Happy Monday Bloggers! 😀
Welcome back bloggers to another mental health Thursday post! I hope all of you have been enjoying my mental health Thursday post, raising awareness on mental health and making it less of an omen & giving understanding. I am not sure if any of you have heard of PTSD, but if you have, you probably have commonly heard war veterans speak on it — but it isn’t exclusively happening to just war veterans but also the general population as well. I know someone personally who has PTSD, hell, I probably know more than a couple of people and each of them handle it differently and have different reasons as to why they have it. I won’t discuss their stories because that is private information but if anyone wants to leave in the comments or email me their own experience, that is fine, otherwise I don’t expect people to be as open about their experiences because it becomes really personal.
Now keep in mind, all my information about PTSD does NOT mean that it is the same for everyone, everyone is an individual case so treat my answers as such. If you know someone who has PTSD, I am either hoping this will help give you insight, possible understanding and perhaps help you have a better handle on things because I dated someone who allegedly had PTSD (wasn’t brought to my attention until the break up) and the way they explained it, they couldn’t but I could tell something wasn’t right at the time with this person and while they never did get a diagnosis; they figured they did enough research to narrow it down to PTSD — I wish I could have known sooner because maybe it wouldn’t have been too late to look into handling a relationship with someone with possible PTSD but with that being said, many spouses who live with someone with this condition, it can sometimes be stressful and very exhausting if you don’t understand or if you are feeling abandoned, it is never easy to put your foot into someone else’s shoes if you have never experienced what they have experienced and while we sympathize with them, it doesn’t mean we have a hold on the issue at hand – because sometimes we don’t, sometimes we find ourselves thinking we ‘got it’ just to find out we we’re way wrong, and that’s okay because we are only human.
What is PTSD?
- Failure to recover after experiencing or witnessing a terrifying event
Not everyone with PTSD has gone through a painful event – losing a loved one can also cause this to happen.
- Flashbacks/reliving the event (nightmares, etc)
- scary thoughts
- Avoiding places, or situations that remind you of the event
- Might have more negative beliefs or feelings
- feelings of hopelessness, shame or dispair
- possible drinking or drug issues
- employment issues may occur
- relationship issues may occur
- many of the symptoms depending on the severity could lead to suicide..
Children with PTSD
- Might experience bed wetting habits
- Forgetting how to or being unable to talk
- Acting out the event during playtime
- Could be unusually clingy to a parent or other adult
- Trouble sleeping
- Act out the event through drawings
- Could become more irritable or aggressive
- Might have problems with friends, or school work
- might try to avoid going to school
- depression as they get older
- withdrawal or possible reckless behavior as they get older
PTSD can happen at any age!
- war veterans
- sexual abuse
- physical abuse
- loss of a loved one
- witnessing a dangerous event happen to a loved one
- childhood trauma
- having a history of mental illness
- having little to no social support after the event
- Stress after the event can make PTSD more likely
With this being said, PTSD can occur soon after the event or take months to years before it triggers & it can come and go. Again, everyone is different.
- Psychotherapy for PTSD
The ONE thing is for sure, we always want to push people to ask for help, but sometimes that person doesn’t always realize they have an actual issue and some people live in denial. You can offer help, but doesn’t mean they will take it. I once told somebody: “getting help seems easy to do coming from people from the outside looking in, but for me, it is letting go of my pride, being vulnerable and accepting it and that’s just not easy to do” so take that how you will, but in knowing my own situation, my anxiety and how it hinders me sometimes – that’s how I feel about things, hints why I have never sought out help BUT don’t do as I do, do what works best for you, and your circumstances because help is important in order to better handle things sometimes. I will mention, my anxiety is A LOT better than where it used to be but it probably would have saved me a whole hell of lot more to seek help back when. It’s never too late to ask for help or seek a professional, so don’t give up on yourself.
