Good news with a cherry on top

If you are on my Facebook, you probably already know the good news… 

 

But many of you are not, so I have some positive news to share with my fellow readers .. 

 

Today was an overall good day, after my workout this morning, I had to train a client and then I had to work the front counter til 8pm at the gym but many things happened today that made me smile and many things have happened since today, that have enlightened my life since working at the gym and also since meeting new people and making new friendships, so I will share what I shared on FB with all of you. 

 
 
  1. Trained my client this afternoon and just love her as a person, she just has a wonderful heart and does so well 😀
  2. I had someone from the gym tonight bring me tamales, the sweetest and both of her sons are just so awesome.. the one hugged me and I always feel like family to them. I so appreciate it ❤
  3. I might have some new clients to train, possibly a couple… and that’s exciting because they seem eager and I hope if anything, I hope can raise their self esteem and give them something to look forward to when they arrive in the gym regardless if I’m their trainer or not… I always aim to build people up.. because I want people to feel like they belong and feel good about themselves because I know the feeling of low self esteem and wanting to give up and I hope everyone I train and help I make them feel empowered and cared about. I always tell people I believe in them, because if nobody else does, I want them to know I do! 
  4. I’ve made some great friendships and people who have been amazing toward me in and out of the gym, just your hello and a high five puts a smile on my face and I love you guys. I appreciate those who have always encouraged me in my lifting and encouraged me to be my best self, thank you
  5. the awesome instructor and a few ladies invited me out in the next few weeks for my birthday and I just feel like it definitely means something, I appreciate them
  6. I tell ya, this dentist who comes into my gym, he is so funny and just down to earth and humble. His conversations have always been a learning experience and something to look forward to, I love it.
  7. I talk too much and never get out of the gym on time, lol

I also want to thank all of you who take the time to follow, read and share my blog among your peers, whom have taken the time to leave comments and share conversations with me on social media. I have been blogging for a little over 2 years now and it feels like a lifetime because I have met some wonderful and skillful bloggers — people who have transformed since day one of following them and have seen me transform since day one of following me. To watch your growth as writers has been an absolute honor and I look forward to many more years of watching and being apart of your experience. Blogging has become second nature to me, a second full time hobby and job, I take it seriously and share my life (good and bad) with all of you because I want to be real and want to show my own growth, my own stumbles and my own get up moments. As bloggers, it gets easy getting caught up in the stats and wanting to have the most viewers and followers, etc. & that stuff is all fine and dandy, but for me, it means more when I develop relationships/bonds with people who read my content. I have fallen behind on post, have made changes to the blog, and have fallen short on quality of post at times, but it never ceases to amaze me how many of you continue to be there no matter. I appreciate all of you and wish all of you the best with your continued writing and may we continue to build friendships and share laughs with one another for the next many years ahead of us ❤ 

—– Shay- lon 

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Building a positive social circle

I plan on getting back to the podcast soon that I created (been away from it for 3 months) and so to keep things fresh, I will probably do the Tips Tuesday — and gradually get back into things, don’t want to overwhelm myself with too much because of all the extra stuff I am now taking on. With this being said, I created this tip months ago, and I figured it is very important — something we should all aim for & that is:

 

Building a positive social circle.

 

What this means, is choosing to surround yourself with people who help to build you, motivate you, encourage you, and support you. We all have had people in our circle at one point who seemed like the debbie downer or the one that constantly complains about life and all the downs but never sees any positive things from it — but maybe some of us have been the negative one in our own circle (if this is true, change your outlook .. in order to gain the positive circle you seek). This is excluding those of us with mental illnesses that might play a part in our mindset, but even so with that illness, finding people who appreciate you and give you hope and have a concern for you and your life as much as you have for them is a start in the right direction. 

