Who or what keeps you calm?
- In a perfect world, it would have been meditation but since I haven’t done that in awhile — oops! It would have to be my self control, knowing how to shut off and focus on breathing and allowing myself to relax — not always easy, but it helps when I have music as well and I can tune out certain thoughts or just listen to a song and really get involved with the lyrics.
What keeps all of you calm, or who?
How do you deal with negative comments?
- To be honest, I don’t deal with them very well at all. Even when I am trying to “ignore” it, they still bother me. Mostly bothers me because normally I don’t do anything that would render someone to be nasty towards me, and while I am not perfect by any means, I don’t go out of my way to give someone a reason to be rude/mean/malicious towards me — especially since I try to be a positive, optimistic person for the most part. I have always been one to take things people say about me to heart and because I don’t enjoy confrontation, it is harder because I am having to ignore it when it still plays in my head. If I would learn to confront the issue more, I think it would not bother me as much. I had a blogger once tell me, “what other people think about you or say about you is none of your business” (something along those lines) and after reading this phrase, it definitely makes sense and helps somewhat to see the other side of things and really allows me to push forward in trying to not let it get to me. I dislike strongly negative comments towards me, because I know what it is like to be bullied and it sucks and it gets old and sometimes it just seems to weigh people down, so I take harshly to negative comments when the person has no reason to be that way towards another person. I am firm believer that everyone has a right to their own opinion, but like butts, everyone has one & sometimes it is best to keep certain comments to yourself.
How do you handle negative comments? Have you found a way that works best for you, or do you struggle with this as well?
Do you hide your emotions, if so, why?
- I used to hide my emotions and did a swell job of it most of the time. Now, not so much, just depends on the circumstances and the reasoning. I know they say hiding your emotions isn’t a good coping method & in the end it just puts more of a burden on us. I normally hide my emotions when I don’t want people/someone to ask me questions about how I am feeling, or when I am afraid of how someone might respond to me showing emotions, and also when I am trying to be someone else’s “rock” and make sure they are okay & for the sake of them, I want to be strong for the both of us.
Are you the type to hide your emotions?
What was the last thing to surprise you?
- When I looked outside my window today and realized how much snow we had gotten just overnight — A LOT & how much more we will be getting today possibly.
What is the most embarrassing thing that has ever happened to you?
- I have had many embarrassing moments growing up, some that I won’t mention but regardless a lot.
- When I peed myself at the shopping center (Walmart) while in the dressing room and ended up peeing through my clothes & having to walk through Walmart to leave with wet pants on.
- When my mom decided she wanted to silly and started in on a joke with the male cashier. The cashier asking for her I.D for the purchase of alcohol, he mentioned her year (1969) and she started on the number: 69 and making jokes — while the cashier enjoyed himself, I did not — annoyed me
- The time I fell out the treadmill at the gym during busy hours. I was literally hanging on with one hand on the back of the treadmill, with the fear of hurting myself if I let go. Everyone including my friend, the staff members, and gym members all seen this fall.
Do you have any embarrassing moments you want to share?
Are you easily embarrassed? Why do you think this is?
- Not really, depends on the situation but I am the type to usually make a fool of myself for someone’s entertainment (make them laugh) or to make light of myself to block out the embarrassment I would normally feel, or lighten the mood/situation. However, as parents normally do, my mom enjoys embarrassing me and so she is an exception. I think the reason I am embarrassed by my mom’s actions when in public — when she is being silly or in a confrontation is just because she is my mom & it is hard to explain her actions because I know she is being herself and I shouldn’t care what others think if she doesn’t, but it is hard because I feel the eyes of others judging and wish they wouldn’t. When I embarrass myself, it is usually my way of covering up my anxiety– a friendly reminder to let myself know, “everything is okay”
Unintentionally embarrassing myself due to circumstances that arise, I don’t particularly like because it puts me on the spot.
Are you easily embarrassed? if so, why? if not, why?
When was the last time you cried?