How do you agree to disagree with another Fitness professional/fitness instructor, fitness blogger

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So, this is something some of you have been waiting for (another post exposing my personal thoughts). I recently came by someone who asked me what I write about after I mentioned I was a blogger ( I told them I am fitness/health blogger) and that my topics range from exercises, mental health, nutrition, etc. Well they proceeded with “what are your credentials and how do you go about teaching people about fitness/health – when there are other people in your field who may or may not agree with anything or everything you are saying.. how do you compete against them for followers and what are people supposed to believe if you have differing opinions than someone else in your field?” . At first I was thinking, ” wow… seriously”, but then I said “.. it goes a little like this, I have my degree in exercise science, I interned for many different places within this field, I have worked with many professionals in the field, and I also keep all my college materials (books) and I research and read magazines, in the process of being certified in personal training and don’t come off like an arrogant piece of shit when I write” – this is how I manage to keep readers and followers and gain respect within my field (among many other things that go unnoticed). 

Lets just say, he was delighted by my answer and didn’t further question me but instead gave me a high five and told me “works for me”.

I decided after having to answer his question, I would write about this particular topic because honestly, it is true – I am “competing against other fitness/health bloggers who have differing opinions than mine and may not always agree with my tactics, information, and have more expertise than myself”.  I am not so stubborn to realize this, I am not so arrogant to ignore it, and I don’t think I know everything, which is why I spend hours on my laptop and hours teaching myself and studying. Sure, I may never know everything and there are fitness professionals without their degrees who are more knowledgeable than some of us with one – surprising huh?! But honestly, I never write to compete against others in my field, I don’t write to prove I know it all, I don’t write to make myself seem better. I write about fitness/health because this is my life, my everyday life and whether I agree with other professionals or athletes is not important because everyone has their own way of doing things. Now does this mean, when someone is using poor form/technique when squatting; I promote it? NO! what this means is, if that person is not able to demonstrate the exercise properly, either I make it known or I don’t. I don’t feel compelled to analyze everyone’s blogs and check to see how right they are or wrong they are. If I am following another fitness/health blog, best believe I read their content, and if I don’t agree with something, I normally comment with my take on things./sometimes I research it, and if I feel like the blogger is writing about something totally in left field that I know is NOT right or encouraging something that I know is unsafe, etc then I don’t follow them because I don’t have time for shenangins. It is the same with YouTube fitness videos, I swear these are sometimes the worse because they will do some circus trick to encourage others to do it too but have no real purpose and can’t identify how the movement is even constructive to a persons well-being. 

Personally I have had people disagree with topics  I have written about, such as: “Child obesity” was one of them because so many people have different thoughts, experiences; Did I go off on people who didn’t like what I had to say about it? – no. Why would I? I don’t care if you disagree with me, because hey, we all have a right to an opinion and all my readers are allowed to be honest and forthright as long as it is tasteful in nature and not something to arouse people’s anger. I feel like this, if you don’t like what I write about, then come forth and let me know,  you don’t have to agree with everything I say; that is the truth. If something I write about offends you (hopefully not) then say something but don’t expect me to back down & kiss ass either, because I won’t. For the most part, I think my topics have proven to be well written and I have yet come by a fitness professional who talked negatively about anything I have written thus far (thankfully) and I hope it stays this way because I live to learn, teach and grow. Hell, I have had many fitness professionals who have been in my field for 10+ years and have given me advice on workouts, shared their insight and added their own recommendations and I LOVED IT! because they didn’t belittle me, they actually only complimented my writing and confirmed the information; letting me know my topic wasn’t  full of bullshit and lies because trust me if they ever were: I would expect those same people to let me know. 

So how does one like myself handle agreeing-disagreeing with other fitness people? We talk like adults, exchange thoughts, I learn from them, I ask them questions, I gain insight and I respect their knowledge, because more than likely they have been in the game WAYY longer than myself and I only want to be as successful as they are now in their careers. My motto is “who cares whether the lunge or back squat is a better exercise – the more important thing is we both know they are functional exercises” LOL. 

I make mistakes, I may be biased sometimes & I am young.- but I won’t lead you over a cliff;  Thank you everyone for reading and I appreciate everyone’s support on my blog. 

