Why I didn’t make New Years Resolution

I make short term and long term changes

I did’t make a list of goals for 2019 that would end up being a “New Year, New Me” philosophy & haven’t done it for the last couple of years now because well, no point. After many years of making New Year resolutions, I have realized they are only exciting for the first month & then after that, I no longer care enough to carry them out or keep myself accountable. I decided instead I would make a list of short term and long term goals for my 2019 & goals that are both realistic and something that I am either very passionate about, already working towards, affordable, something that won’t effect me if it doesn’t happen — meaning if I don’t buy a new pair of tennis shoes within the next couple of weeks, it won’t make me feel as though I lost because I will just set aside a different date to buy them until I can either afford to buy them or need to buy them. 

I am not down talking anyone who believes in New Year resolutions because maybe a new year gets you excited enough to stick with your plans — if so, by all means make those resolutions happen! but if not, don’t waste your time following the majority of Americans, instead create goals that are both long and short & don’t make the list too long that it becomes too overwhelming to complete. I personally try to make 5-6 goals each for the short and long term goals . Somewhere in my room, I have a HUGE list of goals but that’s just overall what I want to happen in my life as far as growth and success; something to keep me focused and inspired & it changes always because “life happens”, we don’t always have control over things that happen to us.  I think New Year resolutions get people pumped to start on a goal but having a list of short term and long term goals make it easier to stick with a goal (especially if you have it posted someplace where you check on your goals often) and goals can be changed as many times as you would like but New Year Resolutions don’t normally change — they just die off when people don’t like them or don’t want to do them anymore. 

Depending on the type of person you are, you may or may not prefer my method & that’s okay but at least I am able to share my own opinion and perhaps it might trigger many of you to give it some thought as well 😀

Happy Sunday!

 

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365 Days of Self Discovery: Day 99

12.10.18

Are there parts of your life that you find distracting?

  • For awhile, having had gone through a break up with my ex, and losing out on a friendship was distracting me from progressing in terms of my goals and focusing on priorities. Now, between potentially losing out on another friendship and having dealt with work drama over and over again at this job (not the gym) this doesn’t necessarily distract me unless I am in the environment, but it does annoy me quite a bit. Outside of those things, I don’t really have many parts of my life that serve as distractions currently.

Do you find any part(s) of your life distracting, now or in the past?

6,000 WordPress Subscribers and close to 4,000 on the second blog

Something about success smells sweat — Shay-lon Moss

 

Most people could probably start this sentence out by saying they have worked really hard to get to this point BUT, I used to say this when I was writing more & talking to my following more, but now I hardly can say it because I have skipped days writing, and haven’t been consistent and my topics haven’t been the most interesting (besides my self discovery challenge) which I am enjoying might I add, and while I want to make the topics interesting & I will soon, I need to consider the fact I am creating a website for my business and it will have a blog & I want some of the topics to be for that website (but I will share the site and links to the blog post on this blog as well) so that everyone can read them — but this is why my topics on exercise have diminished a tad bit.. UGH! but on the bright side, today I plan on writing down topics I want to share on this blog & topics for the website so that it isn’t repetitive on both sites (even though some will be the same as past post with maybe more or new opinions, facts, etc) but it has been something I need to sit down and go over before writing. Thank you for baring with me and for being patient throughout my writing career, I appreciate all of you! I do, truly.

Having reached my milestone of 6,000 subscribers and over 2,000 followers on this blog has made me realize that I have come a long way — even with the baby steps and small increments of change and lack of interesting post, people still seem to enjoy something about my blog & I want to say it has a lot to do with my voice in my writing — because I don’t think my topics are all that amazing as of now (I will change this soon) because I have big plans for this blog site, I do. It will be tons of work, but I love writing and I am going to work my ass off to make it better and bigger and more responsive to my followers and readers alike. My second blog has been doing well & surprising the topics have been of great interest to many people and I enjoy that as well, and I plan on continuing down the path I am on with it as of now, and when it grows, it will have more changes as well. 

My plans for 2019 for this blog: 

  1. more post engagement
  2. topics
  3. removing or adding categories
  4. engaging more with new and old followers as much as I can
  5. sharing of guest post
  6. more engaging images/videos
  7. affiliates/monetizing 
  8. possible theme change
  9. Meditation post — possibility for those who are interested 😀

small steps, so not to overwhelm myself.  My plans for the new website (that I will also share on this blog through links)

  1. my podcast
  2. videos
  3. new topics
  4. informational post
  5. interviews
  6. selling of my product line
  7. affiliates/monetizing 
  8. writing for editors/other sites & sharing my work
  9. personal training packages & nutritional plans 
  10. Q&A

Much much more 😀 which will be noted in the first blog page of the new website. 

I am hoping in 2019, I can also work on writing my first book if my schedule allows time for it and after doing research, etc. I have big things I would like to see happen with my business, my career, my writing profession & life in general. It might not all happen at once and it might be slow to happen, but I am going to try nonetheless because I have a passion for success and wanting to thrive in this world. My hope is all of you will be around in 2019 to see these wonderful things unfold and that I shall see your blog develop as well —because your growth is just as important to me as mine is to me. Again, I appreciate all of you and those who have been a follower and reader of mine for long and short period of time, & I raise a glass to all those who continue to write going forward in 2019 😀 Many blessings and more success to you my friends. ❤

Shay-lon

365 Days of Self Discovery: Day 65

11.06.18

What changes could you make to improve your health?