P.S I will always be honest with my readers about how I handled my own mental health issues and break downs, etc and I will be the FIRST person to say, I don’t seek professional help for things I go through, because I just deal with it & sometimes I pay a hell of a lot of consequences and sometimes I come out okay, but regardless, my pride and stubbornness gets the best of me, and that’s why I am a bad example , lol
Hope all of you have enjoyed this post, be sure to like, comment,share and follow!
for those of you who didn’t know, I was asked to do a guest blog for a friend about college and fitness – preparing high school seniors for college and freshmen college students for what is to come. I share some nifty tips and advice and give you some real world examples of what temptations will lie in the way and share some personal experiences as well. I hope that not only will you support this blog post and share it among your peers, but that you will take the time to check out her blog as a whole because it is also speaks on time management skills. Thank you for your support! leave feedback in the comments!
Fitness Wonder Woman
I am back at it again and writing some post for this week. Sorry, I have been away from the blog since last Thursday or so, I have received all of your messages, responses and comments and will make sure to respond to all of you! I appreciate all of your patience and understanding as I was enjoying my Memorial Day weekend & I hope many of you had a wonderful weekend as well. I have been missing on YouTube as well, so if you have been one of those who left me comments on my channel, know I plan on getting on there today and will respond back – life gets pretty busy sometimes. If any of you have an Instagram and want to see some progress pictures of myself, my weekend shenanagins, and fun random life events/fitness videos.. please feel free to follow me! I would love to connect with all you and I usually post on there more regularly because it is quicker.
In the meantime, I have some awards to catch up on and hopefully all of you will continue to enjoy them, and I plan on doing 2 fitness/health post as well today – so I will be hella busy 🙂 woot!
This award was given to me by my blogger friend PoojaG & if any of you know her, you know that her blog is always full of quotes, recently posted some awards of her own and then she has also taken the time to share some advice on becoming a good blogger. I love her blog page and enjoy her personality – definitely someone you should check out when you have the chance! Thank you PoojaG for nominating me for this tag.
Question 1: How tall are you?
I am 5’8.
Question 2: Do you have a hidden talent?
I can press down on my nose and it flattens.. weird, yes.
Question 3: What’s your biggest blog-related pet peeve?
Probably, the whole leaving spam messages on my comment section, I know shit happens but it can be annoying and yes we have a spam box (which is helpful)
Question 4: What’s your biggest non-blog related pet peeve?
People who chew gum really loud and obnoxious , lol
Question 5: What’s your favourite song?
Hm, at the moment? it changes so easily, but I would say probably “Lust for life” by lana del rey and the weeknd 🙂 love both of these artist.
Question 6: What is your favourite social media website?
Hm, probably Instagram if I had to choose 🙂
Question 7: What is your favourite way to spend free time when you’re alone?
Either reading a book, or playing video games/ sometimes watching a movie. Just depends on the mood.
Question 8: What is your favourite junk food?
Haha mostly salty snacks! lol
Question 9: Do you have a pet/pets? If so, what kind and what are their names?
My family does, but I do not.
Question 10: What is your number one favourite non-fiction and fiction book?
Oh goodness, I don’t have a favorite of either at the moment.
Question 11: What is your favourite beauty product/tool?
My chapstick 🙂
Question 12: When were you last embarrassed? What happened?
My mom decided to embarrass me in front of someone I am dating the other day! lol
Question 13: If you could only drink one beverage (besides water) for the rest of your life, what would it be?
Well depends are we talking alcohol wise or not? lol
Question 14: What is your favourite movie?
Besides the Lion King 🙂 I would say “The Great Gasby” with Leonardo 🙂
Question 15: What was your favourite lesson in school and why?
Probably gym class for a long time, then I would say possibly life span psychology and then I would say I have always been good at English/composition classes, but yeah. Not sure.. if I had one that was my #1 favorite! Probably anatomy … that was a good one and I love learning health things.. obviously 🙂 so yes.. that and exercise science classes (all of them)
Question 16: If you could live anywhere in the world where would you live?
Someplace warm 🙂
Question 17: PC or Mac?
PC 🙂 nothing against Mac, I have always owned a PC.
Question 18: Last romantic gesture from a crush, date boy/girlfriend, spouse?
My partner made me dinner the other night 🙂
Question 19: Favourite celebrity?
I don’t think I have one?
