365 Days of Self Discovery: Your Relationships

6.21.19

Day 32

What makes you lovable?

  • My comical personality and willingness to go out of my way to make people laugh and smile
  • my willingness to help people 
  • my open mindedness and the fact I enjoy trying new things and going to new places
  • The fact I enjoy motivating people and building them up to their true potential
  • the fact I have a good heart, good intentions and love seeing people I care about succeed in life in whatever makes them happiest
  • I am real about things, I don’t tell people what they want to hear, I tell them the truth 
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365 Days of Self Discovery: The Past

3.09.19

Day 2

If you could go back to when you were a child, what would you say to yourself?

  • I would tell myself “to be yourself 100%, no matter what others may think. Never feel the need to change who you are in order to make others like you”. I would tell myself this then, in hopes that when I proceed through life, I never felt the need to always change who I was to fit in, or to be liked or worthy of someone else. It would probably have made my life a little bit easier. #lifelesson
What would you tell your childhood self? 

365 Days of Self Discovery: Feelings & Emotions

2.13.19

Day 45

Are you easily overwhelmed?

  • Yes. 

365 Days of Self Discovery: Feelings & Emotions

1.27.19

Day 28

Do you ever feel envious? Do you find this healthy?

  • No & No. 

Are you the type to be envious of others? is it healthy to have this character trait? share your opinions. 

365 Days of Self Discovery: Day 98

12.09.18

Do you ever break the rules?

  • I am not the type of person who will go out of my way to break rules, and I always usually try my best to follow them due to being overly cautious. Although, yes, I have broken rules, and suffered consequences for doing so & sometimes I have been able to get away with action without having someone find out — but it left guilt on my heart & that can be worse off than the consequences. I prefer to not have to break the rules,however I do believe “some rules are meant to be broken” — especially if the rule(s) don’t align with your values/beliefs, or change your character negatively. Sometimes we have to go against our belief system and sway from our values but many times those set the standards for what we believe in and how we go about doing things in our lives. For example, our moral belief might be to not kill someone but when defending ourselves, it could mean life or death & sometimes killing the other person is the only option if we want to survive. 

When Drama comes starts knocking, I leave the door closed

Good drama, is a poor excuse to have drama

Ya know what I have come to realize, that some people need drama to thrive on friendships, need drama to feel a purpose and rely on drama to gain some of kind insight on other people’s lives — me on the other hand, I don’t need it nor want it and I delete it as soon as it forms. 

Having been much younger once, I knew what drama could produce at an early age, and had my share of people’s bullshit and wanting to be apart of heavy gossip in hopes it would give me kudo points for being on the same side as others. Let’s face it, in grade school and some of high school, drama formed so often that when you think you dodged a bullet, it just meant another person had room to attempt the same scheme. I’d like to say with age came wisdom and learning from former mistakes and choosing to focus on more important things rather than other people’s business BUT, can’t say it meant drama would cease to appear in my life, nope, drama was still around and for good reason, because without it, meant I had little to no friends. Yet, you start to realize drama creates chaos and chaos invites itself in your life when you are most vulnerable or weak minded. In order to rid of chaos, you learn you have to make sacrifices that aren’t easy but will payoff (doesn’t seem that way at first) but in time it does payoff. 

For me, in order to live a drama free lifestyle, I had to rid the people I surrounded myself with that were bad blood and carried negative vibes — wasn’t easy until I started to see how it hindered my growth financially, mentally, educationally, and physically. Here I am YEARS later, without an ounce of drama to my name & the drama that might have tried to seep into my life, I ignored it or shut it down, & gave it no attention unless it was something that needed to be talked about in order to move on from. Otherwise, when drama comes knocking, I leave the door closed. Now drama normally is equated with gossip and I don’t particularly love hearing gossip, especially since I have learned and matured enough to make up my own opinions of other people once I get to know them vs believing everything someone else tells me (I always “consider my sources”) which means whatever someone tells me about another person, I take with a grain of salt until it has been proven / else I make my own judgement based on how the person treats me personally & if I am being honest, what someone does in their free time isn’t my business unless it effects me or somebody I care/love. Case closed.

Another form of drama is in relationships & I suppose those are much harder to shut down, because I assume we love the person we are dating & so this makes things more complicated BUT I found the best way to prevent drama from forming in your relationships is understanding the person’s character before putting yourself in a relationship with the person and really thinking about if the person is compatible with you. Good looks don’t mean the person has a solid character and just because he/she gives to charity doesn’t mean he/she doesn’t gossip.. so this is where being superficial can harm the future of your relationship. I believe it takes time & you and only you know what you need out of a person in order to have a successful relationship and so you need to make good decisions to have good outcomes. Not saying a relationship will be perfect but when the time comes and drama shows up at your front door during your relationship — the goal is for both parties to find a solution together that doesn’t burden the relationship or person/people within it. That’s the goal — easier said than done. 

Third form of drama is when you allow it to change your character in order to keep your popularity or friends. I think this is one of the worst forms because it really has a way of biting you in the ass if you don’t pay mind to it. I had to learn that popularity and having the most votes doesn’t mean anything if I have to change myself in order to be accepted among the majority. Nobody likes being an outcast/different, but sometimes being the unique one makes for a better character and a longevity of true friendships. Doesn’t mean you will win an Oscar , but it could mean you earn a good reputation. 

You learn that drama will happen, and continue to happen and that some forms of drama can be ignored and other forms need to be dealt with in order to make it disappear or prevent it from causing further chaos. I have had people say there is good drama, but good drama isn’t drama – it is reward, inspiration, blessings, and positive vibes & it doesn’t create chaos, but creates wisdom, happiness, triumphs, and builds good character. The good drama people speak of is: congrats, birthdays, holiday greetings marriage/newly weds , pregnancy, anniversaries, good health, promotions, compliments, good counsel, good deeds, and love. These are forms of drama that help uplift, motivate and give people a reason to smile — 

“Good drama doesn’t exist, it is purely a person with good intentions looking to give someone a reason to be happy” – Shay-lon Moss

 

365 Days of Self Discovery: Day 81

11.22.18

What makes you unique?

self discovery day 81

  • My personality
  • My body image
  • my thoughts, feelings, reactions to certain situations
  • my genetic make up
  • the way my environment and experiences have shaped me into the person I am
  • my personal experiences

What makes you unique? can you think of things that make you different from the person next to you.