365 days of self discovery: Day 52

Do you deal well with rejection?

  • Now, sure, I deal with it better; but I still have my moments when it is hard to deal with it. Rejection is hard to deal with, not something most people enjoy; including myself. Learning to be okay after being rejected can be hard at first, but teaching yourself that it doesn’t mean you aren’t good enough helps one to realize rejection isn’t always a bad thing. Sometimes rejection leads to one door opening after another has closed.

Do you deal with rejection well? or is there room for improvement. What makes dealing with rejection difficult for you? leave comments & share, follow and like.

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1 Year Job Anniversary

Yesterday was my one ONE year anniversary at the gym I am currently working at. Time flies when you least expect it and it doesn’t even feel like one year, I made this post in honor of the hard work I have done there but also in honor of the opportunities it has opened up to me along the way (big and small). I had always wanted to work at a gym, but was too nervous to apply for a job because at the time I wasn’t certified in personal training and felt as though I wouldn’t be good enough. Thankfully I took the dive and worked the front desk and got to know customers, made new friendships and even became close to the owner of the gym, which in the long run will be good for my resume and future pursuits. I am blessed that even though I wasn’t certified at the time, she allowed me to train clients and get the experience I needed so when it came time to train people once certified I would feel more comfortable. She believed in me, and that is what I appreciated most about this owner/boss, is the fact she believed in me and trusted me. 

 

I have dealt a great amount of responsibility since working at the gym — I close and open the gym on my own many times, I am trusted to train clients during my own schedule since becoming certified (I was certified by ACSM in April 2017) and she knows I get the job done when needed. I still work the front desk but I also train people when given the opportunity, and while I am still learning and still working on building my list of clients, I know if I had not made the plunge, I never would have opened this door in my life. While I do plan on moving at some point to a bigger city, this has lent me more experience to add to my resumes, and professional references to list. I love my job at the gym, I love coming to work and being part of this small team of employees. She has been the best boss anyone could ask for, one of my favorites to be honest and one of the most kindest and sincere people I’ve met. I have learned a lot about my boss through conversation, and I believe she has learned quite a lot about me as well. I have leaned some things about owning a gym through watching her interact with customers, and having asked questions to get a better understanding of how things work in a business point of view. I dream of one day possibly owning my own gym, and hopefully all the good qualities she has and the hard work she has put into her gym, I can take with me when it comes time for me to run my own business. 

 

I am so very thankful of this job – I work part time due to another job, but in working part time, it still has helped me financially recover and helped me to grow inside and outside in both my physical training and my social skills and my mentality as well. Sadly, she is looking to sell her gym after 10 years, for reasons I won’t go into — regardless of where things go from here on out with the gym, all I know is this 1 year has been one of the better experiences in my life. When it comes time to either shut the gym down or go under new ownership, it won’t be easy to adjust and it might take some time before it hits me hard enough to where I start to tear up a bit but it will be a chapter in my life that will forever hold a meaningful place in my heart. 

 

Thank you to all those at the gym who have pushed me to do better, who have been supportive, who have been more than gym goers, but like family to me. thank you to the owner/my boss for putting up with my stressful days and for being patient with me, for being kind, for trusting me, for allowing me to work for your company, for teaching me new things, allowing me to be myself at work and for granting me the opportunity of training clients with and without a certification. I am so very honored I had the chance to make this gym my second home 😀

 

Shay-lon 

Meeting Matt Wenning — Powerlifting Legend

I was nearly shitting myself at the thought of finally meeting Matt Wenning yesterday. I started the drive early in the morning and brought a friend along for moral support and help with my nerves & anxiety. I am pretty sure, the whole drive was nothing but seemingly loud music, frequent pee breaks, and eating food, oh and minor chit chat — that helped to raise my confidence… (mostly singing though, car karaoke, I love it). The drive only took about a hour and half – maybe hour and 40 min, Columbus isn’t too far from where I reside. 

My friend was FIRST to spot his gym, there were no signs; only reason someone would even know the building was a gym is if they had a GPS, and noticed the small wording on the door (which I had not noticed) — otherwise they would be driving up and down the road looking for it like I almost did. The outside appearance was that of an old building, nothing stylish, just an old building with street parking (minimal) and parking behind the building as well (minimal) but thankfully we were able to find parking. Not to mention, I don’t think his gym gets crowds like a Planet Fitness gym would — it is more of a gym for the experienced and invited and possibly for those who honestly get into contact with the dude; so if you are lucky, you probably would have had this opportunity. 