Question 20: What blogger do you secretly want to be friends with?
It’s not a secret if I share it with you, lol
Question 21: Who is your biggest inspiration?
The people who have done something positive in the world (big or small)
Question 22: What is your favourite blog to read?
I don’t have a favorite to read, I normally read whatever interest me.
Question 23: What is your favourite high street shop?
What does this mean?
Question 24: Are you in education or do you work?
Question 25: What is one thing you are proud of?
The person I have become 🙂 and my continued growth!
My Nominees Are:
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Risk = Opportunity, but not all Opportunities are good.
In a vlog video today I talked about taking risk and my take on risk and how they can be effective and provide opportunities but at the same time can be what kills us (physically or mentally). My video was aimed for fitness/health people but this blog will speak to the general population and the same rules will apply but maybe different circumstances. Pay close attention for my post for it may be somewhat beneficial for some of you.
I believe that risk comes in three channels, these channels are: death, depleting of oneself and prosperity/growth. From these channels, you are obviously aware that the last one would be the goal or the most beneficial for us and this is very true. I will break down the differences and discuss each one briefly but somewhat like I did in my video, i will then leave you in thought.
The first channel: Death.
- This particular channel means literally dying or mentally decaying yourself to the point of exhaustion.
- An example of death: eating disorders, addictions, suicide, depression.. and the list continues.
- Most of us know someone or perhaps ourselves can relate to this channel of risk.
- This particular channel of risk is dangerous, and normally the ultimate downfall unless we seek help in time.
The second channel: Depleting self.
- This channel poses a threat because it can lead us to the channel of death if we are not careful.
- An example of depleting self: Trying to be something or someone we are not in order to fit in, allowing others to take advantage of us, having been bullied, traumatic experiences, among many other things
- Again we have either dealt with this channel ourselves or know someone who is/has.
- This particular channel is giving us a choice in how we respond to this particular risk- in most cases people go into death , but others will grow and learn from it.
The third channel: prosperity and growth.
- This channel is about taking a risk that has made you successful, motivational, inspiring, and possibly wealthy in many more ways than just money.
- This channel takes sacrifices , but they are sacrifices you can handle and or deal with and not regret it down the line if you made the right choice.
- This channel only turns into a bad risk if you choose to react to it in a greedy nature or make yourself seem more inferior to others.
Now that I have covered these three channels of risk, you are probably asking yourself, why would one want to choose death and/or depleting self.. how does one not know that is a bad risk? Well, it isn’t necessarily that one is choosing to be depressed or choosing to be bullied, risk create opportunities and not all opportunities are good ones, so when one chooses to risk losing weight by choosing to eat less and less.. they aren’t necessarily wanting to die they want the opportunity that comes from it – which is being skinny. Now this is may be all very confusing and you can choose to make sense of it however you want, no right or wrong way. I just found myself rambling and decided to share some insight with you. The bottom line is every risk we take effects us either negatively or in a positive manner, we don’t always know until we have taken the risk. Just think about what risk you are willing to take but don’t stop taking them in order to avoid opportunities.
If you are someone who wants to better understand my thoughts, please feel free to watch my YouTube video from today speaking on risk and hopefully it makes some sense. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2fZPKcM7iw4. Thanks for reading, feel free to leave comments, share and or like.
Your Fitness Blogger,
In Case The World Forgot…..
I do still make post that don’t have my workouts attached. Let’s be honest, the majority of people who aren’t into fitness, think it is stupid, waste of time, don’t understand it, don’t give a shit or were misinformed, they tend to to think fitness is about “showing off muscles”, over-confident assholes, girls who have fake tits on the cover of sports illustrated, men who are meatheads and talk about lifting but don’t have common sense and feel as though we go around bragging about our bodies and how much we can lift in order to make ourselves feel better. When I mention anything about working out, or fitness to someone who doesn’t participate in those activities, I get the complaint, the look of “wow.. yeah, I don’t workout.. not my thing”, the comment “eh.. I would much rather smash my face with food” and while I don’t mind those particular people and respect their feelings toward fitness, I want them to know, being hip to being a healthier person doesn’t have to mean all those stereotypes I get boxed in.
