365 Days of Self Discovery: Day 9

9.11.18

Do you worry too much? How can you deal with this?

In the previous post I mentioned how I worry quite a bit about different things and it stems from anxiety & brings about anxiety or a sense of feeling overwhelmed. I do believe I worry too much, and I don’t particular enjoy it. As of now, I have been taking part in meditation, but also, reading a good books has helped & music helps to get my thoughts out/ at the same time doesn’t quiet my brain when I am worried (so its a positive and negative) but for sure meditation & reading a book has been helpful, allows me to escape for a while and focus on being more at peace and calmness. I also believe my fear of losing routine or not finishing everything I planned for the day causes to me worry because then I have to think about when I can play catch up, so I don’t get too far behind. It’s a cycle, I am trying to teach myself that it is okay to go off the beaten path sometimes, and that we can only do what we can do, and not worry about what doesn’t get finished, because it will at some point. 

What helps you deal with being worried too much? or is this not an issue for you. Feel free to share in the comments, & make sure to follow, share and like!

Shay-lon

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365 Days of Self Discovery: Day 8

9.10.18

What do you worry about?

What a question for the kind of day I’ve had — having my IG hacked, for one that is a starter to my worries, but if we were to put that aside, my worry is for my future — my business/career, not knowing how my life will pan out, not knowing if I will be in a “happy place”, not knowing if I will be prosperous in all aspects of my life or will I be in the same situation I am now; feeling complacent. I like planning for my future (creating long term goals) but sometimes I feel like they take so much time to conquer and I second guess if I will ever make it out of this mundane lifestyle and into what I yearn for / what my heart desires. I am 26 right now and that means I am closer to 30, I’d like to be so much further in my life by the time I hit 30, I don’t want to live with this thought of not making it further in life than where I am currently. I get comfortable and then it gets hard to change, but I need change because if I don’t change, then I will be stuck being mentally drained from feeling worthless. I have smaller day to day worries as well; paying bills, working two jobs, is my mental state okay, will I be able to blog on this and that day, my body image being “good enough” , possible car problems arising, how to spread my time so I am able to spend more time with loved ones when possible, making sure I focus on my well-being and trying to keep my head above water when I feel anxiety or overwhelmed. These worries continue because of my anxiety and feeling as though I can’t sometimes take hold of my life the way I want to, it’s like I do well and then at some point I hit a brick wall & it stops me in my tracks. Its tough because many times I wish I didn’t care about so much, then I wouldn’t have to worry so much. 

What kind of things do you worry about? EVERYONE worries about something at some point in their lives; so what is something that has been on your worry list. Feel free to share in the comment section, and don’t forget to follow, share and like the page! 

Shay-lon

Sometimes I feel like I am drowning —

Hey everyone 🙂

With as busy as I have been, I know I haven’t been consistent with my post like I was in the past and that is because I am building a new website for my personal training business I want to do & I have been traveling and out of town a whole lot more since it is the summer. 

Not to mention, I want to start up a new podcast for my business but it will be fun and lot more laid back — but coming up with a title has been grueling, so hopefully within the month that will be a  finished product. I have had a lot on my plate with this new business venture I am taking and being sponsored by two companies and having an online presence on IG, FB and Twitter, etc has been taking a toll sometimes — it can be quite overwhelming and I am always on the go, go, go. There is hardly enough time for me to just do me *hints why I am usually gone for a long period of time from this blog*. I ma not trying to avoid any of you or make excuses for my absence but at times I need that breath of fresh air & not always will I post it. 

With all of this being said, I have yet to sit down and come up with a new schedule for this blog and my LGBTQ blog — so be patient with me, but do know I will  and when I do, I will let all of you know, because I know many of you like routine and enjoyed my older days when I was posting more often and with new, fun and exciting things that led you to my blog in the first place. Nothing comes easy when you have a lot on your plate on and offline — so this might be something that ends up being trial and error until I get it right. Once upon a time, I was keeping track of all my milestones when it came to followers on this blog, but since slowing down and realizing I am not dedicating the same amount of time I once was to this blog I found there was no point in doing all of that when my stats reflect my failure to commit to consistency; maybe in the future I will have new milestones I can reflect on and share but for now don’t expect anything HUGE until I have been a more regular blogger again. I am not giving up blogging or letting go of this blog or any of the other blogs I do, they are all successful blogs that I will make into a side profession, but the amount of time I am dedicating to them will be hindered quite a bit for sometime until I can get more things off my plate and have a balance — especially since I am making a website, that will need my full attention as well. I was always told to not break off more than I can chew (I suppose that is too late, considering circumstances) but I can still find ways to manage my blogs without them becoming a chore ( I don’t like chores) LOL.

