365 Days of Self Discovery: Day 100

12.11.18

Do you take the time to reflect on what is happening in your life?

  • Yes, I do quite often actually. Especially when I am spending time alone in the house/ my bedroom. Whenever I start to reflect, typically I either become emotional, frustrated, grateful, or feel motivational; normally writing out goals, task that need done (short & long term goals). It comes down to me as what happens in my life that I can control and I am learning that if I don’t like something or something makes me uncomfortable, I have to either speak up, or walk away from it, because enduring it sometimes makes a monster out of us. Not saying, I am good at speaking up or walking away, but I have to force myself when it comes time to handle certain situations that may arise. 
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365 Days of Self Discovery: Day 99

12.10.18

Are there parts of your life that you find distracting?

  • For awhile, having had gone through a break up with my ex, and losing out on a friendship was distracting me from progressing in terms of my goals and focusing on priorities. Now, between potentially losing out on another friendship and having dealt with work drama over and over again at this job (not the gym) this doesn’t necessarily distract me unless I am in the environment, but it does annoy me quite a bit. Outside of those things, I don’t really have many parts of my life that serve as distractions currently.

Do you find any part(s) of your life distracting, now or in the past?

365 Days of Self Discovery: Day 98

12.09.18

Do you ever break the rules?

  • I am not the type of person who will go out of my way to break rules, and I always usually try my best to follow them due to being overly cautious. Although, yes, I have broken rules, and suffered consequences for doing so & sometimes I have been able to get away with action without having someone find out — but it left guilt on my heart & that can be worse off than the consequences. I prefer to not have to break the rules,however I do believe “some rules are meant to be broken” — especially if the rule(s) don’t align with your values/beliefs, or change your character negatively. Sometimes we have to go against our belief system and sway from our values but many times those set the standards for what we believe in and how we go about doing things in our lives. For example, our moral belief might be to not kill someone but when defending ourselves, it could mean life or death & sometimes killing the other person is the only option if we want to survive. 

365 Days of Self Discovery: Day 96

12.07.18

What quote inspires you?

I have a few that I have read that sparked some inspiration in me, I am the type of person who enjoys reading quotes & I also enjoy creating my own — because people love things that holding meaning to them. I know this question is probably asking for only one quote, but I decided to be a rebel and share at least two that I like:

“You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes, you may kill me with your hatefulness, but still, like air, I’ll rise” – Maya Aneglou

“You have to be fearless to have success” – Serena Williams 

Are there any quotes that inspire you? if so, share them in the comment section; I love new and old quotes alike. 

When Drama comes starts knocking, I leave the door closed

Good drama, is a poor excuse to have drama

Ya know what I have come to realize, that some people need drama to thrive on friendships, need drama to feel a purpose and rely on drama to gain some of kind insight on other people’s lives — me on the other hand, I don’t need it nor want it and I delete it as soon as it forms. 

Having been much younger once, I knew what drama could produce at an early age, and had my share of people’s bullshit and wanting to be apart of heavy gossip in hopes it would give me kudo points for being on the same side as others. Let’s face it, in grade school and some of high school, drama formed so often that when you think you dodged a bullet, it just meant another person had room to attempt the same scheme. I’d like to say with age came wisdom and learning from former mistakes and choosing to focus on more important things rather than other people’s business BUT, can’t say it meant drama would cease to appear in my life, nope, drama was still around and for good reason, because without it, meant I had little to no friends. Yet, you start to realize drama creates chaos and chaos invites itself in your life when you are most vulnerable or weak minded. In order to rid of chaos, you learn you have to make sacrifices that aren’t easy but will payoff (doesn’t seem that way at first) but in time it does payoff. 

For me, in order to live a drama free lifestyle, I had to rid the people I surrounded myself with that were bad blood and carried negative vibes — wasn’t easy until I started to see how it hindered my growth financially, mentally, educationally, and physically. Here I am YEARS later, without an ounce of drama to my name & the drama that might have tried to seep into my life, I ignored it or shut it down, & gave it no attention unless it was something that needed to be talked about in order to move on from. Otherwise, when drama comes knocking, I leave the door closed. Now drama normally is equated with gossip and I don’t particularly love hearing gossip, especially since I have learned and matured enough to make up my own opinions of other people once I get to know them vs believing everything someone else tells me (I always “consider my sources”) which means whatever someone tells me about another person, I take with a grain of salt until it has been proven / else I make my own judgement based on how the person treats me personally & if I am being honest, what someone does in their free time isn’t my business unless it effects me or somebody I care/love. Case closed.

