Business Keeps Me Busy

Neglecting to write in my blog is like neglecting to eat for me, I get so caught up with my business & I am at the gym all day; training myself & training clients/giving consultations & then having to stack that on top of my second job (third shift) — while also juggling my website & trying to make that soar. I haven’t yet touched podcasting (I will) because I want to do it — it excites me. I haven’t been blogging on the website as often as I had hoped either / another draw back since having more clients at the gym ( I love being a personal trainer) I do, but Google wasn’t lying when it said this profession is around the clock once you gain clientale and make a name for yourself — your schedule is never the same & while I do make my own schedule each week (sometimes the club director assigns clients to me without my knowledge of having an appointment until I look at my calendar) being at the gym is like my home away from home; basically I sleep, eat and work there & I love it — but I don’t want to get burnt out loving what I do. This weekend, I took time away to focus on catching up on sleep and meal prepping and spending time with loved ones & friends (What’s a social life?) LOL. 

So, in the mist of all this rambling, I am basically trying to apologize for the later than late responses & not following some of you newer readers of my blog(s) because honestly, you deserve my attention just as much as I would like yours,  but realistically, we all have a life to live and while I would love to be full time blogger with a higher paying income from it, it’s not happening and so sometimes it doesn’t become top priority over my other obligations. Doesn’t mean I don’t love doing it, I do it because I do love it & because it will one day make a good income & be something people enjoy reading and commenting on again. It probably doesn’t help I don’t share it on my social media platforms (besides #Twitter) anymore due to me being lazy & because since starting this self discovery phase of this blog — I don’t feel as though it touches on fitness/health the way it used to for the time being & that’s okay but I don’ t want people to be let down. When this self discovery phase is over, I will hop back into a fitness/health, body positive , knowledgeable, and worthy topics so that people get excited again and have something to talk about once more. I plan on catching up with blogging this weekend and making it once again a priority (small steps forward) so I will begin with this post — but be ready for more from me. Also, if you don’t catch me on here, I am always on Instagram usually & Twitter and Facebook, so make sure to follow those social platforms to keep up with my life & fun times, hard times & goofy times. 

For all those who have left comments on my older post, have liked, followed or share my post, thank you for supporting my passion to write & my semi-lame post with a splash of “just interesting enough” — I promise my topics will glow once again, we just have to overcome the stagnant self discovery post for a while ( just maybe I will make a fitness/health post while doing this self discovery challenge) but anytime I blog on the personal website, I will share the link with all of you, so you don’t miss out on my personal training fun. Make sure to follow me on social media! I am much more fun on IG LOL.

P.S Do you enjoy my self discovery post? Be honest, I won’t cry – might judge you LOL jk. 

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If any of you are creative bees and can answer my question: is it cheaper to have t-shirt designs made on your own or to have them done professionally, let me know. I want my brand to shine & I need to make some products (Tshirts/hats/hoodies etc ) and even wanting to create journals for those to track sleep, diet and eating habits. I want to keep things interactive with & I even want to eventually make a Facebook group where people come together & share their progress, goals, etc with the rest of the community. I want to make shit happen, so it will happen, just will be in small steps (hopefully before I hit 30 years old) because Idk if I will have the same motivation later in life. 

Second question of the day, would it be how can I make my blog more interactive for my readers and fellow bloggers.. I know many of you have tons of traffic with comments and likes, etc *& once a upon a time I thought I was killing it, but now, eh. So share your secretes, tell me what has worked for you as a blogger to bring in more traffic — I will use these for my website as well. Gimme all your secrets so I can conquer the world 😀

BTW, guest posting for me is a thing, so if that’s something that interest you, ,let me know & if you know anything about podcast/creating products/website design, making income from blogging, etc.. share your secrets 😀

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365 Days of self discovery: Day 111

12.22.18

What do you need to make more time for?