 

I am not perfect by any means, but since growing up and becoming more mature and making better adult decisions, I have gotten better at being alone until I meet people who have a good impact in my life instead of being friends and accepting everyone in my circle — I had to learn to be more picky because I get discouraged easy and I deal with my own demons and having a negative person who constantly brings me down, only creates more issues in the long term for me. Something we have to learn to do, is be picky as to who we allow in our lives and who we allow to impact our lives. Down below I list some ways to build a positive social circle:

 
 
  1. Be PICKY! Don’t allow anyone in, make sound decisions. Not everyone needs to be your friend
  2. Change your outlook/attitude about yourself – when you have a more positive outlook on yourself, people tend to gravitate towards you and in turn you make more relationships that are good relationships
  3. Respect people- Respect goes a long way in life, if you can respect others, normally it means they will have mutual respect for you
  4. Be open minded: Open minded individuals tend to see within a person vs the outer layer, they want a deeper connection with someone and in turn you truly start to build a stronger bond
  5. Compliment someone: Giving someone a reason to smile can make a difference — people will feel appreciated & it can make your day knowing you made someone else’s day. People enjoy compliments, truths about themselves that maybe they don’t see within them, but hearing it from someone else gives them a reason to continue being awesome! A simple compliment can carry a lot of weight
  6. Don’t be self absorbed: I always say there is nothing wrong with taking care of yourself BUT you don’t want your circle to get tired of learning about you, when you become self absorbed everything revolves around you and that shows others that you don’t have their best interest in mind. I will just add that, being self absorbed can lead to bad relationships because everybody wants a chance to shine and when you take someone’s limelight to shine back on yourself, it comes off as arrogant. 
  7. Confidence is needed: Confidence is a necessity because people feed off someone who is confident with who they are, you need to carry yourself like you are proud of being alive, proud of who you are and proud of where you came from because it is what makes you, you! You might have a bad past but it doesn’t mean you are bad person, and you might have flaws but flaws don’t make you less of a person. 
  8. Think before you speak: We get in a habit with saying whatever is on our minds, which isn’t always bad, but it can lead to bad outcomes if we don’t think about how to go about things. If you keep other people’s feelings in mind, then you will have better outcomes, telling the truth isn’t bad but its how you say it that can make the whole difference. Take others into consideration before speaking too much of your mind. 
  9. Don’t be “two faced”: We all know what it means to be two faced “someone who smiles in your face but will talk behind your back when you leave” , yes, that’s very dishonest, rude and immature. Grow up, if you want people in your circle who are positive, don’t make it hard on yourself by giving them a reason to not trust you or like you. 
  10. Find people with similar hobbies: It can pay off when you acquaint yourself with those who share the same interest and hobbies as you, this makes life a little easier but don’t disregard those who are opposite because many times they can give us new experiences and allow us to step outside our comfort level. 
  11. Be true to SELF: Be real, be authentic, and be yourself. Changing for others will either end badly or last for a short period of time because you will run into all walks of life and having to shift who you are for each person will get tiring — change is good if it makes you into a better person and develops you mentally and physically and spiritually but when it becomes a change in order to “fit in” with people or groups of people, it drains you, overwhelms you, and reduces your chances of making deeper connections with people. Not everyone will like you, but those who do like you, will be worth it because they will see the best in you — 
 

Building a circle isn’t about being “popular” and most liked, it is about building a meaningful bond with people who take the time to build that same bond with you. Building a positive circle isn’t about having to smile and be happy everyday, it’s about building a circle that allows for bad days but doesn’t dwell on them — Shay-lon Moss 

 

A circle can be small (2-3 close friends) or a bigger circle (5-10 friends), or your family members — it doesn’t matter how big or small it is, it’s a circle that has your back no matter how deep the water gets; they motivate, support, and uplift you– they give you truths but don’t slam you with bad vibes — Shay-lon Moss

 

Have something you want to add to this list, feel free to leave in the comment section! 

The Arnold Classic 2018 Moments

So those of you who didn’t already know, I attended the Arnold Classic Fitness Expo March 2nd – March 4th. I thought I would let everyone in on some pictures and news 😀 

 

This was my second year going, the whole weekend was fun and something to remember, I met many, many, fitness industry celebrities, went to parties, got some supplements and samples and bought me a pair of versa gripps — the most meaningful moments were spending that time with a circle of friends. I stayed in Columbus, Ohio all weekend during the event. Parking was critical Saturday because it was 2X busier on Saturday than it was Friday. Friday I paid 10 dollars for parking and Saturday I paid 20 dollars— ugh! also, the weather was cold but decent sunshine so if walking in the cold wasn’t your thing, then you either needed to arrive extremely early or live in the area to get a close parking spot near the convention. 