Sure, we have the occasional assholes who think they are better than everyone else at the gym, the occasional “bitch” who seems to think because she is in shape, she can talk shit about the girl on a journey and the pretend trainers who think they know everything about fitness because they watch YouTube videos and their favorite celebrity icon is Arnold. WOW! — yeah.. those people might suck, but guess what? we also have people like myself who don’t have to pretend to know shit, because if I know it, I say it and if I don’t I find out, I don’t think I am better than anyone at the gym because GUESS WHAT? I’m not. I don’t talk shit about the girl/guy on their fitness journey because I used to be on mine and probably had the same people talking shit about me. It seems like we are a rare bunch, but really we aren’t; there is more of us out there and many of us can’t stand when people think highly of who we are because we are human just like you, we didn’t come out the womb with a 6 pack and a nice ass – we started from the beginning too. Sure, I don’t know what it is like to be you, and you don’t know what it is like to be me, all you see is it what I look like and assume that I have no bad days because I carry a confidence about me that I don’t allow to fall victim to people’s negative vibes – this could be you, but instead you are giving up, you are doing exactly what people do to you, to me by assuming that my story is any less important than yours and giving me shit about being fit to excuse your choices and wrong turns in life.
So to help you out and get you thinking outside of the box – if you are new to fitness:
- Give everyone a chance to tell you how they can relate to your journey instead of pretending that you are the only one with a soap box- who knows, you might just be shocked to hear some of our journeys.
- Don’t judge me for choosing to be healthy and choosing to work my ass off for the body I have (you have no idea how long it has taken me and I will be damn if you choose to make me feel like shit about it) INSTEAD.. how about you get to know me as a person instead of judging me for what I look like and the amount of time I spend inside a gym.
- Get rid of the negative people holding you back from feeling good about yourself, YOU ARE ALLOWED TO BE CONFIDENT, YOU ARE ALLOWED TO FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF.
- Don’t stay complacent, always strive for more. There is always room for progress mentally and physically (just cause you met your goal of losing 5 pounds doesn’t mean you stop doing what you are doing) – it means aim for new goals (appropriate goals, realistic goals)
- Develop a learning mindset instead of a know it all mindset. Don’t get mad at helpful criticisms, people normally want to help, not make you feel dumb.
- stop whining. Seriously, we get it.. you were a child who got made fun of, so have many people, you were in shape and drank too much and gained weight, we got it. No need to throw it in our faces to make us feel bad, seriously.. we respect what you went through but I don’t care about your past, let’s focus on what you are going to do about it now. Tell me your story but don’t throw it in my face when shit starts to get hard and you want to give up, because guess what? many people have been through some shit, your’s is not the worse case scenario. It is okay to go through dark times, and cry, and be mad.. but don’t make me feel like the monster who did it to you.. because I am only here to be supportive and help. For ex. “You have no idea what I have been through.. blah blah blah..” chances are I have been through some shit too, just different story.
- Don’t go into fitness comparing your results to other people’s results= this will end in disaster and make you even more anxiety ridden. This isn’t about competing against another person, this is about making yourself happy with yourself.
- To get your body right, have to have your mind right – balance is important. You might be strong physically but are you strong mentally.. this makes a difference, trust me. You might be lifting 500 lb squats but if you don’t have a good mindset , you won’t lift it.. because you don’t believe in yourself nor your capabilities and you have allowed your mind to keep your body from achieving.
- Don’t worry what others think of you, because chances are, they aren’t paying you any attention in the first place – if they are, they aren’t doing what they need to be doing (which is focusing on their own journey)
- Don’t talk to us (people in the fitness industry) like we are gods/goddesses, we aren’t. We enjoy compliments, but don’t forget we are human too, we have flaws, we have bad days and we struggle just like you do and when I am PMSing, I get bloated too, our abs don’t keep us from dying ya know.. we are HUMAN 🙂
- Don’t worry about lifting the heaviest weights and running the furthest distance – do you. Whatever you can do, do it and do it well.
