What mistakes have you learned from in the past?
- How to make better financial decisions with credit card use
- how important your credit score is when it comes to everyday life
- Not to allow family members to take advantage of you financially
- Being happy with myself truly before involving myself in a long term relationship with someone else
- Stand up for myself
- Take risk instead of passing up opportunity due to fear
- Make more of an effort to keep in touch with loved ones and friends
- Don’t do too much all at once — know your limits
- Don’t change who you are in order for people to like you
- Don’t be afraid to be honest about your feelings
- Date someone who brings value to your life, instead of basing things off looks alone
- There is nothing wrong with being single, no need to rush into a relationship
- put yourself FIRST
- Live below my means
- listen to what someone has to say before deciding to react and then regretting it later
- Walk away from relationships that hinder, scare, control or makes you feel less than your best
- choose friends wisely and be cautious of whom you allow in your circle
- Pray more often because you need help from a higher power more than you know
What are some lessons you have learned from mistakes you have made?
Do you always need to be in control? How do you feel when you have no control over the situation?
No, I don’t need to always be in control, although having control over myself (thoughts, opinions, movements,emotions, feelings, etc) are important to me. I don’t believe I have controlling behaviors (none that stick out to me) & I don’t have the “my way or the highway” attitude either. I feel as though many times people have put me in the seat to control/make their decisions for them so they can avoid doing it & many times I’ve allowed someone I’ve dated to have control over me / take control of the situation; which at the time I was blind to but looking back, I was always in fear of losing this person & I would allow them to take control of me and answer for me, if it meant keeping them. Now, I wouldn’t be so easily controlled — I enjoy my freedoms. When I feel I have no control over a situation, it scares me depending on the circumstance. Especially when I make a mistake and someone thinks negatively of me because of it & even though I apologize, it just doesn’t seem like enough because they already have a certain impression of me — I can’t control that / or make it “better”. Not having control in certain situations can make me feel vulnerable and causes me stress or the feeling of panic/being overwhelmed.
Many of you probably know someone or have dated someone who had controlling behaviors — or perhaps you are someone who likes being in constant control. Share in the comments.