365 days of self discovery: Day 49

10.21.18

What is your reaction when you don’t get what you want?

  • Quite a funny question, due to the fact, I like to assume we have all somewhat had this happen & maybe we weren’t happy about it, but I will assume none of through a tantrum? or did we? lol. Well, growing up in my household, my mom always made sure me and my brother had what we need and most of our wants/if not all; so I never knew what it was like to go without something — and when there would be that ONE time where I really wanted something because someone else had it, and my mom failed to get it for me, I just assumed it was because we couldn’t afford it at the time and would try my hardest to not allow it to bother me (but we know people start to ask questions and so sometimes my classmates or teammates would ask me why I don’t have it, or when I would get it) and I would just make up some kind of lie or rather just pretend I didn’t give a shit about it to want it. Sometimes it helped and sometimes it didn’t & to be honest, I only remember one time of that happening & my coach would then chime in and try to help pay for it (it was a team hoodie) and my mom just didn’t have the funds right away to get it for me, not to mention it wasn’t her only priority and my coach would then ask me about it and after finding out my mom’s reason for me not having it, I don’t remember if my coach helped to afford it or if my mom just ended up paying for it later on.. either way, that probably has been the only time. Regardless, as I got older, I was then taught in order to get something I wanted, I needed to earn it with either getting a job and making money or doing something around the house that was well worthy the prize. At first it was annoying (to be fair, I didn’t get my first job until I was 18) and it wasn’t like my chores were all that hard, I was just being a lazy teen. I was really living a life of luxury, my mom did our laundry and folded our clothes, etc, hell I didn’t have to do my first batch of laundry until I was like 21 or 22  I think? lol so I can’t really say my life was hard, it wasn’t. Anyways, after obtaining my first job, and having paid for something for the first time with my own money, it felt really good to say I could afford something I wanted and then on, I kind of got used to it UNTIL I quit my job by not showing up for work & my mom didn’t find out til like later on and yeah, so I have to say, I also didn’t particularly want to work but somewhere down the line I ended up getting another job and keeping it much longer. Now that I much older than I was, and don’t rely on my mom for finances; I have had to endure things that humbled me to the point where I had to make certain sacrifices in order to obtain something I wanted, and with those experiences came a better attitude and means of handling things when I don’t get what I want. Sometimes I will still get frustrated or upset depending on the situation but many times, I shrug it off and move on.  
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EXAM results & Sacrifices.

Thank you fellow bloggers for being patient, I have some news.. 

I took my exam Friday December 1st and got a HIGH score but I did not pass. I failed. 

With all of that being said, I will hopefully be retaking the exam sometime in February ( the ACSM exam is changing so I have to order the new textbooks, etc) While I was so upset and shattered that I missed two days at the gym and ate like crap >.< I have had so much support and love and encouragement from friends and peers. It was a tough exam, a very tough exam to be honest and I don’t know if the new one will be just as tough or easier. In the meantime I will be taking a long break from my YouTube channel, besides this Wednesday and next Wednesday because I have to make some sacrifices so I can focus on restudying and hopefully passing this time around. 

I will continue to blog each week and I will do my best to continue to keep up with the podcast as well (haven’t been doing that as often) and I will continue to be present on my social media (IG, Twitter, Facebook, etc) but I am walking away from YouTube for a little while longer so I can pass and of course there will be other sacrifices. My blogging might not be daily or as many post, because of studying and having two jobs, etc, but I will have a post or two AT THE VERY LEAST each week – unless an emergency occurs. 

I appreciate all of you for being so kind and patient with me and wishing me the best of luck! I know I am capable of passing and doing great things! 

Also, my boss at the gym is still keeping me around as a trainer, so that is a positive .. 😀

Fitness WonderWoman,

Shay-lon 

 

I will back later..

Hey everyone,

Today will be my last post until after Dec. 1st because I have an exam that day, and want to make myself completely available so I can study for it thoroughly. This is a very important test for my future, etc so I want to do well on it and come back and tell you all about it, but I need to sacrifice my time with the blog so I can study and make time to prepare myself mentally. I will also be gone from YouTube this whole week as well! I will be on Instagram as often I can if I can be – same with Twitter. I appreciate the patience, WISH ME LUCK! and I will see you when I see you! 

 

Shay-lon 

P.S I will play catch up on all the workouts after this short break away, so if you have been keeping up with them, I will be sure to post them when I return, thank you!

Taking Risk|Three Channels of Risk

Risk = Opportunity, but not all Opportunities are good.

In a vlog video today I talked about taking risk and my take on risk and how they can be effective and provide opportunities but at the same time can be what kills us (physically or mentally).  My video was aimed for fitness/health people but this blog will speak to the general population and the same rules will apply but maybe different circumstances. Pay close attention for my post for it may be somewhat beneficial for some of you. 

 

I believe that risk comes in three channels, these channels are: death, depleting of oneself and prosperity/growth. From these channels, you are obviously aware that the last one would be the goal or the most beneficial for us and this is very true. I will break down the differences and discuss each one briefly but somewhat like I did in my video, i will then leave you in thought. 

 

The first channel: Death. 

 
  • This particular channel means literally dying or mentally decaying yourself to the point of exhaustion. 
  • An example of death: eating disorders, addictions, suicide, depression.. and the list continues. 
  • Most of us know someone or perhaps ourselves can relate to this channel of risk. 
  • This particular channel of risk is dangerous, and normally the ultimate downfall unless we seek help in time. 

The second channel: Depleting self.

  • This channel poses a threat because it can lead us to the channel of death if we are not careful.
  • An example of depleting self: Trying to be something or someone we are not in order to fit in, allowing others to take advantage of us, having been bullied, traumatic experiences, among many other things
  • Again we have either dealt with this channel ourselves or know someone who is/has. 
  • This particular channel is giving us a choice in how we respond to this particular risk- in most cases people go into death , but others will grow and learn from it. 

The third channel: prosperity and growth.

  • This channel is about taking a risk that has made you successful, motivational, inspiring, and possibly wealthy in many more ways than just money. 
  • This channel takes sacrifices , but they are sacrifices you can handle and or deal with and not regret it down the line if you made the right choice. 
  • This channel only turns into a bad risk if you choose to react to it in a greedy nature or make yourself seem more inferior to others. 

Now that I have covered these three channels of risk, you are probably asking yourself, why would one want to choose death and/or depleting self.. how does one not know that is a bad risk? Well, it isn’t necessarily that one is choosing to be depressed or choosing to be bullied, risk create opportunities and not all opportunities are good ones, so when one chooses to risk losing weight by choosing to eat less and less.. they aren’t necessarily wanting to die they want the opportunity that comes from it – which is being skinny. Now this is may be all very confusing and you can choose to make sense of it however you want, no right or wrong way. I just found myself rambling and decided to share some insight with you. The bottom line is every risk we take effects us either negatively or in a positive manner, we don’t always know until we have taken the risk. Just think about what risk you are willing to take but don’t stop taking them in order to avoid opportunities. 

 

If you are someone who wants to better understand my thoughts, please feel free to watch my YouTube video from today speaking on risk and hopefully it makes some sense. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2fZPKcM7iw4. Thanks for reading, feel free to leave comments, share and or like. 

Your Fitness Blogger,

Shay-lon xxoo

Motivational Monday Youtube video Oct. 3rd

“Making Sacrifices”

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PN04qYCE5VQ