hello and a high five puts a smile on my face and I love you guys. I appreciate those who have always encouraged me in my lifting and encouraged me to be my best self, thank you
  5. the awesome instructor and a few ladies invited me out in the next few weeks for my birthday and I just feel like it definitely means something, I appreciate them
  6. I tell ya, this dentist who comes into my gym, he is so funny and just down to earth and humble. His conversations have always been a learning experience and something to look forward to, I love it.
  7. I talk too much and never get out of the gym on time, lol

I also want to thank all of you who take the time to follow, read and share my blog among your peers, whom have taken the time to leave comments and share conversations with me on social media. I have been blogging for a little over 2 years now and it feels like a lifetime because I have met some wonderful and skillful bloggers — people who have transformed since day one of following them and have seen me transform since day one of following me. To watch your growth as writers has been an absolute honor and I look forward to many more years of watching and being apart of your experience. Blogging has become second nature to me, a second full time hobby and job, I take it seriously and share my life (good and bad) with all of you because I want to be real and want to show my own growth, my own stumbles and my own get up moments. As bloggers, it gets easy getting caught up in the stats and wanting to have the most viewers and followers, etc. & that stuff is all fine and dandy, but for me, it means more when I develop relationships/bonds with people who read my content. I have fallen behind on post, have made changes to the blog, and have fallen short on quality of post at times, but it never ceases to amaze me how many of you continue to be there no matter. I appreciate all of you and wish all of you the best with your continued writing and may we continue to build friendships and share laughs with one another for the next many years ahead of us ❤ 

—– Shay- lon