365 Days of Self Discovery: Day 47

10.19.18

What rules or standards do you live by?

  • I have a number of rules and standards that I try to live by the best way I know how. Some of which you may have heard of it and some you have not. All of these rules/standards can somewhat be summed up by my morals and belief system. While this may not be an all exclusive list, it is a decent amount. 
  1. “Treat the janitor with the same respect as you would the CEO” — this is something I was taught by my grandmother, and to be honest, I love this saying because we tend to treat people differently due to their status quo. The CEO puts his pants on the same way as either you or I. 
  2. Don’t allow someone to back you into a corner mentally, or physically & if they do, come out fighting. Basically what this means is, we can only manage to handle so much before we explode, we shouldn’t allow someone(s) to get us to the point where we just continue to take the hits they give us. If we don’t learn to stand up for ourselves than we will continue to allow someone to take advantage of us. Sometimes to come out swinging, means to STOP putting up with people’s crap. 
  3. Your body can handle the challenges that your mind thinks you can’t. The body can be pushed further than what the mind allows. Don’t allow your thinking to get the best of you. 
  4. Guilt can kill a man, therefore, make choices in which you won’t feel guilty about later & make them wisely. If you know a choice will cause you pain later, then maybe it is time to rethink your choice(s) so that you don’t have to live with this kind of guilt. Sometimes guilt plays on us without our control due to circumstances, but we have to learn to let go of it, and move on. We can’t move on properly if we live a life full of regrets. 
  5. Take risk because they can sometimes lead us to great opportunities. 
  6. Be a leader, not a boss. People don’t want to be told what to do, they want to be led by someone who will do the work with them. People don’t like being bossed around, they prefer to be asked & if you live your life trying to be a boss, you will earn less respect in the long run, but if you live your life as a leader, respect will gradually grow and with respect will come trust and a group of people who will stand alongside of you. 
  7. “Treat people the way you want to be treated”
  8. An open mind builds a bigger perspective. Living inside a closed box doesn’t allow you to see everything from different viewpoints. If you keep an open mind, you will see the world in many different perspectives and have respect for many different voices of reason. 
  9. Take accountability for your actions
  10. The type of people you surround yourself with, usually is a good indicator of the type of person you are
  11. “Close mouths don’t get fed”. If you don’t speak up, you won’t be heard
  12. Be yourself, those that like you will like you for who you are & those that don’t like you, won’t matter.
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365 days of Self Discovery: Day 46

10.18.18

What is the best gift somebody could give you?

  • Food, LOL. JK, but seriously I would have to say, making themselves apart of my life in a positive way for a long period of time. The gift of time is a beautiful thing, so when people make me apart of their life, they are also giving me their time (and time is something we don’t always have enough of, or know when it will come to an end) so when someone gives me their time, their presence in a positive way, I believe it is a true gift.

365 days of self discovery: Day 43

10.15.18

What have you recently learned about yourself?

  • I have learned that I don’t tolerate people’s drama and bullcrap — whereas before I would be afraid to have some form of confrontation with an individual due to them either bringing some form of drama to my life, or having something negative to say about me, but I have learned since then that I am capable of handling myself if need be in situations & that I don’t have to put up with people treating me like crap. I have also learned that I am capable of ignoring people if I find the problem is not worthy of a reaction, I don’t particularly love ignoring it, but I will if I feel as though it is a waste of my time otherwise. I have also learned that I am pretty uptight about making friends, I enjoy making new friends, but I am setting my own boundaries as to who I will allow in my life & what parts of my life I shall keep private from those I don’t want a relationship/friendship with. 

365 days of self discovery: Day 34

10.06.18

What doesn’t matter to you?

  • I’d say my status quo compared to others. My materialistic being; the kind of clothes I wear compared to others, the type of car I drive, the size of my home and how much “things” I have compared to others. Same as I don’t care about those things about other people. I might have used to cared growing up because I was made to believe they were important for friendships, popularity and likes, but as I grew up and made different choices in my life, I believed they were meaningless when it came to getting to know someone and enjoying a person’s character vs their materialistic being. 

It’s Amazing What Your Happiness Can do

The title alone is built on a situation I endured at this new job (not a job I intend on staying long at, but one that will help me save up more money so that I can eventually move next year to the bigger city). This situation happened about a week ago, but it carried on for another week (unintended) and not to due to myself, but due to other people’s motives and emotions and lack of understanding of the matter. I suppose every good lifestyle blogger has to write about something real .. or “happening” & so I will make this new blog category worth your while as much as possible because I want to make sure it comes off real and gives you a sense of who I am but at the same time opens up conversation if need be. 

People tend to enjoy the depressed and upset ones — they find them vulnerable and weak and assume that if they are already at their low, it would be easy to keep them there. That’s what one of my co-workers assumed; and I finally decided instead of being pissed off and shitty towards people, I would instead be seemingly nice, and ignore the co-workers gestures and snide comments to belittle me (all in the name of situation that didn’t involve him in the first place or effect him) but in due time I decided to make my manager aware of the things this co-worker was doing to get a rise out of me, and after the manager had a good old conversation with him, I imagine he just became more bitter towards me and would continue to be an asshole towards me. That’s when I decided to change my perspective and give myself a better setting; I decided to smile and talk to people and ignore the co-worker’s ignorance and continue to do well at work. When this co-worker seen how many people were talking to me again and how I was not effected by his low blows & belittling comments, he finally felt compelled to apologize for offending me and making me feel uncomfortable. I think back to the fact that I was angry because of how many people were being rude towards me due to a situation that occurred that was blown out of proportion but because people listen to rumors instead of truths, they didn’t want to see my side of things when it happened. I started to ignore people, not smile and show no personality at work just to get through the shift because it was upsetting me having to endure such unkindness & that made my life worse because then people would continue to be rude towards me back and more unkind or unwilling to speak to me. After many efforts of being negative, I decided to come to work with a new attitude and in my surprise it worked for me, people were kind, willing to chat and very receptive towards me and the drama that occurred in the first place seemed forgotten for the time being. 

The moral of the story is, when I chanced coming to work with a bright mind & attitude, and started talking to people, it changed their attitude towards me & it gave someone a reason to apologize when they seen I was no longer going to allow them to affect me and my mood. I can’t say everyone was genuine, but it made work more enjoyable to pretend that they were. 

Starting a new job is never always an easy task (I have now been there 60 days and close to 90 days at the end of this month) a 2nd job that I got to help me save up more money for moving next year. I am not someone who enjoys drama and when you work with people who feed off drama, it can make work challenging at times and make you a bitter person, but I have learned that sometimes instead of being bitter and having a negative mindset — changing over to a better perspective, smiling and being friendly can make a whole lot of a difference. Food for thought. 

365 days of self discovery: Day 32

10.04.18

What is the most important thing to enable you to live an authentic life?

  • Personally, I would have to say being myself — whatever that may consist of 100% & even when it may not fit societies “norms”, or standards. I believe if one cannot be themselves (flaws and all) and instead pretend to be someone they are not in order to “fit in” with the crowd, then their life can never truly be genuine & that will also effect the ones they surround themselves with.