365 Days of Self Discovery: Your Past

3.15.19

Day 8

What family traditions did you have as a child?

  • Eh, Christmas at my grandma’s house and Thanksgiving at my Great Aunts. Opening one gift on Christmas eve. I don’t remember many of our family traditions beyond the things I have listed. If there were others, just doesn’t come to mind, but I think I hit on the main ones. 
Most people have a lot of family traditions, so share them with us. 
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365 Days of Self Discovery: The Past

3.10.19

Day 3

What were the good things you remember from your childhood?

  • Being outside all the time with my younger brother playing sports, riding our bikes, playing with the neighbor kids, and skateboarding
  • My mom taking us to get ice cream before heading to the car wash
  • My mom making it a habit to buy us a cookie whenever we went shopping at the mall — I would always choose M&M and my mom would get peanut butter cookies 🙂
  • Playing basketball ALL THE TIME! lol That was my life most days
  • The holidays always being HUGE, so many people and food
  • Christmas, our Christmas every year was amazing, we would always get whatever we wanted, it was always exciting
  • My mom always being a great cook, she always cooked us a full course meal. We loved her cooking & still do
  • My younger brother and I staying up extremely late playing video games together
  • spending time with my grandma at her house. I would always watch my favorite Disney VHS movie from her HUGE collection (she still has all the Disney VHS movies) and my favorite to watch was “The Lion King”.
  • Going to the park for hours
  • Sledding during the winter
  • playing kickball with my childhood friend and younger brother each summer
  • Dancing in front of the TV in the living room to Backstreet Boys, Usher, NSYNC, etc it was how I learned how to dance — self taught
  • Walking to school with my younger brother – he always walked super slow, it made me pissed off most mornings, lol 
I had some good childhood memories, more than what is listed but to keep things short. I was very smart when it came to school, so I won tons of academic awards & athletic awards sometimes too. Not everyday was a good day, but the good times were great times. 
 
What are some good childhood memories you have?
 

365 Days of Self Discovery: Feelings & Emotions

2.11.19

Day 43

Do the changing seasons affect your emotions? Why do you think this is?

  • Yes, the changing seasons do affect my mood. I noticed in the summer time, I tend to be more active, motivated, positive and seemingly more happy; whereas in the fall/winter seasons, I tend to be lazy, more exhausted/tired, less motivated, grumpy & irritable. I believe the lack of sunshine might be one reason, another being the holidays during the colder months can be dreadful if something traumatic transpired during this time & usually I am always single for the holiday months, and so I feel more or less lonely compared to many of my peers whom are married, or dating someone during these times & can spend time with someone outside of their family or close friends. I am not a fan of colder weather, so for me, it sucks. 
Anyone else experience changes in emotions due to changing seasons? how so

Holiday Cheer!

Merry Christmas & Happy Holidays 

Merry Christmas & Happy Holidays Friends

I hope all of you had a wonderful Holiday — no matter which holiday you celebrate, I hope you had fun, and smiled a ton. For many people this can be a hard time because many people don’t have loved ones or have lost someone during the holidays, so it isn’t as cheerful, but I hope no matter the case, you were able to relax and slow down — and I hope if healing is what you need, that you will find the healing you need and continue to be strong because you are worth it. I lost my grandpa in December — so for me, it does happen to be harder at times when I think of him during this holiday — and how much I miss him and love him. I also lost an aunt of mine many years back due to homicide (hit and run) during the holidays (I believe close to Christmas or on Christmas day) so again, I know the pain of losing someone on holidays such as these and not feeling the most cheerful, but still I stuck it out because I am blessed that I was able to spend time with my siblings & some of my family members (including my mom) & see another year in good health. 

It’s hard to smile or be happy with negativity attached to a holiday; but something that is worth noting and being happy about is knowing you made it another year. We aren’t guaranteed another year, day or moment, each time we see another Christmas, is like saying we survived the world, the chaos, the negativity and the bad — we survived life threatening disease, we survived accidents, we survived a natural disaster, etc, whatever it may be, we made it another year to see this day & not everyone can say that. Doesn’t mean we will make it through this next year, but it means we lived long enough to see Christmas 2018 & that’s a big deal. To keep this light and fluffy, I have some fun questions you can take part in answering if you like; otherwise, feel free to leave comments, follow, share, and like the page. 