Your Fitness Blogger,

Shay-lon xxx

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The Gym Goers Job

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In a world full of body savvy, nutritional professionals, where I am only less than the 1 percent who actually cares about the well-being of others not just how their ass looks in jeans or the shirtless pictures they post on social media. Although, we all look, guilty as charged. I found out recently after reading a Facebook post from a group member of a fitness group I have joined (I joined many to share my blog post and Youtube videos) that is our obligation to look a certain way so that others will want to look as we do. I laughed loudly, very loudly to myself because I wanted to know how such a person even came up with that conclusion, as if I am some model citizen that people should praise and look up to in such a way where they feel the need to compare themselves to myself and others in our profession. Forgive me if this next sentence makes me sound like a whining bitch, but “who in the hell said I wanted others to look like me”, why is this a hard concept to grasp when I make mention that isn’t my goal. I don’t ever feel the need to strike an argument with a fellow personal trainer, because I know we all have our own ideas and ways of doing things but when a personal trainer makes such a statement that involves how we should look in order to make others “want our bodies”, “praise our hard work”, and “give us a round of applause for being attractive”, I find that kinda absurd, maybe because over the course of the years my body hasn’t made head line news and I don’t feel like it is any better than the next females, sure it looks nice but improvement is always needed no matter how “flawless” it may look to others, I find it needs improvement because I am not perfect and this whole I should feel obligated to make sure it is this perfect canvas is bullshit. I have my days where I am drowning in sloppy joe sauce and stuffing my face with french fries, and so if I choose to do that and get a small pouch on my tummy from eating such amazing food, that is my business, doesn’t mean I am any less a personal trainer than the next person in line who treats themselves to a salad on the weekends with a decent amount of croutons. 

 

For one, I take care of my body to my liking, not someone else’s, I stopped wanting to be a show doll years ago when I realized people won’t be satisfied no matter which direction I take. Looking at me you would assume I eat veggies all week and stay away from any kind of fast food, or dining out but hanging with me, I am smashing my face with gourmet burgers and waiting for the next margerita to be served. Seriously, and I still manage a healthy weight, confidence, and muscle definition that goes beyond my expectations most days and I get complimented on my physique more often than not most days, not to mention if you have seen my recent pictures on Facebook of me at the gym, then you would know I know what I am doing when it comes to taking care of myself and it is not to appeal to my others and/or society but to appeal to myself. It is a bonus to appeal to others, because it makes us feel good, but on the other hand, I am not perfect, I bloat when PMSing, I gain weight, I lose muscle, my abs look like shit some days, my hair is never on point, my thighs jiggle to the beat of the music sometimes and I have stretch marks that I have had since being kid that switch between being noticeable and unnoticeable. Shit, I would hate for someone to be like me, and did I mention I don’t wear make up so you can see my pimples when they stop by to visit. Here it is folks, the truth. I think this whole I need to look a certain way in order to get clients may be true, of course, I have to workout, stay in shape and be healthy and not to mention have some confidence and pride in myself. I do. I have a lovely personality and I lift heavy weight, I can run sprints like a champ, and I maintain a healthy balance of food in my fridge, I have self control when I eat, I am knowledgeable in my profession, I have my degree,  I work hard and I carry myself with dignity whenever I have the chance, I failed to mention I have determination,I am disciplined and I strive to be great in everything I do. Always have. 

 

So here we are discussing why I need to look a certain way in order to get clients, I don’t have to look like the chick on muscle and fitness magazine, I am okay with being myself and representing who I am to people in order to get clients and build my rapport. I feel as though no one would hardly know my lifestyle choices unless I told them, and I do eat healthy foods, drink water and stay active, I love having a fit body and looking good in pictures, but deep down, I am not a show doll, I want to be treated like I would treat my clients, “normal”. I don’t need praise, I don’t need another personal trainers approval and I sure the hell don’t have to put up a front like I am some hot shot in order to have clients and gain exposure. My only job at the gym is to work on me and improving my weaknesses, my only obligation is to help other people feel good about themselves, improve their health and well being and bring awareness to people all over in how important fitness/health is. Yes, I will need to look the part for people to believe I am good at what I do, but hopefully once they step into my world and train with me, they won’t need to feel the need to base my quality from how I look but from how they look instead. 

 

Your Fitness blogger,

 

Shay-lon xoxo