365 Days of Self Discovery: Your Relationships

6.03.19

Day 14

How do you deal with negative people?

I

  • Ignore them
  • change the subject during conversation
  • try to keep my distance
  • talk optimistically and/or positive around this person
  • cut them from my life
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365 Days of Self Discovery: Feelings & Emotions

2.04.19

Day 36

Do your emotions motivate you? Is this in a positive or negative way?

  • My emotions have motivated me in the past and sometimes still motivate me, I have allowed my emotions to get the best of me and had to suffer negative consequences due to my actions at the time but when my emotions are back up by determination, focus/drive, and serve as a purpose to humble me, or better myself — this ends up motivating me in a positive way. 
Are you the type of person whom allows their emotions to motivate them & does this work out in your favor, or no?

365 Days of Self Discovery: Feelings & Emotions

1.21.19

Day 22

How do you deal with negative comments?

  • To be honest, I don’t deal with them very well at all. Even when I am trying to “ignore” it, they still bother me. Mostly bothers me because normally I don’t do anything that would render someone to be nasty towards me, and while I am not perfect by any means, I don’t go out of my way to give someone a reason to be rude/mean/malicious towards me — especially since I try to be a positive, optimistic person for the most part. I have always been one to take things people say about me to heart and because I don’t enjoy confrontation, it is harder because I am having to ignore it when it still plays in my head. If I would learn to confront the issue more, I think it would not bother me as much. I had a blogger once tell me, “what other people think about you or say about you is none of your business” (something along those lines) and after reading this phrase, it definitely makes sense and helps somewhat to see the other side of things and really allows me to push forward in trying to not let it get to me. I dislike strongly negative comments towards me, because I know what it is like to be bullied and it sucks and it gets old and sometimes it just seems to weigh people down, so I take harshly to negative comments when the person has no reason to be that way towards another person. I am firm believer that everyone has a right to their own opinion, but like butts, everyone has one & sometimes it is best to keep certain comments to yourself. 
How do you handle negative comments? Have you found a way that works best for you, or do you struggle with this as well? 

365 Days of Self Discovery: Day 101

12.12.18

How do you feel outside of your comfort zone? Do you see this as a positive or negative thing?

  • Because of my anxiety, being outside of my comfort zone makes me nervous, heightens my fear/anxiety at first but with time and depending on the situation my anxiety will decrease and nerves will calm. I personally enjoy pushing myself to be outside of my comfort zone because I need it in order to test myself and force myself to do something new and take on new experiences. Anxiety can hinder someone from taking risk, hinder the person from exploring something new that could be something good, hinder the person from meeting someone new, etc & because of this reason alone, I have to push myself and force myself to step outside the box in order to gain more insight, take more risk, meet more people and explore new places. 

Some of you may or may not suffer from anxiety, regardless, how do you feel when you are outside of your comfort zone & do you see it as a positive or negative thing? Leave answers in the comments, and don’t forget to share, like & follow for more self post. 

365 days of self discovery: Day 24

Is there anything that has changed your outlook on life?

  • As humans, we will have good & bad days, and, I think sometimes our outlook on life can stem from circumstances and/or situations that arise within our lives that we can & cannot control. When I am having a terrible day, it’s so easy for me to be negative & think of life negatively, but when something good happens, in turn it’s like I feel as though life is all good in the neighborhood. At the end of the day, I always have to stop and think there is always someone who has it worse than me; this attitude alone has made me more grateful for the life I have — even when I feel as though it isn’t the best life. 

How do you feel about your outlook on life, is it good or bad & why. What made it so that your outlook is the way it is? leave comments, share, like & follow! 

Shay-lon

Pop (aka Soda) why it isn’t any good

Coca Cola, Cold Drink, Soft Drink, Coke

I will assume we have all come to terms with the fact that drinking pop (soda) is no good for you. Whether it be ‘dark’ or ‘light’ pop, diet or non diet, caffeine or no caffeine, pop just isn’t any good for you – but we still like it. For many people, it is their downfall in their health, it is something that might drink on a daily basis, or something they have with every meal & for others, they might think by drinking a diet pop or sprite instead of coke, they are much better off, but that starts to not matter if you don’t know how to control your intake of it (moderation). Everyone’s “moderation” will be different, because some people can cut it out as a whole and others will have to learn to cut down the amount consumed. For example if you are someone who drinks it daily and consumes about 5-10 on a daily basis, maybe your “moderation” is drink 2 daily instead of 5-10 or drink 5 per week.. who knows, but still it means cutting down. 

