365 Days of Self Discovery: Your Relationships

6.20.19

Day 31

Who has your back?

  • My family, close friends and God. 
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365 Days of Self Discovery: Your Relationships

6.19.19

Day 30

Who do you love unconditionally?

  • My family members (mom, siblings, grandparents, etc)
  • God, my faith and father
  • close friends
  • the majority of people who have entered my life at some point and impacted it in a positive way or helped to guide me towards success 

365 Days of Self Discovery: Feelings & emotions

2.24.19

Day 56

What are the little things that make you happy?

  • good music
  • sunshine/warm weather
  • organized and clean bedroom / space
  • accomplishing a goal
  • helping others
  • phone calls from my youngest brother 
  • being alive
  • healthy overall
  • something positive, sweet that someone has said to me
  • food
  • friendships
  • dogs
  • being able to spend the day relaxing, laying in bed
  • working in my profession
  • my faith
  • observing elderly couples holding hands — the cutest
  • being outside among nature
  • kind gestures
What are some of the little things that make you happiest?

365 Days of Self Discovery: Day 118

12.29.18

  • Food, water, love, social interaction, faith & good health (didn’t put a picture for that)

What can’t you live without? — 

365 Days of Self Discovery: Day 6

What do you need to make you feel safe?

Hard enough question because the only time I probably ever felt 100 percent safe was growing up living with my family & knowing they loved me.  I guess as kids, you almost always feel safe with your loved ones & don’t think of the dangers of the outside world because you assume your parents are “superheros” and defeat all the bad guys. LOL Although there is some of you who have family members who are the bad guys, and you knew at an early age of what it meant to not feel safe, to not know where you end up: dead, alive, beaten, hungry, etc. & I couldn’t imagine those fates — so I try to be grateful for having tough love as a kid but love nonetheless. These days, to feel safe means to live in bliss, because in fact the world is in chaos (and now at an older age, it’s brought to my attention more and more) now to feel safe, I need to know I can protect myself and trust myself to make good decisions (sound decisions) and hopefully be observant of my surroundings & cautious of the people I allow within my circle/ and how much information I am willing to give to social media as well (including my blog). Not to say nobody can feel safe these days, but with more technology and it evolving daily, with more people with bad intentions, and with giving our trust to others, being “safe” is hard. We shouldn’t live paranoid of bad things happening, but hell, I can’t exclude the chances of it happening, because I wasn’t guaranteed a tomorrow, were you?

I suppose I have a small list of things that I need if I want to live a relatively safe lifestyle but can’t say I haven’t taken risk — because what is a life to be lived, if you can’t live it doing something you love. 

  1. Financial stability —- mostly due to the fact knowing that I have someplace to live, something to eat each day, something to drive to work each day, something to shield me in case of bad weather; I am blessed to be able to afford a place to live, it might not be a mansion but it’s shelter & that’s better than what some people have. We take for granted we have a place to call home or at least “crash” at, but I don’t know if I’d survive the streets being homeless —& many people live that life each day without knowing where they will end up. 
  2. Family— I mean I have always been within miles of my family in the same town/city as they are (not all my family members) but my mom and brothers & one of my grandmas whom I am close to, so when the day comes where I plan to move to another city or possibly state, it will be hard because it will be without the safety net of family who love me and have been there for me since growing up. For some people, they may say their friends; but I have a hard time mentioning friends because I have had so many come and go throughout my life, that I can’t say any of them made me feel completely safe — that if I needed a place to stay they would be the one to do it. I know if something happened to me, my family would be the ones to come to the rescue. 
  3. My faith — i believe faith makes a whole hell of a difference, I feel as though my prayers are questions that get answered at some point, it gives me a sense of safety knowing there is a higher power who protects me as well — and allows me to feel as though when I die, I have a place that I can look forward to. I believe that if one has some form of faith (no matter what practice) it encourages safety, and feeling at peace.
  4. A clear conscious— WEIRD? yes I know, because I like knowing that when I lay my head down I don’t have to worry about the possibility of someone wanting me dead. I mean this in a sense that if I have wronged someone, I like to make sure I get the chance to apologize or reconcile or something that brings me a better conscious knowing I did something right in place of my wrong, in hopes that person doesn’t hold a vendetta over my head and want me dead. Not to say it couldn’t happen, because whose to say people will always forgive me, but I just pray it doesn’t escalate to this level of revenge. Ya know?
  5. A good environment — because it can make all the difference. If you live in the projects and have to worry about being on the wrong block with wrong colors, or if you live within a household with ongoing abuse, having a circle of friends who take part in activities that put your life/their lives at risk, living in a town where you feel uncomfortable because of the color of your skin (due to how people treat you), or having to worry about the sex offended who lives upstairs from you and your family, etc. The environment in which you live in & surround yourself with can make a difference in how safe one may feel. I don’t live in the Hamptons, but I don’t live on a street where people would fear their lives walking & thankfully my household is not full of abuse nor neglect & my neighbors haven’t given me a reason to suspect they are weirdos, but you never really know — I try to make sure I am on top of that stuff because my youngest brother comes to visit sometimes and I want to be aware of his safety as well. 

