If you have siblings, how is your relationship with them? Has it changed now that you’re adults?
- I have two younger brothers. My youngest brother (10) and myself are very close and love spending time together, he’s my best friend and brother all in one. Our personalities differ but at the same time we have some quirks that are similar, like both being awkward individuals and he enjoys schools as much as I did growing up and does very well in school much like myself. He loves playing video games much like myself and we connect very well, I feel as though he can tell me anything and vice versa.
- My younger brother (24) grown up together and we used to be close growing up but then after a while, we grew apart and would fight more than anything and didn’t get along whatsoever. It sucked because he was the one I’d play with all day outside with our friends and he would defend me as a kid when I was being rendered consequences and I never thought it would end up we would fight and not like one another for so long — but now we get along and it works well, because this is something I want; especially since we are both at different stages in our lives with different plans and priorities but when we see each other it is nice and usually very positive and quaint. I wish we would talk more and maybe spend more time together as siblings but it will happen in small steps, just going to take both of us communicating and putting this thought first.
Does the way you were brought up influence the way you (will) bring up your children?
- For starters IF I do decide to have children, I do how I was raised could influence how I choose to bring up my children, especially If I feel it is something that worked well or kept me on the right path. Although, I also say no to this question because knowing how I was raised and the consequences I was dealt for certain deeds & the reactions my mom would show and how she treated my sibling and myself differently for a long time would not be how I would want to raise my child if I were to have one, I would use those negatives as a lesson to not use on my own child because of how it affected me and how it hindered me socially or dwindled my self esteem. I like to think there would be some things that would influence me but other things I’d stray from.
For those of you with kids now, did your upbringing influence how you brought up your children; why or why not? Also, do you believe using your upbringing as an influence to be a good thing or bad thing?
During your childhood, did you ever feel letdown by an adult?
Did you ever experience bullying? How did you deal with this?
- Yes, I experienced bullying on multiple occasions throughout my life. I was bullied in elementary school, two middle schools and two high schools. It was tough, because I was taught to stick up for myself and not allow people to do harm to me, thankfully, my bullying was all verbal but nonetheless, I never did stick up for myself. Normally, I would ignore it and say nothing, cry when I got home or had alone time, I would allow it to happen and not say anything to adults about it including my own family members. I pretty much did nothing. When I was being bullied by my own family sometimes, I did pretty much the same thing or I would lash out and cry, get mad and say really mean things back, remove myself from the room, etc.
Have you ever been a victim of bullying? Did you do anything about it, or tell anyone?
Did you find it easy to get along with your peers when you were growing up?
- I’d say it was a mix of yes and no, because of me being an athlete all my life, I could make friends quite easily but when due to my socially awkward personality and struggling between wanting to fit in with the “cool” kids and being myself; sometimes it was harder to get along with peers. I was always the class clown growing up, I could make people laugh at my own expense but after awhile I then learned the difference between someone laughing with me and someone laughing at me & it truly opened my eyes to how some people perceived me.
Would you say you got along with your peers growing up, or were you an outcast?
Did you enjoy school? What life lessons did you learn from your there?
- I did enjoy school, in fact, I hated to miss school due to illness and couldn’t stand being late for school. Some of the life lessons I learned from attending school were to prepare me for college, or my future. Some other lessons came from experiences; losing friends, dating, time management skills, etc.
How many of you enjoyed going to school? Was there a period of time you didn’t like attending school or when you started to enjoy it but didn’t previously? Share the lessons you took with you going forward in life.
What was your favorite thing to do as a child?
- being outdoors,
- riding my bike
- riding my skateboard,
- video games
- throwing football with my younger brother
- playing basketball