365 Days of Self Discovery: Day 6

What do you need to make you feel safe?

Hard enough question because the only time I probably ever felt 100 percent safe was growing up living with my family & knowing they loved me.  I guess as kids, you almost always feel safe with your loved ones & don’t think of the dangers of the outside world because you assume your parents are “superheros” and defeat all the bad guys. LOL Although there is some of you who have family members who are the bad guys, and you knew at an early age of what it meant to not feel safe, to not know where you end up: dead, alive, beaten, hungry, etc. & I couldn’t imagine those fates — so I try to be grateful for having tough love as a kid but love nonetheless. These days, to feel safe means to live in bliss, because in fact the world is in chaos (and now at an older age, it’s brought to my attention more and more) now to feel safe, I need to know I can protect myself and trust myself to make good decisions (sound decisions) and hopefully be observant of my surroundings & cautious of the people I allow within my circle/ and how much information I am willing to give to social media as well (including my blog). Not to say nobody can feel safe these days, but with more technology and it evolving daily, with more people with bad intentions, and with giving our trust to others, being “safe” is hard. We shouldn’t live paranoid of bad things happening, but hell, I can’t exclude the chances of it happening, because I wasn’t guaranteed a tomorrow, were you?

I suppose I have a small list of things that I need if I want to live a relatively safe lifestyle but can’t say I haven’t taken risk — because what is a life to be lived, if you can’t live it doing something you love. 

  1. Financial stability —- mostly due to the fact knowing that I have someplace to live, something to eat each day, something to drive to work each day, something to shield me in case of bad weather; I am blessed to be able to afford a place to live, it might not be a mansion but it’s shelter & that’s better than what some people have. We take for granted we have a place to call home or at least “crash” at, but I don’t know if I’d survive the streets being homeless —& many people live that life each day without knowing where they will end up. 
  2. Family— I mean I have always been within miles of my family in the same town/city as they are (not all my family members) but my mom and brothers & one of my grandmas whom I am close to, so when the day comes where I plan to move to another city or possibly state, it will be hard because it will be without the safety net of family who love me and have been there for me since growing up. For some people, they may say their friends; but I have a hard time mentioning friends because I have had so many come and go throughout my life, that I can’t say any of them made me feel completely safe — that if I needed a place to stay they would be the one to do it. I know if something happened to me, my family would be the ones to come to the rescue. 
  3. My faith — i believe faith makes a whole hell of a difference, I feel as though my prayers are questions that get answered at some point, it gives me a sense of safety knowing there is a higher power who protects me as well — and allows me to feel as though when I die, I have a place that I can look forward to. I believe that if one has some form of faith (no matter what practice) it encourages safety, and feeling at peace.
  4. A clear conscious— WEIRD? yes I know, because I like knowing that when I lay my head down I don’t have to worry about the possibility of someone wanting me dead. I mean this in a sense that if I have wronged someone, I like to make sure I get the chance to apologize or reconcile or something that brings me a better conscious knowing I did something right in place of my wrong, in hopes that person doesn’t hold a vendetta over my head and want me dead. Not to say it couldn’t happen, because whose to say people will always forgive me, but I just pray it doesn’t escalate to this level of revenge. Ya know?
  5. A good environment — because it can make all the difference. If you live in the projects and have to worry about being on the wrong block with wrong colors, or if you live within a household with ongoing abuse, having a circle of friends who take part in activities that put your life/their lives at risk, living in a town where you feel uncomfortable because of the color of your skin (due to how people treat you), or having to worry about the sex offended who lives upstairs from you and your family, etc. The environment in which you live in & surround yourself with can make a difference in how safe one may feel. I don’t live in the Hamptons, but I don’t live on a street where people would fear their lives walking & thankfully my household is not full of abuse nor neglect & my neighbors haven’t given me a reason to suspect they are weirdos, but you never really know — I try to make sure I am on top of that stuff because my youngest brother comes to visit sometimes and I want to be aware of his safety as well. 

All-in-all my list might be short but it has clear meaning in what I need in order to feel safe, sure I could have mentioned a weapon of some sorts (which I do carry multiple; especially when traveling) and of course I’d say knowing we have a legal system so that if an emergency arises, I know they will respond, having a cellphone for emergencies & common sense because lord knows without that, I wouldn’t be making the best of choices most of the time. I just assume those are all things we probably could all be thankful for in regards to safety, so I wanted to give a better answer that meant something to me & my sense of safety. 