All-in-all my list might be short but it has clear meaning in what I need in order to feel safe, sure I could have mentioned a weapon of some sorts (which I do carry multiple; especially when traveling) and of course I’d say knowing we have a legal system so that if an emergency arises, I know they will respond, having a cellphone for emergencies & common sense because lord knows without that, I wouldn’t be making the best of choices most of the time. I just assume those are all things we probably could all be thankful for in regards to safety, so I wanted to give a better answer that meant something to me & my sense of safety. 

Thank you for reading & hopefully all of you will leave comments answering this same question, because honestly, maybe everyone has their own sense of what it means to feel safe. Share, like and follow!

Shay-lon

Been Gone for awhile

If any of you follow me on social media, you are probably aware that I had a really downward spire rough week & avoided contact with social media, friends, family, etc. I won’t get into specifics, but I have been gone for quite a while (due to circumstances) happening in my life that came unplanned and unwanted — Today is my first day back on the blog & social media in “full swing” again. The past week or so hasn’t been easy and honestly, it is only because of prayer and having the courage to get back up again when I felt dark that I am even able to write about it. Naturally, sometimes circumstances give you a chance to look at yourself with more clarity and find ways to focus on self healing, self discovery and possibly rely on some form of spiritual sense. Well as cliche as it might sound, that’s exactly what this situation left me to do besides laying in bed all day with no motivation and no drive to talk or be apart of life’s endeavors — I have decided to take on some books that hopefully will be a positive force within my life and future & I have started meditation once more, hopefully sticking with it this time, I am going to take some steps to help myself journal my self discovery and really dive into myself & try to make myself happy with what I plan on doing. It will be some steps and quite the voyage, but I feel it will be worth it. 

I pretty much will be going back to my normal routine but with some added bonuses to my daily lifestyle & my main focus will be building myself emotionally, physically, spiritually and mentally while building my career as a Personal Trainer. I know I have been back and forth with a schedule that works for my readers so that I stay more consistent with blogging & I plan on doing that as well (coming up with a schedule) and now that my mind is less overwhelmed, I will surely do this and let people know what will be happening with the blog(s). I have many topics but I have been working on a personal website for my business, and I plan on blogging there as well, so I want to leave many topics for that particular website when it gets finished up (& yes some topics will be from this blog as well/perhaps with a new frame of mind) I need to find a way to keep myself accountable with the self discovery and meditation — so I may decide to take part in a challenge for a year or use the blog to keep me on the right path (we shall see). I will be using a journal to document my daily thoughts, emotions, the agenda and events — good and bad to keep me aware of myself. Hopefully in the end, this is something that will help to heal and build me with a new form of appreciation for myself. 

I currently downloaded a meditation app that I have been doing for the past 4 days & it has been wonderful; if anyone wants information on it, feel free to ask, maybe we can connect. Outside of that, I will be back on social media tomorrow to reply and show support — I appreciate all of you whom have been nothing but a great positive force within my blog career and life. Much appreciated and looking forward to speaking soon!

P.S I don’t have a consistent plan/routine yet for my self healing or self discovery yet, so if you have nay books, any journals or articles (whatever resource) that you would recommend, feel free to leave it in the comments, as it would bring me great joy to further my research and find a way that works best for me through your help.

Shay-lon