Tip #7: Don’t more than you can handle

Easier said than done. 

Most people assume you have to lift heavy to see results, but what happens is they compromise their form in order to do so. 

My tip is straight forward: Don’t lift more than you can handle, gradually increase but don’t compromise the form/technique in order to do it, because otherwise you will suffer a possible injury. It’s best to do increase the load over a period of time than to go in balls deep and hurt yourself in the process. 

 

Fitness WonderWoman,

Shay-lon 

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Tip #5: Do deadlifts right, or learn how

So, today’s tip goes along with a particular exercise – the DEADLIFT! we might have talked about this before but I want to get it ingrained in your mind – WATCH YOUR FORM, DO THE CORRECT TECHNIQUE! If you want to lift heavier weight, do it the right way, because on your journey to being Mr/Miss “Badass” you will find out REAL quick that lifting heavy don’t mean shit if you can’t do it properly and safely. I love lifting, & like the majority of you, I love lifting heavier weights because it just feels so good and gives us that ego boost – you know I am right! lol. In the same context, there is no point in lifting heavy if I can’t properly do it and end up with an injury that puts me on my ass for months at a time because I thought I’d be a cool kid and not listen to Shay’s advice and lift it however the fuck I want. Well guess what buddy?! GO ahead and lift it however the fuck you choose, but when and if you should hurt yourself, don’t come to this post talking loads of crap about how nobody told me so, or “I have been doing it this way for years” or any other excuse that comes out like gas and smells because I will not respond with a smile on my face. If the weight is to heavy for you to do it correctly, then suck up your pride and put your ego aside and lower it and work up to it gradually. 

 

If you are a personal trainer, you should know better and should be watching your client’s form and technique, no excuses because ask yourself, do you want your client injured? do you want the possibility of losing them as a client? NO, so pay attention! 

 

Listen to my podcast over aRomanian deadlift advice

Fitness WonderWoman

Shay-lon

Thank You (Poem At The End)

I wanted to catch everyone up on why I haven’t been active on social media and my blog page as well.. and what is to come. 

 

Firstly, I want to say thank you to all of those who have left comments on my latest YouTube video and my blog post while I have been MIA – it truly means the world to me and while I did not respond to any of them, I did read them.. and it made me thankful that many of you were being as supportive as possible. 

 

Secondly, I apologize that all my viewers and blog friends and followers have not seen much of me on social media (including this blog) and I know it sucks because I have so much to write about and all you flock to my page to get the next big thing I have written; waiting patiently and none of you were prepared for this disappeared kind of moment. This was not fair to any of you – but I had to do what I had to do if it meant staying away for a while.

 

Thirdly, for those of you who aren’t caught up or new to the blog, this week has been full of emotional lows for me, I have been in rage, sad, frustrated, confused, and withdrew from close friends and family – for reasons I will not discuss on this blog or social media.. some may have guessed it or might have a clue as to why but I will not confirm those reasons for privacy reasons. I have a personal life that isn’t always something I want to discuss online. It has been very difficult for me, I haven’t been to the gym all week, I left the gym on Tuesday in tears and anger that I could not manage to go back all this week, I haven’t been eating much at all and my selections have not been healthiest at all – in all honesty I have been falling apart all week. The first to go was my mind, I lost it.. I was in my room crying most days and throwing shit other days of the week and all in all I missed out on tons of sleep to the point of not being able to function correctly. It wasn’t until partly yesterday I was slowly showing people support on Instagram again and trying to manage my emotions all at once.. it has been difficult but in the end.. we all have shitty days, right?

 

Fourthly, I will try to create a video Monday for all of you to get some updates.. and if I don’t you will have to excuse me because I still look horrible and although emotionally I feel like I am healing somewhat, I am not 100 percent yet. Not even close to it. I will continue to blog (starting today) and have even made it a point to start some new projects during this week of emotional rollercoasters.

 

Fifthly, I have given thought on starting a second blog that has nothing to do with fitness at all. It is a totally different spectrum and I will be honest, not sure what will come of it if I decide to do it but I feel like it could be a good thing for others as well as myself. I will continue this fitness blog – no worries, this is my FIRST love and my career and life, so this won’t be going away. Along with a new blog page means I will probably be creating a new facebook page dedicated to it, but that is all something I will start at later dates, I am taking this a day at a time. So be patient with me. 

 

Lastly, I have decided to share a simple poem with all of you I created within minutes of writing this post, hopefully all of you will enjoy it. I will be working on myself day my day because I want to make the most of my life with someone I adore and love and I want to better myself in all aspects of life and I want to blossom into something that I know I am capable of! All of your emails, comments, and social media messages have been read and I am in so much ‘ahh’ at all how many of you were by my side during this time, I am blessed beyond belief to have an online family who stands by my corner but I also want to thank all my close friends and family for keeping me on the up and up even when I was falling into pieces in front of you, you are my heros and I love you!