Thank you for reading & hopefully all of you will leave comments answering this same question, because honestly, maybe everyone has their own sense of what it means to feel safe. Share, like and follow!

Shay-lon

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Whole Foods VS Walmart

I figured this would be a fun little discussion between two grocery stores. The reason why I chose these two is because: 1) whole foods is known to be one of the better stores to have healthier options, 2.) most people know what a “Walmart” is and it is another grocery store that is popular among Americans. Both of these grocery stores have pros and cons and some of you might shop at one or the other or both depending on your needs and finances. 

 

My town does not have a Whole Foods store, but we do have a Walmart – two of them. I don’t particularly like shopping at Walmart because of it being constantly busy, sometimes the people piss me off (this is just honesty) and I live closer to a Kroger store but I will shop there for my feminine products and minor grocery depending on what it is. When I resided in Colorado Springs (I now reside in Ohio) I would go to Whole foods just for the burritos they made, so good! yum! but never actually shopped at a Whole Foods Store. The closest Whole foods to me would be about a hour or so away, so not too bad. 

 

Keep in mind this blog topic isn’t meant to make one out to be BETTER than the other – but to give perspective and start an engaging conversation as to why you shop at one or the other, or both! Maybe you don’t shop at either one of these stores, and if that is the case, share what store you prefer and why! This will be from my own perspective/data and also from research! 

 
 

Walmart:

Pros:

 
  1. They pride themselves with “Always low prices”
  2. Price matching
  3. newspaper ads, online presence
  4. During the holidays some of them offer layaway
  5. You can buy food, clothing, electronics, furniture, misc, household cleaning supplies, etc – in other words, ONE STOP SHOP! 
  6. they typically have restaurants inside them, so if you get hungry
  7. Their locations are vast
  8. huge employer
  9. most have a vision place to get exams, eyeglasses, contacts
  10. most offer a tire/lube place to have your vehicles tires replaced or oil change
  11. instore pick up or ship to home option
  12. Some might add the entertainment value (all sorts of society shop at Walmart) for a while there was a site or YouTube channel called the “people of Walmart”
  13. offers a credit card
  14. Typically attracts other businesses when a new Walmart comes to town
  15. Self check out option
  16. They accept EBT, debit/credit, checks, cash, Walmart gift cards, etc as a form of payment
  17. Typically open 24 hours
  18. Great Value brands for cheaper prices
  19. Gives towards charity
  20. They bake cakes for special occasions

Cons:

  1. Typically has one or two registers open – so either have to use the self check out or wait in long lines 
  2. Whenever I have gone to a Walmart and needed help finding a particular product, 95 percent of the time the employee didn’t even know what it was, didn’t know where it was located within the store
  3. I have found where they mark something down on a tag and it is the same price as the regular price
  4. I am not a huge fan of their produce area 
  5. I have been told the pay rate sucks as an employee there (depending on where you live)
  6. Their pricing of clothing isn’t that much cheaper than shopping someplace else with better quality (in my opinion where I reside)
  7. The cashiers always seem in a sad or bad mood whenever I’ve been there. lol I have had some rude ones too! 
  8. I don’t like their quality of beef or chicken 
  9. Sometimes the great value price is higher than the name brand
  10. People drive like maniacs through their parking lot — this is just from my own experience 
  11. It’s a huge store, many times you have to go from one end to the other to get everything you need – so if you are ever in a rush for time, this is probably not your go to

Now this whole pro and con list is again from my experience and different research I’ve done, be sure to add your own opinions to either list! 

