Know Your Purpose|Know Your Role

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FPcZMTg1gdU

I think many of you will be very appreciative of this particular vlog video, as it goes over how your roles you choose in life and the roles given to you in life all make a difference in other people’s lives, make you that much closer to your overall purpose – and by purpose, I mean the one thing that is much more than the external wishes. The things that you aim for that effect other people in a positive way. We all have roles, some have more than others and we might not always have a choice in what roles we have but we have a choice in what direction we choose to use those roles and how they effect people in our circle/lives. Sometimes we ask our-self what is our purpose, how do I fulfill my purpose, when do I know when to fulfill and it and it isn’t always clear to us in the beginning but the more roles you take on and remove from your life, it becomes more clear to you how you want others to view you, how you want people to respond to you and how certain roles can hinder your purpose in life. 

In this particular video, I give you examples of two different kind of roles we have in this life and explain to you how to see your purpose and how to view your life from now on, from this day forward. I hope many of you will watch this video, as this is something I came up with on my own time and without a script to go on, be patient with me as I speak to you & share this video among friends, family, peers, social media.. because I want more people to be inspired and to look at their purpose in this way! 

Thank you for your time, enjoy the video.

Shay-lon xxoo

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I Am Only Human

Bound By Flaws.

For a first time in a long time.. 

 

It had occur to me that people see me as this “super human” amazing women who lifts heavy and walks with confidence and seemingly has her life together & everything she does just seems to be #goals (my blog, my workout, my future career, my online presence, physique, etc) & this scares me a little bit, actually a lot of bit. I mean granted I am thankful that I have inspired people, built relationships and rapport with people who now trust me enough to come to me with questions about fitness/health, have had a blog that went from 0 to hero in matter of months and that I tend to make people smile with my random comedic personality BUT what scares me is that people seem to think because of all this I did do, that they think they can’t do it. Like it took some magical pixie dust and oops the store ran out of it, so looks like no one else is capable of doing AMAZING things with their own life. 

 

I hate to give it to you like this.. BUT.. I am only human. That’s right, I came out the vagina the same way you did and I ended up on planet earth just like you. my baby self didn’t have a 6 pack and big arms, I surely wasn’t tying blogs at the age of 2 and I couldn’t have been that famous because I am still broke & I am willing to bet .. no one really even knows me besides family and friends and the people who know of me online. I could lie and say I am a HUGE deal but lets get real, I am not. Do I want to be? YES! because I have a lot to offer in my field and I know I am capable of GREAT things! I believe this. I know how hard I have to work in order to keep my physique in top notch if I want the “deals” and exposure, I know what it takes to keep my blog running smoothly so that all of you keep coming back to pester me about how much you love my stuff (lol)  & I know how much constant research, learning and events it will take for me to build more knowledge so I know what I am talking about and can teach others and spread my knowledge to others who listen to me. My life is not all daisies and wildflowers with tons of sunshine – I have cloudy days. I have periods and bloating that makes me look “gross” , I have struggled with body shaming, I have had the ups and downs of having a nice physique, I have failed in sporting events, I have struggled with my own self confidence and who I am, I have struggled financially, I have lost out on many opportunities (not being good enough), I have days where my abs are no longer there and my arms look like twigs and I am crying trying to pick myself back up. I have had many days where my post suck and I felt like walking away, and for goodness sake .. I know what it is like to have flaws. 

 

The problem is, maybe not all my flaws are seen with the human eye, maybe some of them are seen and you can pinpoint them in less than 5 seconds, but it doesn’t matter because I am no better than anyone else. Being in the fitness field can put a lot of pressure on you to be something like someone else in order to gain a huge following, more “friends”, more money and more fame. I don’t mind the pressure much anymore because I had to stop trying to be like her or him and had to try better at doing what I do best: being me, with flaws and all. I can’t always show my flaws because, hey it is a business, and I have to put on a good face and a good show if I want to keep everyone else around me happy, but when I do, it hits hard — because that is the one time I can let go and just allow myself to cry or get angry. Becoming a trainer isn’t easy either, hell .. you are responsible for someone outside of yourself and being an athlete, well hell you are responsible with being “good” and if not good, then you better be able to handle the harsh criticisms because the world is ready to chew you whole and spit you out. Truth is, during this whole time of learning about myself and wanting to go the distance in everything I do, I have learned I am as strong as I allow but I can’t handle every hurdle and I can’t handle every ball thrown at me.. because like everyone else, I am human and I am going to have days where I fall and getting back up will seem impossible. 

 

Hopefully this post gave people some perspective and understanding. Feel free to leave comments, likes, share it on social media or follow me 🙂 Thank you.

