365 Days of Self Discovery: Your Relationships

6.19.19

Day 30

Who do you love unconditionally?

  • My family members (mom, siblings, grandparents, etc)
  • God, my faith and father
  • close friends
  • the majority of people who have entered my life at some point and impacted it in a positive way or helped to guide me towards success 
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365 Days of Self Discovery: Your Relationships

6.18.19

Day 29

Who do you look up to?

  • There used to be a time I would have a list of people whom I considered role models, including my mom because something about these people made me want to be more like them when I “grew up” but now, when this question comes my way, I don’t list names because I realized the type of people I look up to are those who 
  1. Have done something positive without looking to reap reward or an applause, something positive for others (small or big)
  2. someone who knows what it’s like to struggle for a duration of time; maybe even thought about throwing in the towel but instead of giving up, they managed to overcome their obstacles and make something of themselves & use their growth and journey as a way to teach others and inspire others and give people hope. 
  3. People who have impacted the world in a positive way
  4. those who have worked hard in order to reach success
  5. those who are realist — see the world for what it is and don’t sugar coat things 
  6. people who were against the odds with their back against the wall that continued to fight instead of made into a victim. 
  7. people who choose love over hate in any situation because that’s hard to do when you’ve been through some crap
  8. people who can forgive easily — I struggle with this a lot myself. 

365 Days of Self Discovery: Your Relationships

6.17.19

Day 28

What do you want other people to know about you?

  • I can be somewhat complex when it comes to my emotions and feelings because a lot of times it is based on the feelings and emotions of the people in my surroundings, a thought/flashback, or a song I might be singing or thinking of at the time and it outwardly shows on my face/body language. It seems as though my emotions change rapidly without reason from the outside looking in, but I feed off other people & it doesn’t help when I feel uncomfortable or feel a threat or feel the emotions from others & sometimes it is also due to the fact that I have crap going on and instead of voicing it or venting out loud, I keep it within. 
  • I am very giving of myself and I’ve learned that I tend to give too much of myself early on or too quickly & i become emotionally attached — so when/if things go south in a friendship or relationships it drains me emotionally and takes a lot out of me because I have very little left of me for me to heal. 
  • I don’t like the concept of everyone being my friend, I choose my friends wisely — at least try and any type of bond I bring into my life — has to be meaningful to me and feel comfortable before I decide to call them my friend because friends are something special to me & I am a loyal friend so I want good people in my circle. 
  • I am much better at listening to people than I am speaking about myself or talking in general because I am socially awkward
  • I am not good at keeping up with my friendships — I don’t do well with keeping in touch with people regularly, I have a hard time asking people to hang out, I don’t feel affected when I haven’t seen or spoken to my friend(s) in months. I find I am great at making friends but suck at actually keeping them for long periods of time. 

365 Days of Self Discovery: Your relationships

Day 21

Think about your past romantic relationships. What lessons did you learn from them? What did each person bring to your life?

  • I haven’t had many past relationships and I would say about 1-2 probably didn’t bring much to my life, if anything — and something not worth mentioning but I would say the past 2 people I dated I learned something different from each of them and yet some similar things as well because I made the same mistake in both relationships. I think of the more important things I learned in this most recent past relationship was that in order to have a stable, healthy relationship with some, both parties need to have a stable & healthy mindset, both have to be in a good place in their lives and bring forth their own happiness before relying on another to do the same & I also learned to not give so much of myself to someone all at once and so fast because it doesn’t allow things to grow; stop rushing the process of the relationship & allow things to happen naturally in their own flow. Each of my exes were different and they brought me something different at different periods of my life — I don’t think I know what those things were yet, or maybe I have an idea but it hasn’t hit me like a stone wall because I haven’t given much thought to the question in the recent years. I know for the most part, they each brought me closer to realizing my mistakes in how I handle and manage negativity in my life, they each managed to teach me to look at my own flaws and figure out to better manage them so they don’t hinder a relationship from growing or prospering. How I wish I would have been more aware back when. 

365 Days of Self Discovery: Your Relationships

6.08.19

Day 19

You receive exciting news, who do you tell first?

  • It would be a tie between my mom and best friend. 

Busier and Busier ..

Summer Busyyyynesssss!

Hello readers and bloggers, many of you might have noticed my lack of communication, consistency, normality, time management, etc and whatever else that might show through my writings — I apologize because many of you have continued to support my blog(s) and website and are waiting for me to do the same >.< which is to expected and should be the way it is. I could make ALL the excuses in the world for the lack of attention I have given my followers for the past 6 months or so, but the truth remains that I have been hectic and this is good news because as a personal trainer, I have so many more clients/fitness consultations I am doing each week & I have had time to meet and make new friendships in the real world, spend time with my loved ones and use my time to catch up on much needed sleep (due to working two jobs — one being third shift). I make just enough time to blog and then I immediately log off without showing much support to any of you and that’s not right nor intentional but it seems to happen often enough where finally I feel the need to apologize and find a solution to such an issue. Today I will use some of this day to catch up on cleaning, researching time management options that will benefit me, catching up on blogging and ordering items for my powerlifting meet, and shopping for an event I will be going to June 14th — June 16th (out of town) and whatever else I can think of that seems to be put on the backburner every week (including all of you) but that will have to wait for a little while longer as I need to do things by priority so that I stay in order and keep things flowing or else, I might lose my mind! 😦 

In the coming weeks, I will have a much better plan when it comes to blogging and showing my support to all of those who do the same for me daily & to all the new bloggers as well. I just need to go over the plan on paper and make some adjustments (as needed) because things won’t always go as planned — that’s life. When I do come up with this plan today, it will begin to show gradually & hopefully it will be long term. I wanted to make blogging/writing full time & I still in fact have that goal, but it will take me working harder as a personal trainer so that I don’t need a second job & don’t need to consume so much of time sleeping to make up for the lack of sleep I don’t get during the week sometimes. Everything that is meant to happen, will happen in due time. If any of this fails to show my gratitude, forgive me, I know everyone has a busy schedule and this might not be a great excuse but it is my reasoning and the truth. Trust me, when I tell you, I plan on making up for this & giving more time to blogging, and writing and showing my support as well — it won’t happen overnight , but it will come slowly. There used to be a time I could blog 2-3 times a day and still manage to support all the writers (take me back to that time) but now I get lucky if I find the energy to blog once a day without falling asleep on the computer or being distracted by outside noises. 

I hope we talk soon, and thank for you all the continued support once more. If any of you follow me on social media — I have been slow on the trigger in posting regularly but I do still post on IG, FB and Twitter & check my emails regularly as well. Blogging is my life, really it brings me peace and gives me inspiration through writing and reading other people’s creations, I yearn for it when I haven’t been consistent, I just need to plan my days out more accordingly and keep myself in order and make sure to spend my time wisely so that I don’t overwhelm myself too quickly and give up my passions. What’s good for the soul should never die. 

Shay-lon