BeConfidentFit Website — Blog Post #2

Fun Facts Post

Hey everyone, I added another blog post to my website. It is a list of fun facts about me so that my readers, and clients can get to know small things about myself and we can have fun with it! : D hopefully this allows room for us to be more comfortable with one another and have fun on this journey of fitness & health

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365 Days of Self Discovery: Day 87

11.28.18

What would you like to do less of?

  • Less working (make a passive income)
  • less thinking/worrying about what others think of me
  • less self doubting myself
  • less negative thinking towards my body image
  • less time on dating sites/social media and more time going out among other people and talking to people 
  • less of arguing with my mom

What do you want to do less of? leave comments, follow, share and like! 

RIP To All Those Who lost their lives

I just want to take the time to say how sorry I am for all those currently struggling with the loss of their loved ones during the last night’s shooting in California at Borderline Bar and Grill. This world is chaos, and it has become a “normal” thing for these mass shootings, soft shooting to take place anywhere and everywhere. That’s sad, pathetic and scary. I was on twitter today and reading the masses of tweets and one in particular stood out to me (I dont have cable any longer, so I feel am always last to know things unless posted on FB or instagram or a friend should tell me) and did you guys know that this shooting marked 304th mass shooting of 2018 thus far. It blows my mind more and more when I think about it because we used to grow up in this mentality that “my neighborhood is safe, this town has hardly any crime, this could never happen here to me, what are the chances of it happening here, and the most crimes we have are small.. ” well guess what America? NEWS FLASH! but safe is relative & there is no safe zone, nobody is safe from destruction besides the dead. Hell, growing up, I always thought this town was safe from all harm due to it being a pretty well established area with very little crime but now, we have drug overdoses every week, we have had people killed from gunshots and stabbings and we have car break ins, etc.. and guess what? that’s not nearly half of what goes on here that the crooked system tries to hide, regardless, crime can happen everywhere and no state, city, county is safe from a mass shooting erupting — people don’t give a fuck! I hate to say it, but people who want to harm others; on a mission to make hell for someone else isn’t going to discriminate where it takes place, if they have the tools and the way in, they will take it & we need not forget that aspect. 

Our country has been talking about “gun control” since the Pulse shooting and yet there has not been a solution in place, not enough action being taken and too much conversation that prolongs the process before another shooting happens. We say gun control, we say we need to not continue to make mass shootings a normal happening, we say we need to band together and come up with a solution, we say we need to change the laws, we say we need to ban certain people from obtaining weapons, etc, but what haven’t we done? we haven’t done enough.. we are discussing the same policies, the same written documents, the same agendas we were discussing back when things started and now we are doing the same thing , and this is giving perps more time to plan the next chaotic attack because we aren’t taking enough action. I am scared for our country and the future, scared for my family and friends, scared for myself and people who I don’t even know — innocent people’s lives.. I am scared because no matter what we decide, people aren’t going to wait for us to take action, they will continue to do these shootings because they can and will. When we finally take some sort of action, it probably still won’t be enough because the internet makes things easily accessible & we live in sick, cruel world where all it takes is a click of a button, power and or money and BOOM!

I was reading a post on twitter on how we are blaming these shootings on mental health problems/disorders and conditions but how dare we use this as a scapegoat each time someone decides to become radical and do a mass shooting. I couldn’t agree more with the person who stated it, because hell, I suffer from mental health disorders but I am not out here shooting up buildings, blowing up people and taking innocent lives — and while I know mental health is running rapid & many times people can’t afford medication, don’t know they suffer from something or can’t afford to get help they need, it doesn’t mean all of us with mental health disorders are taking it upon ourselves to kill people. I am more than aware that some have severe cases of mental health issues and can cause harm to themselves and others but I don’t believe we should continue using mental health as a scapegoat because I believe it fuels the stigma already placed on people who suffer from mental health disorders/conditions. If mental health is an issue (which it is when people can’t afford or have the help they seek or need) then lets come up with something to help those in need — but if every time we assumed someone who killed someone has a mental health disorder, it would be bullshit because there are so many people in their right mind who just are evil people doing these things, it doesn’t always come down to them having a mental health disorder, sometimes they are just malicious people with bad intents. Two things:

  1. We need to focus on the fact that NOT every person who goes out and does a senseless act has a mental health disorder, fact is, people can be evil and do crimes like this, it doesn’t mean they have PTSD or anxiety or anything else, it could just mean, they are evil and have bad intentions. 
  2.  If we want to keep blaming mental health for reasons why people go out and kill people and commit mass shootings, then find a way to help people or make it possible for people to afford health care, prescriptions, therapy sessions, etc and create a better reform so people understand the different types of mental health disorders & instead of justifying the shootings with this person suffered with a mental health disorder .. how about we take action on gun control & have a better judicial system that hands out consequences instead of slapping people on the wrist to stay moral. 

I agree with this person who quoted:Mental illnesses didn’t shoot & kill 12 people in last night. A man with a gun did. Im sick of people using mental illness as a scapegoat, which further stigmatizes those of us that struggle with it. It’s lazy & dishonest” -Khary Penebaker, Fx .

Again, I am sorry for all those that lost someone due to the shooting, I pray in time you heal and find it in your heart to continue living your best life. ❤ 

P.S I am all for conceal to carry, I believe protecting ourselves is the best method these days; especially in having to defend yourself and family/friends. Take away people’s right to protect themselves, we are left defenseless and people who can’t fend for themselves are usually left to die without being able to put up a fight. However,  I do believe we can come up with a solid solution that doesn’t take away people’s rights to defend themselves but makes it harder for those who shouldn’t have gun to obtain one, but even so, the internet is easy and accessible and people will always find a way. Sadly.

New Instagram & New Facebook Page

I just wanted to tell everyone that I have officially re-created my new Instagram and Facebook business page in the recent days, and would love for all those who followed the old accounts and have been supportive to follow these new accounts! 

Facebook Page: Confident Fit, LLC

&

if you haven’t, follow my Twitter: ShayM_Fitness

Again, thank you for the continued patience all of you have shown, and while the FB page isn’t nearly finished, I still want everyone to be able to be apart of this page and follow! New updates will be coming soon to the FB page to get back where it was & of course my IG page will have updated fitness/health photos along with videos. 

My Instagram got hacked

Hello everyone, I wanted to be sure I made a post letting everyone know my Instagram account was hacked today (at random), it was all the while posting a video & I got locked out of my account and can’t recover anything. I made a new one for temporary use until I hear back from IG on the matter, assuming I will get an answer, I am highly upset as I worked extremely hard on that account for my business & it had memories I won’t get back. While I do have some photos and videos saved, it would take forever to post 1800 pictures/videos once again. 

I am sorry this inconvenience has happened & I hope all of you will continue to support me if I have to create a new account.  I will keep everyone up to date on the matter on my FB page, although I may need to delete it and remake one because sadly I can’t link it to my new IG account because it is already linked with the hacked account. It blows. I can’t believe this actually happened to me. 

If anyone else has ever ran into this issue, please feel free to share the results and steps you had to take in order to recover your account. If you have any tips/advice, please leave comments, I am open to everything at this point. Again, sorry and hopefully I will have more information for you in the upcoming days. 

Shay-lon 

Been Gone for awhile

If any of you follow me on social media, you are probably aware that I had a really downward spire rough week & avoided contact with social media, friends, family, etc. I won’t get into specifics, but I have been gone for quite a while (due to circumstances) happening in my life that came unplanned and unwanted — Today is my first day back on the blog & social media in “full swing” again. The past week or so hasn’t been easy and honestly, it is only because of prayer and having the courage to get back up again when I felt dark that I am even able to write about it. Naturally, sometimes circumstances give you a chance to look at yourself with more clarity and find ways to focus on self healing, self discovery and possibly rely on some form of spiritual sense. Well as cliche as it might sound, that’s exactly what this situation left me to do besides laying in bed all day with no motivation and no drive to talk or be apart of life’s endeavors — I have decided to take on some books that hopefully will be a positive force within my life and future & I have started meditation once more, hopefully sticking with it this time, I am going to take some steps to help myself journal my self discovery and really dive into myself & try to make myself happy with what I plan on doing. It will be some steps and quite the voyage, but I feel it will be worth it. 