  • Myself. Taking myself places (vacationing, traveling, spas, day trips, weekend trips, etc) spending time doing things I enjoy doing and getting away from the mundane life that I live in & taking more time on myself, doing things for me that I haven’t done or don’t do often enough. The “me” time I need is the kind that allows me to relax mentally — not feel so rushed or in a hurry constantly. 
  • I want more time to build my “empire” , build my business and develop my career. I need to take time to do this and make it a priority if I want to be successful and want to reap the rewards of my hard work. It’s something I want to do and something I need to do if I want to further myself in my profession. 
What do you guys need to make more time for? 

365 Days of Self Discovery: Day 65

11.06.18

What changes could you make to improve your health?

  • Making yearly Dr. visits to stay updated on my general well-being & to take care of any health issues that should arise.
  • Keep my sugar content lower because diabetes runs in my family
  • Drink enough water daily because I have had a habit of being dehydrated & that’s not healthy
  • Cut down on consumption of processed foods (which I hardly eat fast food, besides pizza or Chinese take out on the weekends) and since I love cooking and I meal prep, it has become easier to consume less processed food
  • Follow my macros again to keep me on the right path with my goals & prevent me from overeating and meeting my nutritional goals for proteins, fats, carbs, fiber and calorie intake
  • Continue with meditation for my mental well-being
  • Making it a goal to walk 10,000 steps or more daily to stay proactive
  • Being mindful of the supplements I take and pay attention to how my body reacts to them
  • Make yearly appointments to visit the dentist for oral hygiene care
  • Be more proactive of reading the ingredients on the food labels while shopping ( I read the food labels but hardly pay attention to ingredients and should be more mindful of what I am eating)
  • When and if life should throw me a lemon I cannot handle or manage, I should learn that by seeking a therapist for help is okay and that sometimes it better to talk to someone than to live with it inside.
  • Get more sleep! make my sleep schedule a priority! 
  • Take more initiative to brush my teeth two or three times daily for better oral hygiene  

What are some health improvements you could make (no matter how big or small) share it in the comments & follow, like and share this post with peers! 

365 Days of Self Discovery: Day 57

10.29.18

Do you have leadership qualities or are you strictly a follower?

  • I definitely feel as though I have leadership qualities, I enjoy being a leader (not a boss) but a leader. Especially now more than I have in the past due to my confidence increasing and feeling the need to want to make changes that I don’t want to have to wait for. In the past, my social anxiety, wanting to fit in with the vast majority and be accepted hindered me from wanting to be my own person and take charge of my own thoughts and actions. I still suffer from social anxiety, but with work and managing it better, I don’t allow it to always hinder me or keep me from setting out to do something, and with the newfound confidence in certain areas of my life; speaking up for myself, voicing my own opinions, having wanting to be a leader instead of a “sheep” has become a lot easier. 

Sometimes we stay sheeps in order to be accepted by certain people, to avoid judgement, to avoid confrontation and it allows us to stay within our comfort zone. The problem with lacking leadership is, you start to rely on other people to be your voice, your self confidence continues to dwindle and when it comes time to stick up for yourself, you take the blows & don’t say a word. If you consider yourself to be a follower, think of the reason behind it, what is hindering you from wanting to become a leader? Are you a leader, do you share the qualities of a leader?

365 Days of Self Discovery: Day 47

10.19.18

What rules or standards do you live by?

