Do you like surprises or do they unsettle you?
- Depends on the surprise but normally I don’t mind them.
Do you enjoy surprises?
What makes you uncomfortable?
- I will list a few things that come to mind:
- Listening to people/ having people talk to me about their sexual experiences in detail
- When men flirt with me, expecting something in return (especially if I don’t know them)
- Being stared at
- shopping during busy store hours
- using public restrooms when other patrons are in the bathroom with me
- having heard/listen to people slander me or talk badly about me indirectly, talking to someone else or under their breath
- Getting undressed and dressed in locker rooms among other people or women
- period cramps
- Having to walk in not well lit parking lots
- being in a financial hardship
- going to parties where I don’t know the area or guest
- driving long distances in the dark
- feeling bloated
- having to hold my bladder due to being in conversation and afraid to excuse myself
- some form of compliments depending on the person giving it
I am sure many of you may be able to relate to some of the things I listed, but what about things I haven’t, what makes you uncomfortable?
Do you find it easy asking for “help”?
- Growing up, I avoided asking for help; especially in school. Instead of raising my hand in class, I’d usually go home and and try to figure it out; or wait until a teacher or college professor would notice my struggle & reach out to help me. Many times my college professors or high school teachers would recommend that I seek assistance after class or school with them or with a tutor, but I’d never be one to go. Asking for help just made me feel uncomfortable due to social anxiety and because I wanted to blend in/fit in with everyone else who understood the subject matter. Not to mention, I don’t particularly enjoy the spotlight having to raise my hand in class if I don’t understand something. The ONE time that I reached out for help on my own, was when I was failing math class or on the brink of failing a math class in college & I had to pass it, in order to graduate that same year, so I reached out to a family member who then helped me to pass — but that literally was down to the wire before I asked. Now, I still don’t particularly like having to ask for help — and try to avoid doing so, but at the same time I know if necessary, I am fully capable of asking for help if I need it.