I pretty much will be going back to my normal routine but with some added bonuses to my daily lifestyle & my main focus will be building myself emotionally, physically, spiritually and mentally while building my career as a Personal Trainer. I know I have been back and forth with a schedule that works for my readers so that I stay more consistent with blogging & I plan on doing that as well (coming up with a schedule) and now that my mind is less overwhelmed, I will surely do this and let people know what will be happening with the blog(s). I have many topics but I have been working on a personal website for my business, and I plan on blogging there as well, so I want to leave many topics for that particular website when it gets finished up (& yes some topics will be from this blog as well/perhaps with a new frame of mind) I need to find a way to keep myself accountable with the self discovery and meditation — so I may decide to take part in a challenge for a year or use the blog to keep me on the right path (we shall see). I will be using a journal to document my daily thoughts, emotions, the agenda and events — good and bad to keep me aware of myself. Hopefully in the end, this is something that will help to heal and build me with a new form of appreciation for myself. 

I currently downloaded a meditation app that I have been doing for the past 4 days & it has been wonderful; if anyone wants information on it, feel free to ask, maybe we can connect. Outside of that, I will be back on social media tomorrow to reply and show support — I appreciate all of you whom have been nothing but a great positive force within my blog career and life. Much appreciated and looking forward to speaking soon!

P.S I don’t have a consistent plan/routine yet for my self healing or self discovery yet, so if you have nay books, any journals or articles (whatever resource) that you would recommend, feel free to leave it in the comments, as it would bring me great joy to further my research and find a way that works best for me through your help.

Shay-lon 

Heavy core leg lifts “learning to push through”

Feeling bloated and cramping sucks. I wasn’t sure by the way my body was acting if I would be able to go through with this heavy lifting day, especially since it was deadlifts AND squats, and I knew I wouldn’t hae time to make up for it this week — because of it being Memorial Day weekend & I would be out of town most of the weekend. All I knew is, I had to try it and see what would come of it. Thankfully, it wasn’t my very best lifting day but it didn’t go poorly — it went better than I had expected & I am happy for that. I guess, this is what happens when you “push through” and “try”, sometimes it works out. 

I kept my accessory work fairly light but not super light. My main lifts were heavy and so I thought I would do high reps with accessory but not push a heavy load —

Warm up:

  • Body bar overhead squats: 4 x 25, 3 lbs
  • leg curl machine: 4 x 25, 30 lbs
  • EZ bar hip thruster: 4 x 25, 20 lbs

Workout:

  • Conventional deadlift: 5 x 1-2, 285 lbs (95% 1RM) I failed the 5th set because i lost some gas in my lift. Regardless, for the first few sets were easy. 
  • Barbell back squat (low bar/wide stance): 5 x 2-3, 190 lbs (95% 1RM) — easy lift, i was able to do 2 reps easy, probably could have went for 4 reps. 

Tri-set:

  • DB goblet squat: 6 x 12-15, 15 lbs
  • DB plie squat: 6 x 12-15, 30 lbs
  • Resistance band butt lifts: 6 x 12-15, red band

Tri-set:

  • Kettlebell single leg deadlifts: 6 x 12-15 each leg, 8 kg
  • linear leg press: 6 x 12-15, 388 lbs
  • Body bar squats: 6 x 12-15, 15 lbs

I did some video footage of my squat and deadlift from today – & also happen to get a follow from the legend Matt Wenning (professional Powerlifter) so that was fun and he also liked my video 🙂 

I know when I test my new max for squats, it will be well over 200 now.. I am hoping maybe 215-225 lbs. My deadlifts I am hoping it meets 310-315 lbs soon, but that will depend on the day and how well I lift with the correct form. My sumo deadlift probably will hit 275 lbs soon, so hoping for the best. I will probably test max’s in a couple more weeks — possibly the 1st or 2nd week of June is the goal. 

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