 

Your Fitness Blogger,

 

Shay-lon xxooo

 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Monday Motivation YouTube Video: Nov. 28th

Too many of this, can create a whole lot of this.. 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sIooatdPbW8

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How do you agree to disagree with another Fitness professional/fitness instructor, fitness blogger

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So, this is something some of you have been waiting for (another post exposing my personal thoughts). I recently came by someone who asked me what I write about after I mentioned I was a blogger ( I told them I am fitness/health blogger) and that my topics range from exercises, mental health, nutrition, etc. Well they proceeded with “what are your credentials and how do you go about teaching people about fitness/health – when there are other people in your field who may or may not agree with anything or everything you are saying.. how do you compete against them for followers and what are people supposed to believe if you have differing opinions than someone else in your field?” . At first I was thinking, ” wow… seriously”, but then I said “.. it goes a little like this, I have my degree in exercise science, I interned for many different places within this field, I have worked with many professionals in the field, and I also keep all my college materials (books) and I research and read magazines, in the process of being certified in personal training and don’t come off like an arrogant piece of shit when I write” – this is how I manage to keep readers and followers and gain respect within my field (among many other things that go unnoticed). 

Lets just say, he was delighted by my answer and didn’t further question me but instead gave me a high five and told me “works for me”.

I decided after having to answer his question, I would write about this particular topic because honestly, it is true – I am “competing against other fitness/health bloggers who have differing opinions than mine and may not always agree with my tactics, information, and have more expertise than myself”.  I am not so stubborn to realize this, I am not so arrogant to ignore it, and I don’t think I know everything, which is why I spend hours on my laptop and hours teaching myself and studying. Sure, I may never know everything and there are fitness professionals without their degrees who are more knowledgeable than some of us with one – surprising huh?! But honestly, I never write to compete against others in my field, I don’t write to prove I know it all, I don’t write to make myself seem better. I write about fitness/health because this is my life, my everyday life and whether I agree with other professionals or athletes is not important because everyone has their own way of doing things. Now does this mean, when someone is using poor form/technique when squatting; I promote it? NO! what this means is, if that person is not able to demonstrate the exercise properly, either I make it known or I don’t. I don’t feel compelled to analyze everyone’s blogs and check to see how right they are or wrong they are. If I am following another fitness/health blog, best believe I read their content, and if I don’t agree with something, I normally comment with my take on things./sometimes I research it, and if I feel like the blogger is writing about something totally in left field that I know is NOT right or encouraging something that I know is unsafe, etc then I don’t follow them because I don’t have time for shenangins. It is the same with YouTube fitness videos, I swear these are sometimes the worse because they will do some circus trick to encourage others to do it too but have no real purpose and can’t identify how the movement is even constructive to a persons well-being. 

Personally I have had people disagree with topics  I have written about, such as: “Child obesity” was one of them because so many people have different thoughts, experiences; Did I go off on people who didn’t like what I had to say about it? – no. Why would I? I don’t care if you disagree with me, because hey, we all have a right to an opinion and all my readers are allowed to be honest and forthright as long as it is tasteful in nature and not something to arouse people’s anger. I feel like this, if you don’t like what I write about, then come forth and let me know,  you don’t have to agree with everything I say; that is the truth. If something I write about offends you (hopefully not) then say something but don’t expect me to back down & kiss ass either, because I won’t. For the most part, I think my topics have proven to be well written and I have yet come by a fitness professional who talked negatively about anything I have written thus far (thankfully) and I hope it stays this way because I live to learn, teach and grow. Hell, I have had many fitness professionals who have been in my field for 10+ years and have given me advice on workouts, shared their insight and added their own recommendations and I LOVED IT! because they didn’t belittle me, they actually only complimented my writing and confirmed the information; letting me know my topic wasn’t  full of bullshit and lies because trust me if they ever were: I would expect those same people to let me know. 

So how does one like myself handle agreeing-disagreeing with other fitness people? We talk like adults, exchange thoughts, I learn from them, I ask them questions, I gain insight and I respect their knowledge, because more than likely they have been in the game WAYY longer than myself and I only want to be as successful as they are now in their careers. My motto is “who cares whether the lunge or back squat is a better exercise – the more important thing is we both know they are functional exercises” LOL. 

I make mistakes, I may be biased sometimes & I am young.- but I won’t lead you over a cliff;  Thank you everyone for reading and I appreciate everyone’s support on my blog. 

Your Fitness Blogger,

Shay-lon xxx

Personal Training: Helping a Friend Day 35

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FitFam! 

Happy Wednesday! Glad all of you could join me for another day of my blogging about our workout today. Today was a bit different than the usual, actually a lot different for John since he normally does not do any of these exercises when I assign him workouts (for good reason) but we will be starting resistance training workouts soon.  Yesterday I had asked another gym-goes whom I have worked out with once before if I could join her for today’s workout since I had nothing planned for myself and it would save me some time and give John a break from cardio a bit – something new and fun.  It was her leg day (I know, luck me right) lol & she is good for making the workout so you really feel those gains – I would know because I was aching for 2-3 days after the upper body workout we did, but my back is looking good; so worth it. Therefore, I decided to have John workout with us as well:

John’s Workout:

Warmup:

  • No proper warm up, but he did walk on the treadmill for a little while, waiting for her to show. 