If you want respect from us, respect us. Not all of us are the same, and I sure the hell don’t want to be a stereotype, I am Shay-lon and if you want to stereotype me to make yourself feel good, then do it, but don’t be shocked when you find out I don’t meet your expectations. Fitness isn’t about being the strongest, fastest, most athletic person in the world, fitness is about finding that burning desire to create something amazing out of yourself and conquering the very thing that kept you from starting in the first place. If you don’t know what fitness is about, the find out.. from someone who does.
Thank you for reading,
Your Fitness Blogger,
Hey everybody, I know it isn’t quite 2017 yet or even New Years, but I wanted to get a head start in case I am having too much tomorrow celebrating and don’t have time to blog about it and wake up with a hangover on Sunday morning before work – not saying this will happen. I would never admit to this kind of fun! lol Don’t want to be a bad role model for all you good little noodles out there (but this could possibly happen) just a word of caution.
I want to keep this particular post short and sweet. Two questions I have for you to answer:
- What are you doing for New Year’s Eve & New Year’s Day?
- Do you have a New Year’s resolution? (Feel free to let me know what it is in the comment section)
Now, these two questions are easy to answer, but I want you to think long and hard about the 2nd question, because if you do have a New Year’s resolution, think about if you made it for a prior year and didn’t fullfil it, why didn’t you fullfil it? Think about why this is something you want to happen or do, think about whether or not it would be a long term goal or short term, think about the plan (how will you achieve this goal, what sacrifices will you need to make, and is it realistic). Most importantly, just think about how you will respond if you don’t conquer the goal you set (but don’t linger on it)
Why I don’t make New Year’s Resolutions.
- I am constantly making goals for myself throughout the year (New Year’s isn’t significant to me)
- Half the time I forget about them within the next 3 months.
- Most of the goals I set, I don’t set them for a day and time, I just start them now, why wait a new year to do something
- It becomes much more of a fad to people – set one and say you have one and forget about it half way through the year and then start over again next year… just a cycle that I don’t want to get caught up in
- A New Year doesn’t always translate to a “new me”, yes I am growing and learning and continuously working toward bettering myself but it doesn’t take a New Year for this transformation to happen. Some things take longer than others, but just because it is 2017 doesn’t mean “OH NOW I CAN BE THIS PERSON” lol the old 2016 me is in the trash.. no.. I don’t look at it in this way.
- by this time next year, everyone will be on this kick “omg, I am so over 2017, bring on 2018” lmao – It never ceases to amaze
- I just have learned that if I want something, I don’t need to wait for it to happen, I need to make it happen – I don’t need to wait another year to make something happen, If I want it, I go for it no matter what year we are in.
Some people may call me boring or a “debbie downer”, but I haven’t made a New Year’s Resolution in like year or two and honestly, sometimes I come up with mental thoughts of one, but then I am like.let me just write down goals and make shit happen. It works for me. The only “New Year’s Resolution” I have , if this even counts.. is to make my blog even better, to take it up a notch and really hit the ground running – I have so much in store for you guys. 2016 has taught me more about blogging and writing and making sure I appeal to my audience and I want to continue honoring that by giving you ALL I GOT. I hope that all of you have enjoyed my writing as much as I have enjoyed sharing with all of you during the 2015-2016 year, if you thought you loved it, 2017, you will LOVE it!!! (hopefully, no promises).
Thank you everyone for all the amazing reads, the support, the positive feedback, the debates, the continued learning experience and the personalities you all have that have made me feel at home and at ease. I look forward to seeing many, if not all of you in 2017. I am still accepting ideas as far as to what you would like to see on my blog (topics, theme ideas, videos, how often you want me to write, etc) I am also accepting ideas for my YouTube channel (topics, videos, editing, etc) whatever you have in mind, feel free to share with me and I will be sure to write it down and think over it when I am making final decisions. I hope to have everything announced by the end of first week of January if possible, if not, the next week after that – depending on the schedule and how close I am in coming to a decision. Some things may remain the same, and some may change so be aware of that as well.
Hope all of you have a wonderful New Year’s Eve & New Year’s. Be Safe and have fun!
Your Fitness blogger,