 

Another thing people need to understand is that cutting down pop for someone who loves it, and drinks it often is just as hard as taking a cigarette from a smoker or coffee from an avid coffee drinker, it takes time and discipline and a willingness. So before we go around telling people who drink this to “stop drinking it” or “you shouldn’t be drinking”, we need to remember this isn’t going to be an easy task for them. Typically when i have had past clients be honest and mention they drink pop often, I didn’t mention that it was “bad for them” or “they shouldn’t be drinking it”, because this is something they already knew and I didn’t tell them to “quit drinking pop” or to “give pop up and work on drinking more water”, because again they might not want to stop drinking it (people don’t like being told what to do), instead I changed my perspective and found a way that worked in order for them to see the health benefits from drinking less of it, or shared ideas to help them try different liquids in their diet – this didn’t mean they didn’t continue to drink it, this only meant I gave them options and helped them to see benefits that come from drinking less or none.. but if they chose to keep drinking it, then.. they knew the consequences of their results. 

 

The above information was just a disclosure, so that no one thought of this blog post as “JUST SAY NO” Act against pop, this is not what this is, this is an informative post to bring light on the negatives pop can have on the body and the mind honestly. Also, to add to this, I used to drink pop often, Sprite was my choice of pop ( I don’t really like dark pop) but I can tolerate it, I prefer lighter pop, now I don’t drink pop at all (rarely) .. it wasn’t too difficult for me, but it got harder every so often when I was craving it – but I found something better for me that I like just as well & don’t give thought to pop much at all these days. Now to the good stuff.. 

 

Pop – Why it isn’t any good for you

 
  1. It dehydrates the body, which means you end up more thirsty even after drinking it – which is some of the reason why people will drink more after they have had a glass because it doesn’t quench your thirst.. it just continues to make you more thirsty
  2. High sugar content – this is explanatory, this can lead to diabetes, insulin resistance, and extra weight gain from the sugar becoming fat
  3. Contains caffeine – studies have shown too much caffeine consumption can lead to other health issues
  4. Lack of nutrients
  5. Bad for the teeth – dentist say it can lead to plaque build up and gum disease
  6. Contains high frutose cough syrup- studies have said that it is has been associated with increased risk of heart disease and other health concerns
  7. Obesity- Drinking pop does not mean you will be obese but if you don’t have self control over the amount you drink and live a sedentary lifestyle, it can lead to obesity 
  8. Contains phosphoric Acid- This interferes with the body’s ability to absorb calcium, which can lead to osteoporosis, cavities, and bone softening
  9. The artificial sweeteners in diet pop are no better than the real sugars in non diet pop – Many of the artificial sweeteners have proven to do more harm than help – some of them being linked to different health problems. 
  10. Mentally- I have noticed the energy you may get from the pop last about maybe a hour.. and then you are back to being “gloomy”, lazy and probably have little momentum (feel sluggish). For those that drink it for energy or to wake up, the sugar will wear off and when it does, consuming more will do the same and it will become a cycle – someone told me they had to switch pop because Mountain Dew no longer gave them the kick they needed since their body was getting used to it. (This wasn’t during a study, this is just a reference to tell how this sugar works) 

Please feel to share, comment, like and follow. If you or anyone else you know loves pop, feel free to share what kind you drink, why you drink it and if you have noticed any negative signs from drinking too much of it. Thank you for reading. 

 

Your Fitness Blogger,

Shay-lon xxxx

Pre-judgement zone at the Gym

Your biggest eyes have been used to assume the worst in others” -Shay-lon Moss

Gym 1

So for the past couple of days or so, i have been trying really hard to post different topics on each blog site because I thought that was the “way to go” but then I realized, its probably not the best option because not everyone uses other blogging sites.  For those of you who do not already know this, I have a tumblr, wordpress and google blogger account and so I realized not everyone has each of these like I do so not everyone can see what I post if I post something different on all of them, I want to make it easier for all of you & make my new goal copying all my post from each site onto one another so that EVERYONE sees EVERYTHING. If you do have all three of these or 2/3 of these and follow me.. I will still try to make one of them more or less different if I can but I am focusing on making them all the same so no one misses out.  Below I will post what I posted yesterday on my google blogger & both of them are on tumblr as we speak.

