365 Days of Self Discovery: Health & Well-being

8.12.19

Day 4

Are you getting enough sleep? If not, why do you think that is?

  • In the past I failed to get enough sleep, I was maybe getting 2 hours a day if that most days & now I am making more of an effort but still feel as though I am missing out on sleep due to working two jobs & one being third shift. I brought this to my doctors attention recently and she recommended some home remedies and over the counter meds that could be beneficial if necessary. I am aiming for at least 6 hours of sleep a day for starters and eventually hoping to bring it up. During the weekends, I am able to sleep in — so getting enough sleep is never an issue but during the week — it gets pretty tough. 
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365 Days of Self Discovery: Your Relationships

8.05.19

Day 76

How do you feel about them? Do you have good working relationships?

  • At both jobs I am civil with those I am not huge fans of because I like to keep things professional and focus on the task at hand. At the gym there is only like ONE person whom I don’t like and that’s because she annoys me & comes off extremely fake and just superficial — I haven’t been a fan since being first introduced. I don’t work along side of her and on rare occasions we might run into each other but I don’t go out of my way to be rude but I don’t go out of my way to hold a conversation either; basically greet and move on. My third shift job, I don’t like the majority of my teammates due to their character flaws that have turned me off or how they have treated me in the past; there is only a very select few whom I consider friends outside of work and enjoy being around. As far as working relationships, I can work with someone regardless of how I feel about them for the most part, and if it becomes an issue, I take it up with the head honcho so that it no longer effects my work environment or I handle the issue at hand if need be on my own. 

365 Days of Self Discovery: Your Relationships

8.04.19

Day 75

How do you think your work colleagues feel about you?

  • I’d like to say it depends on which job we are referring to. If we are talking about my day job as a personal trainer, then I would say everyone feels comfortable speaking with me and seems to like me — but I don’t work along side anyone so normally I don’t see anybody besides the front desk if I am lucky and possibly the owner of the gym.
  • My third shift job, I don’t really go out of my way to care enough about how my colleagues feel about me due to prior circumstances that have left a lasting impression. I have a select few who enjoy being around me and that I have socialize with and eat lunch/break with & have spent time outside of work with. 

Busier and Busier ..

Summer Busyyyynesssss!

Hello readers and bloggers, many of you might have noticed my lack of communication, consistency, normality, time management, etc and whatever else that might show through my writings — I apologize because many of you have continued to support my blog(s) and website and are waiting for me to do the same >.< which is to expected and should be the way it is. I could make ALL the excuses in the world for the lack of attention I have given my followers for the past 6 months or so, but the truth remains that I have been hectic and this is good news because as a personal trainer, I have so many more clients/fitness consultations I am doing each week & I have had time to meet and make new friendships in the real world, spend time with my loved ones and use my time to catch up on much needed sleep (due to working two jobs — one being third shift). I make just enough time to blog and then I immediately log off without showing much support to any of you and that’s not right nor intentional but it seems to happen often enough where finally I feel the need to apologize and find a solution to such an issue. Today I will use some of this day to catch up on cleaning, researching time management options that will benefit me, catching up on blogging and ordering items for my powerlifting meet, and shopping for an event I will be going to June 14th — June 16th (out of town) and whatever else I can think of that seems to be put on the backburner every week (including all of you) but that will have to wait for a little while longer as I need to do things by priority so that I stay in order and keep things flowing or else, I might lose my mind! 😦 

In the coming weeks, I will have a much better plan when it comes to blogging and showing my support to all of those who do the same for me daily & to all the new bloggers as well. I just need to go over the plan on paper and make some adjustments (as needed) because things won’t always go as planned — that’s life. When I do come up with this plan today, it will begin to show gradually & hopefully it will be long term. I wanted to make blogging/writing full time & I still in fact have that goal, but it will take me working harder as a personal trainer so that I don’t need a second job & don’t need to consume so much of time sleeping to make up for the lack of sleep I don’t get during the week sometimes. Everything that is meant to happen, will happen in due time. If any of this fails to show my gratitude, forgive me, I know everyone has a busy schedule and this might not be a great excuse but it is my reasoning and the truth. Trust me, when I tell you, I plan on making up for this & giving more time to blogging, and writing and showing my support as well — it won’t happen overnight , but it will come slowly. There used to be a time I could blog 2-3 times a day and still manage to support all the writers (take me back to that time) but now I get lucky if I find the energy to blog once a day without falling asleep on the computer or being distracted by outside noises. 

I hope we talk soon, and thank for you all the continued support once more. If any of you follow me on social media — I have been slow on the trigger in posting regularly but I do still post on IG, FB and Twitter & check my emails regularly as well. Blogging is my life, really it brings me peace and gives me inspiration through writing and reading other people’s creations, I yearn for it when I haven’t been consistent, I just need to plan my days out more accordingly and keep myself in order and make sure to spend my time wisely so that I don’t overwhelm myself too quickly and give up my passions. What’s good for the soul should never die. 

