What is one thing you have always wished for?
- Hmm, possibly love ( a healthy relationship) and some form of financial success.
What mistakes have you learned from in the past?
- How to make better financial decisions with credit card use
- how important your credit score is when it comes to everyday life
- Not to allow family members to take advantage of you financially
- Being happy with myself truly before involving myself in a long term relationship with someone else
- Stand up for myself
- Take risk instead of passing up opportunity due to fear
- Make more of an effort to keep in touch with loved ones and friends
- Don’t do too much all at once — know your limits
- Don’t change who you are in order for people to like you
- Don’t be afraid to be honest about your feelings
- Date someone who brings value to your life, instead of basing things off looks alone
- There is nothing wrong with being single, no need to rush into a relationship
- put yourself FIRST
- Live below my means
- listen to what someone has to say before deciding to react and then regretting it later
- Walk away from relationships that hinder, scare, control or makes you feel less than your best
- choose friends wisely and be cautious of whom you allow in your circle
- Pray more often because you need help from a higher power more than you know
What are some lessons you have learned from mistakes you have made?
What is your biggest regret?
- I have a few. I’ll be honest in saying the list is LONG and can’t decide which is worse at this point in my life. We all have made some mistakes in the past (even if you live with the saying, no regrets); you have made mistakes you aren’t proud of. I was young once — some would argue to say I am still young at 26 but I was naive and adventurous and wanted to live in my own world and listen to my own rules — maybe it was the wild side showing after so long of feeling as though I was sheltered from the “fun”. I don’t really want to go into all the regrets I have because some are kind of dark and more private than others, but I will mention that one of my regrets is applying for so many credit cards — I mean I had like 6 and probably only needed one & I allowed the credit limits and my credit score get the best of me and made bad financial decisions that I am paying for now STILL! which is sad, because I didn’t see myself in credit card debit as my future, but it happened and now I have learned from this mistake.
Do you have any regrets you want to share?
What is your biggest fear? Why do you think you are afraid?
- My biggest fear(s) are being alone for the rest of my life (dying alone), dying in a traumatic way (car accident, murder, etc). never amounting to something and being at a constant standstill in my life (no investment in buying a house/condo, living paycheck to paycheck, having to work two jobs, not being able to afford traveling, no sense of self growth or accomplishment.
I assume most people have a fear of something, no matter how big or small. What are your biggest fears — and why?
What causes you to be anxious?
- Running late
- Starting a new job
- moving to a new location (new state, city, new roommates, etc)
- traveling someplace new on my own
- being in crowded spaces
- having to make difficult decisions
- not feeling financially secure or having to worry about finances/bills
- driving in bad weather
- weight gain, body fat increase (self image)
- failing at something
- First dates
- when I lose something important to me
- when other people around me are having a bad day — & their attitudes toward me are negative
- when people are talking badly about me in my presence.
- being involved in confrontations
- talking on the phone
- adulting sometimes
These are are just a short list of things that cause me to be anxious. Feel free to add your own list in the comment section.
What makes you uncomfortable?
- I will list a few things that come to mind:
- Listening to people/ having people talk to me about their sexual experiences in detail
- When men flirt with me, expecting something in return (especially if I don’t know them)
- Being stared at
- shopping during busy store hours
- using public restrooms when other patrons are in the bathroom with me
- having heard/listen to people slander me or talk badly about me indirectly, talking to someone else or under their breath
- Getting undressed and dressed in locker rooms among other people or women
- period cramps
- Having to walk in not well lit parking lots
- being in a financial hardship
- going to parties where I don’t know the area or guest
- driving long distances in the dark
- feeling bloated
- having to hold my bladder due to being in conversation and afraid to excuse myself
- some form of compliments depending on the person giving it
I am sure many of you may be able to relate to some of the things I listed, but what about things I haven’t, what makes you uncomfortable?