Busier and Busier ..

Summer Busyyyynesssss!

Hello readers and bloggers, many of you might have noticed my lack of communication, consistency, normality, time management, etc and whatever else that might show through my writings — I apologize because many of you have continued to support my blog(s) and website and are waiting for me to do the same >.< which is to expected and should be the way it is. I could make ALL the excuses in the world for the lack of attention I have given my followers for the past 6 months or so, but the truth remains that I have been hectic and this is good news because as a personal trainer, I have so many more clients/fitness consultations I am doing each week & I have had time to meet and make new friendships in the real world, spend time with my loved ones and use my time to catch up on much needed sleep (due to working two jobs — one being third shift). I make just enough time to blog and then I immediately log off without showing much support to any of you and that’s not right nor intentional but it seems to happen often enough where finally I feel the need to apologize and find a solution to such an issue. Today I will use some of this day to catch up on cleaning, researching time management options that will benefit me, catching up on blogging and ordering items for my powerlifting meet, and shopping for an event I will be going to June 14th — June 16th (out of town) and whatever else I can think of that seems to be put on the backburner every week (including all of you) but that will have to wait for a little while longer as I need to do things by priority so that I stay in order and keep things flowing or else, I might lose my mind! 😦 

In the coming weeks, I will have a much better plan when it comes to blogging and showing my support to all of those who do the same for me daily & to all the new bloggers as well. I just need to go over the plan on paper and make some adjustments (as needed) because things won’t always go as planned — that’s life. When I do come up with this plan today, it will begin to show gradually & hopefully it will be long term. I wanted to make blogging/writing full time & I still in fact have that goal, but it will take me working harder as a personal trainer so that I don’t need a second job & don’t need to consume so much of time sleeping to make up for the lack of sleep I don’t get during the week sometimes. Everything that is meant to happen, will happen in due time. If any of this fails to show my gratitude, forgive me, I know everyone has a busy schedule and this might not be a great excuse but it is my reasoning and the truth. Trust me, when I tell you, I plan on making up for this & giving more time to blogging, and writing and showing my support as well — it won’t happen overnight , but it will come slowly. There used to be a time I could blog 2-3 times a day and still manage to support all the writers (take me back to that time) but now I get lucky if I find the energy to blog once a day without falling asleep on the computer or being distracted by outside noises. 

I hope we talk soon, and thank for you all the continued support once more. If any of you follow me on social media — I have been slow on the trigger in posting regularly but I do still post on IG, FB and Twitter & check my emails regularly as well. Blogging is my life, really it brings me peace and gives me inspiration through writing and reading other people’s creations, I yearn for it when I haven’t been consistent, I just need to plan my days out more accordingly and keep myself in order and make sure to spend my time wisely so that I don’t overwhelm myself too quickly and give up my passions. What’s good for the soul should never die. 

Shay-lon 

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BeConfidentFit Website — Blog Post #2

Fun Facts Post

Hey everyone, I added another blog post to my website. It is a list of fun facts about me so that my readers, and clients can get to know small things about myself and we can have fun with it! : D hopefully this allows room for us to be more comfortable with one another and have fun on this journey of fitness & health

Check my website out Fun Fact about the Trainer Blog post

& be sure to follow me on social media for updates to my website, and products 

Twitter: ShayM_Fitness

Facebook pageShayMFitnessWonderWoman

Instagram: shay_fitnesswonderwoman

 

365 Days of Self Discovery: Day 87

11.28.18

What would you like to do less of?

  • Less working (make a passive income)
  • less thinking/worrying about what others think of me
  • less self doubting myself
  • less negative thinking towards my body image
  • less time on dating sites/social media and more time going out among other people and talking to people 
  • less of arguing with my mom

What do you want to do less of? leave comments, follow, share and like! 

