365 days of self discovery: Day 49

10.21.18

What is your reaction when you don’t get what you want?

  • Quite a funny question, due to the fact, I like to assume we have all somewhat had this happen & maybe we weren’t happy about it, but I will assume none of through a tantrum? or did we? lol. Well, growing up in my household, my mom always made sure me and my brother had what we need and most of our wants/if not all; so I never knew what it was like to go without something — and when there would be that ONE time where I really wanted something because someone else had it, and my mom failed to get it for me, I just assumed it was because we couldn’t afford it at the time and would try my hardest to not allow it to bother me (but we know people start to ask questions and so sometimes my classmates or teammates would ask me why I don’t have it, or when I would get it) and I would just make up some kind of lie or rather just pretend I didn’t give a shit about it to want it. Sometimes it helped and sometimes it didn’t & to be honest, I only remember one time of that happening & my coach would then chime in and try to help pay for it (it was a team hoodie) and my mom just didn’t have the funds right away to get it for me, not to mention it wasn’t her only priority and my coach would then ask me about it and after finding out my mom’s reason for me not having it, I don’t remember if my coach helped to afford it or if my mom just ended up paying for it later on.. either way, that probably has been the only time. Regardless, as I got older, I was then taught in order to get something I wanted, I needed to earn it with either getting a job and making money or doing something around the house that was well worthy the prize. At first it was annoying (to be fair, I didn’t get my first job until I was 18) and it wasn’t like my chores were all that hard, I was just being a lazy teen. I was really living a life of luxury, my mom did our laundry and folded our clothes, etc, hell I didn’t have to do my first batch of laundry until I was like 21 or 22  I think? lol so I can’t really say my life was hard, it wasn’t. Anyways, after obtaining my first job, and having paid for something for the first time with my own money, it felt really good to say I could afford something I wanted and then on, I kind of got used to it UNTIL I quit my job by not showing up for work & my mom didn’t find out til like later on and yeah, so I have to say, I also didn’t particularly want to work but somewhere down the line I ended up getting another job and keeping it much longer. Now that I much older than I was, and don’t rely on my mom for finances; I have had to endure things that humbled me to the point where I had to make certain sacrifices in order to obtain something I wanted, and with those experiences came a better attitude and means of handling things when I don’t get what I want. Sometimes I will still get frustrated or upset depending on the situation but many times, I shrug it off and move on.  
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365 Days of Self Discovery: Day 48

10.20.18

What could you easily live without?

  • There are some things I like to think I could live without, but when I think about using them out of habit and now having a reason behind using them, it would be very hard to go without them. So many people would say cellphone, internet, social media, and I know there was a time, I probably didn’t have any of these things, but now since using them for so long, it would be hard to rid of them. I’d like to think if I had to rid of them, I could do it without losing my mind, but with my generation utilizing these things so often, I think the majority of us would probably end up killing ourselves without some of these things — sadly. I wouldn’t off myself, but just saying, I am sure suicide would be on an all time high if those things were to go away. Anyways, some of the things I could live without:

 

  • Drama
  • Fast Food
  • Coffee
  • Video games
  • Cable

 

And most of this list I highly enjoy but I know if it came down to it, I could manage without them. 

Name something you could live without… maybe something that didn’t cross my mind or didn’t make it to this list. 

 

365 Days of Self Discovery: Day 47

10.19.18

What rules or standards do you live by?

  • I have a number of rules and standards that I try to live by the best way I know how. Some of which you may have heard of it and some you have not. All of these rules/standards can somewhat be summed up by my morals and belief system. While this may not be an all exclusive list, it is a decent amount. 
  1. “Treat the janitor with the same respect as you would the CEO” — this is something I was taught by my grandmother, and to be honest, I love this saying because we tend to treat people differently due to their status quo. The CEO puts his pants on the same way as either you or I. 
  2. Don’t allow someone to back you into a corner mentally, or physically & if they do, come out fighting. Basically what this means is, we can only manage to handle so much before we explode, we shouldn’t allow someone(s) to get us to the point where we just continue to take the hits they give us. If we don’t learn to stand up for ourselves than we will continue to allow someone to take advantage of us. Sometimes to come out swinging, means to STOP putting up with people’s crap. 
  3. Your body can handle the challenges that your mind thinks you can’t. The body can be pushed further than what the mind allows. Don’t allow your thinking to get the best of you. 
  4. Guilt can kill a man, therefore, make choices in which you won’t feel guilty about later & make them wisely. If you know a choice will cause you pain later, then maybe it is time to rethink your choice(s) so that you don’t have to live with this kind of guilt. Sometimes guilt plays on us without our control due to circumstances, but we have to learn to let go of it, and move on. We can’t move on properly if we live a life full of regrets. 
  5. Take risk because they can sometimes lead us to great opportunities. 
  6. Be a leader, not a boss. People don’t want to be told what to do, they want to be led by someone who will do the work with them. People don’t like being bossed around, they prefer to be asked & if you live your life trying to be a boss, you will earn less respect in the long run, but if you live your life as a leader, respect will gradually grow and with respect will come trust and a group of people who will stand alongside of you. 
  7. “Treat people the way you want to be treated”
  8. An open mind builds a bigger perspective. Living inside a closed box doesn’t allow you to see everything from different viewpoints. If you keep an open mind, you will see the world in many different perspectives and have respect for many different voices of reason. 
  9. Take accountability for your actions
  10. The type of people you surround yourself with, usually is a good indicator of the type of person you are
  11. “Close mouths don’t get fed”. If you don’t speak up, you won’t be heard
  12. Be yourself, those that like you will like you for who you are & those that don’t like you, won’t matter.

365 days of Self Discovery: Day 46

10.18.18

What is the best gift somebody could give you?

  • Food, LOL. JK, but seriously I would have to say, making themselves apart of my life in a positive way for a long period of time. The gift of time is a beautiful thing, so when people make me apart of their life, they are also giving me their time (and time is something we don’t always have enough of, or know when it will come to an end) so when someone gives me their time, their presence in a positive way, I believe it is a true gift.

365 days of self discovery: Day 45

10.17.18

What one thing can you not give up?

  • I would either say food, because I love eating and/or the gym because I couldn’t imagine having to give up the gym and not being able to workout  — it would probably make me very uncomfortable since I have made it apart of my life for so long. 
What’s something you can’t give up? I am sure everyone can name at least one if not more. share it in the comments and don’t forget to like, share, and follow! 
 
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365 days of self discovery: Day 43

10.15.18

What have you recently learned about yourself?

  • I have learned that I don’t tolerate people’s drama and bullcrap — whereas before I would be afraid to have some form of confrontation with an individual due to them either bringing some form of drama to my life, or having something negative to say about me, but I have learned since then that I am capable of handling myself if need be in situations & that I don’t have to put up with people treating me like crap. I have also learned that I am capable of ignoring people if I find the problem is not worthy of a reaction, I don’t particularly love ignoring it, but I will if I feel as though it is a waste of my time otherwise. I have also learned that I am pretty uptight about making friends, I enjoy making new friends, but I am setting my own boundaries as to who I will allow in my life & what parts of my life I shall keep private from those I don’t want a relationship/friendship with. 

365 days of self discovery: Day 40

Could you be more focused? How will you achieve this?

  • Yes, I do want to become more focused because I believe it will help to keep me motivated and help me to avoid distractions. I will research different methods that have been known to help others stay focused & do a trial and error, along with continuing to use meditation.

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