 

Before walking inside, I said a small prayer and took a deep breath, then took a photo — yes always taking photos so I can capture memories of my travels. Walked in, small room and no one present, but I could hear people in the next room, not many but some, I decided to stay in the empty room for a while to get a feel of the place, to change shoes, to mix aminos in with my water, to look around at some of the posters, and trophies, apparel, etc. I also took that time to talk out my nerves with my friend, and say a mini prayer once more. I literally took another 10 min, just farting around doing nothing productive, debating on when to walk into the other side of the gym and greet everyone. I found the right time when I looked at the clock and it read 10:45 am ( I was scheduled for 11am) guess this is it, all or nothing. I learn something today and hopefully give it my all. 

 

Walked to the other side of the gym through a new entrance and observed about 4 people talking and using some dumbbells. 2 females and 2 males. I don’t any of these people but NONE of them were Matt, I knew that for sure. I just found the area where everyone put their belongings and settled in, I didn’t do much nor speak with anyone outside of my friend, I just paced myself in a small area of the gym waiting for the dude of the hour to show up — he shows up 7 min later and I realize he is definitely in an amazing shape, big dude and smiled as he greeted me. I felt comfortable right then and there because I felt a good ora around him, no longer was I as scared as I was walking in, I was calm. He ask me the BIG question of the day: “what did you want help with?” ; if I am being honest, I I was quite sure how to go about answering it, but my reply “I want help in powerlifting, I am planning on competing this summer or late fall and I want help getting there, I want help with my lifts, I want help with being a powerlifter, and I willing to take whatever I learn today and utilize it”. Matt was smooth when he replies with “okay, let me introduce you to Brooke (a woman at the gym whom I assumed worked there) and she and myself will both watch you and we will start with the basics — I want to see your warm up in full, everything you do to warm up before lifting,I want to see”. I wasn’t prepared for this moment, me having to warm up in front of  a legend and someone I didn’t quite know; I knew my warm up methods weren’t horrible but that doesn’t mean they were good either or good enough. I did my whole warm up (the gym had maybe one treadmill or two, 4-5 racks maybe 6, and maybe two machines, resistance bands, benches, and plates. possibly DB’s but I didn’t observe well enough to see how many or the amount of weight. At the end of my warm up, we went straight into squats (back squats)

 

He had me do squats the way I normally do them, not to change anything, just do them (he also asked me my one RM) I did my high bar shoulder width apart squats (10 rep bar warm up), 10 lbs 10 reps warm up set and then TA DA .. started in on the heavier lifting. I was told to do 3 reps after adding weight so they can watch my form and movements — find my weaknesses and strengths. 

My weaknesses: hips, glutes and hamstrings (all in that order) hips being the most weak area. My strengths: back and quads  — during my squats. He said my quads are strong, real built but they carry all my weight and the rest of my lower body suffers because they are weaker and so when it comes to lifting heavier weights — my quads are doing all the work and in the long run that will cause injury or prevent me from lifting heavier. He started me on LOW bar. WIDE stance squats, because I will focus on hip, glute and hammie development, it will force me to use all my muscles together and make the drop to the ground shorter and refrain me from using only my quads. The goal for my squat is to use all the lower body muscles to develop that movement. My warm up for squats will include 12-15 min worth of 3 exercises done in a circuit with 4 x 25 each  (the exercises will be hip, glute and hamstring development since those are weak areas)

 

Low bar wider stance squats are something for me to get to used to, it was harder because I don’t do them and because I have weak areas and so used to just pushing through with my quads and back and ignoring my hips, glutes and hammies. I learned if I want to move weight and perform better, I will need to use this stance — and really strengthen my weaknesses. High bar shoulder width stance IS NOT BAD, is NOT WRONG , but it will make lifting heavier squat weight harder because I will have to go a lot further down (I am tall) so we want to make the lift shorter and easier for my height. He would understand this, because he is a tall dude himself. Deadlifts were next …

During this training, we did Sumo deadlifts — but he wants me to continue implementing both conventional and sumo. He wanted my lift during the pull — it wasn’t bad, I just had to note that I need to remember to “pull my shoulders back” before lifting, so that I am lifting straight up with the bar. Another noted thing is, I am going to have to start training deadlift and squat on the same days instead of separate like I have been (obviously one deadlift type with the squat, and another deadlift type with squat on another day) — the female trainer said “they believe in hard leg days”, so guess what? I am going to have to start having hard leg day sessions. LOL This isn’t a bummer, but just means more time at the gym.. I should be used to this; I practically live there. The warm up routine he has me doing for squats, I need to focus on the same weaknesses for my deadlift. Yay! easy enough. Moving on once more…

Bench press — MY WORST LIFT in my opinion, because it is not only my weakest lift but also the lift that hits plateaus the most, the lift that I have issues with most of the time and the lift that I have been screwing up on. I practically warned them that this would be something for the books because I already knew I had issues with this lift — but they both agreed to still watch me perform. I found out that my issues with the bench are: weak lats, weak triceps, and weak rear delts; BUT .. both my pecs and shoulders out power the rest of those other weaker muscles which makes my lifting harder for the bench. Again, being able to strengthen the weaker muscles so they can be utilized is important. Also, I need to get used to having my shoulders against the bench and not following the pull, my wrist need to be straight and not bend back (out of habit) and I need to use my legs with the heavier weights to help with my lifting as well with bench press. My warm up expectation is the same routine: 4 x 25, 12-15 min warm up, a circuit with three different exercises that hit each of my 3 weaknesses separately. Oh what fun!