“When one steps inside the gym, he looks to see who is watching”

 

Today I want to talk about “gym judgement”.  For those of you who may not have heard of this phrase it’s because I just made it up.  Gym judgement is when you assume why someone attends the gym, why someone has the body they have, making light of someones bad form but not helping them correct it, making light of your body when know its better than someone else’s, laughing at someone who doesn’t lift as much as you do, making sure eyes are on you when you workout because you want to show off and prejudging everyone in the gym. Guess why I am speaking on this particular topic? because it happens & I have witnessed it the past 3-4 days now at my gym. Now before someone decides to say “everybody passes gym judgement” , you are correct but not everyone does it the same way.  Gym judgement can also be a good thing when it’s used positively.  Which I will explain.

 

Negative gym judgement examples:

 
  • she has cellulite
  • she shouldn’t wear leggings while working out because her legs are flabby
  • who walks the treadmill? seriously.
  • grandma needs to stay home because she obviously can’t move worth a shit
  • this guy is only lifting ______ pounds.. what a joke
  • he/she has bad form, they shouldn’t use the machine if they can’t use it properly
  • he/she comes here everyday, but still manages to be fat
  • that chick is super skinny, she should probably gain some muscle.
  • omg, who wears that to a gym..
  • wearing clothes that show more skin than necessary
  • drawing attention to yourself because you know you “look good”
  • lifting more weight than necessary but not able to use correct form/technique

Now some of these are verbal and others are non verbal ques of gym judgement. It’s making a conscious decision to make light of other people’s flaws while they workout & to puff your head up while you workout to make others around you feel intimidated or uncomfortable.  Its become apparent to me, that three men at my gym have made it pretty clear they enjoy gym judging people.  Actually they say much worse about the people, then I stated above but I choose to not type those words out. Normally their victims are elderly, young girls, young guys, anyone who seems “weak”, “ugly”, or overweight or vulnerable. These three men don’t make light out loud of course but they say things where I can usually hear it if I am near them or enough to make the person walk away & ignore them.  Mind you these men are middle aged men, probably late 30s early 40s.. and its really ridiculous they come to the gym to workout and ridicule others.

 

Positive gym judgement example:

  • Helping someone fix their form/technique and explaining to them why
  • complimenting someone on how well they are doing
  • Taking the time to realize everyone goes to the gym for the same reasons: to workout
  • Wearing appropriate clothing that doesn’t have to show your assets to make a point
  • staying humble but confident enough to do your workout and feel good
  • lifting weight that you know you can lift without destroying your form/technique
  • learning from someone else how to do a certain exercise
  • talking to fellow gym members to understand their reasoning for wanting to workout
  • have a positive attitude
  • don’t compete to show off
  • keep your jokes about people’s appearance to yourself and do not make light of it.
  • ask yourself if that was your grandma would you want someone to talk to her like that? if that was your mom or sister or brother, would you want people to laugh at them?

Again these might not all be something you are interested in, but these are positive ways to attend a gym and get the most out of them. Some of the negatives are also another form of body shaming, and its sad because people want to come to the gym to improve, gain confidence, feel good, socialize, to “get away”, lose weight, gain muscle.  The gym can be someones safe haven but when people tear people down instead of uplifting them, it makes it harder for people to want to go.  I know females can be quite harsh toward other females; when it comes to body and appearance but it needs to stop because at some point you might hit an ultimate low point in your life and trust me you will not want someone to continually tear you down.

 

Maybe some of you may know someone who is negative when they attend the gym or people who make light of others flaws instead of helping them, maybe you are one of these types of people yourself.  We all judge people, I do know this, even I do on a daily basis. but when I pass judgement at the gym, most likely I also try to help that person or put myself in their shoes because I have no idea how that person may feel or handle it, not to mention I never want someone to ever feel uncomfortable around me or intimidated. As for the three men at the gym who seem to enjoy passing negative judgement toward others at the gym, I plan on saying something to them if I hear of it again.

 

All-in-all just be aware of your mindset when you attend a gym and see people of all body types and training levels, keep in mind some people may struggle and that’s when you help and show them the way or maybe find someone who can or just ignore it and focus on yourself if you don’t care. Either way, just make sure you keep your mind open and comments to yourself if you have to be negative.

Thank you for reading, comment, like, follow and share.

 

Sincerely,

Your blogger Shay-lon