365 Days of Self Discovery: Day 69

11.10.18

Are you a confident person or do you find yourself doubting your abilities?

  •  I am a little bit of both. I am confident but at the same time I find myself doubting myself and what I am capable of due to fear; fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of the unknown. Many times I start off confident but then my mind/thoughts get the best of me and I start second guessing myself. 
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365 Days of Self Discovery: Day 67

11.08.18

Do you cope well when faced with challenges?

  • I think coping takes me longer than others & I think I have gotten better at finding various ways to cope with certain challenges, but I still find that the process takes longer for me. 

365 Days of Self Discovery: Day 60

Do you have problems releasing your creative side? Why do you think this is?

  • Yes, I do have issues with releasing my creative side, I have my moments, but I don’t think of myself as very creative. Some of the reasoning might be that I am more logical when it comes to thinking (so maybe I use that half of the brain more or it’s my stronger suit) and while I don’t think I am 100 percent logical, I think it is quite possible that my creative side lacks my attention. However, I am musically aware, have a decent imagination, and intuition (which is all the creative half my mind) — so with that being said, I have my moment of creativity, but unlike others, it takes me awhile to put things together and make sense of the art. 

365 Days of Self Discovery: Day 47

10.19.18

What rules or standards do you live by?

  • I have a number of rules and standards that I try to live by the best way I know how. Some of which you may have heard of it and some you have not. All of these rules/standards can somewhat be summed up by my morals and belief system. While this may not be an all exclusive list, it is a decent amount. 
  1. “Treat the janitor with the same respect as you would the CEO” — this is something I was taught by my grandmother, and to be honest, I love this saying because we tend to treat people differently due to their status quo. The CEO puts his pants on the same way as either you or I. 
  2. Don’t allow someone to back you into a corner mentally, or physically & if they do, come out fighting. Basically what this means is, we can only manage to handle so much before we explode, we shouldn’t allow someone(s) to get us to the point where we just continue to take the hits they give us. If we don’t learn to stand up for ourselves than we will continue to allow someone to take advantage of us. Sometimes to come out swinging, means to STOP putting up with people’s crap. 
  3. Your body can handle the challenges that your mind thinks you can’t. The body can be pushed further than what the mind allows. Don’t allow your thinking to get the best of you. 
  4. Guilt can kill a man, therefore, make choices in which you won’t feel guilty about later & make them wisely. If you know a choice will cause you pain later, then maybe it is time to rethink your choice(s) so that you don’t have to live with this kind of guilt. Sometimes guilt plays on us without our control due to circumstances, but we have to learn to let go of it, and move on. We can’t move on properly if we live a life full of regrets. 
  5. Take risk because they can sometimes lead us to great opportunities. 
  6. Be a leader, not a boss. People don’t want to be told what to do, they want to be led by someone who will do the work with them. People don’t like being bossed around, they prefer to be asked & if you live your life trying to be a boss, you will earn less respect in the long run, but if you live your life as a leader, respect will gradually grow and with respect will come trust and a group of people who will stand alongside of you. 
  7. “Treat people the way you want to be treated”
  8. An open mind builds a bigger perspective. Living inside a closed box doesn’t allow you to see everything from different viewpoints. If you keep an open mind, you will see the world in many different perspectives and have respect for many different voices of reason. 
  9. Take accountability for your actions
  10. The type of people you surround yourself with, usually is a good indicator of the type of person you are
  11. “Close mouths don’t get fed”. If you don’t speak up, you won’t be heard
  12. Be yourself, those that like you will like you for who you are & those that don’t like you, won’t matter.

World Mental Health Awareness Day

Mental health awareness day

Today is Mental Health Awareness Day.

Coming from someone who suffers from a form of anxiety (social anxiety), a form of depression, BDD (body dysmorphic disorder), and OCD. I know first hand what it’s like to be in a dark place that is hard to get out of, or to not have the willpower to want to continue living because you feel worthless, useless, not fitting, and lost & it seems easier to give up and throw in the towel than to fight with your thoughts. Mental health is a REAL thing. It’s not fun to be the person that people think is weird because they don’t understand you or what you are going through. It’s a stigma that needs to be broken, it doesn’t matter your childhood, how in shape you are, your ethnicity or status quo among your peers, IT DOESN’T DISCRIMINATE. 

Mental health needs attention, it needs our help with breaking the cycle of judging a person based on their diagnosis. If you suffer from Mental Health, I want you to know: YOU ARE LOVED, WE DO CARE, and people are willing to help if you let them.  It’s not easy but don’t give up on yourself, because there are people like myself who won’t give up on you.

#BreakTheStigma 

365 Days of Self Discovery: Day 9

9.11.18

Do you worry too much? How can you deal with this?

In the previous post I mentioned how I worry quite a bit about different things and it stems from anxiety & brings about anxiety or a sense of feeling overwhelmed. I do believe I worry too much, and I don’t particular enjoy it. As of now, I have been taking part in meditation, but also, reading a good books has helped & music helps to get my thoughts out/ at the same time doesn’t quiet my brain when I am worried (so its a positive and negative) but for sure meditation & reading a book has been helpful, allows me to escape for a while and focus on being more at peace and calmness. I also believe my fear of losing routine or not finishing everything I planned for the day causes to me worry because then I have to think about when I can play catch up, so I don’t get too far behind. It’s a cycle, I am trying to teach myself that it is okay to go off the beaten path sometimes, and that we can only do what we can do, and not worry about what doesn’t get finished, because it will at some point. 

What helps you deal with being worried too much? or is this not an issue for you. Feel free to share in the comments, & make sure to follow, share and like!

Shay-lon

365 Day Self Discovery challenge — Day Three

9.05.18

Today’s question was somewhat like the first question but allows lead way with the answers, and due to the small amount of time I have to write this post, I am going to get right to the point & try to explain as I go. 

  1. I consider myself loyal, to those I love (friends, relationships, family) 
  2. Outgoing, willing to try new things & explore new places — new hobbies
  3. A good listener
  4. Inspiring/motivating, I love when I am able to push someone to do something they didn’t think was possible for themselves or had a lot of self doubt about; being their cheerleader. I have always been told I am an “inspiring” person.
  5. I’m personable, people tend to feel very comfortable around me, I am easy to talk to & it makes it easiest to make friends. 

For now I listed 5 , because I want to stay humble & not give too much away — I think these traits are good traits but come with their cons depending on your perspective. I challenge you to answer this question in the comments, or post about it & tag me or give it a thought in your private time and see what you come up with! Thanks for reading, looking forward to chatting with you all tomorrow! 

Shay-lon