 

Poem:

I fell on my face, nothing could pick me back up

for all this time, I thought I wasn’t enough

sometimes the mental pain drains me, and my body hates me,

the insanity that takes over me – has me going crazy

 

the smile on my face gave me such distaste, pretending to be happy 

in order to survive this phase. 

It takes strength to grow but I didn’t know it would take so much pain

for every flower around me withered at my downward spiral that I gained

 

You won’t understand my story,  it has no end but many beginnings

You won’t understand my words, they are spoken while drinking henny,,

You won’t understand me, because I am everything in between..

This poem is only a small dose of me.

 

-Shay-lon Moss (this poem was created by me and copyrighted)

 

Thanks for reading, 

 

Fitness WonderWoman

 
 

Narcissism (Mental Health Post)

Mental Health is just as important as physical health. 

 

It has been awhile since I was able to hit on more mental health topics, considering, I find that many people have mental health conditions that go undiscovered. I have mentioned in prior mental health post that is very important to take care of your mind just as much as it is to take care of your body and for some people it is considered more important but that is neither here or there. My point is in order to take care of yourself, you have to have some kind of balance in your life, one that is destructive toward you or others. 

 

This particular mental health condition is normally a word used closely to the word “selfish”. I am not sure how many people are aware of the mental condition narcissism or even understand it, but in this post, I am going to share some good information to take with you after reading this. I would highly recommend that many of you do your own research afterwards to gain a better understanding of it because I think the more aware we are about something, the less we turn a blind eye to it. Now without offending anyone with this health condition, this is not a post to slam you or make you feel like a piece of shit about who you are or what you do to others, but hopefully will be a wake up call and give you a reason to want to change for the better if possible – like any condition, I don’t expect things to happen overnight. For those of you who might know someone who is narcissistic, then hopefully you will be able to share your thoughts & experiences in the comment section – don’t be afraid to add your own two cents to this post, the more information , the better! 

For beginners what is a narcissist? 

  • A person who has an excessive interest in or admiration for themselves. 
  • It is a “personality disorder”

Based on (DSM)-5 The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders: These are things that would possibly classify one as narcissistic: (this was published in 2013)

  • exaggerated sense of self-importance
  • expectations of being recognized as superior being (without achievements that warrant it)
  • exaggerating achievements & talents
  • mind is preoccupied with fantasies such as success, power, brilliance, beauty or having the perfect spouse/partner
  • the belief that you are superior and can only be understood by those who are equally special
  • require constant admiration
  • sense of entitlement
  • expectations of having special favors done for them and unquestioned compliance with one’s expectations
  • Taking advantage of others in order to get what they want
  • Inability or unwillingness to recognize the needs and feelings of others
  • being envious of others and belief that others are envious of you
  • behaving in an arrogant manner

What causes one to have this personality disorder?

  • In all honesty, it is not specifically known, but there are studies saying possible genetics or psychobiology. Speculation says some may believe the mismatching of parent-child relationships. 

This personality disorder is said to be found in more males than females, and is usually spotted in early teens BUT even if a teen has some of these characteristics, it does not ALWAYS mean that they have this disorder (it could be typical of their age and doesn’t guarantee them to grow up with narcissism) – which in my opinion is why sometimes it goes unknown or not correctly spotted.  

Bad things that could come of being narcissistic:

  • Relationship difficulties
  • Problems at work and school – with coworkers
  • Depression
  • Possible drug or alcohol abuse
  • Possible suicidal thoughts or behaviors

Although some of these complications can be for more than one disorder NOT just narcissism. 

Diagnosing the disorder?

  • I am not a therapist, so I am not sure how each of them do this, but from what I have gathered there is usually an exam or some kind of evaluation that can help the therapist recognize this disorder BUT because so many people may have more than one disorder it does make it more difficult to diagnose at times. 

With all of this being said, I read a couple of blogs that discussed this disorder, one being: http://www.willieverbegoodenough.com/resources/what-is-narcissism/ (that also mentions the DSM- 5) it was a good read and short. Maybe it will be something you would be interested in reading, we pretty much shared the same kind of information but their blog has a little bit of a twist to it & she has some sources she shares in her blog post that you can look into for further guidance. Thank you for reading, feel free to share, comment, like and follow. 

 

Your Fitness Blogger,

Shay-lon xxoo

Motivation Monday Youtube Video. Oct 31st

“Don’t be Fragile”

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IH9efhxlZiI