 

I could definitely tell in the last few years, the Arnold Classic has grown in size as far as attendees, which makes it really difficult to get through lines, avoid being pushed or knocked over & I definitely would say that bringing small children would not be in your best interest because of how busy the convention is all weekend. It doesn’t allow strollers, which is a GOOD thing because could you imagine being ran over by a stroller, it hurts! Also, it did seem people with wheelchairs attended but it was difficult for them because they not only had to avoid running people over, but people were constantly pushed up against their wheelchairs. These are things one should expect if you are a newbie and things most people are prepared for if they have attended previous years. I think the easiest way to go about this weekend is to have a list of pros and cons of my experience 🙂

 

Pros

 
  • You get free samples of pre-workout
  • you meet fitness industry athletes and celebrities you might not normally meet in everyday life
  • They have performances in powerlifting, bodybuilding and CrossFit (women’s and mens)
  • They had fencing, cheerleading events, body painting events, american ninja warrior
  • you could participate in events (events that companies allowed general population to compete in)
  • They had a food court within the convention if you didn’t want to leave the site
  • you could carry in bags and backpacks but they were always checked at the door
  • You are able to use cash or credit for event or order tickets in advanced
  • There was NO line having to get into the building
  • There were elevators, esculators and stairs accessible 
  • variety of booths that offered apparel, supplements or games
  • everything is usually cheaper (weightbelts, chalk, etc) at the arnold classic 
  • taking a picture with the Arnold statue 😛
  • could watch pre-judging for bodybuilding events
  • the convention is downtown Columbus, so it is surrounded by many restaurants and hotels, stores
  • There were police present outside to give help to those crossing the street and officers inside the convention 
  • there was an information booth and directory if one gets lost
  • You don’t have to be fit to attend, it is an event for any walk of life
  • tons of entertainment within the convention
  • parking near the convention and off the main street
  • You were able to reserve parking 
  • tons of walking, so great for exercise
  • handicapped accessible
  • You get to see Arnold S, if you are lucky.. he speaks to you and you can get a picture of him walking the convention/expo

/There were other pro’s to be listed about the event, but this was small taste of what it was like

 

Cons

  • Bathrooms were difficult to find at times within the convention center. 
  • some of the bathrooms were small, so having to wait to use the bathroom
  • the amount of people could make someone claustrophobic 
  • no strollers allowed (which sucks if you have a child who needs one, but it is a good thing because they wouldn’t be safe to bring in the expo)
  • LONG LINES FOR EVERYTHING AND ANYTHING! 
  • easy to spend tons of money at this event, so have a budget set for yourself if you are trying to save money
  • parking further away from the event can be hard on those who have issues walking or don’t enjoy walking in cold air
  • the food court didn’t offer healthier options .. except for maybe one place
  • the food court restaurants were pricey
  • people drive horrible in Columbus, be prepared to go fast and to be cut off multiple times
  • people cut people in lines at the event (sometimes) so pay attention to who is in front of you so you don’t have people try to cut 
  • some of the fitness industry athletes were walking around in the expo — which meant it was harder to get to them because normally a crowd would form and make it harder to get a picture or video
  • The Wi-fi service was 80 dollars if you wanted to use it (each day)
  • the service within the convention was HORRIBLE! 
  • some of the athletes can be assholes or rude — thankfully the ones I met were down to earth and willing to talk to you
  • some people were rude because they would knowingly take up 20 minutes of the athlete’s time while holding up a long ass line. 
  • If you have low self esteem, this convention can be overwhelming because tons of people are in shape and have very little clothing on (revealing their quads, abs, backs, etc) and so if this bothers you… it might not be your cup of tea. However if you enjoy seeing other people’s progress and physiques, then you will enjoy it. 
  • If you smoke, you cannot smoke inside the convention or expo (which in my opinion is a good thing) but for smokers would be a bad thing

That was some of the cons of the event, obviously there might have been more but this gives ya an inside look. 