Shay-lon 

365 Days of self Discovery: Your dreams/wishes/hopes/future

4.24.19

Day 13

What is your dream job?

  • Goodness, the real question is what don’t I want to do as a dream job. My dream job is a multitude of things but come together because they surround my passion for fitness/health/mental health. For starters, I would love to have a job working with elite athletes and professional sports teams as their personal trainer or strength and conditioning coach. Besides that, I would enjoy being a professional fitness/health blogger/writer with a successful website, while also working with companies and contributing to their magazines and publications on the topics of fitness/health/mental health and LGBTQ as well. As a side hustle or part time job, I would want to be a motivational speaker that travels and talks about the importance of exercise, building self esteem/having self love and wellness. It would be a bonus to my dream job if I became an established author and had my own line of products as well. 
I have some big dreams when it comes to having my dream job, I want to do it all and then some, I want to do big things that make bigger impacts in people’s lives in a positive way. 
What is your dream job? are you currently working in the field of your dream job, if not, wh

365 Days of Self Discovery: Your Past

3.21.19

Day 14

What has been the most difficult time of your life?

  • Well, I have many difficult times, no worse than anyone else I am sure, but still difficult nonetheless. I’d say one of the most was when I was financially defeated, I was broke, literally living paycheck to paycheck, in college and outside of college, I was behind on credit card bills and hardly making payments, hardly making rent, I had no savings account (it got closed because it had no money in it for an extended period of time), I was getting bank overdraft fees constantly, I was maxed out on my credit cards (very high limits) and my debit card would sometimes get declined, so getting groceries was scary.. I mean I thought I was hitting rock bottom but after a while, it took a lot of sacrifices, etc but I made it through finally. 

Do you have a difficult time in your life that stands out? 

365 Days of Self Discovery: Your Past

3.16.19

Day 9

Where were you, 10 years, 5 years, and 1 year ago?

  • So this is a good question that requires long answers. I will try to keep them semi short for the same of having to read everything but what I wrote down on paper was much longer due to me really getting my thoughts out. 10 years ago, I was 16 years of age, 11th grade, living in Texas for the 2nd year. I had a few friends at this time, and I wasn’t playing basketball anymore due to a certain circumstance that got me kicked off the team the previous year (which I thought was highly unacceptable), but I was still running track and trying to figure my own life out. I wasn’t necessarily happy living in Texas but enjoyed visiting my Uncle and grandfather who lived a ways away in Texas. I wasn’t dating anyone, but I had a few crushes here and there. I was still uncomfortable with my sexuality — because I didn’t quite understand myself but didn’t really think much about it and didn’t reach out to anyone for understanding (I dealt with things alone) I flirted with guys plenty and got a lot of attention from dudes from school who would say vulgar or anticipate that I would have some sort of sexual experience with them (which I did not) the furthest thing I did was texting inappropriately but I had little knowledge on the subject, I was just searching for something & didn’t know what it was. I had good grades in school at this time and I was probably getting the news we would be leaving before I started my senior year to a new state. 
  • 5 years ago, I was 21 years old, happy as hell that I was finally able to drink alcohol legally (although I was drinking it before this) and I was not close to my mom, we would argue and bicker often, I wasn’t close to my younger brother at all, we just didn’t see eye to eye. I was still in denial about my sexuality to other people but I was already out to my mom at age 18 about being bisexual at the time, but wasn’t out about it to certain family members and friends. I was having an internal battle with myself, I don’t think I was in a serious relationship with anyone but I was dating around somewhat & meeting people offline. I had a few experiences here and there with men my age and older but nothing that I want to get into depth about. I was probably out of college (taking a break) but working two jobs at the time and living with a roommate. I didnt have my life together and wasn’t sure where I would end up.
  • 1 year ago, I was 25 years old, my relationship with my mom was shaking but better and my younger brother and me were getting along better as well. I was out in totally by this age and I don’t think I identified as bisexual anymore, so I think I mainly stuck with dating women at this point. Not in a serious relationship, but had pretty much dated around for a while. I was working at the Anytime Fitness gym and working with a company that helped the mentally and physically handicapped. I had already graduated college years prior to this and decided on being a personal trainer as a career choice. I was eager about the future but still dealing with the fact me and my ex had broken up the year previous to this. 
I like to think my life has been a rollercoaster of weird stuff and with all kinds of mistakes and lessons to have been learned from them. I might not still have my life together but I at least know what I want out of life for the most part now compared to then. My relationships with my family now aren’t as bad (although we have our days) but I am busy with two jobs and working on myself more than not, and I want so much for myself, I have put myself first these days and hopefully it pays off. 
 
If you are feeling up to it, share where you were 10 years, 5 years and 1 year ago. If not all three, choose one and share. I know it can be quite the question but the reflection is nice to look back on.