In the meantime, once my website is up and running — it won’t be perfect of course because I still have to take proper steps in having it look more professional and what not, but for now I just want it up and running with new post/and possibly content and maybe features.. we shall see (one step at a time) and once my podcast is created and running — I will reveal that information as well, along with any other projects I am working on that would be relevant for all of my readers. 

I do want to say THANK YOU, because most of you continue to keep up with my blog post, and comment and still find time to make time for my writings without complaints. I may not be as good as I once was with keeping up with your blogs, but I do appreciate the time you have taken to subscribe to my blog, follow my blog, read and share it. I know being a blogger was not meant to be easy for everyone depending on your goals, and I chose to take the long road with the most reward BUT my blog wouldn’t be as valuable or or hold a purpose without ALL OF YOU BEING APART OF IT 🙂 Thank you for all your continued support. #CHEERS 

Shay-lon

P.S when I compete in my first powerlifting meet, I will also be sharing this with all of you ! 

 

PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) Mental health awarenesss

Welcome back bloggers to another mental health Thursday post! I hope all of you have been enjoying my mental health Thursday post, raising awareness on mental health and making it less of an omen & giving understanding. I am not sure if any of you have heard of PTSD, but if you have, you probably have commonly heard war veterans speak on it — but it isn’t exclusively happening to just war veterans but also the general population as well. I know someone personally who has PTSD, hell, I probably know more than a couple of people and each of them handle it differently and have different reasons as to why they have it. I won’t discuss their stories because that is private information but if anyone wants to leave in the comments or email me their own experience, that is fine, otherwise I don’t expect people to be as open about their experiences because it becomes really personal. 

 

Now keep in mind, all my information about PTSD does NOT mean that it is the same for everyone, everyone is an individual case so treat my answers as such. If you know someone who has PTSD, I am either hoping this will help give you insight, possible understanding and perhaps help you have a better handle on things because I dated someone who allegedly had PTSD (wasn’t brought to my attention until the break up) and the way they explained it, they couldn’t but I could tell something wasn’t right at the time with this person and while they never did get a diagnosis; they figured they did enough research to narrow it down to PTSD — I wish I could have known sooner because maybe it wouldn’t have been too late to look into handling a relationship with someone with possible PTSD but with that being said, many spouses who live with someone with this condition, it can sometimes be stressful and very exhausting if you don’t understand or if you are feeling abandoned, it is never easy to put your foot into someone else’s shoes if you have never experienced what they have experienced and while we sympathize with them, it doesn’t mean we have a hold on the issue at hand – because sometimes we don’t, sometimes we find ourselves thinking we ‘got it’ just to find out we we’re way wrong, and that’s okay because we are only human. 

 

What is PTSD?

 
  • Failure to recover after experiencing or witnessing a terrifying event 

Not everyone with PTSD has gone through a painful event – losing a loved one can also cause this to happen. 

Symptoms

  • Flashbacks/reliving the event (nightmares, etc)
  • scary thoughts
  • Avoiding places, or situations that remind you of the event
  • Might have more negative beliefs or feelings
  • hyperarousal
  • feelings of hopelessness, shame or dispair
  • possible drinking or drug issues
  • employment issues may occur
  • relationship issues may occur
  • depression 
  • anxiety
  • many of the symptoms depending on the severity could lead to suicide.. 

Children with PTSD

  • Might experience bed wetting habits
  • Forgetting how to or being unable to talk
  • Acting out the event during playtime
  • Could be unusually clingy to a parent or other adult
  • Trouble sleeping
  • Act out the event through drawings 
  • Could become more irritable or aggressive
  • Might have problems with friends, or school work
  • might try to avoid going to school
  • depression as they get older
  • anxiety
  • withdrawal or possible reckless behavior as they get older

Risk Factors

PTSD can happen at any age! 

  • war veterans
  • sexual abuse
  • physical abuse
  • loss of a loved one
  • witnessing a dangerous event happen to a loved one
  • childhood trauma
  • having a history of mental illness
  • having little to no social support after the event
  • Stress after the event can make PTSD more likely

With this being said, PTSD can occur soon after the event or take months to years before it triggers & it can come and go. Again, everyone is different. 