Workout Session:

Air squats (pyramid):

  • 1 X 12
  • 1 X 15
  • 1 X 20
  • 1 X 25
and all the way back up to 12 reps.  He said he could feel the burn with these, which was awesome, I demonstrated the movement for him and made sure to watch his form/ which was actually fairly well for a first timer. I had to remind him to get low, but I realize his hip flexors could be tight or core, so I didn’t enforce it too much – something we will work on because I have always had tight hip flexors & it sucks to do squats when you do. He was sweating afterwards.
Sumo Squat (barbell)/ smith machine:
  • 1 X 12, 35LB
  • 1 X 10, 55LB
  • 1 X 6, 65LB
  • 1 X 3, 70LB
The sumo squat was a bit harder for him to do, I wanted him to just try it out and let me know what he thought, he has a weak core ( which I can tell) but something we are learning to work on and it helps to know this because then I can aim goals at strengthening it and making his weaknesses into improvements.  I gave him a few pointers and stood behind him guiding him through the range of motion during his squat, so it helped a bit, but not enough for me to allow him to do them on his own yet and something we will work on when we cross that bridge.
Superset:
  • Leg extensions (machine): 4 X 8, he did the first 3 sets at 50LB and the last set at 70LB. 
  • Weighted walking lunges: 4 X 10, he did one set with 10LB dumbbell, one set with no weights, and one 2 sets with 5LB dumbbell. 
I will say that he has poor form when it comes to lunges and many people do, especially if you have suffered injuries, or have a weak core or not great stability. He does better with no weights vs weights and he does better with 5LB dumbbells versus 10LB dumbbells. This was giving me an opportunity to see where his weakness was in his lunge. Of course there are other functional exercises I can have him do in place of lunges when necessary but I want him to work on this. Posture during a lunge is very important, I will be the first to say I never had “great” lunge posture for the longest time, and it was always difficult for me to do lunges- I dreaded them. The leg extensions he did well on, he doubted himself, saying “he couldn’t do 70LB” but when he least expected it, he pulled through. 
  • Cable kickbacks: 4 X 10, he did 5LB for the first two sets and 10LB for the last 2 sets
  • Goblet squats (using the cable): 3 X 6, he did 1 set at 10LB and the last 2 sets at 30LB. 
The cable kickbacks were awkward for him using his right leg, because he is left handed, but something we can improve on and he hasn’t quite mastered them, but it was all new to him and new to me as well. The Goblet squats he didn’t struggle with, he did well with those for the most part. 
Overall, I realize he isn’t ready for strength workouts yet, but I wanted to give him something different to experience. We shall be starting resistance training within the next month or so.. depending on his progress. I wasn’t upset with anything he did because he was learning and participating and didn’t give up and that matters to me most! I love that he didn’t allow these workouts to intimidate him but did what he could – this is always a positive site for any trainer. Tomorrow it will be back to the stuff I create for him. 
My Workout:
Warmup:
  • I was on the treadmill for about 5-8 minutes doing 3.5 speed
Workout Session:
Sumo Deadlift (barbell)/ Pyramid: 
  • 1 X 12, 65LB
  • 1 X 12, 105LB
  • 1 X 8, 135LB
  • 1 X 5, 155LB
My highest deadlift has been 170-175, but I have never done sumo deadlifts before so it was a bit awkward for me at first and I didn’t do a perfect job, so this is an exercise I will pay more attention to and work on, because I want to better myself in it. 
Sumo Squat (Pyramid) (barbell/smith machine): 
  • 1 X 12, 35LB
  • 1 X 10, 55LB
  • 1 X 6, 65LB
  • 1 X 5, 70LB
I have never done a sumo squat either, again another awkward exercise for me, but I did what I could, I definitely realized I couldn’t get as low on a sumo squat compared to my normal back squat.  Which kind of bothered me, but I wasn’t too worried about it. My hips were tight as hell today per usual. The girl we did the workout with, did a great job with these workouts, she introduced them to us – I am thankful for that. 
Superset:
  • Leg extension machine: 4 X 8, 70LB
  • Weighted Walking Lunges: 4 X 10, 10LB

The superset wasn’t bad, I felt the burn during the lunges, because honestly we probably did 20 lunges per set since we went both ways down the aisle of the gym

  • Cable kickbacks: 4 X 10, 2 sets at 10LB and 2 sets at 5LB 
  • Goblet cable squat: 3 X 6, 1 set at 10 pounds and the last 2 at 30 pounds. 
I liked the Goblet cable squat (never have done it) and it was a good workout, definitely could feel it my legs.  The cable kickbacks were awkward for me using my left leg. It was something to get used to but no complaints because it was a good exercise to implement into my workout routine. Overall I enjoyed today’s leg day, it gave me new ideas and good laughs.  Feel free to share your workouts in the comment section.
Your Fitness Blogger,
Shay-lon xxx

Motivation Monday Youtube Video. Oct 31st

“Don’t be Fragile”

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IH9efhxlZiI