  1. Do you buy yourself gifts for Christmas?
  2. What is a holiday tradition your family takes part in?
  3. What makes Christmas special to you / if not Christmas, what makes your holiday special to you?
  4. Do you believe Christmas is becoming more and more commercialized?
  5. Growing up, what were some toys, etc that you wanted for Christmas?
  6. Do you celebrate Christmas?
  7. Did it snow on Christmas where you are from? 
  8. Are you a fan of eggnog?
  9. Name a gift you received this year?
  10. Does your family cook for the holidays or do you prefer to dine in someplace?

Thanksgiving Shouldn’t be Stressful on your stomach

Breathe.

Everything will be okay, no need to stress about what to eat, how to eat or when to eat.

It’s quite simple, what I am going to tell you. No reason to change yourself for a holiday, but a good reason to prepare for it, so when it comes in your direction, you are more than ready for the opportunity to enjoy yourself. 

  1. Thanksgiving is about enjoying time with family/friends/peers 
  2. You may attend as many Thanksgiving parties as you wish — don’t interpret this as greedy but instead as there is no number rule when it comes to attending family gatherings — it’s once a year, spend it with people.
  3. Food will be present 

Those top 3 things listed above should help you prepare. The next line will help you get through the holiday with a positive mindset.

  1. Eating is okay. 
  2. Trust yourself to make sound decisions. You will know when you are full because you know your body.
  3. Don’t go in with the mindset: “I will only eat this, this this” or “I will only eat one plate” or “no dessert this year” etc. Those are all grand ideas if you follow through but chances are, you won’t follow through and when you don’t, you will have then failed yourself enough to be frustrated — then comes stress eating because you give up on yourself. 
  4. Instead attend the dinner with the mindset: “I need food for energy, I need food for survival and food fuels me” with these words in mind, you won’t be stressed out, but will be positive.
  5. If you want to stay disciplined during the Thanksgiving Holiday with your weight loss plan: Eat a balanced meal. Drink plenty of water and stay active (go for a walk, attend the gym in the morning before dinner, chase the kids/grandkids around the house/yard, etc) if moving is going to be hard on you, then be sure to stretch every once in a while — you might be stuck in a chair watching football, but make the effort to stretch so you can get some form of movement) it’s better than nothing. Also be sure to share good news with the family about how your weight loss plan is coming along — it will help you stay on track with good support cheering you on! 

I realize the Holiday can be hard with all the temptation of food at work events, home, family gatherings, etc. You have worked hard on yourself and meeting your goals, they shouldn’t be thrown away because you had a plate of mac & cheese — and cheesecake for dessert. Food is fuel for the mind & body. Having a goal that you will eat one plate, is hard.. because whose to say you will be full after one plate? and why should you stack that ONE plate with everything just to meet your needs? Telling yourself you will only eat certain foods is hard too, because when you cook for yourself, you eat what you like & it should be the same during Thanksgiving. The problem people seem to run into is the fear of “overeating” or not making healthy, wise decisions during this Holiday. Many times, overeating does occur and the choices of healthy food is lacking or not something you really want to eat but force yourself to (which makes you unhappy and cranky) — the solution is eating a balanced meal (proteins, carbs, veggies, fiber, fats) – that way you are eating things you enjoy & aren’t missing out on the nutrients! If you are attending more than one Thanksgiving in a weeks time or on the same day, then eat according to how you feel from the previous dinner (if you are full, don’t eat), if you ate less veggies, and more carbs the first time, switch it this time around. No need to eliminate food from the diet UNLESS you choose to do that & can follow through and keep a positive mindset doing it. 

Keep in mind, I want Thanksgiving to be stress free eating and a focus on appreciating the fact you are spending it with loved ones. Keep in mind what you are eating and how much of it you are eating — if you can’t finish the plate, save if for later or the next day. Don’t be afraid of food, but be cautious of what your body is telling you, it will be your guide. If you don’t think you can trust you body with making sound decisions, then hold yourself accountable & be aware of your food choices and portion sizes.  Hopefully this will be helpful for your Holiday 😀 if you have anything you want to add, feel free to leave comments!

Shay-lon Moss

 

Happy Labor Day & Motivational Monday!

I hope all of you have a wonderful Labor Day with friends & Family!

If you have the day off from work, make it worth your while 🙂

Don’t skip a gym session due to the holidays, work around the holiday cheer & get errrr done!

My Motivational quote for you is: 

“No amount of obstacles can stand in your way, you are unstoppable” 

-Shay-lon Moss 

Happy St. Patrick’s Day!

Are You Wearing Green Today?

 

“St.Patrick’s Day an enchanted time- a day to begin transforming winter’s dreams into summer’s magic”

– Adrienne Cook

What is something that you consider lucky that you own? — or what is your lucky #?