Another form of drama is in relationships & I suppose those are much harder to shut down, because I assume we love the person we are dating & so this makes things more complicated BUT I found the best way to prevent drama from forming in your relationships is understanding the person’s character before putting yourself in a relationship with the person and really thinking about if the person is compatible with you. Good looks don’t mean the person has a solid character and just because he/she gives to charity doesn’t mean he/she doesn’t gossip.. so this is where being superficial can harm the future of your relationship. I believe it takes time & you and only you know what you need out of a person in order to have a successful relationship and so you need to make good decisions to have good outcomes. Not saying a relationship will be perfect but when the time comes and drama shows up at your front door during your relationship — the goal is for both parties to find a solution together that doesn’t burden the relationship or person/people within it. That’s the goal — easier said than done. 

Third form of drama is when you allow it to change your character in order to keep your popularity or friends. I think this is one of the worst forms because it really has a way of biting you in the ass if you don’t pay mind to it. I had to learn that popularity and having the most votes doesn’t mean anything if I have to change myself in order to be accepted among the majority. Nobody likes being an outcast/different, but sometimes being the unique one makes for a better character and a longevity of true friendships. Doesn’t mean you will win an Oscar , but it could mean you earn a good reputation. 

You learn that drama will happen, and continue to happen and that some forms of drama can be ignored and other forms need to be dealt with in order to make it disappear or prevent it from causing further chaos. I have had people say there is good drama, but good drama isn’t drama – it is reward, inspiration, blessings, and positive vibes & it doesn’t create chaos, but creates wisdom, happiness, triumphs, and builds good character. The good drama people speak of is: congrats, birthdays, holiday greetings marriage/newly weds , pregnancy, anniversaries, good health, promotions, compliments, good counsel, good deeds, and love. These are forms of drama that help uplift, motivate and give people a reason to smile — 

“Good drama doesn’t exist, it is purely a person with good intentions looking to give someone a reason to be happy” – Shay-lon Moss

 

6,000 WordPress Subscribers and close to 4,000 on the second blog

Something about success smells sweat — Shay-lon Moss

 

Most people could probably start this sentence out by saying they have worked really hard to get to this point BUT, I used to say this when I was writing more & talking to my following more, but now I hardly can say it because I have skipped days writing, and haven’t been consistent and my topics haven’t been the most interesting (besides my self discovery challenge) which I am enjoying might I add, and while I want to make the topics interesting & I will soon, I need to consider the fact I am creating a website for my business and it will have a blog & I want some of the topics to be for that website (but I will share the site and links to the blog post on this blog as well) so that everyone can read them — but this is why my topics on exercise have diminished a tad bit.. UGH! but on the bright side, today I plan on writing down topics I want to share on this blog & topics for the website so that it isn’t repetitive on both sites (even though some will be the same as past post with maybe more or new opinions, facts, etc) but it has been something I need to sit down and go over before writing. Thank you for baring with me and for being patient throughout my writing career, I appreciate all of you! I do, truly.

Having reached my milestone of 6,000 subscribers and over 2,000 followers on this blog has made me realize that I have come a long way — even with the baby steps and small increments of change and lack of interesting post, people still seem to enjoy something about my blog & I want to say it has a lot to do with my voice in my writing — because I don’t think my topics are all that amazing as of now (I will change this soon) because I have big plans for this blog site, I do. It will be tons of work, but I love writing and I am going to work my ass off to make it better and bigger and more responsive to my followers and readers alike. My second blog has been doing well & surprising the topics have been of great interest to many people and I enjoy that as well, and I plan on continuing down the path I am on with it as of now, and when it grows, it will have more changes as well. 

My plans for 2019 for this blog: 

  1. more post engagement
  2. topics
  3. removing or adding categories
  4. engaging more with new and old followers as much as I can
  5. sharing of guest post
  6. more engaging images/videos
  7. affiliates/monetizing 
  8. possible theme change
  9. Meditation post — possibility for those who are interested 😀

small steps, so not to overwhelm myself.  My plans for the new website (that I will also share on this blog through links)

  1. my podcast
  2. videos
  3. new topics
  4. informational post
  5. interviews
  6. selling of my product line
  7. affiliates/monetizing 
  8. writing for editors/other sites & sharing my work
  9. personal training packages & nutritional plans 
  10. Q&A

Much much more 😀 which will be noted in the first blog page of the new website. 

I am hoping in 2019, I can also work on writing my first book if my schedule allows time for it and after doing research, etc. I have big things I would like to see happen with my business, my career, my writing profession & life in general. It might not all happen at once and it might be slow to happen, but I am going to try nonetheless because I have a passion for success and wanting to thrive in this world. My hope is all of you will be around in 2019 to see these wonderful things unfold and that I shall see your blog develop as well —because your growth is just as important to me as mine is to me. Again, I appreciate all of you and those who have been a follower and reader of mine for long and short period of time, & I raise a glass to all those who continue to write going forward in 2019 😀 Many blessings and more success to you my friends. ❤

Shay-lon