 

Whole Foods

Pros:

  1. Good for college students who are need of a job (research says many college students work here to earn extra income)
  2. Supposedly great medical insurance 
  3. Quality products 
  4. Most if not all of them offer a salad bar, food kitchen area to have food made out for you to go or stay and eat
  5. surrounded by people who like eating healthier food options
  6. Educates people on healthy eating
  7. Variety of food products
  8. All meat sources at Whole foods is said to be raised without hormones or antibiotics 
  9. Gluten free food selection
  10. Typically more local foods found here
  11. They care about the environment
  12. By 2018 they are supposedly going to commit to GMO labeling on all their products
  13. Quality standards for both farm and wild caught seafood
  14. offers coupons
  15. online recipes on their site
  16. able to shop online
  17. offer flyers
 

Cons:

  1. Not a one stop shop
  2. tends to be more expensive
  3. Located in bigger cities vs smaller communities (typically)
  4. spending more and bringing home less groceries (a reviewer said)
  5. Some people prefer trader Joes over whole foods.
  6. Bigger stores – again can make it harder to navigate
  7. Have been reported they sometimes make it hard to tell the prices of things on their shelves

Again, Whole foods list of pros and cons came from my own experience and other reviews I had seen online. Feel free to add to either list your opinions! 

 

I hope all of you enjoyed this fun topic between the two stores! the MOST IMPORTANT PART OF CHOOSING A GROCERY STORE is choosing one that fits your needs and budget! 🙂

 

Fitness WonderWoman,

Shay-lon 

 
 

Hotels with Gyms

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Hello bloggers!

Have any of you ever booked a hotel based on it having a fitness facility (among other amenities) and because you booked a luxury or upscale or semi upscale hotel, you assumed all their amenities would also be that way, but when you arrive and after checking out the place, you are distraught by the size and lack of equipment the hotel gym provided. I know I have many of times, and it bugs me to think that my workout can be compromised because of the lack of equipment.  In the recent years that I have booked hotels, I don’t normally book the most expensive hotel and I don’t book the lowest priced hotels, but stay somewhere in the middle if possible and base my search on location, amenities and reviews that I read online (not to mention the pictures) and obviously the price of the room each night.  I tend to always like my hotels to come stocked with a gym, because well, I like being able to still workout whenever I am out of town unless provided I am spending more time with someone and less time on my own but it seems like the more hotels that I have gone to, the smaller the gym and more inadequate it is.  Almost makes me laugh when I see a gym with one treadmill, one elliptical machine and one dumbbell with a yoga mat (yes this has happened to me before).  Most people might find this to not be of a bother because the pool, the hot tub, the space of the room, location, and space inside in the room seem to the most important aspects when others look for hotels, but for me, I want a good quality gym and if not in the hotel, I am always hoping there is one nearby that I have a membership for or I am doomed to use what I have. 

I am going to share with you ways to cope with a gym that is lacking when you are staying in a hotel

  1. Check out the location of the hotel, is there a gym near you?
  2. is the hotel located on a safe road where running is a option (outside)
  3. do you have any family or friends in the area that have a gym membership or can provide you with information on nearby parks, etc
  4. does the hotel have a gym?
  5. bring your own equipment (small things) no need to pack the whole gym with you, but bring small dumbbells, kettlebells, TRX, etc with you if you wish to use them
  6. ask the hotel rep what their gym is like
  7. make do with what the hotel gym has, if it has cardio machines, use them.  If it has one dumbbell and a mat, be creative.
  8. Look at reviews to get an idea if anyone mentions the gym 
  9. do some online researching to see if any of the hotels in the surrounding area are said to have good quality gym facilities
  10. how long is your stay, is it going to be a HUGE deal if the gym sucks?
  11. bring dvds if the room has a dvd player and do workouts via the TV
  12. is there a swimming pool, if so, use that to get a good workout in. Swimming is a total body exercise
  13. Go for a walk to nearby shops and eateries, to get out and move
  14. rent a bike for a day if possible and ride around the area
  15. you can do crunches, push ups, planks, mountain climbers, supermans, side bends, etc all in your room. NOT ALL EXERCISES REQUIRE A GYM!!
Hopefully this list of ideas will help those of you who have had this same issue.  Sometimes you have to prepare for things to not always be perfect, so when you book a hotel, try to think outside of the box, especially when you are expecting a lavish stay and want the works.  The gym facility doesn’t have to be top of the line in order to be of use to you.  Not all exercises require a gym, sometimes you have to be creative and to be honest with you, as long as it makes sense, creativity can be a great source of exercise. Thank you for reading.
Feel free to share, comment and like this blog post. Also, if anyone has anything they would like to add to this list, please feel free to do so!
Your fitness blogger,
Shay-lon xoxo