 

Treatment:

  • Psychotherapy for PTSD
  • Medications

The ONE thing is for sure, we always want to push people to ask for help, but sometimes that person doesn’t always realize they have an actual issue and some people live in denial. You can offer help, but doesn’t mean they will take it. I once told somebody: “getting help seems easy to do coming from people from the outside looking in, but for me, it is letting go of my pride, being vulnerable and accepting it and that’s just not easy to do” so take that how you will, but in knowing my own situation, my anxiety and how it hinders me sometimes – that’s how I feel about things, hints why I have never sought out help BUT don’t do as I do, do what works best for you, and your circumstances because help is important in order to better handle things sometimes. I will mention, my anxiety is A LOT better than where it used to be but it probably would have saved me a whole hell of lot more to seek help back when. It’s never too late to ask for help or seek a professional, so don’t give up on yourself. 

 

P.S I will always be honest with my readers about how I handled my own mental health issues and break downs, etc and I will be the FIRST person to say, I don’t seek professional help for things I go through, because I just deal with it & sometimes I pay a hell of a lot of consequences and sometimes I come out okay, but regardless, my pride and stubbornness gets the best of me,  and that’s why I am a bad example , lol 

 

Hope all of you have enjoyed this post, be sure to like, comment,share and follow!

 

Fitness WonderWoman,

Shay-lon xo

 

I Did a GUEST POST: College & Fitness

https://designandscheme.com/2017/08/08/college-fitness/

Alright everyone, 

for those of you who didn’t know, I was asked to do a guest blog for a friend about college and fitness – preparing high school seniors for college and freshmen college students for what is to come. I share some nifty tips and advice and give you some real world examples of what temptations will lie in the way and share some personal experiences as well. I hope that not only will you support this blog post and share it among your peers, but that you will take the time to check out her blog as a whole because it is also speaks on time management skills. Thank you for your support! leave feedback in the comments!

Fitness Wonder Woman

Shay-lon xo

Take Care Of Yourself (YouTube Vlog)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=En2csp5mHZA – my YouTube vlog

Today’s vlog was about taking care of yourself – in all aspects. We tend to sometimes neglect certain things and work on other things thinking one can make up for the other, but in all honesty, balance is key. While listening to my video, be sure to leave a comment and let me know how you go about distressing, what tactics, hobbies or people help you to refocus your attention on positive outlooks. 

Your Fitness Blogger,

Shay-lon xoxo

I didn’t forget about you..

Hello Fellow Bloggers,

I apologize for some of my absence, I have not forgotten any of you and even though I may not always be online to chat with you, I do get notifications and will always get back with you when I can. I plan on playing some catch up Wednesday on the majority of your blogs and videos. I know it can seem like forever before you hear from me, but know I would never leave ya stranded. I try to make time everyday to post some blog post and to comment on others, but sometimes LIFE JUST HAPPENS. In my case, I have family that came down from Michigan and another who came up from Texas. This is all very exciting but it means I am online little less than the usual and occasional miss your blog post or replies. I know many of you bloggers can understand where I am coming from when it comes to getting behind in writing and responding- my stats are dwindling this month and it does sadden me but it makes sense as to why. Since starting YouTube along with this blog, I used to dedicate ALL my time to just this blog alone and now I have to split my time between my blog and YouTube and it has gotten to be somewhat overwhelming some days more than others and although it has its perks, it can have its downfalls I am noticing as well. 

 

I am learning to manage my time better and it will be a work in progress, so I appreciate all your understanding and patience with me as I develop into a more rounded writer, a better on screen entertainer and a much more focused individual. The summer will be hectic because that is the time for traveling and bbqs and bonfires, etc, so I might have weeks I am M.I.A for a long period of time but It doesn’t mean I stopped blogging or left ya’ll empty handed, just means I will be back ASAP because I love my blog friends and audience and I wouldn’t give any of you up UNLESS it was for a kitkat, jk 😀 I just wanted to make sure I gave you all my thanks and support and let every one of you know where I have been and what I have been up to. I will probably make a small blog post later this evening when I get back from my bbq perhaps and tomorrow, it will probably be another late post because I will be gone all day tomorrow as well. I know the late blog post suck, but I try to squeeze in my post whenever I can and no matter the time (even if it means staying up late to do so). 

 

Thank you for your continued support and positive vibes on my blog page, appreciated. I will continue to keep you in the loop as time progresses and will continue to rock out some great blog topics and YouTube videos!

 

Your Fitness Blogger,

Shay-lon xxoo