I was told to stay away from isolated quad exercises and isolated anterior delt exercises — because I am strong in those areas in my body ( this will only be for the time being, we shall work on these areas of the body again at later date) so this means I will be focusing only on the weaker muscles and core lifting. I should be working out 4 x a week now, but if I want to implement a 5th day (like I have been), then I can make it an accessory day to work on weaker muscles and get a good pump. He didn’t recommend any specific days to do cardio, basically make my circuit warm up my cardio. 

By the time the session was finished up, he basically explained to me what he would like to see from me, what we will set up in the future with workouts (he gets back into town in May) so I won’t see him until then, how to go about warming up, what exercises to implement (examples), and encouraged me in way that let me know I can do this, I can be a good powerlifter, I have the potential. He even took pictures with me and we video taped everything 🙂 Overall it was a fun experience, one I am looking forward to in the future! Check out some of the pictures & video footage we took while at the gym: Meeting Matt Wenning

Thanks for reading and sorry for the long novel, I wanted to give everyone a glimpse into my world on Tuesday when I met this dude, because it is a once in a lifetime situation and we never know if we will have the same opportunity twice.

Shay-lon

Tomorrow’s opportunity

Hello readers, and bloggers; I apologize I haven’t been around for the past 3-4 days. I thought I was feeling better — but come to find out Thursday my body wasn’t having it and I quit my whole workout to go home and rest up .. it was hard, because I was quite frustrated and very pissed off (I wasn’t able to hit my new 1 Rep max squat Thursday) so I didn’t go home on a good note. Since then, my sore throat has gone, but now I have runny nose, nasal congestion, chest congestion, and every so often a cough. I have been spitting up nasty gooey stuff (mucus) — it’s gross looking but it has helped clear my throat & seems to slowly help with my chest congestion by spitting it up often. I have been paying much attention to the color and texture because obviously if it should progress or turn into blood or something; I will then make an appointment to see my medical doctor. For now liquids, rest and taking things slow at the gym. 

 

In other news,  tomorrow is a HUGE day for me because I will be going out of town to train with Matt Wenning (world record holder powerlifter,owns his own gym, has a Masters and bachelors degree, tactical trainer, etc.) and I don’t know what all to expect and especially with this cold I have — but I am excited and scared all at once. I know I will need a good night’s rest, eat something that will help fuel me, stay humble, hopefully soak in everything he shows/teaches me and work hard at whatever he has me doing tomorrow. Outside of those main things, I have no way of preparing for this moment. I plan on keeping all of you abreast on the session — because this is an awesome opportunity I have and I want to take full advantage of it and also, have something to share with all of you from it. 

 

If you aren’t sure who Matt Wenning is, you should find him on #instagram at @realmattwenning and do some google searches as well, you will be impressed. 

 

I have some Monday photos showing of my progress since being sick — gym progress

 

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Shay-lon 

2017 Blog Recap: My Pitfalls and Success!

thought I would take this time to reflect on my blogging career since first starting Dec. 2016. 

 

Once upon a time I was a beginner just like some of you new bloggers, I was searching for answers, perfection and followers. I owe my blogging to a professor whom gave me the idea and I took off with it – if it wasn’t for his guidance; I would have never found this passion & would have missed out on such amazing opportunities with my writing. 

 

He gave me the idea, but I had to come up with the answers, come up with the solutions, had to put forth the effort to see any success. In the beginning, I was restless, I was anxious, I was nervous and I was alone on this journey- while I had his continued support, I didn’t have the support of many others until my blog started taking off on its own (even then, the support was minimal). I struggled trying to find my voice within my writing, coming up with topics, making a routine, creating an actual blog and deciding which platforms to use. Google was both my friend and nemesis because while it was helpful; it wasn’t enough. Soon, I had to put forth all my efforts with contacting veteran bloggers with questions, concerns, and had to read blog after blog after blog in order to find my own wings. 2016 was tough to say the least and 2017 had its patches as well. 

 

In year 2017, I had great days where my stats were glowing and showering with new views and followers – I was hitting top success, BUT towards the middle & end of 2017 my blog was coming to a slow end ( I was writing less entries, views were low, my following was slow and my online presence was dwindling) getting lost in all the saturated fitness and health blogs— I struggled to stand out. My blog helped to get me sponsored as an athlete, it helped me be able to have a chance in writing for editors of very popular magazines (Muscle and Fitness magazine) and it gave me opportunities to write for online sources both paid and unpaid opportunities all the while it was tumbling down a downward slope.. 