  • I have a number of rules and standards that I try to live by the best way I know how. Some of which you may have heard of it and some you have not. All of these rules/standards can somewhat be summed up by my morals and belief system. While this may not be an all exclusive list, it is a decent amount. 
  1. “Treat the janitor with the same respect as you would the CEO” — this is something I was taught by my grandmother, and to be honest, I love this saying because we tend to treat people differently due to their status quo. The CEO puts his pants on the same way as either you or I. 
  2. Don’t allow someone to back you into a corner mentally, or physically & if they do, come out fighting. Basically what this means is, we can only manage to handle so much before we explode, we shouldn’t allow someone(s) to get us to the point where we just continue to take the hits they give us. If we don’t learn to stand up for ourselves than we will continue to allow someone to take advantage of us. Sometimes to come out swinging, means to STOP putting up with people’s crap. 
  3. Your body can handle the challenges that your mind thinks you can’t. The body can be pushed further than what the mind allows. Don’t allow your thinking to get the best of you. 
  4. Guilt can kill a man, therefore, make choices in which you won’t feel guilty about later & make them wisely. If you know a choice will cause you pain later, then maybe it is time to rethink your choice(s) so that you don’t have to live with this kind of guilt. Sometimes guilt plays on us without our control due to circumstances, but we have to learn to let go of it, and move on. We can’t move on properly if we live a life full of regrets. 
  5. Take risk because they can sometimes lead us to great opportunities. 
  6. Be a leader, not a boss. People don’t want to be told what to do, they want to be led by someone who will do the work with them. People don’t like being bossed around, they prefer to be asked & if you live your life trying to be a boss, you will earn less respect in the long run, but if you live your life as a leader, respect will gradually grow and with respect will come trust and a group of people who will stand alongside of you. 
  7. “Treat people the way you want to be treated”
  8. An open mind builds a bigger perspective. Living inside a closed box doesn’t allow you to see everything from different viewpoints. If you keep an open mind, you will see the world in many different perspectives and have respect for many different voices of reason. 
  9. Take accountability for your actions
  10. The type of people you surround yourself with, usually is a good indicator of the type of person you are
  11. “Close mouths don’t get fed”. If you don’t speak up, you won’t be heard
  12. Be yourself, those that like you will like you for who you are & those that don’t like you, won’t matter.

365 days of self discovery: Day 35

10.07.18

 

self discovery day 35

What are your priorities?

  1. My business — building the foundation and growing it.
  2. eliminating any debt from my life
  3. saving enough money to move next year
  4. Having a 401k for retirement
  5. my blog (s) — having them become a form of monetize so I can make them a side paying profession
  6. my health/well-being as I grow older
  7. becoming a well-established personal trainer
  8. CeCs for my certification
  9. following my path to becoming a powerlifter because of my love for the sport
  10. My brand, branding myself a name that people will remember and think positively about
  11. Becoming a motivational speaker on the basis of health/fitness so I can spread the importance
  12. Living a full-filling lifestyle that allows me to travel and work in a profession (s) that I love and live comfortably doing so. 

What are your priorities, no matter how big or small. I think having a list of things that you are dedicated to makes you a goal-oriented and focused person. 

365 Day Self Discovery Challenge: Day One.

What are three things you like most about yourself?

Like most people, this was somewhat difficult; and not because I don’t like anything about myself, but because I didn’t know what I liked “most” about myself. It was almost like having to play the elimination game as to what was most important to me. I figured at somewhat this would be a question, I didn’t expect it to be the first question during the challenge. Many times people ask this question when they are trying to make you realize your worth, or have you analyze what traits you have that are good, that are good enough & that one should be proud of. It shouldn’t be a difficult question, assuming you are decent human being who has friends and family that love you. if that’s the case, it should be more of why? why do people flock to you, or like you? but deeper than that, does their reason for liking you match your own reason for liking yourself? If your friends tell you that like you because you are helpful, do you believe you are helpful? do you believe you hold that trait or do you believe it is only based on the fact you allow people to take advantage of you? Sometimes the traits others like about us, aren’t traits we necessarily agree with ourselves — it’s possible that the traits me hold that we enjoy are the ones that many people don’t see or happen to not take interest in, or perhaps are traits you hide in order to protect yourself. Regardless, I think this was a perfect first question, because I know this is an important question if I want to get to know myself on a deeper level. 