  • Making yearly Dr. visits to stay updated on my general well-being & to take care of any health issues that should arise.
  • Keep my sugar content lower because diabetes runs in my family
  • Drink enough water daily because I have had a habit of being dehydrated & that’s not healthy
  • Cut down on consumption of processed foods (which I hardly eat fast food, besides pizza or Chinese take out on the weekends) and since I love cooking and I meal prep, it has become easier to consume less processed food
  • Follow my macros again to keep me on the right path with my goals & prevent me from overeating and meeting my nutritional goals for proteins, fats, carbs, fiber and calorie intake
  • Continue with meditation for my mental well-being
  • Making it a goal to walk 10,000 steps or more daily to stay proactive
  • Being mindful of the supplements I take and pay attention to how my body reacts to them
  • Make yearly appointments to visit the dentist for oral hygiene care
  • Be more proactive of reading the ingredients on the food labels while shopping ( I read the food labels but hardly pay attention to ingredients and should be more mindful of what I am eating)
  • When and if life should throw me a lemon I cannot handle or manage, I should learn that by seeking a therapist for help is okay and that sometimes it better to talk to someone than to live with it inside.
  • Get more sleep! make my sleep schedule a priority! 
  • Take more initiative to brush my teeth two or three times daily for better oral hygiene  

What are some health improvements you could make (no matter how big or small) share it in the comments & follow, like and share this post with peers! 

365 days of self discovery: Day 41

10.13.18 

What are you looking forward to?

  • I suppose my future and what all it has in-store for me; specifically, having my personal training website finished and running, creating products (clothes, accessories, etc for my brand), my first powerlifting meet next year, writing my first book and having it published  — while also having my blog(s) be able to make $$ as a side profession as an established blogger/writer/ as well as being able to write for editors of magazines and websites (having my own column in something that will be seen by many readers). In a small dose, I am looking forward to whatever tomorrow brings, hopefully positive and full of love. 

365 days of self discovery: Day 36

10.08.18

What keeps you motivated?

  • Having goals and not being complacent with where I am in the present. Always searching for my purpise and wanting/dreaming of a life that I see myself with. 

Working out 7 days a week & no results

The thing I have realized about the fitness industry while working in it, is people have this ongoing thought in their mind that the more they workout the more results, the better the physique, the stronger they are and the less at risk of health issues they will be. 

BUT.. 

It never ceases to amaze me how many of those people won’t see any results, their physique won’t change and their health issues still arise or have yet to go away & if being strong is lifting 225 for the first year and then never seeing an increase the next year, then strong needs to be re-evaluated as well. The concept of working out everyday sounds like the one way of ticket of gains and being more in shape & seeing more results but if you want some honesty  — you aren’t going to see neither working out 7 days a week without any type of change or routine that gets you there. I work at a gym where I see the same people doing the same routine day in and day out, they do it and do it, and do it until they complain about hitting plateaus, or not seeing the results they like or perhaps they do it and boost themselves up with this mindset that they have grown a whole 2 lbs in their squat after staying on the same routine for 12 weeks. Don’t get me wrong, there are 4 week, 6 week and 12 week programs out there but they are made to keep you focused and give you results in hopes you either do the same routine again (lets go another round) or to help give you a guide in order to keep you on the right path. They work, most do anyways, depending on your goals and how serious you are about the program & your nutrition matches your gym time. Putting those programs aside, its the mundane coming to the gym with no plan, doing a 10 minute cardio session warm up, lifting the same weights with the same 4-6 exercises you have done since starting the gym and leaving without even a single sweat or any sign of fatigue or soreness. Perhaps this is why you aren’t seeing the results, because you are lost and workout to workout but have no sense of direction — you say you want to lose weight but are avoiding cardio like the plague, you want to gain mass but lift 50 percent your max and you say you want a squat pr, but skip leg day BUT because you come into the gym everyday for 7 days a week for a hour at a time, you should reap all the benefits without doing the right kind of work. 

If this person is you, you aren’t alone. I am not making light of your journey, but I am putting you in the spotlight so you can see where you might be going wrong and what might need to change if you want all your effort to amount to something. I’ve worked at this gym for over a year and have had people ask me if I see any results from them, because they didn’t see any and I have had to say “no” many times because it’s true, I seen nothing. I don’t bash them, but I do ask them what their goals are and what they do to work towards them & each of them will tell me, “I workout everyday, I don’t understand”, it’s almost like I should applaud their efforts but why, when I know working out everyday won’t gain them the results they need if they don’t do the right kind of work to achieve it. The problem isn’t your frequency that you attend the gym, the problem is you have no plan and no genuine knowledge that will help you excel because you have made this habit into your excuse and use it to justify your reasoning for no results & if someone like myself were to give you some tips or advice or even try to offer my services, you think you are above it or question my knowledge because you have been told this one thing by someone else who has big muscles on a video and takes pre-workout and you believed it or took one thing from it and never really got the whole picture. For this, all I can say is working out 7 days a week won’t grant you result if you don’t take the right steps. Only doing half the work, will give you little to no results or keep you at a plateau if you don’t change your technique. If this is you and don’t know where to start, ask a professional (personal trainer) at your gym with credentials and have them give you some advice or take up a class and talk with an instructor or find valuable information online — to help guide you in the right direction. Regardless of your goals, everyone has a journey and your journey is important and if you want your journey to be successful, you have to be willing to challenge yourself, change routines, research information, be cautious of your eating habits, and take yourself seriously enough to want to see results and have this better self image. 

The only thing worse than a lazy person, is someone who prides themselves of being lazy” – Shay-lon (do the work, and the process will bring joy)