RIP To All Those Who lost their lives

I just want to take the time to say how sorry I am for all those currently struggling with the loss of their loved ones during the last night’s shooting in California at Borderline Bar and Grill. This world is chaos, and it has become a “normal” thing for these mass shootings, soft shooting to take place anywhere and everywhere. That’s sad, pathetic and scary. I was on twitter today and reading the masses of tweets and one in particular stood out to me (I dont have cable any longer, so I feel am always last to know things unless posted on FB or instagram or a friend should tell me) and did you guys know that this shooting marked 304th mass shooting of 2018 thus far. It blows my mind more and more when I think about it because we used to grow up in this mentality that “my neighborhood is safe, this town has hardly any crime, this could never happen here to me, what are the chances of it happening here, and the most crimes we have are small.. ” well guess what America? NEWS FLASH! but safe is relative & there is no safe zone, nobody is safe from destruction besides the dead. Hell, growing up, I always thought this town was safe from all harm due to it being a pretty well established area with very little crime but now, we have drug overdoses every week, we have had people killed from gunshots and stabbings and we have car break ins, etc.. and guess what? that’s not nearly half of what goes on here that the crooked system tries to hide, regardless, crime can happen everywhere and no state, city, county is safe from a mass shooting erupting — people don’t give a fuck! I hate to say it, but people who want to harm others; on a mission to make hell for someone else isn’t going to discriminate where it takes place, if they have the tools and the way in, they will take it & we need not forget that aspect. 

Our country has been talking about “gun control” since the Pulse shooting and yet there has not been a solution in place, not enough action being taken and too much conversation that prolongs the process before another shooting happens. We say gun control, we say we need to not continue to make mass shootings a normal happening, we say we need to band together and come up with a solution, we say we need to change the laws, we say we need to ban certain people from obtaining weapons, etc, but what haven’t we done? we haven’t done enough.. we are discussing the same policies, the same written documents, the same agendas we were discussing back when things started and now we are doing the same thing , and this is giving perps more time to plan the next chaotic attack because we aren’t taking enough action. I am scared for our country and the future, scared for my family and friends, scared for myself and people who I don’t even know — innocent people’s lives.. I am scared because no matter what we decide, people aren’t going to wait for us to take action, they will continue to do these shootings because they can and will. When we finally take some sort of action, it probably still won’t be enough because the internet makes things easily accessible & we live in sick, cruel world where all it takes is a click of a button, power and or money and BOOM!

I was reading a post on twitter on how we are blaming these shootings on mental health problems/disorders and conditions but how dare we use this as a scapegoat each time someone decides to become radical and do a mass shooting. I couldn’t agree more with the person who stated it, because hell, I suffer from mental health disorders but I am not out here shooting up buildings, blowing up people and taking innocent lives — and while I know mental health is running rapid & many times people can’t afford medication, don’t know they suffer from something or can’t afford to get help they need, it doesn’t mean all of us with mental health disorders are taking it upon ourselves to kill people. I am more than aware that some have severe cases of mental health issues and can cause harm to themselves and others but I don’t believe we should continue using mental health as a scapegoat because I believe it fuels the stigma already placed on people who suffer from mental health disorders/conditions. If mental health is an issue (which it is when people can’t afford or have the help they seek or need) then lets come up with something to help those in need — but if every time we assumed someone who killed someone has a mental health disorder, it would be bullshit because there are so many people in their right mind who just are evil people doing these things, it doesn’t always come down to them having a mental health disorder, sometimes they are just malicious people with bad intents. Two things:

  1. We need to focus on the fact that NOT every person who goes out and does a senseless act has a mental health disorder, fact is, people can be evil and do crimes like this, it doesn’t mean they have PTSD or anxiety or anything else, it could just mean, they are evil and have bad intentions. 
  2.  If we want to keep blaming mental health for reasons why people go out and kill people and commit mass shootings, then find a way to help people or make it possible for people to afford health care, prescriptions, therapy sessions, etc and create a better reform so people understand the different types of mental health disorders & instead of justifying the shootings with this person suffered with a mental health disorder .. how about we take action on gun control & have a better judicial system that hands out consequences instead of slapping people on the wrist to stay moral. 

I agree with this person who quoted:Mental illnesses didn’t shoot & kill 12 people in last night. A man with a gun did. Im sick of people using mental illness as a scapegoat, which further stigmatizes those of us that struggle with it. It’s lazy & dishonest” -Khary Penebaker, Fx .

Again, I am sorry for all those that lost someone due to the shooting, I pray in time you heal and find it in your heart to continue living your best life. ❤ 

P.S I am all for conceal to carry, I believe protecting ourselves is the best method these days; especially in having to defend yourself and family/friends. Take away people’s right to protect themselves, we are left defenseless and people who can’t fend for themselves are usually left to die without being able to put up a fight. However,  I do believe we can come up with a solid solution that doesn’t take away people’s rights to defend themselves but makes it harder for those who shouldn’t have gun to obtain one, but even so, the internet is easy and accessible and people will always find a way. Sadly.