 

I personally enjoyed myself and had tons of fun, I won some things, got amazing products and have learned so much about others within our industry. I have pictures and videos I will posting from the event all week.. so stay in touch with my Instagram — FitnessWonderwoman

& make sure to follow me on Twitter as well for updates — https://twitter.com/ShayM_Fitness

 

Let me know if you attended this event this year in the comments! 

 

Fitness WonderWoman,

Shay-lon 

Martin Luther King Day

Happy Martin Luther King Day

 

I don’t think I will need to write a whole paragraph on why Martin Luther King Day is important to me, because if you have history books or pay attention to our history and care about our culture, then it would be obvious how he played an important part in our lives- even til this day. Some of you may not recognize him as an important model in our history but the man was, and he deserves respect for being able to endure the kind of hatred, violence, and racism that many of us have never came close to having to endure in own life time. For those of you who are not aware, my family is very mult-racial and back in his time that would be considered highly UNACCEPTABLE, that would be something to get a black women or black man killed, and put a white man or his family in danger of even thinking about wanting to get with my race. It was tough times back them and even though racism still thrives during this time, we have still come a lot further than we used to be. 

 

I live in a predominantly white town (mostly upper class) citizens and I have lived here all my life besides the 7 years I was living in different states. I have had to endure racism and ignorance growing up until my adult age now, just in this town alone and from my own race and also other races. It is scary to think that someone can hate you for the skin you are in, but if anyone has ever had someone make light of their differences due to color, it hurts because you don’t understand how one can make you feel inferior for something you didn’t choose but was born this way. I have a very strong family history, that I never realized until my adult years, because I didn’t really care as a teen or child — but now I see the steps my grandparents and great grandparents took to help me pave my own way in my own life and be proud of who I am no matter what others may think. 

 

Some of the things my family is known for doing is creating a street sign that says “Martin Luther King Blvd” in my town, of course it had to be approved by the state and city and of course it took some fighting I would assume, but because of them, in his honor they had it approved and still is a street sign for a bridge we have here in town. I consider that amazing, to be honest. We also built a library about black history for young people who need more information on our culture and history, I’d say that is a huge deal considering not many school’s history books hit every little detail. No offense. My family built that, in a town where the minority (which is me) is seriously a minority .. but I give them respect because I am sure someone hated to see it there, hated to know it was built on black culture, but guess what? it still stands! There are some other things they are known for, but what I am trying to get at is, because of them being proud of who they are no matter who was fighting against them, they were able to stay strong and do things that might have small meaning to most but for some of us, meant a whole lot.. ❤

 

I hope all of you have a wonderful Martin Luther King Day! 

 

Shay-lon 

My dream is to live in a world where being different is okay, not something we have to continue to fight for.. not something we have to be scared of, and not something that forces you to have insecurities. 

Whole Foods VS Walmart

I figured this would be a fun little discussion between two grocery stores. The reason why I chose these two is because: 1) whole foods is known to be one of the better stores to have healthier options, 2.) most people know what a “Walmart” is and it is another grocery store that is popular among Americans. Both of these grocery stores have pros and cons and some of you might shop at one or the other or both depending on your needs and finances. 

 

My town does not have a Whole Foods store, but we do have a Walmart – two of them. I don’t particularly like shopping at Walmart because of it being constantly busy, sometimes the people piss me off (this is just honesty) and I live closer to a Kroger store but I will shop there for my feminine products and minor grocery depending on what it is. When I resided in Colorado Springs (I now reside in Ohio) I would go to Whole foods just for the burritos they made, so good! yum! but never actually shopped at a Whole Foods Store. The closest Whole foods to me would be about a hour or so away, so not too bad. 

 

Keep in mind this blog topic isn’t meant to make one out to be BETTER than the other – but to give perspective and start an engaging conversation as to why you shop at one or the other, or both! Maybe you don’t shop at either one of these stores, and if that is the case, share what store you prefer and why! This will be from my own perspective/data and also from research! 