 

I love my blog, and even though it isn’t at its BIGGEST success as of yet, I hope that 2018 will be the year it shines its brightest. In fact, I plan on putting in more work on this blog (and my other blog) than I have in the past couple of years of writing because I have HUGE dreams to fulfill and HUGE ideas that are possible and with the right amount of time and dedication, I know I can turn my blog into a HUGE success. A blog that will blow the minds of those who doubted me. In the meantime I plan on taking this blog to new heights, but still keeping it simple & still keeping it true to myself – always. 

 

I have seen my pitfalls and my triumphs within my writing – and 2018 will still have pitfalls and triumphs, it will just be a new year of showing continued growth. Many people consider me a successful blogger/writer in the fitness industry, but I don’t consider myself as such because the most successful of them are the ones who you remember the most, you read the most, you follow, you feel inspired by and have learned something from that has significantly played a part in your life, you subbed to their blog because you never want to miss a moment or story; you didn’t leave their side during bad months of writing and you weren’t just a follower of their’s- but somebody they knew and had grown to connect with. I want that. I want all of those things when people visit my blog. 

 

I appreciate all of you for being here to read this, It means a lot to me that I am ending 2017 on a positive note. Have a wonderful NEW YEARS 2018 🙂

 

Shay-lon Moss

Life Happens- More often than NOT.

The day’s go by so fast..

 

Thank you for your continued patience!

 The days have been going by fast lately here in Ohio and so I have been lacking in the blog department a small bit where some of you may have noticed (or now you notice because I told you) lol. That is my fault, I used to be blogging daily, and always commenting and replying back within hours , but now, my schedule has changed some days and I am spending more time studying – Thanksgiving is on its way & my social life has seemingly picked back up since meeting new friends. All of these excuses I listed are taking away time from my blog and so you have seen less post and if you do read them, the quality has been so-so & I totally take the blame for that and that is something I will get back on the right path because good quality articles are important, especially in my situation. 

 

The last thing I want to do is quit the blog or take a long break because I know this blog has done so much good, but I also have realized my reality sometimes doesn’t allow me to blog when I want to, so if it seems like I am skipping days, or weeks – do know this isn’t intentional and no, I am not quitting or ignoring your post/comments, all it means is life has a got a hold of me and I am trying. 

 

With all this being said, some good news.. 

 

I have had a PR of an online website/magazine get in contact with me out of the blue about writing an article for them, so hopefully if all works out, I might be doing that, it has been awhile since I have done an article for someone else. 

 

Secondly, I am looking for guest bloggers who can talk about: Yoga, meditation, and prepping for a marathon. You can choose out of the three which one you are comfortable with because I will want 3 different people anyways. Basically if you are interested in doing a guest post about any one of those three topics, send me an email Shay.moss19@gmail.com and let me know. I will discuss the details with you via email and we will go from there. There will be other opportunities for guest posting on my blog so don’t get hung up if none of these topics are up your alley, because I have over 100 topics written down that I do and ones that will be from someone else, so just keep a look out 🙂  Hope all of you have a wonderful Tuesday! Catch up soon!

 

Shay-lon 

5,000 Blog Subscribers!

Hey Bloggers! HUGE ANNOUNCEMENT!

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I have OFFICIALLY made it to 5,000 subscribers on this blog! 

what does it mean? It means over 5,000 people signed up on my blog to have notifications sent to their email whenever I post something new. I made this my goal in hopes I would hit it before the beginning of next year & some days have been really hard because my traffic slows down or  I miss days blogging due to other obligations and so it makes me feel really good that through all the crappy days this blog has encountered that something like this would happen. I appreciate all of you who enjoy my content, and enjoy sharing feedback in the comments – I about cried when I had seen this , because there are so many fitness/health blogs, and YouTubers and so it becomes saturated and standing out becomes harder and harder, seemingly impossible at times. What makes my blog unique is I use my own “voice” when writing, My content doesn’t tell you how to live your life but it gives you ideas and information, it doesn’t matter your fitness level or where you are in your journey, it is always helpful. I like to think that what makes my blog stand out is I use my brand Fitness WonderWoman to catch your attention, and make you ask yourself, what makes her the “wonderwoman of fitness” – this is my brand and trademark and I use it for my career and my blog and YouTube, etc & people love it and grab on to it because it makes them feel like they can trust me and you can. 

Having this many people care about my blog and what I have to say, is SUPER AMAZING and unbelievable! Honestly unbelievable! I am so blessed and happy beyond belief and I am so happy that I made some awesome blog friends who have been more than supportive and helpful, and have driven me to aim high and keep going. I just want to end this with, I love you bloggers and I want all of us to excel together no matter your niche! keep going, aim high and soar! xoxo 

Fitness WonderWoman,

Shay-lon xo