365 Days of Self Discovery: your Wishes/dreams/hopes/future

4.12.19

Day 2

What is one thing you have always wished for?

  • Hmm, possibly love ( a healthy relationship) and some form of financial success. 
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365 Days of Self Discovery: Your Past

3.21.19

Day 14

What has been the most difficult time of your life?

  • Well, I have many difficult times, no worse than anyone else I am sure, but still difficult nonetheless. I’d say one of the most was when I was financially defeated, I was broke, literally living paycheck to paycheck, in college and outside of college, I was behind on credit card bills and hardly making payments, hardly making rent, I had no savings account (it got closed because it had no money in it for an extended period of time), I was getting bank overdraft fees constantly, I was maxed out on my credit cards (very high limits) and my debit card would sometimes get declined, so getting groceries was scary.. I mean I thought I was hitting rock bottom but after a while, it took a lot of sacrifices, etc but I made it through finally. 

Do you have a difficult time in your life that stands out? 

365 Days of Self Discovery: Your Past

3.17.19

Day 10

What mistakes have you learned from in the past?

  • How to make better financial decisions with credit card use
  • how important your credit score is when it comes to everyday life 
  • Not to allow family members to take advantage of you financially
  • Being happy with myself truly before involving myself in a long term relationship with someone else
  • Stand up for myself
  • Take risk instead of passing up opportunity due to fear 
  • Make more of an effort to keep in touch with loved ones and friends
  • Don’t do too much all at once — know your limits
  • Don’t change who you are in order for people to like you
  • Don’t be afraid to be honest about your feelings
  • Date someone who brings value to your life, instead of basing things off looks alone
  • There is nothing wrong with being single, no need to rush into a relationship
  • put yourself FIRST
  • Live below my means
  • listen to what someone has to say before deciding to react and then regretting it later
  • Walk away from relationships that hinder, scare, control or makes you feel less than your best
  • choose friends wisely and be cautious of whom you allow in your circle
  • Pray more often because you need help from a higher power more than you know
What are some lessons you have learned from mistakes you have made?

365 Days of Self Discovery: Your Past

3.11.19

Day 4

What is your biggest regret?

  • I have a few. I’ll be honest in saying the list is LONG and can’t decide which is worse at this point in my life. We all have made some mistakes in the past (even if you live with the saying, no regrets); you have made mistakes you aren’t proud of. I was young once — some would argue to say I am still young at 26 but I was naive and adventurous and wanted to live in my own world and listen to my own rules — maybe it was the wild side showing after so long of feeling as though I was sheltered from the “fun”. I don’t really want to go into all the regrets I have because some are kind of dark and more private than others, but I will mention that one of my regrets is applying for so many credit cards  — I mean I had like 6 and probably only needed one & I allowed the credit limits and my credit score get the best of me and made bad financial decisions that I am paying for now STILL! which is sad, because I didn’t see myself in credit card debit as my future, but it happened and now I have learned from this mistake. 
Do you have any regrets you want to share? 

365 days of self discovery: Day 49

10.21.18

What is your reaction when you don’t get what you want?