 
 

Walmart:

Pros:

 
  1. They pride themselves with “Always low prices”
  2. Price matching
  3. newspaper ads, online presence
  4. During the holidays some of them offer layaway
  5. You can buy food, clothing, electronics, furniture, misc, household cleaning supplies, etc – in other words, ONE STOP SHOP! 
  6. they typically have restaurants inside them, so if you get hungry
  7. Their locations are vast
  8. huge employer
  9. most have a vision place to get exams, eyeglasses, contacts
  10. most offer a tire/lube place to have your vehicles tires replaced or oil change
  11. instore pick up or ship to home option
  12. Some might add the entertainment value (all sorts of society shop at Walmart) for a while there was a site or YouTube channel called the “people of Walmart”
  13. offers a credit card
  14. Typically attracts other businesses when a new Walmart comes to town
  15. Self check out option
  16. They accept EBT, debit/credit, checks, cash, Walmart gift cards, etc as a form of payment
  17. Typically open 24 hours
  18. Great Value brands for cheaper prices
  19. Gives towards charity
  20. They bake cakes for special occasions

Cons:

  1. Typically has one or two registers open – so either have to use the self check out or wait in long lines 
  2. Whenever I have gone to a Walmart and needed help finding a particular product, 95 percent of the time the employee didn’t even know what it was, didn’t know where it was located within the store
  3. I have found where they mark something down on a tag and it is the same price as the regular price
  4. I am not a huge fan of their produce area 
  5. I have been told the pay rate sucks as an employee there (depending on where you live)
  6. Their pricing of clothing isn’t that much cheaper than shopping someplace else with better quality (in my opinion where I reside)
  7. The cashiers always seem in a sad or bad mood whenever I’ve been there. lol I have had some rude ones too! 
  8. I don’t like their quality of beef or chicken 
  9. Sometimes the great value price is higher than the name brand
  10. People drive like maniacs through their parking lot — this is just from my own experience 
  11. It’s a huge store, many times you have to go from one end to the other to get everything you need – so if you are ever in a rush for time, this is probably not your go to

Now this whole pro and con list is again from my experience and different research I’ve done, be sure to add your own opinions to either list! 

 

Whole Foods

Pros:

  1. Good for college students who are need of a job (research says many college students work here to earn extra income)
  2. Supposedly great medical insurance 
  3. Quality products 
  4. Most if not all of them offer a salad bar, food kitchen area to have food made out for you to go or stay and eat
  5. surrounded by people who like eating healthier food options
  6. Educates people on healthy eating
  7. Variety of food products
  8. All meat sources at Whole foods is said to be raised without hormones or antibiotics 
  9. Gluten free food selection
  10. Typically more local foods found here
  11. They care about the environment
  12. By 2018 they are supposedly going to commit to GMO labeling on all their products
  13. Quality standards for both farm and wild caught seafood
  14. offers coupons
  15. online recipes on their site
  16. able to shop online
  17. offer flyers
 

Cons:

  1. Not a one stop shop
  2. tends to be more expensive
  3. Located in bigger cities vs smaller communities (typically)
  4. spending more and bringing home less groceries (a reviewer said)
  5. Some people prefer trader Joes over whole foods.
  6. Bigger stores – again can make it harder to navigate
  7. Have been reported they sometimes make it hard to tell the prices of things on their shelves

Again, Whole foods list of pros and cons came from my own experience and other reviews I had seen online. Feel free to add to either list your opinions! 

 

I hope all of you enjoyed this fun topic between the two stores! the MOST IMPORTANT PART OF CHOOSING A GROCERY STORE is choosing one that fits your needs and budget! 🙂

 

Fitness WonderWoman,

Shay-lon 

 
 

Journey to health collab|Week 8|Relationships

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CO_T7DyQ9n8

This week we answer “Relationships, how has this changed for you” 

 

I failed to mention some things in this video, that I want to add now:

Along with having people in my life compliment my physique and overall progress, I have made new friendships because of this “health journey”, like-minded individuals who also love to lift and fitness. More so, I have taught myself to be more patient with my results, to accept some of the many flaws I see when I look in the mirror. My relationships prior to this particular progress in my body weren’t horrible to begin with so, I assumed most people would still be supportive even after. Thankfully, everyone in my circle has shown me kindness and love, both online and offline. 

 

Fitness WonderWoman,

Shay-lon xo

Happy Fourth Of July 2017

Fireworks, Independence Day, Celebration

Have a wonderful Independence Day Bloggers!