New Instagram & New Facebook Page

I just wanted to tell everyone that I have officially re-created my new Instagram and Facebook business page in the recent days, and would love for all those who followed the old accounts and have been supportive to follow these new accounts! 

Facebook Page: Confident Fit, LLC

&

if you haven’t, follow my Twitter: ShayM_Fitness

Again, thank you for the continued patience all of you have shown, and while the FB page isn’t nearly finished, I still want everyone to be able to be apart of this page and follow! New updates will be coming soon to the FB page to get back where it was & of course my IG page will have updated fitness/health photos along with videos. 

My Instagram got hacked

Hello everyone, I wanted to be sure I made a post letting everyone know my Instagram account was hacked today (at random), it was all the while posting a video & I got locked out of my account and can’t recover anything. I made a new one for temporary use until I hear back from IG on the matter, assuming I will get an answer, I am highly upset as I worked extremely hard on that account for my business & it had memories I won’t get back. While I do have some photos and videos saved, it would take forever to post 1800 pictures/videos once again. 

I am sorry this inconvenience has happened & I hope all of you will continue to support me if I have to create a new account.  I will keep everyone up to date on the matter on my FB page, although I may need to delete it and remake one because sadly I can’t link it to my new IG account because it is already linked with the hacked account. It blows. I can’t believe this actually happened to me. 

If anyone else has ever ran into this issue, please feel free to share the results and steps you had to take in order to recover your account. If you have any tips/advice, please leave comments, I am open to everything at this point. Again, sorry and hopefully I will have more information for you in the upcoming days. 

Shay-lon 

Been Gone for awhile

If any of you follow me on social media, you are probably aware that I had a really downward spire rough week & avoided contact with social media, friends, family, etc. I won’t get into specifics, but I have been gone for quite a while (due to circumstances) happening in my life that came unplanned and unwanted — Today is my first day back on the blog & social media in “full swing” again. The past week or so hasn’t been easy and honestly, it is only because of prayer and having the courage to get back up again when I felt dark that I am even able to write about it. Naturally, sometimes circumstances give you a chance to look at yourself with more clarity and find ways to focus on self healing, self discovery and possibly rely on some form of spiritual sense. Well as cliche as it might sound, that’s exactly what this situation left me to do besides laying in bed all day with no motivation and no drive to talk or be apart of life’s endeavors — I have decided to take on some books that hopefully will be a positive force within my life and future & I have started meditation once more, hopefully sticking with it this time, I am going to take some steps to help myself journal my self discovery and really dive into myself & try to make myself happy with what I plan on doing. It will be some steps and quite the voyage, but I feel it will be worth it. 

I pretty much will be going back to my normal routine but with some added bonuses to my daily lifestyle & my main focus will be building myself emotionally, physically, spiritually and mentally while building my career as a Personal Trainer. I know I have been back and forth with a schedule that works for my readers so that I stay more consistent with blogging & I plan on doing that as well (coming up with a schedule) and now that my mind is less overwhelmed, I will surely do this and let people know what will be happening with the blog(s). I have many topics but I have been working on a personal website for my business, and I plan on blogging there as well, so I want to leave many topics for that particular website when it gets finished up (& yes some topics will be from this blog as well/perhaps with a new frame of mind) I need to find a way to keep myself accountable with the self discovery and meditation — so I may decide to take part in a challenge for a year or use the blog to keep me on the right path (we shall see). I will be using a journal to document my daily thoughts, emotions, the agenda and events — good and bad to keep me aware of myself. Hopefully in the end, this is something that will help to heal and build me with a new form of appreciation for myself. 

I currently downloaded a meditation app that I have been doing for the past 4 days & it has been wonderful; if anyone wants information on it, feel free to ask, maybe we can connect. Outside of that, I will be back on social media tomorrow to reply and show support — I appreciate all of you whom have been nothing but a great positive force within my blog career and life. Much appreciated and looking forward to speaking soon!

P.S I don’t have a consistent plan/routine yet for my self healing or self discovery yet, so if you have nay books, any journals or articles (whatever resource) that you would recommend, feel free to leave it in the comments, as it would bring me great joy to further my research and find a way that works best for me through your help.

Shay-lon