  • Quite a funny question, due to the fact, I like to assume we have all somewhat had this happen & maybe we weren’t happy about it, but I will assume none of through a tantrum? or did we? lol. Well, growing up in my household, my mom always made sure me and my brother had what we need and most of our wants/if not all; so I never knew what it was like to go without something — and when there would be that ONE time where I really wanted something because someone else had it, and my mom failed to get it for me, I just assumed it was because we couldn’t afford it at the time and would try my hardest to not allow it to bother me (but we know people start to ask questions and so sometimes my classmates or teammates would ask me why I don’t have it, or when I would get it) and I would just make up some kind of lie or rather just pretend I didn’t give a shit about it to want it. Sometimes it helped and sometimes it didn’t & to be honest, I only remember one time of that happening & my coach would then chime in and try to help pay for it (it was a team hoodie) and my mom just didn’t have the funds right away to get it for me, not to mention it wasn’t her only priority and my coach would then ask me about it and after finding out my mom’s reason for me not having it, I don’t remember if my coach helped to afford it or if my mom just ended up paying for it later on.. either way, that probably has been the only time. Regardless, as I got older, I was then taught in order to get something I wanted, I needed to earn it with either getting a job and making money or doing something around the house that was well worthy the prize. At first it was annoying (to be fair, I didn’t get my first job until I was 18) and it wasn’t like my chores were all that hard, I was just being a lazy teen. I was really living a life of luxury, my mom did our laundry and folded our clothes, etc, hell I didn’t have to do my first batch of laundry until I was like 21 or 22  I think? lol so I can’t really say my life was hard, it wasn’t. Anyways, after obtaining my first job, and having paid for something for the first time with my own money, it felt really good to say I could afford something I wanted and then on, I kind of got used to it UNTIL I quit my job by not showing up for work & my mom didn’t find out til like later on and yeah, so I have to say, I also didn’t particularly want to work but somewhere down the line I ended up getting another job and keeping it much longer. Now that I much older than I was, and don’t rely on my mom for finances; I have had to endure things that humbled me to the point where I had to make certain sacrifices in order to obtain something I wanted, and with those experiences came a better attitude and means of handling things when I don’t get what I want. Sometimes I will still get frustrated or upset depending on the situation but many times, I shrug it off and move on.  

365 days of self discovery: Day 42

How would you change the world?

  1. I’d make it a place where people could feel safe being who they are without feeling as though there will be consequences or judgement rendered (i.e prevent bullying, body shaming, make places more LGBTQ friendly and open minded, etc)
  2. I’d make treatment for diseases and health conditions more affordable so that everyone could afford treatment without worrying about debt, or losing everything they have (cancers, STDS/HIV, bone & heart conditions, etc) 
  3. I’d have wages match the cost of living everywhere so that people could better afford their living circumstances & it could cut down on homelessness and hunger
  4. I’d spread the importance of exercise and have health providers give fitness counceling to patients (cardiovascular test, muscular test, etc) cutting down on the deaths of inactivity and spreading awareness. 
  5. I’d make better suited laws against rape, molestation, sexual assault, domestic violence, so that families could get the justice they deserved and the victim could feel safe after their attack. 
  6. Pedophiles would not be released , they would be held accountable for the rest of their lives for the crime(s) they commit. 
  7. I’d make college education more affordable by either allowing one year free of tuition (undergrad students) or lessen the cost of education so that more people could afford to get their college education without sinking into debt by the time they graduate or worse, having to drop out because they can no longer afford their education. 
  8. I’d have schools better guarded so that when mass shootings erupt, the students can feel more at ease, and have a better plan of action for each school in case something like this does happen for all grades. 
  9. I’d pay actors and professional athletes less money (instead of millions) maybe I would make sure they still got paid for their talents but not paid to the point where they make more money than some other important professions, I think 6 digits would be comfortable and still be fair vs having some of these athletes & actors being paid millions per contract or commercial, etc. I want the pay structure to still compliment their talents and effort but not exceed a certain amount of money to keep things reasonable. 

These are just some of which I would change, I have a whole listful of things I would want to change that would hopefully be for the better and help many people. As for you, what would you want to change about the world?

365 days of self discovery: Day 41

10.13.18 

What are you looking forward to?

  • I suppose my future and what all it has in-store for me; specifically, having my personal training website finished and running, creating products (clothes, accessories, etc for my brand), my first powerlifting meet next year, writing my first book and having it published  — while also having my blog(s) be able to make $$ as a side profession as an established blogger/writer/ as well as being able to write for editors of magazines and websites (having my own column in something that will be seen by many readers). In a small dose, I am looking forward to whatever tomorrow brings, hopefully positive and full of love.