The first answer I had to this question is:

  1. The fact I can make anybody laugh without trying. It explains itself, but I have always had this inner self that enjoyed making others laugh. I was the class-clown throughout elementary, middle and high school — it was just who I was; silly, comical, sarcastic and very witty when it came to putting a smile on someone’s face (even if it meant I was embarrassing myself in order to do so) but now when I read this, I think of the many times, I was making people laugh on my own expense & it didn’t feel as good afterwards — It was like I was walking joke; how can someone take anyone seriously if all that do is crack jokes and act childishly? They can’t & I think that’s the con to this trait. Its being able to make someone laugh but not realizing that in the long run, laughing was also my way of hiding behind a mask to cover up my insecurities. If I wanted to feel comfortable in a setting, or wanted to fit in with people, it was my way of auditioning for the cool kid table, my way of proving my own worth to others. Basically sums up why, I still use laughing gigs in order to make me feel comfortable or at ease. My random thoughts, jokes, and bouts of sarcasm are hiding my social anxiety. It’s a wonder that when I tell people I have social anxiety, they always reply with “I wouldn’t have guessed”. While I love making people laugh, I also want people to take me seriously & I don’t want to continue to use it as a shield for my social anxiety, I want to utilize it as a trait that makes other people comfortable around me and not make me stand out as the standing joke. 
  2. That I am a good goal setter, and ambitious.  This trait alone is rarity these days because people become complacent when they are comfortable, but I always aim for much more than that for myself, because I see how far others have come to meet their goals & I decide that anything is possible after that, even if it means I have to put in more work. My ambition gives me drive and allows me to set goals, but when my ambition runs low, so does my motivation to set goals and achieve them. I have worked aimlessly to meet deadlines, to achieve great things within my life but the problem is when you are as ambitious as myself, you never see it as an accomplishment, only another step in the right direction. You wear yourself thin to the point where you either shut down, or give up, or become stressed out to the point of rage & it does you know good, but you feel as though you are always behind when really you made progress. I don’t know what progress is when I am embarking on a new goal or taking another leap forward, it never feels like an achievement in my eyes, it’s almost like I am moving in slow motion; light years away from the finish line. I love my ambitious personality and the fact I see better for myself, but it hinders me from seeing the overall scope of things, it brings the worst out of me when I don’t feel like I am being productive in my life, when I feel like I could be so much further but I am not, it hinders my mentality and gives me stress, overwhelms me and brings me down in a slump at the sight of how much more pavement I have left. It’s a curse and blessing.
  3. My ability to motivate myself. I don’t rely on the support of others to get me through the day, to have me start my daily routine, to give me the energy after work to attend the gym for a workout, to wake up out of bed after a break up.  I don’t like relying on other people for motivation because I have seen where people have let people down & the end result never ends well. I don’t need a cheerleader in order to hit a PR or a friend to attend the gym with me in order for me to feel obligated to go, I use my own intrinsic motivation to get me by because at the end of the day, that’s what works best. The problem with relying on yourself is the fact we are human and have bad days & when they happen, it’s hard to talk yourself out of the bad day.. so that’s when a friend/peer/family member would be a good asset. There have been days that I had wished I gotten a text or phone call or note telling me that I am doing awesome & to keep it up but because I don’t get that kind of support from anyone, I have to focus in on myself and use what’s most important to me to help me pick myself back up again if need be. It isn’t easy relying on your own motivation; but it makes you stronger and gives you a sense of independence. 

I want all of you to give this challenge a try and make a blog post — asking yourself this same question and answering it. I want you to tag me and or send me the blog post when finished so that I can read it & be apart of your personal self discovery. I think self discovery can be done in many different forms and takes time, & so, if you need a reason to do it, do it because you want to continue to grow and want to learn more about yourself. In fact I am doing both, keeping a private journal handwritten and sharing this journey with all of you on my blog. I hope if anything else, you can share your journey with me and feel open to talk to me about many depths of who you are. Thank you for reading & see you tomorrow for day 2. 

Shay-lon