365 days of self discovery: Day 52

Do you deal well with rejection?

  • Now, sure, I deal with it better; but I still have my moments when it is hard to deal with it. Rejection is hard to deal with, not something most people enjoy; including myself. Learning to be okay after being rejected can be hard at first, but teaching yourself that it doesn’t mean you aren’t good enough helps one to realize rejection isn’t always a bad thing. Sometimes rejection leads to one door opening after another has closed.

Do you deal with rejection well? or is there room for improvement. What makes dealing with rejection difficult for you? leave comments & share, follow and like.

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365 days of self discovery: day 51

10.23.18

How do you deal with obstacles that get in your way?

Sometimes I have to ask myself this same question because there have been times this has happened and somehow I still manage to overcome the obstacles, I have always been told ” face them head on & if something is important enough to you, than no obstacle is too hard to overcome”. Many times I find myself learning to handle each obstacle a little differently than the last, but both I’ve decided that after I have complained and suffered through the anger & possible sadness, that’s time to find a solution– Many times the challenge is worth the reward & some of my obstacles have been longer than others; in which it becomes a daily agenda to get through another day w/out giving up. How I’ve learned to handle the obstacles that have gotten in my way is to think with a calm mind and make it a step by step process. Going head on can sometimes sink your ship, so better to  have a strategy and to keep a calm disposition if possible in order to think rationally about how to overcome the obstacle.

365 Days of Self Discovery: Day 47

10.19.18

What rules or standards do you live by?

  • I have a number of rules and standards that I try to live by the best way I know how. Some of which you may have heard of it and some you have not. All of these rules/standards can somewhat be summed up by my morals and belief system. While this may not be an all exclusive list, it is a decent amount. 
  1. “Treat the janitor with the same respect as you would the CEO” — this is something I was taught by my grandmother, and to be honest, I love this saying because we tend to treat people differently due to their status quo. The CEO puts his pants on the same way as either you or I. 
  2. Don’t allow someone to back you into a corner mentally, or physically & if they do, come out fighting. Basically what this means is, we can only manage to handle so much before we explode, we shouldn’t allow someone(s) to get us to the point where we just continue to take the hits they give us. If we don’t learn to stand up for ourselves than we will continue to allow someone to take advantage of us. Sometimes to come out swinging, means to STOP putting up with people’s crap. 
  3. Your body can handle the challenges that your mind thinks you can’t. The body can be pushed further than what the mind allows. Don’t allow your thinking to get the best of you. 
  4. Guilt can kill a man, therefore, make choices in which you won’t feel guilty about later & make them wisely. If you know a choice will cause you pain later, then maybe it is time to rethink your choice(s) so that you don’t have to live with this kind of guilt. Sometimes guilt plays on us without our control due to circumstances, but we have to learn to let go of it, and move on. We can’t move on properly if we live a life full of regrets. 
  5. Take risk because they can sometimes lead us to great opportunities. 
  6. Be a leader, not a boss. People don’t want to be told what to do, they want to be led by someone who will do the work with them. People don’t like being bossed around, they prefer to be asked & if you live your life trying to be a boss, you will earn less respect in the long run, but if you live your life as a leader, respect will gradually grow and with respect will come trust and a group of people who will stand alongside of you. 
  7. “Treat people the way you want to be treated”
  8. An open mind builds a bigger perspective. Living inside a closed box doesn’t allow you to see everything from different viewpoints. If you keep an open mind, you will see the world in many different perspectives and have respect for many different voices of reason. 
  9. Take accountability for your actions
  10. The type of people you surround yourself with, usually is a good indicator of the type of person you are
  11. “Close mouths don’t get fed”. If you don’t speak up, you won’t be heard
  12. Be yourself, those that like you will like you for who you are & those that don’t like you, won’t matter.

365 days of self discovery day 17

What life lessons have books taught you?

  • Recently I have picked up reading again, all of them being used for “self help” and spirituality. I started them either based on recommendations from peers or for clarity after enduring something that caused me grief/sadness & needing to find ways to cope, and pick myself back up again. All of these books thus far have taught me to be kind to myself – there is a light at the end of every tunnel, no matter how dark it gets. The books that I have read with characters, plots, and mystery were used as amusement and an escape from my mind/ a way to get out of my own head. 

I know I have many people who follow my blog that read almost daily, and this would be an awesome question for you folks to answer since you have probably read way more books than myself. I would love to hear some answers and the kind of genre of book it was that taught you the lesson(s). 

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365 days of self discovery Day 14

Who is your biggest inspiration & why?

As a child, it used to be a great number of people, people that I had looked up to; activist, athletes, family members, etc but as I have grown older, I don’t have that ONE person anymore or the list of people. Now the people that inspire me are those that have been significant in any part of my life (whether it be a public figure, or an everyday person) in some way they have added something positive in my life.  Even if I don’t speak to the person any longer.  The list grows because people have come & go throughout my life but some of which have been lessons, experiences, memories & long term friendships or short term relationships – not everyone has inspired me (few people have) but those few people gave me something to take away and learn from or later use in life. 

Tell me, do any of you have someone that has inspired you? Someone that is important to you & why? Leave an answer in the comment section, and don’t forget to like, follow and share!